| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 3:31:59 PM | I have never-ever come across a man who doesnt wish to talk to me because i am a single mom..I did date one that couldnt take that i didnt have as much free time as a woman without kids..regardless..if they dont like u because u have a child...u dont want them anyhow...there are too many men in this world to be worried about one who doesnt accept kids...
keep trying..it will happen..good luck | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 5:03:46 PM | | I do not think this has anything to do with who men like ,,one can not control who one is falling in love with and well? it happens ,,but I will say this and its true ..most men are discouraged from moveing in together with single mothers because of the child support laws here .we all talk about this ,,its a very common problem ,,just ask your pay roll clerk ,,they have family collections doing all the dirty work now ,,The problem started when The courts decided they like to award sole custody to one parrent ,,a lot of places have changed this to equal custody now because of the problems turning up with all the children getting into trouble or jail ,,canada has not ,,canada is behind in revamping the family custody and devorce laws ,,they still violate men in court ,,some good parents get done in by the system .if you are a single parent with equal custody there wouldnt be the same child support issues in the event of a brake up .So ladies ,, try equal custody and you would have some free time to go out and also the man you shack up with isnt going to worry about getting nailed for child support if you brake up ..so men would stop being afraid to date single moms ,,because we would all be single parents with equal rights ,custody and obligations | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 5:25:15 PM | ^^^^^^^honestly java how many women do you think are so low to take a bf to court for support for anothers child? I dont think many, atleast not the working, independant single moms.
I can understand a divorced husband and wife having these issues but men who are not the legal fathers, I just dont think the stakes are that high..... | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 5:38:25 PM | I have an electrician who had that happen to him. After he adopted his wifes 2 daughters, she took off with someone she had been having an affair with and took him to court for child support.
It doesnt stop me though, and I realize that happening is the exception not the rule.
I would be cautious about dating a lady with out children actually. Afraid one who didnt have kids wouldnt understand the chaos of life with kids, especially teens . | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 5:47:40 PM | | I know guys who won't go out with single mothers because of various reasons. Most often it's because they feel that they aren’t ready to commit to that kind of relationship. I differ from them in the fact that while they themselves aren't ready I am and have been. I have a daughter and have experienced the same problem as you but with women. With my own personal situation women don't tend to like that I put my child first and/or if they have children themselves that the kids come first. Anyone, whether male or female that can't accept the fact that children always come first doesn't deserve any and they don't deserve you either. You shouldn't give up hope though. While I know decent people are few and far between they do exist so it’s not as hopeless as it may seem. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 6:06:11 PM | I know its been a while since anybody posted on here but I've got to say that I find it a very funny observation that isn't just limited to just single Mothers. I've only recently started to snoop around on this site, a single Dad, and it's funny how many women have on their "about me" section-"please don't contact me if you're: married, just want a fling, a convict, a mass murderer, or if you have children.....lol
I guess shallow will always be shallow no matter what the gender! | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 6:45:03 PM | johne
im sorry but single mothers arnt considered to have garbage or baggage we have a beautiful SON/DAUGHTER u dont understand how half of us got in our situations we are still women sexual beings and or otherwise we still like to be loved and touched .
My personal situation is that i was thrown into my situation my a guy who was to imature to take on the resposibility of a baby thats fine i dont hold it against him but its guys like u that make us SINGLE MOTHERS feel its hopeless .
What id like to know is when it came about that having a child = disease or no go zone?
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 8:18:54 PM | jonick and notspondebob:
I live in Canada and while I have nothing persoonal against single mother's...I have a problem with our laws. Let's say I marry or live incommon law with a woman who has kids from a previous marriage (in Ontario common-law is recognized as marriage after 6 months but it varies from province to province.) If the relationship does not workout the courts will force me to pay support for step children. (Even if the woman does not ask for it.) That is my problem..there are a few that abuse this law. To me this law does not make common sense.
I find it odd that when a man states legit reasons for not wanting to date a single mom he is called immature. But if the roles were reversed and the courts would award child support for your ex step children even if your ex did not request it would you not be a little nervous? In Canada the ex also has to pay part of college tuition and must pay child support until the child is finished college.
Yes single moms are people too and deserve respect, love and a great relationship. It is just the law makes many nervous here in Canada about getting involved in a romance with a single mom. I have many friends who are single moms..they are great people. It is the law that is the problem.
Bsck to my example of me marrying a single mom to prove a point. Let's say we gpt divorced...and my ex wife had to apply for welfare the Ontario government would not give the woman a welfare check until after she signs a document allowing he governbnment to go after all ex spouses who were step parents for child support, if the woman does not sign the document she does not get welfare. The money recieved in child support is deducted from the welfare check ..so many times it is not these women but the system that is the problem as once the document is signed welfare just gets a court order forcing the ex or ex's to pay.
I see this law as a cashgrab by government and I have unfortunately had a few cousins who have wives who say do as they say or else they will get kicked out and no matter what they will have to pay support.
It is this law that makes many men pause before dating a single mom..just dating is okay but at my age I am looking for a serious long term relationship. I do not wish to risk the liability and long term child support for children that are not mine.
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 8:23:23 PM | no can you repeat that one more time We got it the first time the second time the third time you posted it and every time since then....live with her for 5 3/4 months then move out then move back in....problem solved....and no I still dont want to date you | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 8:57:53 PM | No we get it .....how can anyone not get it ....you posted your thoughts 1000 times on this thread......karma my friend...hope one day you are a single father cause guess what if she makes more than you you can take her to court for the money....so stick that in your crack pipe...dumb ass! it works both ways!
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 9:04:36 PM | *Singing: Spongebob Squarepants! Spongebob Squarepants!!!!!*
Oh hunny, its been done. It doesnt work. Some are hell bent on proving their point and wedging it into other threads that have no point in being there.
Im doing the point and laugh now.
You spin me right round baby right round..............  | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 9:10:56 PM | ^^^^wonder if he even understands ...that it works both ways....
just incase lets do a little scenerio just for him
For some strange reason Johns wife left him and left the kid they had together with him...John has a girlfriend now and he is also a single father...they live together for 13 months and then the girlfriend leaves for the same reason the wife did because the girlfriend made more money then John , John being as shallow as he is takes the girlfriend to court for C/S for a child that isnt even hers.....
Damn John ......your right .....now we all get it 
WORKS BOTH WAYS JOHNNY BOY [/B] THANKS FOR POINTING THAT OUT TO EVERYONE THAT READS THIS THREAD
now if you will excuse me I have a date with a real man with a child....one that likes me and respects me and my child. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 9:52:41 PM | Ok, here's what i think... I am a single mom of two kids ages 7 and 2.
If I could just find one single dad that would be willing to date me I'd be in heaven. It just doesn't happen around here anymore.
-Santa Cruz,Cali
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 9:59:46 PM | ^^^^^^^good things come to those who wait (oh....and get out more) The more your out the more chance you have of meeting someone. Being a single mom really has nothing to do with it...and if it does then your better off without them anyway...Time is on your side  | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 10:02:12 PM | | I know how you feel. i fear i am destined to be single forever. Not only are most guys not ready for the type of relationship i'm looking for, but I don't have the time nor the energy to go out and meet guys and do the whole dating thing. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/22/2007 10:40:16 PM | hey im jumping in ur boat warped i have the energy just not the time to meet a fella then because im always honest and upfront about my situation (having a 7 yr old son) they dont want to hear nemore and run as fast as they can as if their asses are on fire lol
but one day warped there will be one for each of us thatwhen we say we have kids they will say yeah and ........... i want to get to know u first then we will see lol
dont give up im not | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/23/2007 12:18:40 AM | well no not really johne because ur baseing wether or not ur going to have a relationship with a woman on a stupid law .
to me ur saying that even if this woman u meet is the one shes fantastic sun shines out her ass and all that but because shes got a kid/s and a stupid ass law u wont go there well im sorry to say my friend but ur going to lead a very sad and lonely life more fool u though for not opening urself up to an experience if it jumps up and bites u on the ass. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/23/2007 1:02:38 AM | not spongebob square pant
Johne is not mentally incompetent ... How many motherf*cking times does he have to f*cking repeat himself and to the rest of the world that given the choice of dating a single mom and a single women, he would INEVITABLY CHOOSE the single woman.
I concur more than 100% with him because if the shit goes down, I do not want to be someone's else financial and emotional ****...Went to motherf*cking college for one reason - to be hopefiully financially better off and start a good FAMILY - not to be indulged in someone potential PAST decisions/mistakes and end up paying what I do not deserve. Leave to these motherf*ckers who are dumb or hopeless enough for some p*ssy or just to get laid. I ain't hitting that motherf*cking route..F.u.ck this s.h.it - Life deserves better and life is full of risks and I do not need EXTRA f.u.c.k.ing risks - I do want to be more F.u.cked that I am already am. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/23/2007 1:07:05 AM |
Unfortunately many of these single moms are willing to lose their pride to bring their bf to court - no shame for truth - there are always 2 sides to the story- Facts speak for themselves -- No wonder so many motherf*ckers are unwilling to live together for fear the loco parentis kicks in and then you are f.u.cked. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 10/23/2007 1:15:41 AM | JONICK
I view single moms as passionate human beings just like everyone, they need to be cherished and loved as others do. Yet, their predicaments put some fears in some single men who saved money all their lives only to BE POTENTIALLY and EMOTIONALLY be exploited by some laws.
Also, once getting involved with a single mom, you see the ex and shit like that, why do you need another man in your life to share the same b.i.tch ... sometimes they fight over the kid's supposedly best interests and you get all these baby daddy drama ghetto lifestyle -- STFU -- too much stress for me....Why not get a single girl -- go out to movies and dinner and meet friends rather THAN to worry about kids, Ex, Money issures, drama, feeling of being the NEXT BEST thing - NOT TO BE SELFISH - BUT is that not the whole reason to get a wife is that she will treat you as good as you treat her.....ENOUGH SAID....to all those men who think otherwise..GOOD LUCK -- i hope when your asses start to pay for child support, do not bi.tch about it ..Take it like a motherf*cking man -- | |
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