| Guys with little money
Posted: 1/10/2008 7:57:00 PM | | It's tough to find girls who aren't materialistic. It's even more difficult to find any that are attractive and aren't overly materialistic. 'Goes with the territory? | |
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| Guys with little money
Posted: 1/10/2008 8:01:57 PM | Oh please alex who among us is not materialistic?Do you live well below your means and only ever spending what money "NEEDS" to be spent?I suppose you never buy movies or cds ,perhaps a night out at the movies and dinner is something you never do.Are you still wearing the same shoes and suit you bought 13 years ago?I bet you don't have a tv ,dvd player or stereo either.
Since i am positive you do have those things my point is we are all materialistic whether we will admit it or not. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 8:11:20 PM | | Brewtality....tough situation but perhaps manageable...wanted to see your profile but no link..unfortunate...for the most part a dating site is about dating and dates cost money...that by no means excludes you and your situation...there are 300 million people in this country and you just have to be honest in your description of yourself and you may just get lucky and find someone with similar interests but without the need for money to make it happen...I guess I am getting repetitive about this on several threads...but there is a funnel effect here....the top is large, but the bottom can get very, very narrow, especially for those with unique circumstances such as yours....but the funnel is never closed - for anyone...just be honest, forthright and active in searches...the effort is fun and therapeutic...the results might surprise you. | |
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OLT4U
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Joined: 12/21/2007
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| Guys with little money
Posted: 1/10/2008 8:35:33 PM | | Why of course it matters. Don't let 'em tell ya otherwise. Tell me, where do you get that steak dinner for two for $50? Usually it's double that. Hard truth is, they ain't a dating any of us for our personalities. It's about what you can bring to the table (steak) and how often. You've got an unfortunate reason, but for any guy whose temporarily down on his luck, there ain't going to be a parade of carnivore women beating the door down for peas and rice. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 10:10:46 PM | | Considering the number of threads I've seen about women over a certain age not wanting to leave their couch.....(I don't buy the age factor, but) maybe you should be targeting THOSE women. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 10:30:11 PM | | Don't give up, if all a girl want from u is money or interested in you because you have a lot of money isn't worth your time. This is a real story. My cousin before he became a dentist didn't have a lot of money. Everytime he took his gf, now wife, was with $40 dollars. I know its hard to find a girl like that, but just take your time. She is not unattractive eithe. THey have 2 kids and now hes rich. So dont give up dude. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 4:06:30 PM | | This is a good one. I am not interested in a guy who is not capable of managing his money. If you are 50 years old and you don't have enough money to be a great boyfriend, you have either had something really bad happen in your life or you ex has it all. Sorry to be so harsh...but I am of the old belief that men are providers and women are nuturers. I think we were all happier back in those times. Women, we have hurt ourselves by taking this "we are equal" view. It only made men start thinking that we needed to be all that we are and all that they are, too. Think about it, everyone. I don't know about you, but I love being a woman and truly enjoy being treated as one...which means if I am flattered enough by you to date you, then you pay for the date. Men being providers wasn't my idea but rather God's idea in the beginning. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 5:59:46 PM | | i live in England and women i know do not mind what a man has ...we have never asked what a guy earns etc ...even if he was between jobs it would not matter .we are not materiallistic and even if he has no car it does not matter ...none of us have a car and we are not on high earnings and always pay our way anyway ...getting to know someone is more important and being happy .money does not bring happiness if someone is with someone for money...less is more is what i say ..the person is important not his wallet ...from england ............ | |
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| Guys with little money
Posted: 1/21/2008 6:08:06 PM |
I'm a guy without alot of money. I get a disability pension and I have to make that stretch for myself to live on. This takes away dinners in restaurants and going to see movies. The cost of that nowadays is beyond ridiculous. A steak dinner for two can cost around $50.
Does a restriction like this play alot into the dating factor for you? Not being able to go to places you want because of money issues. I can't work, so it's not as if my situation will change in the future.
Just wanting some opinions on this.
Go out for more down-to-earth girls.
If a woman views your situation as petty then she shouldn't even be considered a woman by any right.
There is a woman out there that won't even care for dinners outside.
The best dinners are home cooked meals.....when the warmer weather comes, eat outside or on the belcony or something.
It disgusts me that woman think money is everything. | |
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| Guys with little money
Posted: 1/21/2008 6:53:01 PM |
invest in a freezer and buy half a cow. It's 20 cents a pound--yeah even the t-bones.
I'm not kidding but this is something that I would like to do one day. Mainly because I'll be able to support a local business, ensure the the cow was treated humanely, and lastly I get to say I have half a cow in a freezer. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 6:54:39 PM | if i was you i would be (creative) about what you do for work,,, then when there is a friendship bonding tell her the truth, yess, i am lookig for daddy warbucks but i cant control my heart,,my luck i will fall in love with his gardener,,he he he,,, dont worry about the money hunny,,, mayby a rich women will sweep you of youre feet,,,,,
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| Guys with little money
Posted: 1/21/2008 9:33:03 PM | OP....
You mentiond in a post that you think you would be able to preform some work at home on the computer?
There are plenty of computer jobs avaliable as data entry and such, however, I believe most of them need some sort of qualifications.
Have you looked into call centers, and potentially getting some sort of technical support degree? You have no profile avaliable for me to look at, but I am going to assume that your an American Male. If so, I am also assuming that the US has social programms for disabled people that will provide funding for schooling? Similar to Canadian social programms?
If so, it IS possable to work at home from your computer, I have a family member that does this, and she makes quite good money.
Perhaps talk to Counsolor (sp?) at a local community collage, and see if they can suggest anything for you to look into?
It may not be easy, but with a little persistance im sure that you will be able to succeed in finding online employment, and with success in personal life, success in social life usually follows!
Good-luck!
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Posted: 1/21/2008 10:28:00 PM | | What kind of question is this? Of course, you already know that it is important. You want confirmation from women? Isn't that silly? Isn't it like asking, "Hey, rude people; aren't you rude?" Well of course the answer is "no"--you don't go around asking people to own up to their hypocrisies. By the way, this is not to say that women are hypocrites--in fact some women here have been quite honest, though still indignant--but rather that, in general, in a relationship, people (of either sex) pretend that they are only interested in each other for "what they are," the "real person" on the "inside," etc. Specifically, men pretend that they don't care about appearances; women pretend that they don't care about material incentives. This pretense is absolutely necessary for the dating process to be any fun. Perhaps it is natural that those who are excluded from it (i.e., OP) want to take people to ask for their hypocrisy. But really, what is the point? | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 2:11:26 AM | Dating is a competition and you just lost.
Think about it, why would a woman pick you over a guy with an equally nice personality and with money. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2008 11:21:09 AM | >>"If you are 50 years old and you don't have enough money to be a great boyfriend"
Holy Sh*t. A great boyfriend is decided based on how much money he has? I am becoming more and more glad I'm a bachelor the longer I read this forum. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2008 11:23:32 AM | Tell me this, ladies:
What is the difference between a woman who selects a BF based on what he can buy her, and a prostitute?
Both involve exchanging sex for money or material goods.
I'm waiting.
Seasea, yes, I am calling you what you think I am calling you. | |
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| Guys with little money
Posted: 2/8/2008 11:49:46 AM |
What is the difference between a woman who selects a BF based on what he can buy her, and a prostitute?
The prostitute goes away in the morning. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2008 11:57:38 AM | >>"The prostitute goes away in the morning. "
Shhhh!!! I was asking the girls!! Don't go giving away the answers!........................................................................................................................................................................................................... | |
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Posted: 2/8/2008 12:07:39 PM |
What is the difference between a woman who selects a BF based on what he can buy her, and a prostitute?
Both involve exchanging sex for money or material goods.
NONE.
I post it here. I post it there.
I will post it anywhere.
Seriously - None.
Because, bottom line - both expect to be paid for their companionship.
We could try to be a bit more sophisticated though and say that prostitute's mode of operating is a part of a capitalist market (monetary exchange), whereas a woman who selects a boyfriend on the basis of what he can buy her operates more like a pre-capitalist economy (exchange in kind, pun intended).
So, if you look it that way, prostitute is more advanced.
Ethically, however, there is no difference, in my opinion.
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Posted: 2/8/2008 12:20:06 PM | | I have a good job, make pretty good money. Certainly it seems there is no women knocking down my door to date me LOL I probably had more dates when I was "in between jobs" but it seems I just havent been as lucky these past few months. Things just seem to work backwards for me since I started online dating on this site. If I'm out at a bar or something having went out alone never seem to get any luck communicating with women, but if i do end up going out to a bar with a lady I have women wanting to talk to me but I dont leave my date of course. But as far as the having little money looking unattractive to women just hang in there, someone will overlook the money thing and want to date you. You will be fine. | |
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Icene
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Joined: 6/26/2007
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| Guys with little money
Posted: 2/8/2008 12:26:42 PM |
What is the difference between a woman who selects a BF based on what he can buy her, and a prostitute?
If you're choosing a guy purely based on what he can buy you, then you're a prostitute. I doubt few women would disagree. The thing is guys and gals don't agree on what is an exchange of money for sex. I've met guys who saw paying for a date as an exchange of money for sex. I've never met a girl who saw it the same way. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2008 12:30:46 PM | (But, that's mostly because human monies are of little value to us aliens....)
Seriously, r u really an alien???
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Posted: 2/8/2008 12:33:53 PM | Icene, people should be up front. If a guy views paying for a date as a license to get laid, he ought to go get hooker.
But if a woman is counting my money when I pull my wallet out, she ought to be just as honest and go walk the streets. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2008 12:56:23 PM | You know, romance is a crock they feed us in movies when we are kids.
In the movies, the girl falls in love with the guy because he is a nice person, or a sensitive guy, or faithful.
In real life, it's all about his wallet.
Those movies should not be viewed by children. Doing so sets up unreasonable expectations that girls will love you for being a nice guy. We shouldn't decieve our sons. | |
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