| Guys with little money
Posted: 5/15/2008 10:09:41 PM | I don't know about that
I just feel that if I am going to waste my time with men who don't want marriage and committment or like everyone on this site seems to be, going from one relationship to another, I want better quality and compensation for my time so at least I will have something to show for the time I waste with someone who doesn't care about me.
There are no men around anymore that want a respectable woman and being nice has got me nowhere. People just walk all over you so you have to be tough.
No more cheapskates for me. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2008 10:26:39 PM | ^^^ Jaded *coughs*
Did you listen to Alannis Morisette in the 90's? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 4:19:03 AM | | Just because a woman agrees to go out on a date with you doesn't mean you owe her anything. She should be paying her own way, and so should you (so combined costs should be manageable for you?). Any woman who enters a relationship expecting to get things like that out of it isn't worth dating. Too many women seem to think the man should be paying for everything which is just stupid, where in the world does going out on dates entitle a woman to get everything paid for? She is hardly performing a service for you lol. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 5:23:03 AM | I don't want someone to be my sugar daddy, and I absolutely don't want to be someone's sugar momma. I don't have a LOT of money by any stretch, but I make enough that I can take care of myself comfortably. Going out with someone who doesn't work, or makes eight bucks an hour working 20 hours a week at Target isn't going to cut it. I'd go broke.
One of the best man-friends I ever had was a seventh grade teacher, and in NC they make about 30thousand a year if they're lucky. That's not a lot of money, but he made it work (as I do, making about the same) and he made enough where he paid sometimes, and I paid sometimes. Nobody went broke, and we were both happy.
I also have things I want to do with my life. I'm saving up for a trip to Prague. I want to buy a house in the next couple of years. I want to do a lot of things. If I'm attached with someone at the time those things happen, I don't want to be the one footing the bill for everything while the guy gets a free ride. That's not quite fair for ANYONE, eh? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 5:43:04 AM | I used to think that I needed to show my date and expensive evening but these days a 1st date would be simple. There's so much around here to experience that doesn't cost anything. It could be a walk around a lake to a light hike in the mountains but something of that nature. Or if she really likes to get dirty, I could take her gem mining. Two buckets of dirt cost $10.00 and sifting through it is actually quite relaxing. It's also quiet enough to where we can sit and talk and that's the main thing.
As far as living together, I think both should pay the bills equally, have a joint account for savings and keep what's leftover to do with how they see fit. That way it's fair. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:36:34 AM | First of all where the heck can you get a steak dinner for 2 for $50. It costs me almost $140 after drinks here! Anyways.
I agree. Woman are enticed by 2 things; looks and money. If you have both, you got it made; one of them you can do well, neither of them and you are in trouble.
This will limit your dating for sure. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:21:51 PM | I don't want someone to be my sugar daddy, and I absolutely don't want to be someone's sugar momma. I don't have a LOT of money by any stretch, but I make enough that I can take care of myself comfortably. Going out with someone who doesn't work, or makes eight bucks an hour working 20 hours a week at Target isn't going to cut it. I'd go broke.
I propose that the one in the "relationship" with the least amount of money sets the tone for the activities.
If one can afford $100 on a weekend, and one can only afford $30 (a $60 dollar date), then both should go dutch and opt for the $30, and the person with $100 should bank the $70...that'd be fair. That's the only way I'd do it. If I made less, than I'd rather pay my own way and date at the level I can afford...it also makes for some creativity, so the dates won't end up being boring.
Hey, when I go out with friends, that's how we do it - we decide based on who's got what on them that night and what place would be best to accomodate that.
I think that would solve all this crap.... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 7:23:16 PM | OPie here's what I did. I had a career making OK money, $50K or so and yes I blew a lot on the babes. A hell of a lot. Now I am retired and like you can't pique their interest (for long) with $$$ although I still will sling a chunk for some fine arm candy which, admit it , beats hell outta watchin' football. Had some of the very best last weekend.  No I didn't make a Ho out of her I just showed her a fine time and had one myself.
When I write a profile I just say something like I'm self-supporting but not affluent. They get the message and the ones who are looking for the big hit won't waste your time. I see all the time on the personals that women who are making nearly nothing want an "ideal date" making over $150K (Yahoo is one).
Money is what it's about for most, not all. Myself I could have latched on to a number of rich old broads but that ain't me and never will be. Stupid male ego I guess. Anyway I actually get some responses from ladies who obviously don't want to be a leech so don't give up. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:01:46 PM | Quote from kinky**stard...
Anyway, she was totally money obsessed! I'm wouldn't say that I was loaded, but I did ok, so I was fine taking her out on many occasions. But what bothered me, was that she reckons that it's right for women to spend men's money and that the woman shouldn't have to pay for anything, not even dessert or popcorn for a movie.
KB I have spent a lifetime with women like that. Must have been a real bad boy in a previous life or something. After blowing around 40 grand on one getting her bailed out of debt, as she left she said "Well, you had me as a sex slave for two years!" Hell yeah they will spend your money and feel like they are doing you a favor.
You ladies on here saying you are not like that,  and I hope it is true and good things come your way. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:06:58 PM | OP,
What you lack is not money, it's imagination.
You can cook for her. It can be an omlette, french toast, or rice and beans with a salad. Just get cookin'!
You can prepare a picnic with sandwiches to a spot by the water and bring a blanket and a jug of wine/juice/water.
You can pick wild flowers.
It's the effort, the fun, the romance, the heart that counts.
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Posted: 5/16/2008 10:24:20 PM | Perfect answer.
I've been poor, and HATED it. That's why I busted my ass to get my education and have worked 12+ hours a day to build a successful career.
The LAST thing on my list would be to date someone I have to support. I married a man that I am still madly in love with, but I wouldn't have even started dating him if he would not have been able to work in partnership with me to provide us with a nice life.
You do have options, but like mythomjmark said, you are definitely limited. Sounds like you just need to quit trying to score over your head. Lower you sights a little... or a lot?
I would try to date someone who you find attractive but who is at your level financially... maybe someone else also on disability? | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 12:55:08 AM | im sorry to say and cause any trouble on this post but i agree with this poster
in addition a reply to what he was saying is that
people have to drink and socialize to fight their insecurity, you defence is somewhat can be taken2 way
people drink because they are insecure if you both drink then your insecurites arnt cared about and there fore is you screw it, you dont worry as much.
load is socializing however as a young guy i do socialize hoever would refer to spend time at home with the girl i want to get to know.
either way is fun.
are not just wanting to date because of cash
i response to this whole subject i do not know exactly your situation but i feel for you man, most people in this post are not getting the point of thequestion instead we have women posting about what they do want an expensive dinner, go out and go holidays ect.
dude i can tell you know that i have met some girls of my age range that would just date for money simply because they dont have money, on the other hands thats not true with all females.
others i have dated arnt dating just for the dough but the love that you can offer them, most is about meeting a girl/womans securites.
as far as not been able to work, i have the perfect idea for you, which is a good way to earn cash and also fun working at home.
with that you can show all these women "who expect the opposite to what you can offer" that they are not what you want.
having saidmy respects to you who have posted i am just saying that it is not too attractive to tell a person that you would not date them because of financial insecuries.
i am an ok looking guy and i do not work know. i dont have to because i have people working for me, but it dosnt mean that im the richest guy with the hottest chicks and go out to expensive dinners, the reason you would become more wealthy is because of the fact you dont go out fridays and spend all your wages on alcohol.
i started by been like yourself, the only difference is i do not have m/s or anything but i started off in a tight situation, govnt housing and grew up in a household that cant afford a mcdonalds meal.
what i am getting at is, if you think the right way, wait in line for your turn, dont give up on yourself and know that you will eventually find this girl then you will.
as far as your living ect. Investments is the key $20 per week rather than movies for 3 months will be enough to enjoy your self once a month with the person you want to spend the most with.
i wishyou the very best pal;) peace out
from an 18 year old aussie guy who wouldnt know what its like but could imagine | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:16:42 AM | There are lots of ways to have fun and even go out without spending a fortune. There is no reason why a nice dinner out has to cost $50, even for two people! I'm in Cincinnati, which I know is not the most expensive place, but it also not the back-of-beyond.
The things that make eating out, or just going out, often expensive is alcohol. Date someone who doesn't have to have 2 or 3 drinks with dinner, and you just made it possible to go out!
Something I used to do when I was poor and married- buy an Entertainment Book for your city. There are lots of great resturants you may not even have heard of, and the meal is buy one get one free. If you do it right, you're date doesn't even have to know (the nicer resturants take a member ID card, not a coupon).
Make dinner at home, and do it in style! Find free events in town to go to, there's always stuff going on. Museums are often not that expensive. Be creative!
If the woman you are interested in is the right one for you, it will all work. Your financial situation just might help you weed out the ones who aren't a little faster.
Just my $.02 | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 12:13:32 AM | | Yes, a restriction like yours plays alot into the dating factor. I have worked hard to get where I am. It will take a decent income to do the things that I want to do in the future, like Travel. . I want to be with someone who is on equal financial footing. I have been poor, and I have also supported a husband; I won't willingly re-live either one of those scenarios again. Ever. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 11:49:17 PM | I really believe that people mostly get what they ask for, having at least a certain control about that.
Also depending on the people you use to surround yourself with...
I agree. Woman are enticed by 2 things; looks and money.
After reading such a statement, what assets do you think will remain that women can look for? A big heart? ...a great personality? | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 5:44:55 AM | | From a guy who is divorced with 3 kids, paid child support plus still went the extra mile financially to help my kids and an ex who legally gets a third of my military pension, I am a guy who is not rich, but I take care of myself. So if a woman passes me by because I cant "afford" her then she isnt who Im looking for. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 3:44:07 PM | I think Karla hit the nail on the head. There are other ways to spend an evening with a lady without investing a lot of money. I am in a similar situation with tight finances. My ex left our son and me so I am a single parent left holding the bills and all the responsibilities. Just keep fishing and one will bob your cork that has an understanding heart and you will be just fine.  | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 4:50:26 AM |
steak dinner for two can cost around $50. Well then, date a vegetarian
LOL | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 5:08:55 AM | The best things in life are free!
You dont need to to have lots of money to have a nice date! | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 4:38:23 PM | To all
be happy with the money u have as long as ur having fun in your life its all that counts there's plenty of ways of having fun with no money the experience should mean more than the cost of the date! | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 1:36:41 PM | | I know I'll probably be burned for saying this but I can't help but be bitter because for years women wouldn't give me a chance because I didn't have much money. Now I've got a degree and I'm doing well. It's kind of like after a fat girl loses a lot of weight and then all of a sudden men start noticing her. I don't want a woman that's likes me just because I get paid a certain amount of money. I want a woman who would stay with me even if I lost my job and had to go on welfare. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 11:05:04 PM |
I want a woman who would stay with me even if I lost my job and had to go on welfare.
But don't expect a looker or anyone ambitious. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 5:40:31 AM | | It's not a problem, you should just find someone who doesnt care about fancy dinners, someone who wanted to go to such places wouldnt be a match for you, no biggie. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2008 2:28:25 AM | Start to enjoy porn because chances are U will never get a woman.
Porn is cheap and available ... and women are not. | |
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Joined: 3/21/2008
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Posted: 7/10/2008 5:50:01 AM | | A job in the porn industry would sort out your finances and your sex life in one go. I'm thinking along the same lines myself at the moment ;) Alternatively, tell her how in favor you are of equal rights, then get her to take you to dinner! | |
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