| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/24/2005 2:37:28 PM | I've experienced the same with woman. No relationship or lack of is ever easy when you have children. Lets face it, to both men and woman, having a child may not fit in the "attractive category" depending on their position in life. Maybe they still want to party, maybe they school loans they want to deal with first, maybe they want to travel. Having a child makes a person grow up sometimes a little to fast.
I'd suggest that you begin searching more in the group of men that already have children. The bonus there is that you would also get to see the type of parent he already is.
Oh, and based on my experiences again. Keep in mind, his children are every bit as important to him as your children are to you. So avoid the frame of mind in which your children have automatic priority. Some I have dated had this mind set.
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/24/2005 4:38:03 PM | I guess I feel that the reason that almost every guy chooses not to be with me and my son is because they think that I am looking for a father for my son. My son does not need a father he has one. Wether he choses to be in his life or not is up to him. So guys please don't think that I need a baby's daddy because I have one. I just want someone to like me for me and maybe be a positive influence in my sons life nothing more
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/24/2005 6:08:36 PM | | I wish life was that simple. I have to agree with some of the others when it is said it is a 2-way street. I just think to myself, how involved would I get with someone who has kids. I'm young and I have three kids (5,2,1). When guys hear that and they trip over themselves running away, I don't get upset or mad b/c I don't blame them. Not many people my age or any age wants the responsibility I have. Understandable. In your case, you are only talking about one child. You are meeting the wrong people. There are a lot of guys out there that would take you and your daughter. Keep looking, the right one is out there, you just haven't met him yet..... | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 12:16:39 PM | I know how you feel about getting frustrated. I get the same way sometimes. But then I remember, that I am not looking for a mother for my son, but a companion for me. If the woman doesn't want to be around my son, then she isn't the woman for me. It doesn't matter how much I end up liking that person, if the relationship lasted, more problems would arise later. So it's best to find out earlier rather than later.
Personally, I don't care if a woman has kids, especially since I have a son of my own.
Keep in there girl...you'll meet somebody, but probably when you least expect it. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 12:56:58 PM | | Please see my 45 or so other posts oon this topic. It's their decision to make. Single women don't like single dads, either ... well at least, some of them don't. Just as some single men don't like single moms ... not all. Don't blame them. They're doing you a favor. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 1:27:48 PM | | Personally I think it's a simple case of wanting to be with someone who's in the same phase of life you are. Common interests, sharing routines etc. I don't think I'd have enough in common with anyone who didn't have kids to sustain a serious relationship. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 4:08:48 PM | | I dunno, Dell. I date a lot of childless women and I've never had trouble finding things we have in common. Although, I will give you the fact that they aren't very understanding when you have to break off a date because of your child or why you can't spend too much time with them. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 6:21:25 PM | | Maybe if you were honest about haveing a child right from the begining of a relationship they would not turn and run ( without honesty you have nothing). If a man turns and runs because you have children consider that a good thing ( who want's a coward ). It's one way of weeding out the boys from the real men. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 7:53:26 PM | Why do you ask if you are not gonna hear the answer? Any single man who doesn't like single moms will give you his reasons. The next second, you will call him shallow, you will bash him, you will attack his intelligence, and will say things like "your loss", "you're a coward" or "you're not a real man".
If you really want to hear the reason, open your ears and close your mouth. Otherwise, it's just mental masturbation. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 8:46:50 PM | I agree with Dell
It would be may be very uncomfortable for someone with no children
to get involved with someone who has a very different lifestyle.
where dell and I differ is
that I dont think I could susutain a serious relationship with someone
who HAD children, especcially small ones under 16.
To each their own in this... we all have to make choices based on our
own comfort and life. Not someone elses. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 8:51:10 PM | | I agree ms, no one should be forced to do something that makes them uncomfortable such as dating someone with kids. I have a kid & I would at least appreciate the guy's honesty for letting me know why he doesn't want to date me. We all have our preferences. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 10:24:01 PM | Im a single mom and it hasnt really hurt my dating life at all.I tell guys when I first talk to them that I have a daughter.Most of them have been very receptive to the fact.I say if you let people know upfront,you wont waste your time or theirs.Good luck in your search | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/25/2005 10:29:38 PM | | I dont slam men that dont like single moms.I dont even think thats the issue.I dont think its a personal if someone doesnt want to date me because I have a daughter.Its their preference.Raising a child is a full time job,and some men arent ready to take all that on.Thats ok with me.I have confidence when I meet the right guy it will all fall into place.Relax and be alittle less defensive.Youll do fine | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/26/2005 4:04:41 AM | Hey dont worry hun theres plenty of men out there who dont mind the kids!
I am only 20 with a 2yr old son, and i have been with my boyfriend for 16 months. He loves my son to bits. He treats him like his own! Even before that i met loads of men who were willing to take us both on.
A lot of men r twats, but when i first meet a guy, the first thing i tell him, even before i tell him my name, is that i have a child. That way nobody gets misled and everyone knows where they stand if its to get serious.
Im sure u have a gorgeous child, be proud of her, and remember, ur daughter will always be there for u, men will come and go
Keep ur chin up, Mr right is out there somewhere
Remember, the best things happen when u least expect them, dont look for love, let love find u.
Take care and good luck
Lynette x | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 5/26/2005 6:42:45 AM | hi cntrygrl ,
i read your msg and i realy think that if a man likes or loves a woman then he does not care that if she has a kid or not ,instead the the humane or even the things which belongs to their loves becomes so great, so i would like to tell you that i can be a nice chat partner to you as i love kids and i can be something more with you in a long term relationship and offcourse your kid would be on the first priority list for me too , kids are equal to angel ,so think about it , you can find my profile on plentyoffish and can msg me , take care ,bye bye | |
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Dell
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