Pucks
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:18:04 AM | Some are out to try and get money from you and some are not but to aviod te pitfalls of dating single moms you just don't date them.
And yes you could get used by a woman with no kids but it has not happened to me. I have only been used by single moms. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:35:36 AM | I have to agree with Cunning here....just because we are single moms doesn't mean we are looking for a free ride or drain you of your cash flow at least i am not that way...and besides....i've personally made it on my own with no help from the ex in any financial way whatsoever and am not looking for a "cash cow"...i am looking for a partner to spend the rest of my life with enjoying what life has to offer. If your that worried about getting involved with a single mom and financial obligations if a relationship doesn't work out just remember the same rule applies if you reside with the single woman with no kids with the exception of paying for no kids. Bottom line is...you are taking a risk when you get involved in any type of relationship...financial ..emotional and otherwise...you just have to make sure the person you are risking with ...is what you want and is worth it to what your own personal standards of what a mate is...at least i think so. And remember....there are single woman out there with no children who are gold diggers....beware beware beware...so i guess were all gonna end up single and lonely without taking some kind of risk.
Just be a good judge of character...be aware of whats happening in the relationship and discuss her picking up the tab once in awhile...nothing wrong with that in this day and age but i will tell you this...alot of men feel threatened when this happens..well at least the ones with old fashioned values in regards to dating and courting a woman.
Oh and believe it or not....single moms have feelings too and also run the risk of being emotionally drained...i personally lived with an emotionally, financially draining man for 13 yrs...i took the most prized posessions we had.....our children.
All i am trying to say here is that please don't put single moms with kids into a category that stereotypes us as money hungry... thanks | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/6/2007 12:16:56 PM | WOW, what a balanced and reasoned post, and from a single parent too ,.,,,,,,,,  | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/6/2007 3:01:18 PM | | I know exactly how you feel. I'm young, single, responsible...all the things a guy would want right? Oh, but wait, Im also a mom. Well, it was nice knowin' ya. Same story all the time. It will never make sense. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/6/2007 3:11:45 PM | | well said pucks good on you!!!! u seem to be very level headed and understanding....its not just about dating a single mum ,its about dating the woman not her childrn....it drives hell into me when people judge you for being a single mum, i dont need a man in my life to make me happy... i have my best friend in my life my son.... certain peope think single mums are non workers who scrounge off the state just looking for a meal ticket, well not in my case!!!!!! i dated a guy who had 2 children didnt bother me until i ended up paying for days out, things for them for school , cooking them food, even getting them clothes, i realised one day that he didnt even get my son a ice cream when he had bought one for his son and not mine, that was it!!!! it was over staight away i couldnt even bare him in my own house....... i work hard to provide for my son ,me and his dad are best friends and we get on great so no drama there, i just wish they would give single mothers a break....... its hard being a parent, but its even harder being a single parent...pucks i wish there were more men like you it would make life so much happier.......... instead of arrogant biggets. with their head so far up their own ar*e they dont know what century it is,,,, times have changed and its time TO change...... | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/6/2007 3:30:42 PM | [Quote]remember guys....the sun and moon don't shine out of your rear end anymore.
I think this thread has been educational on two points.....single men have vented about why they won't date a single mom....and I think single mom's have become educated on what red flags to look for in single men......[/Quote]
lizzie...you are so right...but lets not forget....the same comments that mothers like to say about the father of their children...the ones they once lay with? Always have to laugh about some who suggest the worthiness of their ex husbands or ex wives...but they once allowed those same people into their bed...so what does that also say about yourself? But there are some who say men will sleep with anything or only respond to the head which is not found between their shoulders.....but then why are those "wonderful" woman slumming? LOL
And you are right...woman should see some comments as red flags!
Just as men should see the rantings of some woman......
jesus christ ***hole... .got time on your hands.??
**** you and your rantings. You are just a jackoff with no life.
Cunni-linguist? Are you serious. ? There are X rated site to post your personal ad. I certainly would not want to tongue kiss you....ewwww.
Run for the hills....ball buster...or privileged individual?
Dont generalize women when you havent the mental capability to date a mature, real mother. Not a party animal bar slut. Once you have a kid, you belong at home every night. One night a month MAX to go out. Dont try to make a whore into a housewife......
Wow......now even Johnie with his only slightly (lol) biased opinions because I posted once before is such a hot catch..(sorry Johnie} has never had such graphic or derivative names for some woman! Now personally I have found most party woman are relatively more balanced or intelligent?
But then there are men who are deadbeats and society recognizes them.....then there are those who do not work...use children's as pawns for utilizing or maximising economic benefits and some call them victims or single stay at home mothers! | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/7/2007 1:06:32 AM | The dont like DIVORCED mothers,. Because they have a well deserved reputaion for being man haters.
The onus is on YOU mdear. To prove that you know how to treat men right. After that it's a piece of cake. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/7/2007 3:22:11 AM | The onus isnt on ANYONE to "prove" anything
If someone needs to "prove" something to you then thats more than reason enough to not even consider dating them to begin with the same as if someone wants you to "prove" something to them then the best thing to prove is that you arent desperate enough to enter into such a pathetic flawed dalliance with anyone
Which I think is a common flaw with many peoples dating methodology, many women and even some men concoct a series of manipulative "tests" or secret hoops for people to jump through then forming eroneous extrapolated indepth assumptions based on how they respond to those tests
Its not and has never been an adequate substitute for getting to know someone, its just lazier and is often the methodology of someone who is too scared to "find" someone anyway and with the aid of their barrage of "tests" will eventually find a reason to fail everyone they ever met anyhoo
Its more a self delusionary way of never having to risk their feelings whilst maintaing the self delusion that they are infact "looking" as people seem to have a problem with admitting to themselves they arent ready to "date" so instead they go through the motions in a manner designed to always fail until they arent as emotionally broken anymore and then the "testing" lessens and fades away as they head towards a saner place in their lives | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/7/2007 4:48:42 PM | | I actually like dating women with kids. they understand alot better than women who dont have kids. Im a single dad so i know how frustrating that can be. Oh and by the way if you were in in Jax id soooooo be hitting on you. lol | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 1:59:39 AM | | johne102... i have to say u are so far up ur own arse with a caveman attitude, NO WONDER YOUR SINGLE !!!! give the single parents a break.... u seem to have a gripe at single mums ur like a stuck record and i am so tired of hearing the same old same old............ if u ever fell in love with a women it wouldnt matter to u if she was a mom or not,it would be her as a person that u loved not her "single mother status" ...yes we all have ideals of the perfect partner and that is our choice but give it a rest please.... u said "easier to avoid dating them " i wouldnt want to date you if u were the last man on earth!!!!!!! | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 4:56:56 AM | if a guy runs away after u tell them about your dauther i would say there only after one thing wam bam thank you mame i say that a women with a kid has responssabilyties and i look for that in a women if the women is 24 or 25 and 4 or 5 kids thats a different story it just takes time to find your missing half good luck fishing  | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 6:34:38 AM | AMEN! when women find out you're a package deal you can almost see them start thinking, "forget it!". I'll tell you whats worse though, a woman who WANTS to step in and be mom right off the bat. Like its some sort of self esteem boost for them.
Single moms think they have it tough, but single fathers fight gender bias all over the place, not just in court. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 8:40:12 AM | Single mother's seem to want to be able to pick and choose who they want but get upset when men choose not to date them. (I think Cunning said this or something to that effect.)
I have a choice, I choose not to raise.suport someone else's children, I do not like the potential legal liability so I aviod dating single mother's as if I get serious with them I would be helping them raise/support their children...not for me.
Mimi why should I give single mom's a break? Are they that desperate for a date that they might date someone who really has no interest in them? My point is single mom made her choice and tat is fine I am free to make mine. It is that comment many make about giving single mother's a break that bothers me...we all have a few toughh breaks in life but most of us do not think anyone owes us something. Why do single mother's get owed a break while dating or are any more deserving than anyone else? I have cerebral palsey..many times women have saod they do not want to date me becau of my limitations. I do not whine about it. When single moms ask these questions they complain and bash tjose that give answers. So my question is why are single mom's more deserving of a date/romance than the rest of us? I do not bash those who choose not to date me. | |
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Pucks
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Joined: 10/14/2006
Msg: 991 | |
| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 9:28:46 AM | "i have a choice, I choose not raise, suport someone else's children"
kudos for you...Just like others have a choice not to date you.
"So my qustion is why are single mom's more deserving of a date/romance than the rest of us?"
There not...and i hardly hear any single moms in here saying they are more deserving of a date...Careful how you word things. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 9:44:08 AM |
hardly hear any single moms in here saying they are more deserving of a date..
"A man who doesn't date single moms is not a real man".
"If he won't date you because you're a single mom, he's scum".
Do I need to continue...? | |
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Pucks
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Joined: 10/14/2006
Msg: 993 | |
| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 9:48:34 AM | by all means continue.
If a man wont date a single mom, just because of that fact she has a child, and rather miss out on getting to know her as a person...that ya more than likely he is scum and not worth it anyway. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 11:42:45 AM | You know, and this is a very general statement, I never realized that it was THAT big of a deal. Before becoming a single mother if I guy had kids,cool and if he didn't,cool. And now since having my daughter I feel the same way and have not to my knowledge, had a man say or do anything along the lines of "Oh you have kids, I'm sorry it's just too complicated" or "I just don't date women with children". Honestly, pre-baby every man I dated was SHOCKED when i said I had no children. It was like a rarity for anyone over 21 t be childless. Is it really that much of an issue or are a few posters making assumptions on one or two bad single mothers/fathers or one or two bad people with no children?
Just my thoughts. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 2:40:51 PM | | hey johne102 i am not desperate for a date, never have been and never will. i put my son first and work hard to support him..... yes thats ur choice not to date a single mum but stop putting singles mums in a cataegory that we are scroungers who are looking for the next meal ticket,it would not bother me if i never met anyone ,as long as my son has all the love and care that he needs then i will be happy,so i DONT need a man to make me happy...i hope u find what ur looking for | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 3:06:55 PM | The only single mothers I run away from are the ones that yell at their kids too much (a sign of things to come) or the ones who badmouth the child's father in their children's presence (another sign of things to come) or who use their kids as leverage against their dads (a sign of a serious human deficiency). I don't care if their father (sperm donor or whatever you want to call him) is the demon seed of Davey Jones, you don't badmouth him in front of his own offspring, not out of consideration for him but out of consideration for the child(ren).
I see both fathers and mothers doing this on both sides all the time, and I always want to slap them silly until they get it into their thick skulls how damaging it is to their own kids to hear this. | |
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Pucks
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Msg: 999 | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 3:55:01 PM | | Nexus 6- I agree. As awful and basically useless as my daughters father is I will never speak badly of him. Even if that means never speaking of him. And she has never heard me yell (which I do do on occassion) even to other people and I refuse to have someone yell in front of her. There is no need for it. | |
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