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| SEX---->A sacred thing----Virginity
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:53:55 AM | | Keeping you virginity isn't always about discipline, sometimes you really just can't find anybody who would want to do anything with you. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 3/3/2008 12:50:51 PM | | I think virginity is overrated. all it means is that u havent had sex. when u do it hurts like a b*tch and u bleed and its generally sh*t. then it gets a bit better. there is nothing magical about virginity. ok i agree that maybe you should wait to be with somene u like and trust, but just because its guna hurt and be crap. not because it means purity or something | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing----Virginity
Posted: 3/3/2008 2:46:49 PM |
Keeping you virginity isn't always about discipline, sometimes you really just can't find anybody who would want to do anything with you.
Agreeing with you.
Sign me up to the v-club! lol.
like some people said "I refused sex when I was younger because I wanted to hold out till later". But what if you weren't even offered sex? I had 2-3 dates so far but at the same time I'm not about to go to a prostitute on craigslist. So what's supposed to happen?
I think about 90% of virgins are not by choice. It's just a nice myth created to make some people feel better | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 3/3/2008 2:59:17 PM | | I think sex is what you want it to be. I personally want it to be with a different woman every weekend so I try my hardest to make that come true | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 3/3/2008 8:14:53 PM | | I lost my virginity when I was 15. I never once considered it sacred. Didn't hurt or bleed. But it was boring. Thankfully, I've improved.. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 10:37:44 PM | So... I watched the movie "Saved" the other night. It was pretty hilarious. The initial incident was that the heroine's boyfriend told her he thought he was Gay. Jesus came to her in a vision (or hallucination) and told her to do whatever was necessary to "save" him. A friend of hers mentioned something about returning to purity through prayer. So... she traded her V-Card to bring her boyfriend back to Heterosexuality. Only, a few months later and her man was still a raging homo, and she was pregnant.
"Jesus wants you to keep it in your pants" only works as Sex Ed if you don't have some sort of evidence that Jesus has a reason for you to be getting jiggy. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:41:42 PM | Readiness for sex is a very personal thing, but I would definitely say that 12 is entirely too young for 99.9% of the population. At that point, you're barely entering puberty.
It is a bit funny, though, how this is generational. In my generation, being a virgin at marriage was virtually unheard of. It was the cultural norm to enjoy sex, celebrate it, embrace it as a manifestation of the love we felt for another. Then, AIDS became a very real threat. A few years after the original AIDS epidemic, virginity became popular again, as if AIDS was the fire-n-brimstone price my generation were to pay for our sexuality.
Very interesting to see how values have changed because of a virus...
Finally, I'm not sure that losing your virginity obliterates what you describe as innocence. Isn't the innocence you refer to really about allowing yourself to be truly intimate with another? If that's the case, you can have sex with 100 people and never be intimate with them. Similarly, you can be deeply, astonishingly intimate with someone and never have sex with them.
Intimacy doesn't require innocence. It requires trust, honesty, courage, and letting go of your ego... | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing----Virginity
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:00:12 AM | | ah the whole sex on a pedastool post. sex is sex, protect urself, and dont do it with anygirl who presents u the opportunity. if i met a girl who was a virgin i probly wouldnt date her, why? because physically its a frustrating process just tryna have sex the first time, and second, id feel self conscience like id have to watch my words and what i can talk about with her. and i dont care about people being virgins, how u value it, if i took a girls virginity i wouldnt go "tom cruise" over it. when i lost most, it was just a day i lost mine.. it would makes no difference in how i valued my girl if she was a virgin or not. oh yeah, and both men and women can be virgins, u dont have to have some female part of u that can get broken or "popped" to be one... never having sex means ur a virgin.that was directed to some chick who posted earlier...no offense but, duh. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 7/17/2008 6:54:22 PM | | I wish I would have saved myself and not given myself to my first relationship. Oh well, c'est la vie. We all make mistakes. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 2/7/2009 6:28:29 AM | All you need to do is establish mutual respect with your person. If that is established, and you guys take precautions, then losing "it" can be wonderful and perfectly fine. But feeling obligated to do it before your ready or "getting it out of the way, over with, etc." Is always a regret that you can't escape.
For me when I saw "Fast times at Ridgemont High" and saw how "Stacy" lost her virginity to a guy she didn't even like that her friend picked out I wanted to puke. Not only that but it also made me even reconsider my stance on abortion. People do this all the time and it can be easily avoided.
Just take precautions, find somebody who you know, like and respect, and you won't regret anything.
I wouldn't call it "sacred" anymore than driving a car is "sacred." It's just a life experience that you will have sooner or later, nothing more, nothing less. Of course it's gonna be awkward and bad, especially with the premature guys and the bleeding girls. But, if you have a healthy experience it sets you up for having a great attitude about sex, and allows you to find the right people for you without any additional baggage.
But get this off on the wrong foot, and you spend a lifetime using men and yourself and hating yourself in the process. That is something all virgins should try and take care to avoid, no matter how old they are. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 5/14/2009 4:29:41 PM | Just think about all those 32 million extra guys in china ( you know because of that assinine one baby rule those commies had in place for over 20 years) and you get the picture....the average chinese guy doesn't have a chance of ever getting married...and they aren't into polygamy.
I think there will be a big testosterone push on these 32 million blue balled chinese guys to move out into other countries. But most of them would have to kill other orientals and steal their women. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 5/14/2009 5:00:44 PM | | My virginity was something very important to me. When I was in HS and college and all my other friends were having sex with random people, I made the decision not to have sex until I was in love and in a committed, serious, trusting relationship. I waited until I was 25 years old and in a 7 month relationship before having sex. I don't regret waiting 25 years, we don't regret waiting the 7 months and we don't regret making love. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 5/15/2009 9:52:51 AM | | Like so many here said before it depends on why want to stay a virgin. If it's for religious reason...oh well, you can do nothing about it. But that would mean sleeping with only one person and that doesn't sound too good to me. Having sex can be fun and I feel sorry for the ones who never see sex as just fun. I can make the difference between just having sex and making love. And loosing your viginity is just freedom to explore things....why would you wanna wait so long? | |
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Posted: 6/2/2009 11:43:08 PM | $50 bet?! What kind?! I wish I was getting laid at 12. Would have saved me years of loneliness and despair. Sex isn't "sacred," it's just a biological function. But then, nothing's sacred. Sex rocks!  | |
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