| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/27/2008 11:08:57 AM |
have yet to meet the person in my life, who doesn't think they are attractive.
I would never give myself a label like "attractive", "cute", "hot" or "looking younger than my age" or any of these things that go that direction. And I don't find myself looking "attractive". Since I see my face every day I find myself looking "normal", and I don't compare myself to others anyway. I look the way I look, period. That doesn't need a label based on some obscure attractiveness scale, and my (predominantly non-American) friends see that in a similar way. I don't have friends that claim being "attractive" - they just are who they are and don't care too much about their genetics.
Judging looks is in the eye of the beholder, and in the eye of the beholder alone. And I can't stand people that claim being attractive for themselves. Not only does it prove these people are full of themselves but they also show disrespect of others in telling them what they are supposed to think.
And I have yet to come across a person that claims being attractive that I indeed find attractive. And maybe those self-proclaimed beauty queens and kings should keep in mind that others didn't have all their lives to get used to your face... | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/27/2008 11:16:28 AM | if she says she's attractive in her profile, she's too full of herself and probably high-maintenance as well.
just post pics. we'll decide for ourselves. if we think you're attractive, you'll know about it. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 11:40:51 AM | I'm a bit turned off by it. I don't see the point in telling someone you're attractive. Can't they decide for themselves? If the person viewing you, or your pics is blind, then still no reason to announce it, since looks aren't a big factor with the blind. For those that don't have a pic, and feel the need to tell people they look good, shut up and get a pic. Even if you do get the wishful and stupid to believe you, they'll see you eventually unless you're just an online tease. I personally don't take people's words for it. I've seen many people who consider themselves attractive that are laughable.
Reminds me of those people who feel the need to tell people they are intelligent. Which doesn't seem intelligent to me. This assumes I'm not dumb though, and could be wrong. Stupid people don't know they're stupid, so why should we believe you when you say you're smart, because you say so? Stupid people do the same thing.
In the end it's opinion (or is it the beginning?). And although there are loads of sheeple on the planet who think alike, there still is enough diversity to allow in relativity. Whether or not you are attractive or smart, depends on who's doing the observing and who you contrast yourself by. Having said that. Mick Jagger is universally ugly. Certain women are just too stupid too realize it. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:14:03 PM | Judging an entire profile/person based on the presence of one work seems like overkill. The profile is a recipe, and that one word is just an ingredient. Oregano is great on pizza, lousy in cake. Depends on context.
People tend to judge others based on looks. Therefore people get treated differently based on how they look. In turn people's personalities are affected by how they are treated by others. Knowing what someone thinks of themself is useful.
There's a lot to be said about someone bold enough to say "I am attractive." Perhaps they spend a great deal of time making themselves so, and would like to be appreciated for their hard work at physical self-improvement. Maybe they tend to be objectified for their looks and would like to be appreciated for who they are. Maybe they just want to assert that they meet the basic requirements for chemistry and attraction.
I think 99% of us here on POF have a hard time when it comes to "what do I put in my profile?". Filling out forms is easy. Putting something into an empty box labelled "about me" can be a stumper. I reserve the right to create a lousy profile, and so can you as far as I'm concerned. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/29/2008 7:27:36 AM |
A friend and I were discussing profiles. He tells me that he feels it is arrogant for a woman to say in her profile that she is attractive. I've never given it a second thought, but now I'm noticing that both men and women do this. So guys, how do you feel when you see that a woman has written in her own profile that she is attractive?
I don't mind if it's mentioned one time,but I prefer the "you decide". | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 7:54:25 AM | He tells me that he feels it is arrogant for a woman to say in her profile that she is attractive. I'll agrree with your friend.
Compliments about your appearance should be said by others. Not by yourself.
If a woman truely is attractive. Why is there any need for her to point it out anyways???
I honestly don't bother contacting a woman if her profile says "I'm attractive" or "I'm beautiful" or any variation of those terms.
Beauty is a turn-on.
But a person's desire to point out their own beauty is a turn-off | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 11:21:31 AM | To the OP: Depends on the person's attitude. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance. If she feels beautiful and confident in herself, then she'll state it very plainly without over-dramaticizing it (unless she's being a smart-ass, which I also like).
If a person is arrogant about how they look, it will be apparent right away. Usually with that type of arrogance comes the attitude that YOU should be attracted to them too just because they believe they're pretty. IMO, that's going too far. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/29/2008 12:48:41 PM | | arrogant comes to mind when I read a person talking about themselves like that. Exterior is nothing relating to a being attractive. It is about the person and how they are. If someone is pretty on the outside, it generally means shallow. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 3:29:34 PM | It's not arrogant, but it's simply unnecessary. A guy will judge for himself based on your photos whether you are attractive or not, so there is no need to mention it.
I agree although it could become arrogant if she mentions her opinion about her beauty several times in her profile. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/29/2008 3:43:52 PM |
A friend and I were discussing profiles. He tells me that he feels it is arrogant for a woman to say in her profile that she is attractive. I've never given it a second thought, but now I'm noticing that both men and women do this. So guys, how do you feel when you see that a woman has written in her own profile that she is attractive?
OP. People who truly find themselves attractive never have a need to reinforce their self image! Is it arrogant? Maybe. Is it self dillussional? Well after what I have seen on POF I have to say "abso-fu^&en-lutely". | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 6:10:47 PM | Me george. Me say me have big penis. She jane. She say she is attractive... We mate. We make gud babies. Someday day dey make office. Den hole wurld be better off. Unga bunga.
A little modesty, even if it's false, shows more of a display of intelligence than any vanity or self delusion. I can only prove it to the non-stupid though. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/30/2008 9:52:35 AM | | it sounds concieted I have noticed that too. especially women some of them were very average in appearance but thought they were so attractive, Well someone has been lying to them | |
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Posted: 1/30/2008 11:06:41 AM | | I love seeing a woman describe herself in flattering terms. I like a woman who loves herself, including her outside features, and has high self esteem/confidence. It's a very sexy feature in a woman. I obviously am in the minority on this one, but if you have ever been in a relationship with someone who had zero self esteem..you would see how important it is. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/30/2008 11:57:47 AM | Makes no odds in itself.
I'm not arrogant enough to think you can judge someone else to be arrogant purely on the basis that they write they are attractive.
This is a dating site. I expect people to mention their good qualities. Is it also arrogant if someone says they are kind, or have a good sense of humour, or just about any other positive quality? Why should 'attractive' be any different?
Arrogant isn't knowing what your strengths are. It is rubbing other people's noses in them. Mentioning you're attractive once in your profile isn't rubbing people's noses in it. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/30/2008 11:58:05 AM | Makes no odds in itself.
I'm not arrogant enough to think you can judge someone else to be arrogant purely on the basis that they write they are attractive.
This is a dating site. I expect people to mention their good qualities. Is it also arrogant if someone says they are kind, or have a good sense of humour, or just about any other positive quality? Why should 'attractive' be any different?
Arrogant isn't knowing what your strengths are. It is rubbing other people's noses in them. Mentioning you're attractive once in your profile isn't rubbing people's noses in it unless it's the focus of your entire profile. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 2/1/2008 12:23:48 AM | Saying that you are attractive is not terribly attractive to me. Upload a photo and let others decide, because beauty (much like charisma) is in the eye of beholder.
My pet peeve, though, are people who claim to have great sense of humor and there is nothing remotely funny in their profile... or if they are forum junkies, I never read a single one funny word.
The only claim that I make in my profile is that I have my quirks, but nothing that requires medical attention. And that is 100% true. At least, that's what voices in my head lead me to believe.
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 2/1/2008 3:32:10 AM | | i have personally never said i was attractive. i simply have a pic. attractive or not is for them to decide from pic. a woman cannot say she is attractive because everyones taste is diff. some men will think she is pretty, others will thingk she is ugly so its pointless to say ur attractive. everyones taste is different. besides true beauty comes from the inside not the outside. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 5:53:15 AM | | What makes it funny to me is when they say that they are attractive and sexy, yet here they are on an international dating site groveling for dates..... I have to think if you are THAT attractive and sexy that your biggest problem is chasing the undesirables away, not looking for more of them..... | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 2/1/2008 5:58:32 AM | | well for me i am here simply becuase when i signed up i was working two jobs and had no time to go out to meet anyone. now i have one job and i jsut never got off site. so it does not in any way mean we are groveling for dates as u quoted. and by the way.....ur here too eastsideeddie. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 2/1/2008 7:59:01 AM | LOL I love hypocrisy.
"cutiepiems" proclaims:
it sounds concieted I have noticed that too. especially women some of them were very average in appearance but thought they were so attractive, Well someone has been lying to them
Mhmm. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 2/1/2008 9:34:37 AM | | if a woman sees herself as attractive fair play,its an asset to be confident in yourself,but some people find it overpowering.whatever you deem as attractive though,might not be what someone else see's.otherwise everyone would be going after the same person. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 2/2/2008 6:32:40 PM | Yep. I am here. If you read the thread, it isn't the being here that is the issue. It is about women claiming to be all dat and being here. I am an ugly fat old fuk and know it. Thus my profile doesn't make false claims about my being any kind of good looking.
Read EVERYTHING before you post. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 7:50:23 PM | | It's silly for anyone to say they're attractive....for one thing, it's quite UNATTRACTIVE to blow your own horn...more importantly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it makes little difference whether you think you're attractive or not. Self-confidence is a fine trait to have, but don't tell ME that you're attractive, I'll make that judgment. | |
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