| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 6:54:38 PM | | Divorced men who are financially burdened paying child support, would not want to date a single mom with children under 18, unless they were desperate. Plenty of fish in the ocean, who are unencumbered. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/10/2007 7:19:01 PM |
" i wouldnt want to date you if u were the last man on earth!!!!!!!
you wouldnt have to nor likely get a chance to as it would be him and his choice of 2 billion other women...(Yahh Roo Giddy Up)
Ok, I don't care who ya are - that right thar wur real funny like. 
OT: That's the beauty of being human. We all get blessed with the ability to make our own decisions based upon our own needs and desires. Did you SERIOUSLY wish for your child/ren to be around someone like this? REALLY??? | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/11/2007 8:16:14 AM | | Some single mom's expect too much like wanting the man to orovide everything for her and her children. Those types are a huge turn off to me. I have been asked to buy school supplies for little children because mom coiuld not afford it and that was on date#3. So really a few are spoiling it for many. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/11/2007 9:31:17 AM | "perhaps a blow up doll,would be appropriate" well at least he be happy with her lol it wouldnt have any kids and wouldnt expect him to pay to support her oh and it wouldnt answer back lol  pucks | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/11/2007 10:36:03 AM | I don't have the time or energy to go back and read every post on here, but I DID read quite a few of them...
As a dad of 2 little ones going through a divorce, I have NO problem dating women with children. In fact, in some ways it's a little easier, because they are more likely to understand and appreciate the demands on my time.
With that being said, I think it also depends on the situation. Is the woman looking for a "new dad" for her kid(s)? Is the father in the picture at all? Is he going to be a potentially problematic "jealous father" if I start spending time with the kids? All of those questions - and others - are factors.
Just as there are women who don't want to date guys with kids, there are guys who don't want to date women with kids. That's just the way it is. It doesn't really matter what their reasons are. You just have to accept it, move on, and find someone who will accept you and your kids as a package deal. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/12/2007 3:44:18 PM | | I know exactly how you feel. I am a widowed mother of two young girls 6 & 7. Been widowed for a bit over a year and a half. I have just started the whole dating scene. I let the guy know before I even go out on a date with him that I have two little girls, and they are first, no matter what, I am and will always be mommy first. If he does not like it than that is his problem, I don't take it personal. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/12/2007 10:02:46 PM | Johne102..u just need to go back and read some of the things u wrote about single moms and then ask yourself why you think you are getting bashed...the thing that stood out for me was the comments made about us single moms and your finances that got me fired up, making single mothers look like we are looking for a handout of sorts from a guy. How do u think we've made it so far without a man?
The reason ur bashed is not just the fact that u don't want to date us...that is your choice and right...i have no issues with that part of your statements on this post. Just the money stuff. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:20:24 AM | | It is in part money because I have had single mom's tell me they just wanted someone to support them and the kids...big turn off. Plus I live in Canada where a parent can collect child support from a parent and a step parent. So that leads to some gold digging. The way I see it, if you can raise your kids without my money before I met youI will not risk my money so you can better provide for your kids if yo divorce me. Rather than risk the hassle I aviod dating single moms. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:25:47 AM | I've said a few times to you John.......PLEASE DO NOT DATE US THEN!!!!!!!!
Look elsewhere...we (single mommies) are thrilled to know that you have NO DESIRE to date us...trust me on this!!
Move on young soldier!! Stop beating the horse....it really is dead! | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/13/2007 5:44:39 PM | | The problem with blanket statements like this is exactly that, they dont apply to everyone. While Im sure that you are correct in that there are some single moms looking for a sugar daddy, I dont for a minute believe that they constitute anywhere near a majority of these ladies. In my humble opinion, the vast majority of these ladies are looking to love and be loved. Nothing different than they were looking for prior to becoming mothers. Also, to imply that they are single mothers by choice follows the same blanket statement logic. That is, no logic whatsoever. I am not a single parent because I chose to be. I think very few of us are. If you are restricting your search simply because a lady in question happens to have a kid or two, your pool will get pretty small, especially as you get older. On the other hand, as stated by someone else in this forum, if this is how you choose to discern your dates, you are doing single mothers (and their kids) a big favour from the get go. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/13/2007 5:49:07 PM | John
The problem with blanket statements like this is exactly that, they dont apply to everyone. While Im sure that you are correct in that there are some single moms looking for a sugar daddy, I dont for a minute believe that they constitute anywhere near a majority of these ladies. In my humble opinion, the vast majority of these ladies are looking to love and be loved. Nothing different than they were looking for prior to becoming mothers. Also, to imply that they are single mothers by choice follows the same blanket statement logic. That is, no logic whatsoever. I am not a single parent because I chose to be. I think very few of us are. If you are restricting your search simply because a lady in question happens to have a kid or two, your pool will get pretty small, especially as you get older. On the other hand, as stated by someone else in this forum, if this is how you choose to discern your dates, you are doing single mothers (and their kids) a big favour from the get go. Best of luck in your accoutrement-free search. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/13/2007 9:01:42 PM | | I dated a single mother before. She had a lot of problems in her life. I never asked about them not sure why she dumped me. She had a adorable little girl. I loved spending time with both of them. It was hard for her to find a sitter. So I did not mind the little one around. It was hard she she dumped me. I kinda got attached to the kid. I think that now makes it hard for me to date someone who has a child. I would not let it stop me from dating a single mother. I would just be a little more careful. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/13/2007 10:54:45 PM | Gonna be nice this post....because the last three I wrote got deleted.......
Sooo...just curious....why are there 41+ pages on this thread mostly from men who don't want to waste their time on single mother's in general? I can understand posting an opinion and moving on to another thread in search of whatever the ideal dating priorities and circumstances may be for many of you guys....except for some strange reason..........there seems to be alot of repeat posts or replies that are made with the sole purpose of demeaning and insulting single mothers in general.
Why are you guys ( and you know who you are ) wasting your time?......or is it that your boosting your ego? | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/13/2007 10:56:45 PM | | Absolutly mate I know exactily what it's like, infact im probly more attracted to women with children or even pregant. But yeah the younger mother I was with had two children both of whom I fell for so hard and instantly in love with. Infact I cared mroe about them then I did her and sooner. Anyhow when she left me it wasn't her that broke my heart. It was the fact that those kids called me dad.. And that I know I can never really go back to them and be like remeber that time when we all went out and well whatever... Its alot easier now to shy away from someone with children even though I love children, the fear of loseing them again, its.. very painful. Anyway befor I get off key I shal leave it at that... | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/14/2007 10:00:34 AM | | I know not all single mother's choose to be single but I have had the mis-fortune of dating a few who dit the streotype of what a single mother os. Not all are like this but how many do you have to date before getting fed up and ruling them out of your dating pool? Why ask the question if you do not want the answer? | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/14/2007 10:06:16 AM | | Johne- I have dated single fathers that were complete jackasses...I've dated men with no children that were complete jackasses.......I just am not following your logic cause if I did follow it andagree that it is ok for you to completely write-off single mothers because of dating 2 that sucked, I would just have to never date again. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/14/2007 1:38:59 PM | Ahhhh John, John, John.
You are still suffering a logic blind spot.
Just because the single mothers you date are nutters, it doesn't follow that all single mothers are nutters. YOU ATTRACT NUTTERS, and some of them happen to be single mothers. Or maybe the nutters that are not single mothers are aiming a bit higher, and only the single mother nutters bother with you? Who knows?
For all those who don't want to date single mothers - that's cool. I understand why. It's hard work, it can be unrewarding, and they're not even your kids.
However, becoming vitriolic about single mothers when you have already sworn to have nothing to do with them ... well that's just Odd, and furthermore it screams of MommyIssues. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/14/2007 2:36:51 PM |
I am reluctant to date single moms because I'm going to be a little selfish in my life as opposed to being the good guy I've been through most of my 20s. I want a woman I can date easily and regularly, and not have to bounce around in her busy schedule to see her. If she's so busy with work and parental stuff, then my heart goes out to her, but I'm not going to play this game of seeing her once in a while.
best. answer. ever.
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/14/2007 2:37:39 PM |
Why are you guys ( and you know who you are ) wasting your time?......or is it that your boosting your ego?
I have a solution for this: Do not start threads about "why men won't date single moms".
After all, if you ask, there will be somebody who answers. | |
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| Ever Wonder Why Single Men Do Not like Single mothers?
Posted: 12/14/2007 3:17:25 PM | I come across a lot of single mothers who were treated bad or the father of their children ditched them. Majority (not all) also seem to be scared from a decent guy who treats them and their children well and end a relationship because they do not know how to handle it. Or they had children too young and feel they did not do what they really wanted to do because they had a child so young.
A single mother and her children are a package deal if a relationship becomes serious. I always understood that the children come first and I would never do anything to become in between them.
Its hard to find women who are single around my age with no children. I can't be picky, I just hope that something wonderful comes my way.
I have a busy schedules myself so I understand when a single mother does not always have the time to go out. I would even find something to enjoy with her and her children just to spend time with her. | |
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