| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:34:23 PM | If it is understated I enjoy it. It is implicit of how they feel they present themselves to the world. Confidence is attractive!
If it is the first statement in their profile....... I tend to think they are either insecure of their looks or it is the sole base of their self-confidence. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:40:10 AM |
So guys, how do you feel when you see that a woman has written in her own profile that she is attractive?
If you have pictures posted there is no reason to write that in your profile. Each person will individually decide whether or not they find you attractive, so what's the point? | |
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BK2008
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Joined: 11/30/2007
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/9/2008 9:10:56 AM | It depends on how she phrases it. If she merely includes the word in a list of attributes, then she is merely expressing her opinion. However, someone can be attractive and not be beautiful. I happen to think that someone's personality contributes greatly to their attractiveness. JMO.
Why does someone have to list their attributes anyway? Why do we have to advertise ourselves like a used car. "My name is Bob and I'm a one owner, low mileage male that has been maintained properly by my former owner. Have all receipts!"
After going through these forums, I see that men are consistently complaining that women do not contact them or even reply to them when contacted. Strangely enough, the women are saying the same things about the men! So, I've come to the conclusion that all of us are looking for, and only contacting, people that we can't have. People who don't find us attractive!!! Think about it!
Dating sites have become nothing more than fantasy mate shopping. It doesn't appear to matter how successful or worthy someone is, only how ATTRACTIVE they are. I'm going to change my profile now to just say:
"I'm attractive in my own mind. Inquire within." 
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/9/2008 9:35:35 AM | Saying that you are attractive in your own profile strikes me as superfluous and possibly arrogant/deluded for EITHER gender to post... 
If the profile has photos, let the person that's deciding on whether or not to contact/reply to you be the judge. After all, they are the one's that will need to find you alluring in order to approach you.
That's why I leave off the "attractive" boast in my profile, though I do proclaim to be "fit", because I know I can back that up by performing whatever physical challenge they choose to test me on... 
Besides, given the self-serving bias of human nature, where are you ever going to find someone that starts off their profile with "I'm paper-bag level ugly", or "when I sit around the house, I literally sit AROUND the house"... Not exactly the best sales-pitch in my opinion...  | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/9/2008 10:11:05 AM | damn..I know what I am doing wrong, I have the claim I am
Cute, smart and I can cook.. Will be taking that down..
but seriously. I see it in mens profiles also, If I email them I always ask what makes you attractive? I want to know why they think they are. Not that they have it there.
Since, I have known some really unattractive people, that have turned out to be so drop dead gorgeous inside. They have taken my breath away..
So to me not a big deal..
Since I am going to be the one deciding if they are attractive to me.. They might be to someone else, then I could be finding they are butt ugly..
So this statement to to me is totally subjective on how and what we perceive.. | |
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jf468
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Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 58 | |
| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/9/2008 3:46:54 PM | | I think it is unnecessary for a woman to state that she is attractive. What a woman thinks of her looks isn't going to determine if a man finds her to be attractive or not. Sometimes it can sound arrogant depending on how she states it. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/10/2008 3:55:43 AM | | GREAT question MAM, my first thought when I read that is to go no further, would be a **** one day to say she looked nice and have her say (I KNOW), it really does not matter what the poster thinks just post a picture and let the reader make his opinion, everyone has something diff that attracts them and it aint you telling how attractive you think you are, a little humbleness is wonderful. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/10/2008 9:30:32 AM | Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder, so yeah, if she says she is "hot" in her profile, I would see that as egotistical, whether she was actually hot or not.
She should just let people judge her on her looks, and I'm pretty sure that most men will be able to make up their own minds, without her own opinion.
Saying that, there is nothing wrong in feeling good about yourself. But it can get easily misinterpreted if you try to expose this to other people. In fact, a woman that would actually write such tripe in her profile, shows a lack of confidence in my opinion.
I'm just glad POF hasn't given us an attractiveness field to fill in on our profiles. Best to let the pictures do the talking. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/10/2008 10:07:44 AM | | I don't see it as arrogant for someone to say they are sexy or attractive etc. ,just confident but if someone says they are stunning and starts saying things in their profile like for example, I am stunning so all you mingers don't even bother wasting my time messaging methen I would definitely see that as arrogant. | |
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TRI ON
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Joined: 12/6/2007
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/27/2008 6:48:06 AM | | To someone else there is always going to be something unattractive about us all so does it matter what "we" say. When someone else views our profile they become the judge of what is attractive to them about us and if they have good sence they will also know that being attractive on the outside does not mean that the inside will be the same. I say don't worry about it, let your interest lead to the attraction not the other way around because sometimes the pretty boy or girls don't turn out to be that pretty once you get to know them! | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/27/2008 6:54:34 AM | beauty is in the eye of the beholder. women might say their attractive and they may be attractive, but beauty and good looks stand for nothing if she turns out to be a right *unt. this also applies for men.  | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/27/2008 7:01:04 AM | Well for starters if she already has a couple pictures in her profile then there's really no reason to describe herself as being attractive. Only a blind man wouldn't be able to distinguish that for himself. And if he was blind and on here, he wouldn't be able to read her comment that she wrote she was attractive. Besides I've never seen a screen that was in braille.
The only reason I could see someone describing themselves as being attractive would be in a profile that didn't have a picture. Even then I would be skeptical. Kind of like women who list themselves as being a few extra pounds and in reality they're actually a BBW.
So yes, if a woman, who has pictures in her profile, writes that she's attractive then she is more than likely arrogant and conceited.  | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/27/2008 7:30:10 AM |
So guys, how do you feel when you see that a woman has written in her own profile that she is attractive?
I feel like she's trying to tell me something that I should be judging for myself.
Usually it's also the first sign that this may be someone that's "all style and no substance". I was friends with for a few years and then dated a woman that was very focused on her appearance. I always thought (hoped, really lol) that she was just slow to open up, and that there was more to her. Nope. Turns out she was focused on that because it was the only thing she had going for her in her life. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/27/2008 7:32:56 AM |
So this statement to to me is totally subjective on how and what we perceive..
I concur. The only reason I can see referencing your own looks in a profile is if you're going for a laugh:
"Every time I walk by a mirror, I can't help but notice that I'm a D*MN good looking man! Don't get me wrong, I don't need to stop and gawk (well, not EVERY time...) but it's hard to not appreciate looks like mine. On the "hottness" scale, I'm about 10,000 degrees, baby!" | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/27/2008 9:50:25 AM | If her picture is attractive, then why say it?
If her picture is not attractive, then why lie?
If she has no picture, then why not post a picture, and let me decide?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, not the eye of the person being beholden. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/27/2008 10:57:40 AM | Typically, the woman who describes herself as attractive...has little else to say, so her profile typically is one or two lines. The reality is, attractiveness is relative, and she never has to tell you she's attractive...just put up a pic. Says a thousand words, really.
Now if she's got a long profile, and in there somewhere she mentions she's attractive? different story. | |
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