| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 11/30/2007 8:10:11 PM |
poor second is still f*cking good considering if the b*tch has 2 kids hopefully from the same man
Not one decent man would refer to women this way! Are you aware of how low class you present yourself to be? I certainly wouldn't want my children around you. As a matter of fact, even if I had no children, I still wouldn't want to be around you. Good luck!
(I anticipate your equally low class retort; not necessary, but if it makes you feel better, have at it! Don't expect a reply, however, not worth my time.  ) | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/1/2007 9:05:53 AM | When we post our reasons for not being interested in single mom's we get bashed.
See I do not want to raise someone else's family. What is wrong with that. You had children with the wrong man and some want me to step into that...no thank you. I have better options. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/1/2007 9:31:56 AM | I don't know about anyone else, but I, for one, have not "bashed" you about your preferences. Your relentless generalizations, however, are more than annoying. I believe you'd do well to exercise your better options & cease to judge single parents. I have yet to hear anyone call you out as the stereotypical grown man who has never married. One day, you day find yourself in a position of having had the "wrong one" leave you; perhaps you should print these posts out & save them for the future.
When all is said & done. however, I thank you, as you make me appreciate my stepdad (the only father I ever knew) ever so much more! | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/1/2007 9:59:57 PM | | I really like what you said! I agree 100%! Any man who turns and runs from a woman just because she is a single mother is def missin out! Single mother's are amazing people! I myself am a single mom to a beautiful three year old little girl! Very hard, but well worth it:) | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/1/2007 10:43:18 PM | | I have the same problem. For me because i am 42 and have two small girls 6 and 8 men my age do not wan tyoung kids in their lives and younger men want their own children. Its to bad because my girls could add alot of love to someones life. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/1/2007 10:44:40 PM | | I'm not bashing you either, Cali girl, but single moms are NOT amazing people! Some people are amazing people; parenting does not make you any more or less special. Sorry, but in light of the point I've been trying to make, I couldn't let that one slide. There are many reasons why it is difficult to date someone who has children & those who are not into it are not missing a thing. If you are an amazing person it is not because you are a single parent, any more than if you are a "sponge" or golddigger, that trait is attributable to having kids. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 12:13:16 AM | mslaarln
My words may have been somewhat unprofessional and I apologize for that but I AM REALISTIC -- we live in a real WORLD -- some of us innocent men may have been sleeping too long..That is all I mean in A nutshell | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 6:28:20 AM | point taken, parker, although I don't buy into the "innocent man" theory. In my real world, women who use the term **** to describe women posses an attitude that turns me off, is all. We each bring our own experiences to the table, but for me, the bad ones teach me to choose more wisely, rather than to judge an entire subset of the population; that's my point.
Still, Happy Sunday! | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 6:49:35 AM | | Ok I also am a single mom and my children will always come before a man but think of it this way its better they bail before getting involved in the lives of the children so they dont get attached to them and then they bail.And I sure hope parents are smart enough not to involve thier kids in the relationships before they know for sure if its going to last we can handle the hurt and rejection a lot better than they can . | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 8:24:35 AM | | ^^^^^^^^^Why would anyone date a single mom when they come second? See when I date someone if it is a long term relationship they are number1 with me and I expect the same from the woman. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 9:20:46 AM | I would not date a man who feels the need to compete with children. They are in competition with other men their age..not kids. I would only date a grown up. Not a man who feels he is competing with a child. This kind of man is probably not even here on pof and certainly not here posting on this forum. The same rule applies to women who feel they are competing and will always be second to a mans child...it is so imature and so unreasonable.Kids are pretty perceptive and they can read motives behind adults who are jealous of there relationship with their parent. In my opinion it is pretty telling when jealousy rears its ugly head...most def when a grown up is jealous of a child.
There should not be a your number one and child is number two...there should be your a grown man and your my number one man. No man can compare with you. I choose you because your the best man for me. I choose you because your a man I want my child to look up to. I choose you because we are a team. I choose you because you have so much love to give...See what I mean? The need to feel your placed over a child is wrong to me. There is no sense or logic in that. You are in a different race then they are since we are using the competition angle here. Your in the race of competition with other men/or women in your age range for as an example my affections. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 9:28:50 AM | | Johne, in any relationship where children are involved, the other partner will most times come second. Not always but frequently. This includes a single male dating, meeting and becoming involved in a long term relationship with a single childless woman. If they evenually marry and have their own children...where do you think you will stand then? You will not be first in your partner's life any longer than she will be first in your life. Your own children will move into that spot and you will move into second. I am guessing that you did not realize this? What did you think would happen? It comes with being a parent. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 9:35:39 AM | There should not be a your number one and child is number two (...)You are in a different race
"Should" is not the same as "is". Is it a competition? Only because you make it so. How so? When you adopt the "my kids are my life" mindset, meaning ALL your life, instead of keeping separate your "mom" and "woman" aspects, you are making of it the same race. And, if you do that, we will always lose. And who wants to be always the loser?
Your own children will move into that spot and you will move into second. I am guessing that you did not realize this? What did you think would happen? It comes with being a parent.
We realize this perfectly. And we know it's worthy to be second place ... for our own children. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 10:24:04 AM | Your only a loser if you really are a loser... and I am thinking loser..especially when someone takes apart my words to fit it into there mantra.
hosteller..that made me smile. So what about cats? Used to be the lady with cats. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 10:34:33 AM | especially when someone takes apart my words to fit it into there mantra.
Yes, it's a bit bothersome when somebody really listens what you say. Wait... am I supposed to recoil in horror because you call me a loser? Oops, sorry, I don't think so. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 10:46:57 AM | Cutting and pasting a few words from someones post and turning them into something else is not listening. Your not supposed to recoil in horror..your supposed to say I am sorry for not listening and for turning your words into mine.
But somehow I don't think you will....ah well. Luckily for me my happiness doesn't begin or end here.
I should not have called you a loser..but it is irritating to me that you often tend to do this. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 10:58:53 AM | Ok, apologies accepted, and I offer you mine, too.
Let's start again. You say it's not a competition. I say that a mom may turn it into a competition. Why? Because she's mixing what belongs to her children with what belongs to her partner.
How so? You see, she starts to count the work she does for her children as work she does "for the relationship".
And it is not so. There is work for the children, and there is work for the relationship. If she merges both, well, OF COURSE most of it will go to the children, leaving the guy with the crumbs. Is it then weird that the guy starts to question his role in this relationship? Or that he may feel that he's competing (and losing) with the kids?
So, he's expected to give a lot more than if she were childless, in exchange for a lot less. And he's expected to do so gladly and without complaint, lest be called immature, shallow, jerk and a lot of other nice things. A winner proposal? I don't think so.
Does it mean she has to work twice, once for the kids, once for the guy? In a word, yes. She demands a lot from the guy, so she must be prepared to give a lot, too. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 11:17:20 AM | For me to get into a relationship..it would be because we both understood it takes work. Mostly though fun and joy. There would be enough joy and fun to go around. I know this because with the right man there is not a competition. There is enough of me to go around for the right person. I demand to find the right man for me so he better be prepared. Does this mean he better watch out>>?yes. Love me, love my children.
Prepared to work and to love those I choose to bring into my life..children, a wonderful man or even a family pet. I love big and I have enough love inside for anything I bring into my home life. Does this mean people have to take turns for there hug..yes but so what as long as you feel loved it doesn't matter.
A winning proposal?? I hope so. If he truly loves me then he will feel the same.
I love it when people can say sorry and we can talk. Kiss to you and merry christmas. There is hope for honest and friendly conversation...I see you in a new light. Blessed day to you. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 12:05:05 PM | I have a 10 yr old son & I must say I've never had a problem with being a single mother. never. infact some guys even said that it impressed them and made them like me even more...He has already got a dad who plays an active role so I'm not looking for a substitute. Guys who date single mums are the bigger men  | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 1:14:05 PM | | Ladies don't give up!! If these men run, they did you a favor. I wouldn't want them around me or my daughter. Don't be discouraged I believe that there are decent men that love children. Nikkie | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 1:26:45 PM | Don't worry, I seriously doubt they would want to be around you or your daughter.
And wanting your own children is not being an indecent man.
By the way, this is another reason why single men don't like single mothers. We are tired of the bashing. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 1:46:24 PM | I have news for all you single mum’s its just the same for single Dads, once people find out you have two teenage son’s they run, usual answer is they ant surrogate mum’s ??
It works two ways xx | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/2/2007 2:12:02 PM | | rock what happened?? You had a moment of softness then you got all crabby again..you have a little boy yourself. You know what love is. I understand being tired of bashing..I also get tired when I see bashing whether that is someone bashing me or single parents in general. Everyone deserves to love and be loved. | |
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