| Guys with little money
Posted: 2/10/2008 11:36:12 AM | | Okay this is too all the guys yelling prostitute. I always offer to pay and even have insisted on paying. Now if a guy asked me out expecting me to pay then the hell with him and the white horse he road in on. But thank God I only date nice, honest guys and not someone that compairs me to prostitutes. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 12:55:49 PM | | Sorry dancecard, but it seems that everyone thinks everyone else should pay. Ladies think men should pay and men think women should pay. Pay if you want too, share if you want too and if one or the other is worried about paying then they should not be on the date anyway. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 12:59:32 PM | | Hmmmm....to a guy/gal who can't afford much in the line of a dinner date.....go halvies at a buffet... ") | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 1:44:07 PM | One of the best dates I ever went on required , a bucket of chicken, 2 bottles of wine , a blanket and one match. ~ ended up both naked on the beach the next morning wondering WTF! ~ and married two weeks later.
Silly Goose ~ Don't know your position, where you live etc ~ There is lots of free things to do ~ might go to a small airport and watch the planes fly in a out.
Find a tall building that you can access the top for free ~ nice view ~ bring a sandwitch ~ 45 min. before sunset.
I like skipping rocks myself ~ nice way to visit with someone. ~ Bike clubs ( 10 speeds)
are cheap and a major body rush ~ takes some getting use to ~ but well worth the high.
The purpose is to get aquainted ~ I met a lady in the lobby of a very grand hotel once~ very opulent ~ we sat among all this luxury ~ and that a $3.50 C`o`ck tail. ~
If you are having a problem with men with lint in their pockets ~ I understand you flustration. ~
A brief few hours can easily run you $60.00 less fuel ~ with todays times ~ you got to get creative ~ or pass. ~ There times ~ I don't really have it to spend freely. Get creative!
Feb, March and April are difficult months for most everyone.
Good Luck ~ dar | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 2:09:37 PM | The first date (after the "meet") with my fellow was to a book signing with an author he loved that I hadn't heard of.
Was interesting to hear the author and afterwards, standing in line with my guy to get the book signed was an absolute hoot. I figure when you are having fun with a guy standing in a line, you've got to know this can be something pretty special.
I loved your ideas Dar... creativity reveals so very much more than just flinging money around. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 3:05:51 PM |
Ladies think men should pay and men think women should pay.
I have seen quite a few women who claimed that a man should pay for all.
I still have to see a guy who says that a woman should pay for all.
If it bothers you that you might (and I say MIGHT, because there are quite a few men who insist on paying everything) pay for YOUR OWN dinner or drink, then do something that does not require money (see ItsMargo's great idea) or requires very little money (coffee date).
Now if a guy asked me out expecting me to pay then the hell with him and the white horse he road in on.
The attitude like this is Very, Very unbecoming. If I were a man, I'd stay very far from anyone who thinks that way.
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Posted: 2/10/2008 4:44:32 PM | the thing that scares me about a guy with no money is that i have big goals, i am going places, and I would like a guy who can work with me towards those goals. in your case OP, i think the mental disability would scare me more that the lack of a large income.
The kind of guys I am attracted to are project managers, executives, business owners, etc. They have careers and that is attractive in a person. They have goals and dreams and have the means of acheiving them.
Personally, I could never be happy settling for that little apartment or home and then learn to live the same way day in and out, I need growth, change, excitment. That's just me though. some people live in the same place for 30 years and are happy with that. Not me. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2008 6:36:37 PM | Personally, I could never be happy settling for that little apartment or home and then learn to live the same way day in and out, I need growth, change, excitment. That's just me though. some people live in the same place for 30 years and are happy with that. Not me. quote]
Message: At 30, I was thinking the same thing!
I 'm lucky ~ I've returned from the mountain top ~ and the view in beyond explanation but the air is thin, it's cold and it's very lonely up there. The few who are strong willed enough to climb it with you ~ you constantly have to fight with .
If I go again ~ I go alone ~ dar | |
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Posted: 2/11/2008 7:07:18 PM | I am new to this thread, but would like to interject my two cents.
I have had the security of a long marriage, big house and all but I would much rather live in a box and be happy. Security is not worth squat if you are not happy. Money does not impress me, people of good character do. My last relationship was with one on disability and he had one leg...this did not make him less of a person or have less hopes and dreams than others. He was a 'whole' person in my eyes with a heart of gold. I was fortunate enough to be climbing the corporate ladder and making good wages. Sharing is my middle name...I am a giver in a relationship. A man having less of an income should not come into play if the relationship is solid, or could become solid. There are so many, many things to do that do not cost money. I believe you have mentioned most of them except for stomping in puddles after a rain and flying kites...most enjoyable! | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 10:33:29 PM | i think it depends on the person, not all ppl need or want to much.
is there a mental health organization in your area which provides group (get-togethers)meeting others.
cld be on option, give it a go / never know. i beleive their's someone for everyone.
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Posted: 5/12/2008 3:13:11 PM | Its just as hard for blokes like me with own home and loads of dosh.
We have to be careful of social climbers and gold diggers..... | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 8:59:42 PM | | i think that all of you ladies out there that can afford it should send brewtality some of your money and while you are at it send me some too. i know there are a lot of you that have money because in today's world everything favors the women. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 9:12:00 PM | You should not be taking a 1st date to steak & lob so strike 1. Strike 2 yes most women will not be ok with having to support the man. Just a fact of life. I say ask them out for a cup of jo or a drink & call it good. That's less then $10 and easily affordable on a tight budget. If all goes well, take her to a $10 mean, $20 tops for both of you. Next date offer to make her dinner at your place & close the deal in the sheets. She'll be putty in your hands if you know what to do once the lights go out then SHE can start payin right?
Good luck! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 9:43:53 PM | | The fact is that money is very important. Even if a potential mate was willing to overlook financial short comings in the short term, it would be a thorn in the side or your relationship as the year progressed. Here's the best way to think of it: Despite the fact that women are reaching economic equality with men they are still relatively hard wired to seek mates that offer some kind of economic benefit. This is the product of eons of evolution and sadly, civilization develops faster then evolution can keep up. A thousand years from now perhaps the role of money in relationships will be diminished however I seriously doubt it. People will ALWAYS act in their genetic best interest. This is an unconscious process and it is, for the most part, inescapable. Again, think about it logically; if you were a woman who needs resources provided for her during incubation, birth and rearing of a child, it would be spectacularly detrimental to pick a mate whom could not provide adequate resources. Doing that would not only harm the woman but would drastically reduce the survival probability of her offspring. Typically, this would lead to a selection pressure (provided by good ole' mother Nature) that would force women who chose inadequate mates (in the resource department) into genetic oblivion. Take home message: it's all about the Benjamins baby, no doubt. Reference: Donald Trump: Seven children all from attractive women. Nuff said. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 10:40:35 PM | | Heh any man can have any woman regardless of his financial situation with the right words said on his part. Luckily for me i love to make jokes, smile, and have alot of intersting things to say. theres' been times where i only have ten bucks, i'll buy six pack and go pick up a chick, sometimes they offer to pay to go out to a club, or sometimes they want to stay home and watch a movie. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2008 9:06:44 PM | | Clearly this is a gentleman who calls out his own name during intercourse (which is probably a solitary act) | |
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Posted: 5/15/2008 9:12:52 PM | "Men with little money often have little penis" - Wise Chinese man
"Judge not, a man by his morals, but instead by his monetary value" - Some President
"Money won't buy you happiness but it beats everything in second place" - My Dad
"Gimme your freakin' money punk" - Me | |
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Posted: 5/15/2008 9:47:14 PM | Guys with little money are not worth my time. Why waste your time with a broke guy when you can have a sugardaddy? Sure sex is expected in return but don't the broke guys expect sex too? I will not waste my time with another loser poor guy or even worse a guy who makes good money but won't by me anything. I need a man who will take me to the store and let me fill the cart with all the stuff I need, gourmet foods, expensive goodies, etc. Plenty of fish is not the place to find a man. I have since joined another site and am making contact with some real men.
Gotta love this forum though, it is entertaining.  | |
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Posted: 5/15/2008 9:53:42 PM | ^^^
Didn't that "other" site get shutdown after the the whole Elliot Spitzer fiasco? Shaba!!!
Sorry, that was mean, but you sorta walked right into it.   | |
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Posted: 5/15/2008 10:09:41 PM | I don't know about that
I just feel that if I am going to waste my time with men who don't want marriage and committment or like everyone on this site seems to be, going from one relationship to another, I want better quality and compensation for my time so at least I will have something to show for the time I waste with someone who doesn't care about me.
There are no men around anymore that want a respectable woman and being nice has got me nowhere. People just walk all over you so you have to be tough.
No more cheapskates for me. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2008 10:26:39 PM | ^^^ Jaded *coughs*
Did you listen to Alannis Morisette in the 90's? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 4:19:03 AM | | Just because a woman agrees to go out on a date with you doesn't mean you owe her anything. She should be paying her own way, and so should you (so combined costs should be manageable for you?). Any woman who enters a relationship expecting to get things like that out of it isn't worth dating. Too many women seem to think the man should be paying for everything which is just stupid, where in the world does going out on dates entitle a woman to get everything paid for? She is hardly performing a service for you lol. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 5:23:03 AM | I don't want someone to be my sugar daddy, and I absolutely don't want to be someone's sugar momma. I don't have a LOT of money by any stretch, but I make enough that I can take care of myself comfortably. Going out with someone who doesn't work, or makes eight bucks an hour working 20 hours a week at Target isn't going to cut it. I'd go broke.
One of the best man-friends I ever had was a seventh grade teacher, and in NC they make about 30thousand a year if they're lucky. That's not a lot of money, but he made it work (as I do, making about the same) and he made enough where he paid sometimes, and I paid sometimes. Nobody went broke, and we were both happy.
I also have things I want to do with my life. I'm saving up for a trip to Prague. I want to buy a house in the next couple of years. I want to do a lot of things. If I'm attached with someone at the time those things happen, I don't want to be the one footing the bill for everything while the guy gets a free ride. That's not quite fair for ANYONE, eh? | |
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