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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 6:46:55 PM |
I SWEAR I AM GOING INSANE!!!!!!!!!! STOP THE MADNESS! AND WILL SOMEONE STOP DELETING MY POSTS, PLEASE!!!!!!
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Little meltdown moment there, princess? lol Been there myself several times on this very thread. The rest of your post I totally agree with. As people have said before, when you look back at a string of bad relationships, the common denominator is....say it with me everyone....y-o-u. I figured this out for myself right around 29-30 yrs old, and I have to say that while I still haven't found Mr. Right For Me, my relationships and the way I view them has changed. So has the way I look at things retrospectively. You learn, or you repeat. Simple as that. (But please don't respond to that with "I have learned and that's why I don't date single moms anymore....that's not the thought that was supposed to initiate--it is meant for you to look at what YOU have done and what YOU could do differently).
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 6:49:36 PM | | Kidding, " it ain't all that", I started out life in a area of NYC that few would have lived in, out of any choice. God just blessed me with a brain and a LOT of luck. Doesn't make me better, just different, just like all who posted on this thread. Also if I was so smart, I wouldn't have been a workaholic that in part blew up two relationships, due to 90-100 hour work weeks. I've learned my faults and live every day now to correct them. So, as you would say up there, I'm not all that and a bag of chips. Bob | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 6:55:36 PM |
it is meant for you to look at what YOU have done and what YOU could do differently
Exactly...there comes a time when we keep ending up with the same experience, that we need to stop blaiming outside sources, and look within to see how we contributed to what we keep ending up with...We reap what we sow. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:14:26 PM | Funny I have met fewer leeches who were not single moms. (I have learned no matter what her status if she askes for money on date#1 2 or 3) I run.
I am not bashing here, it is my experience though tat there is less drama associated with dating a woman without children. With that being my experience why would I not gravitate towards a woman who did not have children? That being said I am currently seeing a single mom...so far she does not appear to have any of the drama I have come across in the past with dating single moms. Then again she does not have custody and I have not met her son yet.
As far as reporting people to moderators no I have not done that. I do not see why some people have a "poor me" moment and start these threads without reading the ones that already exist to maybe get some answers as to why men may not want to date a single mom. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:22:44 PM | To further answer Bob's question a total of 8 single mom's have asked me for something early in the dating process. When you meet more of the bad single mom's then the good and meet more of the good single women with no children than bad...who would you gravitate towards? I can get a prenup should I marry a woman with no children saying what is mine is mine and what is hers is hers. The divorce act does not alow a clause waiving child support so the only way around it is not not marry a single mom. It is unfortunate but it is how it is which is why I say single parents should want this thing modified in some way. How is it fair to have more tan one person paying child support?
I have future plans and have learned from my mistakes..I do not wish to make the mistake of marrying the wrong lady who could have me pay child support for a child that is not my child (and someone else's responsibility) should we get divorced. That would hurt my future plans. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:29:47 PM | | Johne, are you having a mental moment?/*)? What the he11 does that have to do with what I asked you???????? At the bottom of page 111 I CLEARLY ASKED HOW MANY OF THESE WOMEN YOU MET ON POF???????? That isn't a hard question is it???? I want to know also what you hope to accomplish by stating and restating the same statement about this thread???????? There are no "poor me's" on here!!!!!! Johne answer me this, the short bus you rode to school, did it crash often???????? Bob | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:42:50 PM | | Yes, johne I know, Canada has fu*cked up laws for child support, gee, I don't remember where I heard that before?? I'm confused can anybody help me out. Oh yes, I remember now, IT WAS YOU FOR THE 4,359TH TIME ON THIS THREAD!!!! I'm buying my ticket now to go to Canada and start that revolution myself%$#(*@!1!! /Someone tell me this do you have hitmen in canada??????Bob | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:19:10 PM | john,
That's 11 women who have asked you for things. Are you unable to admit that there might be something about you that attracts these experiences?
Also, complaining about the women starting these threads accomplishes nothing. I can understand the frustration with seeing the same topics again and again, but those of us who are reading at this point are not the ones starting the threads. You're complaining to the wrong folks here. (Such a complaint would be valid on page 1 or 2, but by the time we've hit page 10, 50, or 100, it's a little late for it.) | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:23:29 PM | | OK, Johne that was not clear in post 2784, you did not specify pof. Now just stop and think about this. I don't know your specific area of Canada, maybe some of you other Canadians can speak to this, but it seems incredibly to have that many women (8 out of 8) ask you for money. I didn't say it didn't happen but seems odd. Still in all, YOU are the one who chose all 8 to date. Don't you think Johne, that you chose poorly, that you chose women who were that desparate, that they would ask you for cash? You chose women who, I am only guessing now, would have such low self esteem, think that little of themselves and you that they would try and take advantage of you. Think about it now, that's 8 for 8, perfect record, no one single mom you dated was in an OK position. They all wanted to "leech" off you. Why? Why you? Do you have a terrific job, do you run Canada? You must have done something, or led some of these women to believe something in you would give them money or things?? Clearly in this scenario, YOU ARE the single common denominator between 8 different women who asked you for a hand out. SELECTION, PEOPLE it is the difference, and for those of you who doubted it and defended Johne, there is your proof. Bob | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:44:43 PM | | Johne, I walked away for a minute to think. While I pondered your situation, I thought "boy would that make me mad as he11, if that happened to me". Then I thought it says clearly on several pages on here "if someone asks you for money, you should report them immidiately". I would be SOOO mad I would write Marcus a scathing letter telling him I was ripped off. I would report each and everyone of those so and so's. Why didn't you? Are you sure it happened as you said? You obviously are upset about it, heck you've ranted about it for 100 pages. If that happened and after report #3 they disputed you on every claim, you might be asked to leave. Is that it? I mean 8 for 8, that's an incredible statistic? What does everyone else think? Bob | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:15:57 PM | 
Like I said before.........Johne give it a rest...obviously you like drawing attention to yourself, but good luck with that man...........
Not the attention you want to be drawing to yourself, if you're asking me...you are obviously willing to offer up to these women...as you did admit that you couldn't disappoint a child.
Oh wait!!! What am I saying...whoops...I'm a single mom and I DIDN'T ask you for something...oh I know....I'd have to get a date with you first...any guesses when that's going to happen???
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:28:24 PM | That's funny... I've met exactly zero women on ANY dating site that asked me for anything material. Most of them were perfectly ready to split or just plain PAY the dinner check, for crying out loud. I've gotten to asking politely if I MAY pay for dinner, 'cause some get offended if I expect to do so.
Johne, revise your selection process, bro. You're picking out all the users somehow. Let me rephrase so you might understand: You need to do something DIFFERENT. Whatever process you're using now is f-ing BROKEN.
Or... and this is a big OR... you're lying sack of dogpoop and you're making this sh!t up to support your little cause.
(good luck with that non-custodial mom... I sincerely hope you don't find yourself in your worst nightmare just because the kid decides to move back in with mom AFTER you hook up...) | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:30:20 PM |
OK, Johne that was not clear in post 2784, you did not specify pof. Now just stop and think about this. I don't know your specific area of Canada, maybe some of you other Canadians can speak to this, but it seems incredibly to have that many women (8 out of 8) ask you for money
Just to throw something out there.
Of the 8 were any working/own their own business type? Any atleast in school in a field that pays half-ways well and was in demand in the area?
If they were DOING something to ensure their own life was together I would bet they'd be far less likely to expect much from others.
 Lynching party at my place tomorrow, irate stay at home single parents will now be stringing me up for saying that.
CG glad you agree that bad mouthing the other parent (no matter what you really think of them) is never a good proposition . But the stance on single moms replying or opening posts with "my jerk-off ex-sperm donor loser" etc... just doesn't sit right. Even though you state you would never use such terms, picture the response to a thread (before it gets deleted for turning into a flame war of course) to any single father saying something about his "useless leech of a cum dumpster". I'm pretty confident that poster would be brought up short by both alot of men and women reminding the dumbass that HE saw something there once enough to stick around long enough to have a kids.
(One night stands discounted since they'd have to redefine the term stupid for someone blaming a ONS for being less than perfect parent/partner material.)
The point is perception. If alot of single moms are saying things like this and not being rebuked by the sensible single moms, what sort of impression would that give you of the general attitude of the majority of single moms? To me that would give the impression of alot of negativity, not an attractive quality, and also why earlier I was curious about the dating success of single parents of both genders with a good or atleast workable relationship with the other parent i.e. way less "baggage" | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:42:19 PM | Interesting. There are just as many leeching men as there are women. I like what was said about having to do with YOU being the common denominator. Look at yourself and do some innerwork - not blaming others but sincerely seeking what is causing you to attrack these types. And I know for a fact that not ALL single mothers or fathers are like this. Many are so damn independant and self-sufficient that the thought of someone else taking care of them is just not in their scope of things. MANY single parents work so damn hard and are proud of that fact, and aren't looking for a meal ticket, just someone to SHARE life with.
I will say just because a man or woman for that matter doesn't want to date a single parent, that doesn't make them less then, it's a personal preference. Generally I would rather date a man who has children, more in common. I don't think anyone should be put down just because of their personal choices. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:48:49 PM | Here is my reason why.. Guys already come last in a relationship.. Why come third? Because we know that is what is going to happen. Woman state it in there profile that "my daughter is my world and they come first!" My son comes first he means the world to me". What guy wants to come after that!
The only way I would date a woman that already had a kid was if they wanted more for one. Second. they have to offer something more than a woman that doesn't have kids. That can mean better looks, she has a good job, she has her sh*t together. Something better than the average joe. If the kid is to old I would also not be interested because I wouldn't want my future kids age gap to be to far. | |
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