| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:01:45 PM | | Who knows, maybe they got the idea from viewing so many of the women's profiles on this site that provide zero detail, and then instruct you to "hit them up"... guess some people just have lousy written communication skills eh? | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:05:56 PM | OP I am so glad you saw the humor.
Now I just reread what I wrote and realized I didn't explain myself much on the Stop gap of a profile..
For example I looked at your profile..If I was going to send you a cold first time email.
I would include these following questions.. This is my style of mixing serious in with fun..
I see you like Live Concerts. What has been your most memorable and why? What was the worst one you went to. (kind of serious)
Now, I have to ask.. What do you mean by stopping for interesting pile of garbage.. This has to have agreat story line here. Please share..
Just curious you say you like to laugh..Tell me the funniest thought you have had in the 24 hours.
You also have some great questions.. Up there. So hang tight and get the feel of the way. You will be fine out here.
Again I have to stress the biggest thing is have fun with it..
Sass | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:01:02 PM | I think that guys put ask me anything in their profiles because they are just interested in one thing and one thing only. Women are not supposed to be used for sexual objects... we are more than that thank-you very much.
Cheers,
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/7/2008 7:49:23 PM | While i do try to put as much information in my profile as i can think of (well if im looking that is) with the goal in mind of trying to get people who wont like me to pas me up and the ones who might to maybe write something.
The problem is the concept of "tell me about yourself" is a very difficult question to answer and i cant think of or remember everything as well as i dont know what you want to know.
I would put that in because 20 questions or even better 1000 questions is the BEST way to get to know me. it is a damn good way for me to get to know you as well because i would want to know some of the same things about you.
Since it is also difficult for me to come up with things to talk about a good run of 1000 questions could result in many many hours of good conversation as i am reminded of interesting things to talk about when different questions are asked. | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:14:14 PM | When I look to send someone a message, I try to find atleast 3 things in their profile to write about. It shows that I've at least read their profile.
I've seen plenty of one or two line profiles from women out there, and they say "don't be shy just send me a message", or "ask me anything". I usually skip them. | |
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OLT4U
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Joined: 12/21/2007
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:18:49 PM | When I was a virgin online dater I spent a lot of time on profiles. They were long and described this and that and burbled on forever. I got few responses. Later I would keep it short and sweet and get responses. Proves what? That women --like men-- don't really read the profiles.
Think of a profile as a hook in a song or article. Tease the reader and hope they ask for more.
You don't have to play 20 questions: one will do. | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:22:34 PM | | I only have a problem with people that ONLY have this in their profile. I put some basics in mine, but I don't have a problem with people asking me anything. Really, if I'm not comfortable with it, I won't answer, but I'm not offended by a simple question (unless it's one of those accusatory types). | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/8/2008 3:02:48 AM | | I myself prefer it when profiles have as much information in them as possible. I want to know what your interests are. It helps me know if there is any common ground between myself and them. | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:10:04 AM | > Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
They're under the delusion that someone will come along who would care about them enough based on little more than a picture and a few basic stats to want to know more. | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:29:30 AM | | It sounds sort of dishonest even desperate. This is one angle and it's not my first pick for this subject but it's not been brought up. Guys are insecure in many ways, one of them being dishonest with themselves as well as the person there with. By saying this it makes it seem that there is something to hide | |
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Zee77
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Joined: 2/1/2008
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 2/27/2008 2:15:36 PM | Two reasons:
A: Being more rational than women, men are naturally oriented to problem solving. This is what reason dictates. If a problem is posed, the natural response of the reasoning mind is to find and propose a solution. The female mind, being more emotional, has less interest and inclination to resolve problems; it is far more inclined to bathe in the waters of the emotion involved. Also, men offer advice to women because that's what women want and respond to. This dynamic indicates to the woman that the woman is valued (or at least, she thinks it does) and also allows the woman to take action without the burden of personal responsibility - they can simply act on the basis of advice given. In this sense, men, through the avenue of advice giving, present women with one of the greatest gifts that a woman could want - a means by which to absolve themselves from responsibility for their actions.
B: The other, and perhaps less complicated reason for this behaviour in men is that men seek to dominate the world through mental action; women submit to the world and flow within its turbulence because they have no corresponding mental activity. Without the advice and problem solving of the males around them, most women would collapse into a pathetic heap. So, instead of asking why men continually offer solutions and give advice, women should ask themselves why they continually need it.
~from the Courier Mail Nov 16 | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 2/27/2008 3:31:57 PM | I have that phrase for the same reason I have as an interest "emails with more than one line". That reason is; there are people I am actually interested in getting to know. My profile is more than a couple of lines so there may actually be something to ask about in it.
I've had people not want to share even their first name after eight or ten emails. I've had people respond to several emails but always with one line answers. If I'm going to stay in contact with someone, I want us both to actually learn something about the other from it. So ask me anything because that might be a good way to get a conversation started. Just be prepared to answer you own questions. | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 2/27/2008 3:33:32 PM | OP, SMART guys have short profiles
and leave it up to the girl to yes "figure em out".
Here's why.
Whether you know it or not. Or will admit it or not.
You're viewing guy profiles in the aggregate, not as individuals.
You see interests, words, hobbies, and try to gage a guy based on
guys you already know or dealt with.
NOT as the guy in the profile really is.
Cus you don't know the guy yet. But "you think" you know
based on what he puts in his profile.
You're wrong.
You can't.
And hey, Guys do the same.
I mean there are a million profiles out there from a million
individuals. You can't possibly date em all to see who
will work for you. So you look for qualities(hobbies, interests, words)
that you think are compatible to you or interesting.
and avoid guys who has stuff you think as lame.
The more a guy puts in his profile the easier it is for you to pidgeonhole him.
If he likes NASCAR, he's a redneck.
If he reads alot, he is a nerd.
If he works with his hands, he's blue collar and you want white collar.
Ect.
Viewing profiles is really just a mental word search.
Mr NASCAR may also be a French Professor that happens to like NASCAR.
Mr Reads-alot may be a Lawyer who doesn't like TV and not a nerd at all.
Mr Works with his hands may own his own business and be very set.
You will never know that, cus you word search for the key words you like...
or want to avoid.
Players know this so have the best most interesting profiles
full of bogus, hobbies, interests, and such to fool you.
Net savvy POF guys have short profiles that are interesting but
invite you to email em to see how they are as an individual.
View mine and see if you have me pigeonholed.
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 2/28/2008 11:31:56 PM | not just guys, women do this to. if i had a nickel!
IMO it says one of two things: 1) i like my privacy so YOU contact me first and i'll decide if i like you and THEN i'll tell you more about me; or 2) i can't string a sentence together and prefer to let my profile photo do most of the talking.
in a similar position to the OP, i have no idea what to ask. all i've got is a username, some vital stats like height, weight, etc; and MAYBE a photo.
unlike posting a classified ad to sell a car where vital stats and a profile are enough to get people interested to call about it, user profiles ought to contain some information about themselves. sometimes fishies might be frightened of putting what they like/dislike in a profile for fear of scaring off potential dates, but ultimately that person is going to find out anyway! | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 4/15/2008 10:37:59 AM | I agree & they wont respond to ims or emails. How on earth are we supposed to meet new people on here!? Then if they do talk they talk about only sex, what is up with that!? I want to meet new people and go out, not meet for sex......................can they not read my profile & see that!? Sorry if I got off the topic here..............I just am frustrated. | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 4/15/2008 10:45:19 AM | "My favorite question to ask someone new is: "What would you do if we are driving down the road and I ask you to stop because of a garage sale or to check out an interesting pile of garbage?"
OP, as this is from your profile, why don't you start here? It is your favorite question to ask, afterall. Just a thought.
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 4/15/2008 2:48:57 PM | Ask me anything is usually a euphemism for:
1) How big my d*ck is when it's hard
2) How I like it in the sack
If he's being that vague, he wants you to ask questions. Questions like: "If I was the wind and you were a sail, which way would you like me to blow you."
It's a tactic to quickly rule out who will have sex with you immediately and who is a waste of your time. At least it was for me 10 years ago when I was chatting on ICQ.
p.s-I've since grown up, if anyone cares.  | |
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| Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles?
Posted: 4/15/2008 4:10:06 PM |
I have gotten mail from a number of guys whose profiles are meager to say the least. A good many of them tell me that I can ask them anything.
I am usually dumbfounded by this. I wouldn't really know what to ask.
Do these guys think that I can figure them out by playing 20 questions?
Could be a way to show that they don't have anything to hide so feel free to ask anything you want. As for me for instance, I don't like going on and on about me, for one I know who I am and don't need someone else's approval to feel more of a person. Plus it makes someone come off as a bit of an ego keep talking about himself. So no use in really saying anything if it's not important because what I would say that maybe I would think was important, you couldn't care less about. We can't read minds either to know what you want to know about us, you'll never know if you don't ask... | |
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