| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 3/20/2008 3:18:18 PM |
Phone conversation is a good way to kill a relationship
sure it is.........but isn't it better than taking the time to meet face to face and then finding out they talk like Elmer Fudd? | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 3/20/2008 3:25:33 PM | No WAAAAY! It saves so much time to talk on the phone you can know right away if they are even someone worth going out with. Saves me the hassle of having to get dressed up and nervous about meeting 5000 guys in person just to find out if you had spent 5 min with them on the phone you would not have wasted your time...
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 3/20/2008 4:53:31 PM |
So, I'm on a couple dating sites and my preference is to set up that first date by email/IM. It's hard to explain, but I just find chatting on the phone with a near-stranger uncomfortable. Without having much of a feel for the person, conversations seem more likely to be stilted and awkward.
Hmmmm.....so do you think meeting him for the first time without ever speaking with him be an different than talking to him on the phone for the first time....
I actually think it works in reverse.....i feel more comfortable with talking with a woman on the phone while in the process in organising a first date.....it's a good ice breaker......IMO.
Well......iam more of a voice communicator......i have had my voice for a long time.......longer than i have had my cell phone or computer | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 3/20/2008 5:15:48 PM | Depends on the guy. Some men just dont type well but communicate just fine verbally.
Whatever medium he can communicate best in, I'm really only concerned with what he has to say, not what form he uses to say it. | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 3/20/2008 6:59:16 PM | If the meeting went well then exchange phone numbers.
This makes no sense. I have been late a few times because of work or travel. One time I had to postpone a first date because of a family situation. If I didn't have a man's number, then I might not have been to contact him and let him know that. If a woman is that concerned about giving out her number, then buy a prepaid cell phone and just use it for internet dating.
I can understand not wanting to have extended phone conversations. But what's the big deal about talking to someone on the phone once for a few minutes before meeting up with them. | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 3/20/2008 8:36:06 PM | | So, thats how ya spell awkward...hearing a voice is a sign(for me anyway) that someone has taken enough interest in the op from the e-mails and banter that have been exchanged to that point...It is a little more personal and as others have said, you can usually figure out if theres much of a chance that things may go further....no safety net of seeing what you write and polishing it to perfection...It's also nice to know that someone can really laugh... | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 3/20/2008 10:53:07 PM | Usually I hate the phone.
However, if I do have a solid connection of some sort with the woman I'm dating, then I'm happy to talk on the phone, within reason.
Personally, I don't do the "emotional bit" very well on the phone. And how can I? In order for us Human Beings to express ourselves emotionally, we usually need to be face to face or in direct physical contact.
So the only way I can feel comfortable on the phone, is if we're talking about non-emotive issues.
I'm a very good listener though, so I can listen to emotional issues on the phone, but as I said, I just find it hard to express MY emotions through some cold, electronic device.
Anyway bottom line, taking into account that the phone bill can easily rack up once you've found yourself talking on the phone ALL damn night (and in my last relationship, that happened way too often!), I rather skip that damn phone too and just talk face to face.
Much more humane and potentially a lot more exciting
(And great for your monthly outgoings too!) | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 4/6/2008 10:57:37 PM | I think a phone call or two are totally cool. As long as they aren't drawn out. I prefer to keep the more personalized conversations (IM and Phone) to a minimum until you meet up and figure out if this person is someone you want to see more of.
But what am I saying, every situation is different and I've had awesome first time conversations with girls in the past, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 4/11/2008 6:09:31 PM | Yaaaa, Defenitely. No call. Just skip it altogether.... Makes me wonder if I could do it? Maybe I could...I dont know skip the first date also? (so awkward sometimes) and the first few dates too! (Dont need to get to know each other) How about we skip all these steps that are time consuming, awkward and just jump into the bed thing (hmmm that can be awkward too, but I cant skip everything now can I). Sounds like a great idea to me. Im sure all the girls I chat with will agree. Thanks
Truth is unless you never want to talk to him on the phone, there will eventually have to be a first call anyway, so just get it out of the way. | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 7/31/2008 7:07:25 AM | Totally agree on skipping the phone conversation.....until sufficient emails have been exchanged to 'get to know' one another. Not IM, but emails....so I can review recent conversations. And the way the 'sound' of the feminine voice, no matter her natural intonation, effects me, I need to stave it off as long possible...
Besides, the mystery of meeting someone new for the first time.... and all the potential wrapped up in that expereince.... why partially spoil the surprise with a phone call? | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 7/31/2008 7:22:55 AM | | I've gone both ways - the email to meet, and the email to phone...I think at this point I prefer one or two calls first, just to hear the person's voice - one thing I've learned through internet dating - I am a sucker for voices! | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 7/31/2008 7:24:12 AM | I totally agree!
I hate having to make a phone call with someone I don't know very well .. it can be so awkward! Id much rather get to know them online and then meet face to face. I also like to text back and forth as it's much more convenient for me .. its horrible when someone says 'oh ..I can't talk right now .. call me back ..' I know if Im having a phone conversation I don't like to be interrupted by demands from my son or pets!! so texting or email can be a much easier option of communcating in private without interruptions :) | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 7/31/2008 7:27:07 AM | Personally, I'd never meet anyone w/out a phone conversation first. I need to hear their voice to see if I like it. It also tells tons about their intelligence and how well they follow a conversation and know the right thing to say. Also, it shows if they speak fast enough or spend 10 min. thinking about every word which drives me crazy. Also, my time is valuable and if I know in advance I'm not gonna like a guy or he's not gonna like me I don't wanna bother going out. The phone tells alot about each of us to the other and for me it's mandatory.
But to each their own, if you don't think it benefits you or your date to speak on phone, skip it. No big deal, right? | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 7/31/2008 7:29:18 AM | | My vote is no phone...I will do anything to avoid talking on the phone. I just can not stand to talk on the phone. Just come by if you want to chat. I'm so bad my answering machine goes like this: "Brenda pick up the phone I know your there, I can see your car." Beep. "Brenda it's me, pick up the phone, I know your there." Beep. "Brenda why don't you ever answer your phone, it's me, call me back." And etc. I'd just dump it but I need it for my internet connection. | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 7/31/2008 10:29:47 AM | I highly prefer to talk in person.
Maybe it's my accent/pronounciation, maybe it's the ability to see my date's reactions, IDK.
There is just something about meeting in person that phone doesn't allow for.
I don't mind meeting in a public place, and wish for my partner to be wee bit adventurous as well. So if he is uncomfortable, we wouldn't get along anyway.
Online dating looks like this:
Emails, exchange numbers, talking for a while, you meet, things go to shyte, dude(or chick) badgers you for months afterwards using the info they know... Brrr...
You all read those stories on forums, no? | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 7/31/2008 10:49:06 AM | | I'd rather skip the email AND phone. I'm a face to face person. I hate talking on phones and on the internet it's near impossible to tell exactly what kind of person is on the other end. As the saying goes... on the internet you can be anybody you want to be. So I'd rather skip all the bull and lollygagging. | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 7/31/2008 10:55:16 AM | I think the sooner you can move things to the real world, the better. Phone calls, emails, im's, whatever... mean nothing if there is no mutual attraction. And some people are better in person, more open, easier to have a conversation when you can see eye balls.
Just my preference. | |
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| Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations?
Posted: 7/31/2008 12:49:04 PM | | I see nothing wrong with having 1-2 brief phone conversations before meeting up. Sometimes you can figure out things by phone that you can't by email such as voice tone or ability to carry a conversation. I definitely think people should exchange phone numbers before meeting up. What happens if someone is late or has to postpone the meeting at the last minute. Without a phone, you may not be able to reach the other person. If a woman is weary of giving out her number, then she could buy a prepaid cell phone and use it just for dating. | |
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