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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:04:25 AM | Attraction is how a person perceives another, not a physical/emotional/mental state of being. An attractive person has a quality that draws another to them, not necessarily physically but also by emotional or mental allure. But I think it is for another to proclaim somebody as attractive. Unless a person is drawn toward them self, in which case I would stand back a ways because they might implode.
IMO it always rings of conceit.
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:14:27 AM | | Well...everybody is attractive to someone... In her own eyes she may be...I don't think its being ignorant though. Whats a greater concern is when she says "average body"... and is size 22?? | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:46:43 AM | I find in additition to talking about their looks, lots of women also say things like "my friends and family are important to me", "I love to laugh" and things like that. Some really redundant statements.I think it's more a case of women either being too lazy to write up a half decent profile OR they simply don't know what to write about themselves - which is probably the case.
I think we all would like to think we're attractive. I wouldn't read too much into that. But I do agree that I'll be the one to judge if she's attractive, and vice versa lol. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:37:13 AM | | It seems unnecessary to say you are attractive in your profile, since everyone's idea of attractive is different. Include a bunch of pictures in your profile, and people will decide for themselves whether they are attracted to you or not. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:55:15 AM | When it says "my friends say I am attractive" my best advice is that no matter what they should hang on to those friends.....
I find calling youself attractive to be arrogant and quite an unattractive quality. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:59:13 AM |
She could be and also may not be, but remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Another classic line is "I look younger than I am", it's best to let the person looking make that observation.
Macgyver I absolutely agree with you on both statements | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:20:13 AM | Wording is everything, and "how" you state it can mean much more than "what" you stated in the first place.
The proof is always in the pictures, and being attractive can be relative to the camera used, when taken, how old, who took them, why, etc..... This is why I prefer those that have multiple pictures showing both head and body shots to share more of what they truly look like.
We all have a self image, and if that is one that we think is attractive, then there is no reason not to be able to state that. There are many of my friends that tell me how attractive their friends are or that they think they might be, and once you meet, you might see it differently, or feel that maybe their attractiveness is much more subtle than stated......
I have always preferred women that are assertive and willing to state what they believe, and if that means letting me know that they think they are attractive, then that is what they truly believe...... What ends up being more important, is what I think when we meet and greet and if I find them as attractive as they find themselves.....
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:05:42 AM | Ok.. so we're supposed to be confident but are never allowed to speak of it?
Confusiiiiiiiing!
I may or may not agree with their assessment of themselves... but it's always good to see that they've got a positive one.
Nothing's more of a turn off than a profile filled with reasons why you probably wouldn't want them anyway... and they came up with these reasons on their own.
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:43:21 AM | It doesn't mean anything to me when thier profile says they're "attractive." I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe they're physically attractive but does thier personality match. Someone who's either mean or plays the "dumb" card will be a bigger turn off for me then anything. By "dumb" card I mean women who act like Pamela Anderson. Men go on and on about how hot she is but for me it's her stupidity that makes her totally unattractive. Or how about those women we see on tv who weight 500lbs, wear a string-bikini and go on about how hot they are  So really I'd have to decide when we met whether she's attractive or not. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:57:01 AM | Whenever people say they are attractive, I know they aren't.
Right on, Americaninthailand! 
I yet have to meet a man who's claiming to be "attractive" that I find attractive, too.
Same is usually true for anyone (male or female) claiming to be "sexy".
And why would anyone choose to describe themselves with those attributes anyway? Don't they have anything to say about themselves the beholders can't see (and decide) for themselves by simply looking at the pics? | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:17:35 AM | Proclaiming one's self to be physically "attractive" is of course an opinion that requires visual confirmation. Let's just say I'm not going to take her word for it, I'll make up my own mind. I love empowered women but some of you have simply lost touch with humility and reservation. How attractive you are is how a man come's to see you on his own, not how you tell him to see you.
In all honesty I see profiles of women that profess themselves to be attractive when in fact I see them as ordinary...or worse. Self absorped delusion is not an attractive quality to me. Attraction is something that speak's for itself. Positive reinforcement is stuff you tell yourself and then make a reality out in the real world...or not. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:14:21 PM |
Whenever people say they are attractive, I know they aren't. Attractive people never have to tell anyone.
Even if they are selling themselves?
Really attractive people are confident. And confident people don't have to sell themselves. Photos are there and you can judge if you can sleep with the person without puking or not. Attractive is in your words, your feeling, your mind, your heart. The words "I am attractive" or "I am sexy" mean nothing by themselves other than the person is trying to convince themselves that they are attractive or sexy or worthy of someone looking at their profile. When someone has to say they are something for me to see it - it makes me think they are weak and pathetic. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:56:12 PM |
Whenever people say they are attractive, I know they aren't. Attractive people never have to tell anyone......When someone has to say they are something for me to see it - it makes me think they are weak and pathetic.
you sure are quick to label people with your opinion. what do you think about people who only post neck up face shots? | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:11:15 PM | | I take her word for it. She might have a bad picture or none at all, so she has to explain how she looks, which is fine with me. And she could mean she is attractive in other ways, that wouldn't show in a picture. To me it just means that people are drawn to her. Some people are like that, others are not. I don't see it as egotistical. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:21:31 PM | Wow. This is the third thread I've replied to in a row dealing with much the same issue. To use any adjective to describe yourself in a profile is a mistake in my view. How pretty, attractive, vivacious, fun, exciting, etc., should be left to the observer. Why? Simply because no two of us agree on what attractive, for instance, is. Gray hair detracts from attractiveness for some and is found to be very attractive, even distinguished by others. Some men won't even bother with the face, their eyes going straight down from the neck. Others cannot imagine a woman being attractive without what they consider to be a pretty face and eyes.
No, I'll be the judge of what I am attracted to. If you want me to contact you though, there better be a bunch of stuff that will let me into your mind. Tell me what you think, how you feel, are you happy, confident, secure in your beliefs. Give me a little something about yourself that will help me to determine if your morals and ethics are similar to mine. And no, being a christian won't do it. Your concern at the moment that I am reading your profile for the first time should not be are you attractive, fun, vivacious, pretty or whatever. I'll decide all that for myself. Your real concern should be what I might read that will intrigue me enought to click the contact this person button. | |
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