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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:23:02 PM | I think in this case it should be our choice, we are all mature adult s , old enough to know what we are getting into and if our feelings are the same, and we are on the same level, we shouldn't have to question it, (sex is just sex without feelings)
some times it takes that intimacy to know how strong one feels, especially where so many relationships are based on sex.... My 2 cents. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:49:32 PM | For anybody concerned....do you think there should be laws against game players that trick you into sexual encounters and dress things up in deceit ...i personally have put up this subject on forums because i have many females net friends who more and more have been a victims of this sort of misleading un-savory behavior!
Uhmmmm...what??? LOL How does anyone get tricked into getting naked and letting someone penetrate them?? What kinda master magicians are they going out with??? | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/6/2008 6:39:12 PM | I have the feeling this thread is going to become a classic.
How about there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters and then cut you off for months at a time then say that was all you will get? Would you be able to sue for the lost time and effort you put into the relationship? All the heartache you felt, the feeling of being used?
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/6/2008 9:18:46 PM | Fraud is fraud is fraud, which is the making of false promises or representations to obtain something of value from someone who would not otherwise give it. When the victim relies on the promises and is harmed as a result, the perpetrator is liable.
The problem with claiming fraud with respect to sex is that fraud is a tort, and the only remedy for a tort is monetary damages. Obviously, trying to put a monetary value on sex is going to seem unacceptable, and a woman who makes the complaint might not want to go into detail about exactly what she did during the tryst.
There is also injunctive relief, which is a court order to make good on a promise or stop engaging in harmful behavior. However, why would a woman want to continue with a man who can't be trusted, and how can a court possibly enforce an order to stop hitting up women? | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/6/2008 9:31:45 PM | | I have a major problem with the OP comparing trickery to rape, unless you happen to know a rape victim DON'T COMPARE THE TWO , a rape victim has no choice when assaulted , your friend could of said NO but she chose to do so, the choice was left to her, any strong minded woman wouldn't fall for it plain and simple, its like when people say oops it happened because I was drunk........ bullshit, if the world's most homeliest man, unibrow,bad breath, has a pumpkin on his porch that has more teeth then him came calling and you were drunk you would still say NOOOOOOO. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/6/2008 9:58:42 PM | As I stated way early and it seems to be something few have considered... YES DORTHY there IS LAWS TO PROTECT THIS... IT IS CALLED MARRIAGE...
If one is going to complain that she/he had sex with someone and then they left, she/he has left themself OPEN to feeling used and abused...
That may sound sooooo old fashion, however as momma said, why buy the cow, when the milk has came for free??? Why stick with the cow, when the milk wasn't that sweet??? Heck, why buy the pig, when all that is wanted is a little sausage...
What ever anyone complains about, it is a MORAL issue... Unless this guy forced her to have sex, then it is NOT rape...
Just like there are no legal reprocussions in deviding property when two people haven't been married, neither is there one for having sex...
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/7/2008 12:31:26 AM | I haven't read the entire sixteen pages of this thread but I don't think it's necessary in order to respond with my opinion that laws to punish people who trick others into sexual encounters couldn't be enforced appropriately. This is like most fraudulent activities. It's hard to prove and winds up being a "he said, she said" scenario.
The best way for a woman to protect herself from a predatory player-type is to hold off on sexual and emotional intimacy for quite some time. It's unfortunate that a return to the "old days" is necessary but I think it holds its advantages. You really tend to know someone a lot better after time has gone by, especially if you haven't rushed into the bedroom with them. Sleeping with someone quickly tends to shade your perspective on who they are.
Holding off on sexual intimacy may keep emotions in check for a while as you spend time finding out about other things in common, temperment, personalities, and other important areas of concern. Personally, I think that the serial monogamous relationships society is engaging in today, where people are sexually intimate over and over again in these casual, brief relationships that end and then said person is onto the next one, swearing their undying love again --these are rather pathetic attempts at true intimacy. They are nothing of the kind. Eventually sex becomes mindless, heartless and meaningless, one becomes jaded, used up, burned out, hardened, emotionally unavailable, and afraid of intimacy altogether.
We're abusing something that was supposed to be special and shared by those who really cared about one another. There is only one way that I know of to prevent being used, tricked, and manipulated. It is up to each woman out there to begin to value herself and stop giving her body away so easily. Wait until there is significant proof that the one you think loves you really does care. Wait until the engagement ring is on your finger or close to it. I really doubt a player is going to wait that long but the man who really loves you will. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/7/2008 1:45:53 AM | What turnip truck did you fall off of?
No there do not need to be any more laws, that is why we are in a mess. You want you hand held by a governing body instead of pulling up your boot straps and handling your business like an adult.
So for the people that feel tricked, in a way you deserved it. Learn and do better next time.
And yes, I have experience with this subject. On the getting bent over end of it. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/7/2008 4:00:29 AM | There are a lot of predators out there. Darwin wrote about the survival of the fittest.
Instead of pointing a finger and saying, "He tricked me into loving him!" how about taking a life's lesson learned and being a little bit wiser the next time.
Our society is already overly litigious. Unless a person is less than competent so that they require protection from the unsavory, can't we adhere to a concept of personal accountability?
I have made many bad choices in my lifetime, but never thought that because I allowed myself to be taken advantage of that I should hire a lawyer and file a lawsuit. Then again, anyone can sue anyone for anything. It rankles me to contemplate all of the money I could have won for emotional distress, by not filing suit for all the bad choices I myself made. It is always someone else's fault, and I was a Victim. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/7/2008 4:52:34 AM | | i have alot of women tell me they love love me then when they got what they wanted ie ,their house done up they move on to the next one .people do find that when they have sex that that aint compatable between the sheets ,is that what happened with your mates ?.no laws should be made ,its down to the two people ,if sex starts then both want it ,if not just say no and then see if he or she is still around after that .makes me laugh on these sites as so many bring past things in to new relationships ,everyone has a past and thats where it should stay in the past . | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 5:06:58 AM | | If someone decides to have sex with someone right away no I don't believe that person should be punished. But if someone strings someone along making promises and plans for many months I think that person would deserve a good *** kicking! People like that are usually very patient and good at their game,play mind games with their victims,making them feel guilty and vulnerable,and when they feel that this person is getting too attached or is coming to a realization they move on, to their next victim. And many get away with it. A lot of these people are already married or with someone. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/7/2008 5:35:06 AM |
But if someone strings someone along making promises and plans for many months I think that person would deserve a good *** kicking!
Great! There is this girl that only gave me sex after three months of stringing me along in dates and stuff. I can't kick her ass, but I gladly hold your coat while you kick the sh*t out of her for me. I'll pay your airfare, too! | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/7/2008 6:18:30 AM | | I take promises and future things with a grain of salt - but then again I wont sleep with anyone til I know for sure it is going someplace or at least that they are open to it. Heck I have dated men for a year or more and it turned into nothing. Life and dating in general is a gamble. But no one can "trick" anyone else into sex - ya either do it or ya dont. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:49:08 AM | Good point Doc re: msg 401
Under the proposed law, if I dumped a woman after we had sex one time, I would probably be found guilty of tricking her. How many times would I have to have sex with her to avoid prosecution?
Probably as many as it takes until she realizes that that's the only reason you're still with her.
402 responses... most of them saying the same thing... Op have you shown your friend this thread? | |
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