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Posted: 1/5/2008 4:51:44 AM | ^^^ I agree
Thanks Explosive and yes that was how it was intended..ok so it didn't answer the OP's question directly but it was intended in the sense of don't go learning jokes which other people did clarify too. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:45:52 AM | | I don't think stand-up routines go down well on a date, and with having the ability to make other people laugh, well you either have it or you don't it's not something you can learn, thankfully i don't seem to have a problem when it comes to making people laugh, I'd say its one of my best features and once you add drink into that mix it can get somewhat mental lol or maybe its all just in my small brain... who knows | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:12:47 AM | A man who can laugh at his own ineptitude, errors or attitude will make me laugh. In fact, I will probably join in with some of my own humor.
A man who tries too hard, always trying to be the center of attention, gets boring quickly. Fact is, I find that immature and tiresome.
When his humor crosses the line into racial slurs or attacks on someone I know, then I am done with him - unless he apologizes and tries to stop that tendency.
An attempt at humor while under the influence of alcohol is rarely funny. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:23:24 AM | | The trick is to share YOUR humour with her. What makes you laugh? Like it cheesy? Spread it on! Sarcasm? I'm not bitter about being single, quite the opposite? Just plain wrong? I like my women like my Scotch: 25 years old and mixed with coke. However you go about it, make sure it's you. If you use humour that you find awkward, it will show. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:49:39 AM |
My Question is: Are there any good guidelines for creating the comedy that will really make the ladies laugh? Can you give me an idea of what works for you? Let's call it a given that one would need to be 'themselves' and original.
I can tell you what always works: you take a situation where you might normally be pissed off, and turn it into a joke. For example, one time I was driving with a girl in the car, and a driver cut in front of me to change lanes on the highway. Instead of getting pissed, I grinned and said: "Damn, I wish I had Tony Stewart here's cell number so I can tell him where the track is!" The woman I was with got a great laugh out of that, and it totally turned the moment around.
Take the times where you would normally be bummed out or angry, and turn them into opportunities for a quick one-liner. You'll be funny as hell.  | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:12:50 AM | It makes me laugh if a guy tells non-PC jokes and jokes that make fun of others. I'm not even going to pretend to be mature and say that I don't find that stuff funny, because I do. My sense of humor is hard to understand, somewhat. For example, I find Sarah Silverman hilarious. I'm not at all a fan of Dane Cook. He's not mean-spirited enough to make me laugh.
The older you are, the less people find humor in intentionally off-color/offensive jokes, though. I don't really know why.
But at 23, I'm perfectly content to laugh at biting remarks about things society holds sacred. Maybe I'll care more in twenty years (unlikely), but for right now, I'm liking laughing.
Things that are NOT funny:
1) Saying "Show me the money".
2) Doing Matrix impressions
3) Doing Simpsons impressions
4) When talking about South Park, actually imitating the voices of the characters instead of just describing the scene in question.
5) "Gentle" humor...aka, diet jokes, anything found in Garfield or Family Circus or Cathy..stuff like that.
And do everyone a huge favor (this is to the guys): Do NOT claim to be funny if you aren't. I've been disappointed on at least ten different dates with ten different guys who all claimed to be hilarious, and all weren't. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:47:21 AM | the secret to being funny? there isn't one. if you're not funny you're not funny. but maybe someone out there will find you funny? maybe you could be ironically funny? you could be really funny because you are SO NOT. ya know?
i don't know.. people are funny in all different ways. the way one guy makes a girl laugh might not work with another guy.
i know people find me funny because when i tell stories my facial expressions do even more talking than i do; they try to repeat the story later and it doesn't work because they were really just laughing at my face (good thing? bad thing? damned if i know).
you just gotta go with it mate. find your inner comedian. if all else fails go to a comedy class, but then she might feel like she's on a date with someone half crazed.
'did ya hear the one about the guy desperate to be something he's not...'
if it's not natural it won't seem natural and it won't be funny.
i don't even know what i think you should do anymore. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:27:18 AM | OP, please do not take this to harshly, but you do not seem to “have it”.
Watch some Pros. Consider timing. ( Jack Benny/ Carson)
Watch a group react to an amusing person at work.
Read the forums here ! We have some truly hysterical
posters on POF, which is why i hang around.
Now, compare the reactions they get to how people react to you.
Then go to a comedy club and watch a person flop.
Watch how uncomfortable the audience becomes as
person on stage begins to panic. It is not pretty.
Listen to the nervous uncomfortable laughter
Watch as people begin to fidget, looking at their watches.
Why risk that look/reaction from a woman you are
interested in ? There is very little in Life as sad
as watching someone who thinks they are funny
bomb, whether it occurs on stage or at the office water cooler.
I am sure you are good at something, but your posts here
makes me think Humor is not one of them. No Big Deal.
There are many other personality traits that women
find attractive. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 10:48:47 AM | Define "Funny". Everyone is different so what is funny to one person might not be for the next.
To me, Funny is a state of mind. First off, learn to laugh at YOURSELF. Are you the type that when a tree falls on your car you get all bent out of shape, rush to call the insurance company and start cursing the Gods of the Trees?
My first reaction would be: "Hmmm, that's a big woody, no wonder why the car lost!" But hey, that's just me.
Some people have better luck in general than others and if you cannot laugh at life, you will never be "Funny". Life is full of irony, roll with it, laugh at "Tricky" days.
Hell, I'm afraid to play the lottery. With my luck I'll do a scratch off and it's gonna say: "Pay the guy next to you $10!"
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 11:04:46 AM | While certainly no expert on the topic I don't think you can learn how to be funny. To be funny one has to have or hopefully develop a sense of what people might find funny, and that will vary from one person to the next. Some people have great senses of humour, some a dry sense of humour and damm it, some people don't have any. So you'll have to adjust to your audience.
Delivery and timing and wit are all key components of being funny but of course your content is too.
Stay away from demeaning others... it makes people uncomfortable. Hmm blonde jokes might work in some audiences (grin) but tread with care... she might have dyed her hair. The best target to be the butt of your jokes is you. Learn to laugh at yourself.
Success won't come overnight so do what you can, learn from your mistakes and don't give up. You have the rest of your life to master being the funny guy.
Good luck. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:36:23 PM | personally i try to be playful rather than funny.
Cheeky works as well but has to be infrequent. and you have to be confidant you can woo her back across the line if you cross it.
Dont bother with jokes, its all about the delivery, but they are handy to get through an arkward silence. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:34:08 PM | Either you have it or you don't. You have to think a little differently. I tell people that I want to do sit-down comedy because I'm too tired to stand up. Make the audience stand up and let me have a Lazy-Boy!
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 2:51:21 PM | Good point, Tyee:
"Tread with care....she might have dyed her hair." Reminds me, strangely enough of the time I was fishing off a dock in the winter, wearing the same sort of outfits as everyone else there - snow pants and parkas, etc. when the gentleman next to me felt the need to relieve himself.... His buddy stopped him and said, "That's a lady beside you!" The poor sod zipped himself up so quickly that he got a few hairs caught. I cringed when I heard him curse, not because of what he said, but because of the pain my presence caused him.
I know what I say above is slightly off topic, but it still makes me giggle when I think about it, even though it happened about 20 years ago. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:15:36 PM | | Ironic things can be funny. For example I remember joking to my date while we were in a pub that nowadays due to the smoking ban you have to walk inside to get some fresh air. A truly funny person can make an anecdote about a fairly mundane happening seem funny. For example going on a trip and getting lost and ending up somewhere strange. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:35:27 PM |
I am very interested in developing this skill so that I may ensure that my future 'one and only' finds me more attractive than any other man alive.
Trying to be funny will will only backfire. Its like trying to concentrate hard so as to not bust a nut quickly. The harder you concentrate, the faster you will unload your wad. Either you are funny or you are not. Its not something you can "try to be". Find women with the same interests as you and you wont have to be someone you are not. Dont bust a quick nut, enjoy the ride. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/5/2008 4:00:09 PM | Comedians study being funny. It looks spontaneous, but comedians fine-tune a joke to the nth degree to get it just right in their standup routines. It's not nearly as spontaneous as everyone thinks.
You can become funnier by working at it, as long as you're willing to drop a few duds along the way. Humor is timing, quick-wit, irony, and lack of self-consciousness. Gotta laugh at the notion that some people are funny and others aren't. Bullshit. We all can find humor within us if we have the right attitude about it. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:48:59 AM | Common Sense, It's not all that common, unless we are talking about 'cents'.
[bold]Do folks here like the sound of there own fingertips or what?[/bold]
Yes, apparently some even like the sounds of their 'thumbs' on the keyboard too! At least I hope that they are using their thumbs an not.....ewe I just grossed myself out!
[bold]And Now for the Public Spankings or Gold Stars![/bold]
Msg# 51: Ok, you can have a gold star and some shiny armor too! Look at you coming to the rescue....ugh, I somehow feel dirty now!
Msg# 52 Bluewhatever: Was that an apology? Really girl, you must stop hitting on me so, this is getting embarrassing. Look, I'm blushing now! And, I don't look good in red!
Msg# 53: Yes, I understand, Comedians get all the meow and you guys want to keep them to yourselves. The rest of here will just hang around and hold your hat, k?
Msg# 54: You're right! Oh, and the universe starts here with me!
Msg# 55: actute, I'll say more accurate than many before, right on dude thanks for the tip!
Msg# 56: Man, you need to do Anger Management! As the instructor, I'd bet less  would be peeing in our pool from then on.
Msg# 57: Wow, you got it babe, can I call you babe Rache? Comedy is about Truth and Pain and it sure is a Pain to get to the Truth of Comedy! Gold Star Girl! Glad you could include your self in some intelligent conversation for a bit.
Msg# 58: Secret? What secret? It's in the aisle #4 next to the ass wipe for girls. To hell with the dating I want to laugh for a lifetime! You can me some points to ponder in my struggle to become aware of how 'kewl' I am....
Msg# 59: Ok, the bubble theory again! SPANKING TIME Let me stay here in my nice safe shell and live in fear for my whole life? Wow, compelling stuff and been repeated oh so many times here. Here's to hoping you give up on this post like I should on learning skills and growing.
Msg# 60: Gold Star! Great advice too, duh duh day! Private joke if anyone else figures it out here other than ourselves I'll be astounded! Excellent advice and information.
Msg# 61: Hmm, so you feel that funny can't be learnt? Yet, give some great tips on living the dream? Oh, screw it! Gold Star, I got em cheap at Zellers. I love your joke by the way, even though I was not looking for jokes yours stands out of the crowd!
Msg# 62: PLAYFUL? Awesome advice add a little**** into the comedy! Nice, 10 Gold Stars for you!
Msg# 63: Back into my bubble again, and what? I have to stand up now? ah....forget it!
Msg# 64: Nice story, thanks for realizing it has little to do with the topic, glad it makes you giggle, me? Nope it doesn't!
Msg# 65: Irony, Nice, I'll look into that! I'm tired of the circles I've been in here..sigh!
Msg# 66: HUH? I am working to be a better me? And, personally I find the effort admirable.
Msg# 67: WISDOM! Pure and unadulterated! Now I have to quote you, try not to blush, k?
You can become funnier by working at it, as long as you're willing to drop a few duds along the way. Humor is timing, quick-wit, irony, and lack of self-consciousness. Gotta laugh at the notion that some people are funny and others aren't. Bullshit. We all can find humor within us if we have the right attitude about it.[/bold]
I don't suffer fools easily, so please try not to be one, just for today! k? Well, back to my book review, thanks again SLYNIGHT! | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:25:15 AM | I totally agree with the don't do stand up routine. Also a lot of guys who are into humor and too self-absorbed and a woman initially may miss that but figure it out later.
I was waiting at a bus stop the other day and this woman waiting near me looked nice and friendly. So I am thinking how can I talk to her. What can I say? I go put my coffee cup in the trash nearby and look up and see an address on this mini map shelter. 3007 calhoun boulevard or whatever it read. But it had no door, no inside, it wasn't even a bathroom, just a map shelter near a lake that gets biked and jogged around. So I point it out, make a little light humor about it. What does it need an address for? Where's the mailbox? Are the geese gonna pick up the mail? Just little stuff like that. It does not matter what I said. She can tell I'm thinking on my feet, I'm smart/observant, and making an effort to entertain her which sure beats staring at ones shoes. It started to work.
But something happened I wasn't prepared for. She didn't speak english! And I don't speak any european languages aside from hello and goodbye. But she got the point. She pointed out the geese flying overhead and we kind of chuckled about that. But it still kind of worked because it was natural, organic. No jokes, no routine. People here on POF tell me all the time they get shot down by strangers. Hey, if I can do it without even speaking the language then YOU can do without that handicap!
A joke, is, in fact, the shortest distance to agreement about some value.
Great way to say it.
The trick is to share YOUR humour with her. However you go about it, make sure it's you. If you use humour that you find awkward, it will show.
I agree but I'll take it a couple steps forward from there. Not only that but humor can be a great glue in a relationship. Little in jokes. I've never been a very good joke teller but I can always amuse a woman, even better one on one, because my sense of humor is about stuff we're both experiencing. It creates a little sense of intimacy. Certain women will love that and eat it up and be wanting more.
Probably the best "trick" in the book is to take something full circle... twenty minutes or an hour later in the convo cleverly tie it back into something funny at the begining. Comedians do it all the time. Not only is it a guaranteed laugh but a magnified one! | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:13:19 AM | Funny, isn't it, that so many woman want a guy "who can make them laugh".
I have a good sense of humor, can make either sex laugh on occasion. If you can't remember jokes --and I can't-- develop your sense of irony. Pointing out the strangeness in a situation can sometimes bring smiles.
Here's the caveat: women don't like guys who are too funny. They think they are goof balls and don't take life seriously. And they may be right.
Be yourself.
Even Mr. Yuks has to go home and let his hair and funny bone down, so she's got to like you when you're not "on". | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:59:55 AM | | 2 things Mr. "kewl" guy, 1 my junk ain't long enough to substitute for my thumb on the space bar.... 2, keep trying, like I was saying before it's coming off as more condescending than anything else, also I like blue or red, gold doesn't match the colour scheme I'm going for. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/6/2008 8:33:12 AM | Sorry if this has already been said. I did not read through all three pages.
Comedy is generaly custom tailored to the audience. Making 1 on 1 comedy the easiest. Having alot of jokes which are generaly funny is a nice arsenal to have. Throwing 1 in occasionaly will generaly make it easier for a person to laugh at the more simple things in life. Which in turn, opens up a persons heart a little. Which is why people are generaly attractedto humor.
Every joke has a point which is obvious and another point which can be seen if someone looks too far into it(regardless of intended meaning). Open with something comepletely safe on the front and the back which relates directly to what was being said in conversation previously. This way it isnt canned. Which is why I say have an arsenal. You will genuinely be reminded of a joke due to the conversation.
Hope it helps. There is my opinion,please direct all flames to my personal mail and dont wast everyones time.
Oh and laugh at yourself. Best comedians recover with a joke about themselves. Robin Williams did it on a dvd filmed in NY. Laugh at yourself,it also shows your not pretentious. If a person stutters for a recovery then they probably are hindering some pretentious emotions. Sorry this is a little too reflective for a last paragraph. Pretentious people have been swarming around me like locusts. Have Fun | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/6/2008 8:43:00 AM | | I don't think humour is something you can really learn. It's something you're born too. And everyone has a different sense of humour, which is why different people find different types of jokes/humour funny. I am pretty lucky; I've always had a sense of humour that girls tend to appreciate. But even I am not invincible. I went on one date, and was just myself, with my normal wit, and offended the girl right off the bat, and continued to do so throughout the evening. Obviously it wasn't a match. On that note, I think a large and very important aspect of humour is descresion. When to tell a joke and who you're telling it to is probably just as important, if not more important then the joke you're telling. | |
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| Comedy How-to, Any advice? Got Bait?
Posted: 1/6/2008 8:55:58 AM | | Humor is something that can be learned. If you were born with it,congrats. I was not funny by far at a younger age. 3 years in sales changed that. Rooms roll with laughter now. | |
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