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Posted: 1/14/2008 5:38:44 PM |
I definitely do not have that problem! I can hammer you! LOL!
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Posted: 1/15/2008 11:27:54 AM | | Most men have volunteered this information during the chat process , which makes it not necessary to ask . The two I dated in the past didn't ,and it made it very awkward . I just hoped to find a sensitive way to avoid that uncomfortable situation again . | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 11:40:47 AM | If THEY bring up they're "really into oral" then I think they've opened it up to ask "Oh? And what's the performance like after that?" or "So does getting oral on me make you rise to the occasion?"
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Posted: 1/15/2008 12:58:05 PM | | I don't believe there is a problem in asking a guy if there are erectile issues. And yes, "Very oral" tends to be code for "you are going to get a lot more oral than conventional from me because I have erection problems". | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 1:05:13 PM | If your at the stage where you want to know that, can I presume you want to sleep with them?
If so then you don't need to ask you will soon find out. If you get the ball rolling and there is no hammering! Looks like a crash and burn
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Posted: 1/15/2008 3:47:15 PM | | it is not the same calling Satan than seeing him coming lol On here is easy to write you can hammer anything. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 4:41:19 PM | if i felt intimate enough with a man to ask him that question, i wouldn't..
time would show whether or not he could and if not, then there are very effective drugs out there if needed/wanted..
i'd think asking the question could put undue pressure on the bloke so that it might cause the very condition under discussion..
englishlass:
Thank you for posting this.
It happened to me. The lady had these problems with an ex and came right out and stated she expected me to "perform up to snuff" which of course did not happen even though I had never had the problem before her.
Killed that budding relationship. We had 'clicked' in every other way until the demands happened.
Too bad....so sad. Now I can't get the "failure"out of my head. P*sses me off actually.
Thank you for your voice of reason and compassion for the male gender.
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Posted: 1/18/2008 7:52:10 PM | About the smoking thing... When I was a teen ager and used to get some cigarettes, they'd frequently give me an instant 
I don't know what caused it but it did. I don't smoke now but I did have a cigarette after not having one for several years and the came back. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 8:53:23 PM |
I mean I don't want to come right out and say " Dude can ya still get wood and hammer me " LOL
Ask away as long as you can handle being asked "Will you give blowjobs after marriage?"
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Posted: 1/18/2008 8:56:51 PM | Are you kidding me? Hopefully you'll ask and even if they can still "get it up", they just won't want to.. at least not for you.
Can't you just wait and find out just like the rest of us? Hell... I imagine that the guy doesn't even know for sure whether or not he can get it up until it GETS UP. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 9:30:19 PM |
Maybe you just dont turn him on
That's how it works for me.
Takes about 30 seconds to figure out. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 10:54:49 PM | Of course, a little vulgarity at the right time can be a major turn on. Imagine being at a coffee shop, meeting a gentleman and you're feeling the chemistry, and when you finish your drinks he says "so, what's next?" If you respond with "A true gentleman would take me home and f*ck me until I couldn't walk," you will see his nostrils flare. Honest.
You mean, when a guy gets turned on, his NOSTRILS FLARE????
I never knew that! I just thought it was a nose "tick" | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 11:04:15 PM | This asking guys about thier erection ability is a bit like asking girls about their breast size.
It shouldn't be a sensitive question, and it shouldn't be an issue.
ALL, repeat ALL guys have occasions when they can't get the tackle up. It's as normal as you sitting on his lap, and finding he's hard.
The only important things are if you can enjoy sex with him and if he can enjoy sex with you. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 11:15:06 PM | | lol The first thing I thought when I read the title of this thread again was "Oooo I LOVE those." Then grinned quite maliciously. ^_^ | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 11:18:08 PM | This asking guys about thier erection ability is a bit like asking girls about their breast size.
It shouldn't be a sensitive question, and it shouldn't be an issue.
Excuse me, Crayonzzz...but men don't wear their erection sticking out in front of them where we can see it 24/7.
Boobs do. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 11:27:36 PM | | bethlett: Thats quite possibly the most naive thing Ive heard in my entire life. Hahaha, congrats, cause thats no small feat. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 7:38:50 AM | | Well, Ignoble, if that is the case, then the reason we have to ASK about your penis is because ...if you are already wearing it where we CAN see it? And we CAN'T see it? Then uh....there's just a tiny bit of a problem there................... | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 9:34:35 AM |
I don't believe there is a problem in asking a guy if there are erectile issues. And yes, "Very oral" tends to be code for "you are going to get a lot more oral than conventional from me because I have erection problems".
** and the light bulb pops up over my head**
Wow. Do I feel naive now or what? I wish someone had explained that to me a while ago. Makes me feel much better about an encounter a while back. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 10:03:17 AM | | I ran into this a little bit back and didn't realise that "very oral" was code for erection problems. Unfortuantly, I didn't handle it well. I just blew him off after the first encounter without an explanation. I just didn't have a clue how to say "you just don't have what it takes to keep me coming back" especially since it was supposed to be a mostly sexual relationship, rather than anything seious. He kept texting and calling and I ignored the contacts. Bad on my part I know. I just had no idea what to say. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 10:49:43 AM | The proof is in the pudding. Even if you do ask he's likely to say, "Of course I can."
I agree about oral only relationships. Well rounded talent keeps me a happy camper. | |
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