| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:07:19 PM | what if a guy strings a woman along for months on the belief he loves her and she falls in love with him also and feels ok and ready to have a sexual encounter with him...but all along shes just a sexual conquest to him and nothing more! then dumps her when he,s had what he wanted!? i have many female friends who have been soul destroyed by this,, they wasnt forced into sex...the vital point is they were (TRICKED)
 WOW!! sounds Like my ex,
But she is married,
does her lying about
getting a divorce for
3 years count...?
Sorry but We all believe What we choose
to. i doubt you could make a Law that
Could encompass Such behavior. Although
it is a very selfish way to behave and quite
one sided at best, it would be kinda hard to prove
that he/she wasn't sincere all along.
it REALLY sucks sometimes.
Had my ex never moved to Alaska,
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:20:55 PM | | Yes, there should be a law against it...."it" being stupidity. Please! If you are an adult, you haven't been tricked into anything. You agreed to have sex for whatever reasons you had in your squirrelly little brain. It didn't pan out the way you wanted it . Tough. Life is hard. Grow up. Sex is not the only part of life that has curve balls. All this political correctness is what is going wrong with this country. Next thing you'll want is a Constitutional Amendment to keep your feelings from being hurt. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:28:59 PM |
Next thing you'll want is a Constitutional Amendment to keep your feelings from being hurt. That kind of crap is already in the works, that's the essense of Political Correctness I'd say.
We had Conana O'Brien come up to Canada about a year or 2 ago, I like that show the man is one of the greats, anyway they had triumph the insult comic dog go to Quebec at some point, half of them can't speak english, he said "This is North America learn to speak the language." and I'm not kidding you, they were trying to ban Conan from ever coming back because of that. Canada gets made fun of plenty in American Television, we do our fair share back, but literally they were talking about giving Conan a Fine because he insulted french "culture."
You literally can't make a joke these days without offending someone, believe me, they can find a way to claim they're only offended because of sexism, ageism, racism, culture bashing... We aren't allowed to dissagree anymore. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:44:46 PM |
OH GOD............
The last time I see this much B.S. is when I operated a manure spreader on the farm.....
do you think there should be laws against game players that trick you into sexual encounters
NO.................the lines are blurred enough between the sexes as it is without another stupid way to sue someone. Second, if you're naieve enough to be tricked, you should not date
have many females net friends who more and more have been a victims of this sort of misleading un-savory behavior!
Humm....................why only females? I question your true agenda on that one. Are you suggesting That this new law be applied for women only, or both women and men???
do you truly think the act or practice of deceiving, concealment or deliberate distortion of truth for the purpose of someones sexual gain is duplicity that the law should protect??
If that were true, I could sue 85% of the women I have dated. I guess according to you the poor helpless females would then be a victim of the courts eh?
and maybe should be seen as second class rape??
Oh Please! perhaps if you were a German Nazi.....you could go running to the Gestapo anytime you got pissed off at your man and claim "deceptive rape"
Sounds like a N.O.W members (anti men) insane rantings to me!
Basically what your are saying this.
If I have sex with him, then he should do everything at my command, never disagreeing with me, and never thinking on his own. He should NEVER question me. If the Man dares to violate any of my rules, or refues to accept my lies, Then I should have the full right to be able to bring legal action against him and claim second class rape. this is true, even if he only pisses me off. I want all the power here.
And all this is from someone who has nothing but SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS on their profile for a first date??? What are you doing hissing at people like a snake???? Intelligent!!
The unvarnished truth
Tom. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:50:36 PM | I have never seen an indicator on a persons forehead that says trixter. None of us know when we come across a person who will us us in a way we do not want. The only thing we can do is watch for the red flags and be suspicious if we see them. There are lots of people who have their own agenda regarding sex and relationships. Having sex with someone does not guarantee a loving relationship. Just remember there are a lot of really great fellows out here who are sincere about wanting to be in relationship. Also remember we participate in having sex with someone and must take responsibility for our choice to do so even if we get dropped soon after the event. When we discover we have made a mistake (mis-take) ie. we have taken a situation the wrong way we have the choice to do a re-take. This may mean feeling the hurt and anger and then move on. There will always be people who will be hurtful
and/or misleading out there.That does not mean we need to remain hurt angry and mistrustful. So if it were me I would be saying NEXT! and getting on with my purpose in being here which is to find my Mr Wonderful. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:54:23 PM | | How does one get tricked into consentual sex? Yes I have experienced the lowest of low men and I believe that I have been used for sex (by being lead on to believe it was more than that), but PUUUHHHLLEEEZe it takes two to tango. I made the decision to sleep with them. Do i regret it? yes, but am I about to call it rape? absolutely not. I think people need to be responsible for their decisions and their mistakes. If they were only having sex with them on the basis that it would be a long lasting love, then they should have waited until it became long lasting love. People's feelings change over time. I mean really if you're going that route, anyone who has had a divorce could use this "new law" as it wasn't everlasting! Encourage your friends to be accountable for their actions, and not give it up to sweet words and promises - or face that they wanted to have sex, and they are hurt because it's over. | |
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HiKi
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/16/2008 9:31:23 PM |
Humm....................why only females? I question your true agenda on that one. Are you suggesting That this new law be applied for women only, or both women and men???
Hm. What would be the equivalent for men? Getting tricked into buying drinks for women who have no intention of ever sleeping with them?
You know, there already is a crime called 'theft by deception'. 
This is attention seeking at its worst and this post should be deleted.
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/17/2008 9:06:46 AM | | Stop being so gullible! If you haven't figured out by now that some men (not all) will use whatever means necessary to get what they want, then you are in for a VERY long journey. Don't hate because they outsmarted you and played on your need to hear certain things. Arm yourself! Learn the game they are playing so you can better prepare yourself for their juvenile, prepubescent, hormonal antics. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/17/2008 11:22:42 AM | Dear Firebird:
Over 500 postings and NOW you think this thread should be deleted......At least 500+ people felt differently and posted......Attention seeking......hmmmm......and, all this time I thought that was the PURPOSE of all these singles' sites, profiles, and postings.
I would have messaged you privately, but, although you post on the forums, you're obviously not open to even hearing from people who don't fit your criteria, except publicly. Sorry about that. Although we may not be seeking relationships with you, it would be nice to know that we can all seek and give attention to folks on this site.
Sincerely,
Knittin kitten | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/17/2008 2:20:49 PM | | Wow, I didn't even realise there are guys that spend months and months trying to trick women for a one off session, lol. I can't really see what they have to gain by doing this. I mean there are plenty of women just out for a bit of random fun so why hang around for months before making a move on a particular female? That's just weird to me. Mentally disturbed weird. | |
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/17/2008 9:40:11 PM | A more realistic scenario would be a married man who conceals that he is married, and then the woman consents to sex. That is obvious deceit and the woman would not have slept with the man IF she had know the truth. The OP is not too far off... there is existing law in many states for this type of offense (not the type the OP described). the laws vary in name, all classify this as a tort, which is not criminal law... the tort of "seduction." Unfortunately, these types of laws were written into legislation when the world was more "pure" in our grandparent's age.... you know, way back when people had stronger morals and ethics...
The laws back then required the woman to be of "chaste character" which often meant she had to be a virgin. So you now know why this tort sits in the law books, collecting dust and has never in recent decades been activated... I can count on one finger how many virgins I know... and I haven't spoken to her in a few months, so I can't be sure she still is one. Although the laws remain on the books, nobody fits within the guidelines to actually use it in today's society.
Here is a link to a North Carolina woman who recently tried to apply this tort to a date rape situation... don't know why she added this to the already filed rape charge, but she was also a virgin. http://writ.news.findlaw.com/grossman/20030211.html
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| Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters!
Posted: 1/17/2008 9:58:36 PM | OK, I will "try" to be as subjective as I can be. Soooo, first of all, nobody can do you anything to another person that the other person doesn't "allow." OK, so you're "tricked!" But the frirst question has to be, "WHY did YOU create that?" "Why did YOU allow that to happen?"
Someday, maybe, everyone will "get," There are NO victims. NOTHING happens TO US because EVERYTHING is being created BY US.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT,
Namaste | |
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Posted: 1/17/2008 10:03:57 PM | Hi tea25,
I agree with the spirit of what you've said... and I very much dislike those who have a "victim mentality." However, there are sometimes "victims" who did not do anything to contribute to their circumstance (i.e. If theives committed a kick in robery, would the home owners have "allowed that to happen?"
What you've said only works in certain situations... | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 2:21:44 AM |
Lady:
Yes, picture it...
Said man spends money on dates, let's say 2 or 3 per week.
He spends time with the woman.
He gives up spending time with friends to be with this woman.
Then he gets sex from her after months of trying and then BAM!, he's gone.
Yep, SHE got tricked.
His plan was perfect.
Yes, I see what you mean. These guys obviously want more than just sex then. There are plenty of women that would go home with a guy they met in a bar (avoids the expense of wining/dining). They therefore must get off on the knowledge that the woman will be catching feelings after they disappear. Like a power thing. Hmmm well it would be pretty difficult to implement any laws against this kind of behaviour. I reckon some underhand form of retribution would be the order of the day.  I mean he's spent months on this, so you will know a little about him, where he works and lives. You can find him is what I mean. And if you dont know any of this then what the hell were you doing in the first place! | |
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