| How many times have you been called 'THE ONE'?
Posted: 1/8/2008 12:59:23 PM | Too many times, it is now a red flag for me... The whole concept of "the One" scares the crap out of me...I really don't want that much responsibility and it usually tells me that this person is not realistic when it comes to relationships.
It's like being put on a pedestal... nice for a bit but the fall really hurts, and one WILL fall if the the other has an unrealistic view of people and relationships.
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| How many times have you been called 'THE ONE'?
Posted: 1/8/2008 1:11:56 PM | | married once, proposed to 6 or 7 times, told and believed I was "the one" who ended up breaking my heart once. It would take alot for me to believe that any more, and I don`t believe in that whole thing any more. Relationships take alot of work and compromise and commitment. It`s not a fairy tale. | |
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| How many times have you been called 'THE ONE'?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:51:46 PM |
I gotta believe it when I say it, sorta makes me come off as a bit unappreciative sometimes though because I won't compliment a woman either unless I really mean it and I think doing it too much makes it disingenuous.
Not at all, this is perfect. Unappreciative, no. Sincere, yes, honest, yes.
It has GOT to be heartfelt, otherwise it's pointless.
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| How many times have you been called 'THE ONE'?
Posted: 1/8/2008 6:36:45 PM | I've been trying to be "the One" for several years now. I'm finding that traveling between dimensions can be a bit tricky though. I want to know where Jet Li got that chair he uses... oh, wait...
If you're asking about the "other 'One'" then I think that answer would be only, uh... one. That was within a couple of months and having only met a few times. I was somewhat leery. But I figured some others might have a better sense of such things than I. However, being a guy who does not decide quite so quickly, she turned out to be rather impatient. So within another month or two I became the un-One. Guess I dodged a bullet there! Wish I'd been as agile some 14-15 years earlier. LOL
Now, if anyone knows where Jet Li got his chair to travel between the parallel universes please email me.
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| How many times have you been called 'THE ONE'?
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:13:04 PM | | Once when i was proposed too. 15 yrs of marriage & then poof im not the one anymore, there is another the one. I really feel that the one doesnt exist and if he/she does they are on the other side of the equator. | |
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| How many times have you been called 'THE ONE'?
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:49:40 PM | | One man told me after dating a few months that "I'm the perfect one for him" in every way. He even hypothetically asked, "If he took a job out of state, would I go". I told him I would go anywhere that love took me. However, a week later, his baggage got in the way. He just couldn't get past his two horrible marriages, one long and one short, where exes took him for all his retirement funds. He said he just couldn't believe that I could really be so different... A line? A cop out? Or BS? | |
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| How many times have you been called 'THE ONE'?
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:30:23 PM | ggirl101 wrote:
How common is it to believe that your date is the one?
I have had only one experience in my life where I fully felt I had found
"the one".
But over the years I've came to see that any time we feel we have
found "the one", it is simply a trick our genes are pulling on us,
and as much a temporary state of illusion as being completely
drunk while thinking we are still stone cold sober.
And while it is wonderful to "be in love", and equally wonderful
to enjoy the time when we might feel we have found "the one",
it is perhaps wise of us to remember that these feelings are only
a temporary condition, that the bloom of romance eventually
fades, that even being drunk leads back to a condition of being
sober, and that the illusion of feeling we have found "the one" is
just that -- illusion.
And when we can appreciate that, then we can keep ourselves
somewhat grounded, even when we feel like our head is in the
clouds.
CJ | |
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