| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:43:22 PM | nah..I think when you really care about someone.....you like them just the way they are..and they feel the same.
You put up with little quirks..
You are still the person who you always were...just more accepting. | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:47:55 PM | | im hoping all these must bes and must not bes are just the by products of flaws in previous partners.....lol.....i dont think they will find anyone who is truly like the person they want.......when i see those things in a profile it makes me think she will be demanding. | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:21:11 AM | | Rain - you are absolutely right. When you really care about someone, you do things they enjoy just to see the smile on their face. Your reward is they do things with you they might not really care for either. Overtime, you both have a true foundation of respect and hopefully a very good relationship...... | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:48:41 AM | | I wouldnt change who I am as a person for anyone, but I am not what I eat or what I listen to or where I go , etc. Trying new things should be part of a relationship. It allows you to experience part of life as your partner sees it. The key is tolerance and becoming accepting of your partners differences and not always trying to mold them into an opposite sex version of yourself. | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:00:15 AM | Absolutely I adjust to things. My profile has some general info not meant to necessarily exclude, but give some inkling of how I am in general. If someone has an interest I don't share but can repect, then I either can start to share it or leave them space to continue their enjoyment and vice versa. Sometimes those things make someone even more endearing to you  | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:17:59 AM | | Everyone has their comfort zone. In some people it is wider than others. I have a pretty wide and adjustable parameter. But as I get older, I notice tha alot of my dates are really set in their lifestyle and their ways. I usually do conform to their program if I am dating them. But when it becomes too stifling and they are not willing to bend even just a little bit my way, I leave. | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:42:36 AM | All the time.
I'll change certain things--like now, I'm going to bed earlier and getting up earlier because HE does. I'd rather sleep with him than sleep without him.
But I won't change other things: I would never start going to church for anyone, since I don't believe in god. Just because he likes, I don't know, wax beans, doesn't mean *I* have to like them, too.
And he makes adjustments as well, along similar lines. | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/8/2008 2:58:37 PM | | I can go with the flow for the most part-long as the change is presented in a respectful manner and its gradual. | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/8/2008 3:04:16 PM | | Of course. Certain life style adjustments are normal and are to happen. Compromises, or learning to accept or like (reciprocally) some of the things another person enjoys or values. Some things are beyond reasonable compromise however, and they may vary from person to person. | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/8/2008 3:41:52 PM | Compromise is good - but not beyond the point where you're compromising yourself. It takes two - both giving and both taking - to make it work.
Steve | |
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| Do you adjust in a relationship?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:16:29 PM | | I can adjust on most things. When it comes to finances, and hard core sports, I'm pretty stubborn. Watching sports will bore me to tears. Finances? It depends on our value system, if he wants everything dumped into one pot, then I'm pretty stubborn on that. | |
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