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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 27 | |
| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/7/2008 6:02:30 AM | I remember years ago, my nephew was characterized by his teacher as being introverted. It worked perfectly with what he liked to do, who he was, etc..
However this teacher decided he should be more extroverted and tried to force him to do things to bring that out. He rebelled by becoming more introverted and was in danger of failing the class until the family interceded with the principal and got the boy transferred into another teacher's class.
The point is...why press? People will do what they naturally want to do. Just like OPie naturally wants to sponsor parties...others naturally want to interact via email, then phone, then meet one-on-one. To each their own.
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/7/2008 6:03:04 PM | | No, the nephew was introverted and the teacher felt it was his duty to change the nephew's personality and make him more extroverted. Glad they got the poor kid into another class. I was very quiet when I was in school (Frank , don't hurt yourself laughing at that one) and I was fortunate no one tried to "bring me out". | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/7/2008 6:19:22 PM | Anyone want to go rock climbing? serious? If theres interest i am there.
Me introverted? Perhaps? I trust children much more than adults. Children speak honestly and want the same in return. Adults on the other handf I do not trust. Honest. Have met so many people that hurt children. Having worked with children that have lived through nightmares I see what adults do to other people. When teachers look for help for the children the standard reply is, not my kid. We all are part of the same society are we not.So there you have it. Never trust anyone over 30.  As far as I know most people here are over 30. Me I am young at heart. | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:32:10 PM | perhaps a diverse range of activities ? What would be different from what you already do? I know we have ideas out there? Lets her your thoughts. Bowling, dinner and drinks, drinks and drinks, costume party, cookouts, disc golf... Isn't that a diverse range of activities? | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:34:37 PM |
Bowling, dinner and drinks, drinks and drinks, costume party, cookouts, disc golf... Isn't that a diverse range of activities?
Which ones of those prohibit alcohol?? I'm just curious, because if you can show me one that doesn't involve it then I might be more likely to go. | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:39:49 PM |
Bowling, dinner and drinks, drinks and drinks, costume party, cookouts, disc golf... Isn't that a diverse range of activities? Which ones of those prohibit alcohol?? I'm just curious, because if you can show me one that doesn't involve it then I might be more likely to go. | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:47:49 PM | almost all of the family events (pottery, movies, etc, ) are alcohol free and every saturday there's a lunch on the west side that is alcohol free.
i think you would be pleasantly surprised that even events in a bar such as luckys a large number of PoFers don't drink.
forgive me for being uncertain, but i think the motorcycle runs are alcohol free too | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 3:02:07 AM |
almost all of the family events (pottery, movies, etc, ) are alcohol free
There's another issue in itself... I'm not really interested in family events either. Not to sound selfish but I don't have kids and while I do enjoy them, it's not where I want to be meeting guys.
It doesn't matter if at the bars the people don't drink, it's still in a bar where other people are doing so. That's the part I object to there. :) | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:56:14 AM | | Honestly I don't think there is a good answer... just trying to explain to the OP why it's hard to get a diverse group together. Many people just aren't into hanging out with a group of strangers and having to fight to even be heard or remembered. Out of the 20 people I saw at Stoley's that one night... I wonder how many of them even realize they met me? Only a few of them bothered to even acknowledge me. Hardly anyone was drinking there but it was still a bar and was still relatively noisy. I didn't go on to the next bar with everyone because I felt more accepted by someone not with the group at the bar than with the POF group. It is highly unlikely I'd ever attend a bar setting again. Going somewhere like a park or to an event like Shadowbox (yes, I know people drink there too) is better suited to me. I would prefer to do something adult but without drinking, it cuts down on drama from my experience. :) | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:58:17 AM | well, that still leaves lunch, picnics, disc golf, and whateer alcohol free eents any body would like to host. don't feel pressured to have to attend events thay don't suit your lifestyle, just create one that does then help find creative ways to convey your information to a diverse age range. i'm sure platinum fish, Debi, myself or any other host/ cohost would be willing to help you and we welcome new ideas.
oh, this just came to me....it seems somebody is trying to generate intrest in winter hikes too, i'm sure that's alcohol free (at least until that night when you feel it.lol)
i don't think it's on the events page, you would have to scroll through ohio threads to find it. good luck | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 12:42:50 PM | | Yes Hardclimber as I have said before, we have a "Lunch Bunch" in Columbus, and many events at the local parks where alcohol is not involved. Unfortunately none that are near Cleveland. Maybe some Saturday if you get bored or just want to hang out, we would love to have you. I will even protect you, as you are so shy. Audrey | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:29:19 PM | | I've been to quite a few of the bowling events and there is very little drinking. Even at the OSU gathering last night, is was mostly moderate and no one was drunk or out of hand. You'll find that the majority of us drink little or none at the events. We all have a ton of fun with0ut having to drink a lot. That's why we hang out. And I've never been to any of the events here lately where people didn't go around introducing themselves and making other feel welcome. Come try another event. Don't let one bad experience ruin it. We are nice people. I promise!! | |
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 45 | |
| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:21:31 PM | What About...a POF....
...Pool league - small teams play at a pool room, NOT a bar (even though alcohol is still served). It is quieter and people can talk better, pair off, etc., and would be a weekly thing.
...Cards league - partners, wild cards, etc.. Pick some games. Have prizes at the end of the season. Do this at different members homes.
...Book Review Clubs (there are a few avid readers).
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:04:11 PM |
There's another issue in itself... I'm not really interested in family events either. Not to sound selfish but I don't have kids and while I do enjoy them, it's not where I want to be meeting guys.
It doesn't matter if at the bars the people don't drink, it's still in a bar where other people are doing so. That's the part I object to there. :) I think kids are OK if they "bowl on their own lanes"* or can otherwise entertain themselves. I don't want to be there for their entertainment, however they are welcomed if they have enough control to not interfere with the adults. At the cookouts they all play together and are no more distracting than any guest at the park with their kids.
*"bowl on their own lanes" is not a literal translation
sherilyn70 said:
Many people just aren't into hanging out with a group of strangers and having to fight to even be heard or remembered. Going somewhere like a park or to an event like Shadowbox (yes, I know people drink there too) is better suited to me. I would prefer to do something adult but without drinking, it cuts down on drama from my experience. :) At the cookouts everyone gets to know everyone else pretty well, except if we are on the disc golf course. | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:56:23 PM | | a book club was attempted and there was very little response. i suppose that's something we don't need to meet in person for. a game night was also tried. maybe a softball team would be fun. | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:25:26 PM |
racefan529 said:
well, that still leaves lunch, picnics, disc golf, and whateer alcohol free eents any body would like to host.
The Cookout and disc golf events are already planned, just like last year.
I've been to quite a few of the bowling events and there is very little drinking. You'll find that the majority of us drink little or none at the events. We all have a ton of fun with0ut having to drink a lot. That's why we hang out. And I've never been to any of the events here lately where people didn't go around introducing themselves and making other feel welcome. Come try another event. Don't let one bad experience ruin it. We are nice people. I promise!! There is a big difference when we go to Rooster's before bowling than at the bowling alley. Those that are bowling are somewhat isolated since the lanes are tight. So anyone going to these should definitely attend the pre-eats session. It's hard to mingle in and out of each lane...
You said we are nice... Does that include me?  | |
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| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:28:11 PM |
a book club was attempted and there was very little response. i suppose that's something we don't need to meet in person for. a game night was also tried. maybe a softball team would be fun.
As I have seen anything with a absolute weekly commitment usually don't have regular attendance. However when it's a pick what weeks you want to attend there have been people that have attended 20+ weeks in a row... | |
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 50 | |
| Getting a diverse age range to attend events
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:48:55 PM | You should never have an absolute commitment thing. Instead for example think of it this way...
Bowling league...5 on a team, 3 bowl on league nite...the others can show up to kibbitz...bowl without being part of the official scoring, etc.. Or not. Only need 3. Handicap based on standard rules already in place. Most bowling establishments will help you set that up.
Pool league...see bowling league. Pool room owners aren't as likely to jump in to 'run' your league, but there are plenty of ways to run it that incorporate handicapping and support people attending when they can make it.
Card league...draw randomly for partners for the nights people show, and all of the points accumulated by the team get awarded to each member of the team. This way, people could come in 1's, 2's and bunches and they simply get paired up at the time.
If there is interest, they will come.
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