| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/3/2008 5:47:57 PM |
lol Who are you trying to pick up canonista? Whats this "bond, emotional connection, intimacy" you speak of? Sounds like woman propoganda to me.
I'll go clip a corner off my Man Card now.... | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/3/2008 6:14:37 PM | | I don't know and I don't care. I only care about me. I dealt without for many years, and I don't wanna do that anymore. End of topic. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:16:40 PM | But seriously...do guys EXPECT to not get as much as they want and are pleasantly surprised if they do?
As a woman I continue to be surprised when my drive is the higher one.... | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:29:23 PM | Women do, for a physical reason. When men don't get enough sex, particularly after a certain age, they're risking health problems. I edited a book about prostrate health. In the Phillipines, doctors will massage the prostrate and loosen the calcification that can clog that gland due to men eating too much meat and not getting enough sex. (No kidding.) If a woman learns to massage a man's prostrate (your finger has to go in a place in back and find the gland under the skin) and then gets him off, trust me, she becomes a goddess to the man, and she'll keep him happy forever and perhaps keep him from getting prostrate cancer.
A lot of men don't realize that this occurs, or that they need to keep the prostrate "vacated" in a very specific way.
Which is why we men need to find a great woman who understands physiciality and loves sex. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:36:28 PM | Interesting. I've heard read tons of complaining here in forums, but I can honestly stay ~ I've never been turned down, nor do I do the proverbial "not tonight." It's a mere mind-set away from being "in the mood" and it's a fair-is-fair thing with me. I'll initiate and I'll also participate even when it isn't the greatest idea at the moment in my head. It's a matter of mutual behavior. At least where I live. JMO  | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:39:09 PM | When I got married at 18 my husband had a very low sex drive. He would break out in excema if I pushed for it and yeah, I took it personally. We only lasted a year and a half and the second guy I slept with I got pregnant.
His sex drive was fine but he lacked fidelity. And I took that very personally.
I need someone with a high sex drive but also a deep need for affection. Somebody who wants the I only have eyes for you experience in day to day life regardless of any role that porn can play in a relationship.
Porn and men go hand in hand with me -- pun definitely intended. Tried using a sex toy once and within weeks had another one of those embarrassing life experiences I'd rather forget. I'll wait it out instead. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:48:27 PM |
Who deals better with a lack of sex?
A person thats so busy with their life (Job, Money, Goals, Succeeding in university, etc) that there's so little time to think about 'sex'.
Thats about as fair of an answer as it's going to get. The above can apply to either men or women.
Anyone who actually thinks just men...or just women deal with it better simply isn't taking a lot of things into consideration and aren't being realistic.
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/4/2008 8:06:51 PM | '...a man rejecting a woman . . '
*Yeah!* . .' I'll buy THAT for a Dollar . . !!'
Women have it M A D E . . !!!
When a woman gets rejected . . she can _Count on_ her lady-friends to comfort and console her . .
and if it came to it . . give her the sexual pleasure she was Hoping to get from the man . .
What happens when a Guy gets rejected . . ??
His buddies say . . ' F*** that C***!! . . HEY!! . . there's one over There . . ! Go get her!!! | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:02:36 PM | | ....I'm specifically talking about lack of sex when you supposedly have an available partner....but they don't want sex as much as you do...do men deal better than women...? I think all know that masturbation is a remedy but comes in far behind the real thing so what else besides that? | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:18:35 PM | I remember being stunned after the first few years of my marriage when I turned my wife down because I was genuinely exhausted. She got all paranoid and wondered what was wrong, because I was always in the mood. She was like a dog with a bone and would NOT let it go.
I think women deal worse with it because they are more used to being in control in that department. After all, a woman can sleep with whoever she wants; a man can sleep only with who lets them. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:22:31 PM | Oh!! . . My Apologies . . !!
In that case . .
Women handle it better . .
mostly because they know that they can Get it . . when they Want it . . !!
My 1st marriage basically fell apart because she only wanted it . . when She wanted it . .
Her timing . . Her terms . . Her positions . . e t c . .
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No Wonder I Fell-in-Love with someone else . . !!!
And the "2nd Honeymoon" . . ??
* UU-Oh-UU . . !!!
Individually, though . . I'm not Handling it well . . !! . .  | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:27:40 PM | | I am not sure about which sex as a "rule" handles it better. I would just like to have met/to meet more men that have as high a sex drive as they claim. Doesn't seem to me that high sex drive and long term relationship come in the same package deal. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/5/2008 4:02:13 PM | I used to get upset when I would be with hubby, touching... him get hard then say he didn't want it. Over time, we both realized we have our own drives and desires and our current situation is now conducive for both of us for pleasure.
The idea is to get over the hurt feelings and talk about what makes you tick or doesn't. Thats the biggest hurdle of any relationship whether its about sex or money or work. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:44:29 AM | I say though it's rougher for whoever really needs that physical touch and emotional connection during sex w/a person. And that would be some men and some women - I suppose some don't need that physical touch as much as others.
For me, looking into his eyes while he is in me, rubbing my chest against his, a hug at the end, loooooonnnngggg kisses, all of that is irreplaceable with a vibrator.
Sure, a vibrator is fine for relaxing and getting rid of stress. It's fine for taking the edge off of horniness.
But it does not replace sex as the orgasm is not the most important part of sex for me. The journey is what's important - the physical touch/emotional connection.
And yes, I miss it terribly right now! UGH It sucks not having a partner.
Kaylie
^^^^^^Said it better than I ever could have  | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:42:14 PM | Kaylie . .
. . If Only . .
How many times have I said ' The Hell with it . . !!' .. ?
..and then.. something happens to brighten the day . .
* L o o o o o n n n n n g g g g g Loving Kisses and Lots of Contact can work Wonders on a persons Ego, Attitude and Outlook on Life . . !! | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:25:35 PM | | Neither gender deals well with consistent lack of sex when sex is wanted. The reactions may be different, but both men and women will get pissed when they are not getting the sex they want. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 1/7/2008 3:50:19 PM | | I would say men on average, because we are raised understanding that we "wont" get it as much as we want, so when we arnt getting any its nothing new. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 2/10/2008 6:15:30 PM | | bit of a myth there ladies, sack will not burst semen is produced as and when needed as a health 52 male with an average sex drive I masterbate nearly everyday, because I enjoy the sensation of cumming not to stop the bag bursting , or keeping the sack empty, yes most men enjoy sex, I know that I do, but I prefer it if I love the partner I am with, it what keeps us apart from the animalsas a lady think how wet you become during a good sex sessionenough to drown the average person, without what is squirted my last partner could lose as much as 1.5 litre of fluid do you burst without sex? no thought not. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 2/10/2008 6:37:18 PM | Do men "cope" better because it's the social norm for them to always have to nag for sex but that women aren't brought up to think they might have to beg for sex?
A woman may have to "beg" for sex in a relationship where headgames are being played but in the real world....more men beg more often than can be counted.
They just don't always get the response they hoped for. | |
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| Who deals better with a lack of sex?
Posted: 2/10/2008 8:41:13 PM | Here's what I don't understand. There's so many women here complaining about men's poor sex drives, why the hell aren't you in my bed right now?!? No, I'm not kidding.
I'm pushing 40 and still have the libido of a teenager (plus I've learned a few tricks along the way!)
I think the reason men seem to "deal with it" better isn't because we want to go without. It's because we are used to it. We know how to. Most men will get slapped or accused of attempted rape if we walked up to a woman we were attracted to and said; "Hi, nice shoes, wanna (insert expletive here) - do it?"
If a woman walked-up to a guy with the same proposal, there'd be no problem. The chances that that woman would get a man that isn't really attracted to her are even pretty good. He can pretend to be to get what he's been starving for.
So men are basically used to not getting any. By the time we do find someone who wants to do it, we're like rabid animals. Like pavlov's dogs. We are like a starving person with food in front of them. The sad part is we're usually not really attracted to the ones that do want us, we just need it and by this time we don't give a sh_t. Some of us end-up marrying them too and pretending to love them just because we don't want to give-up the steady sex. Having any steady sex partner is better than none. It's like knowing where my next meal is coming from.
The sad part is most of us men can only lie to ourselves for so many years before we realize how NOT attracted to you we really are and then it's all over.
All this could be solved if only hot women were easier.
Peace out
Mike | |
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