| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/7/2008 1:58:28 PM |
I don't want their virginity, I just want the box it came in.
OMG!! That's too funny. I'm going to remember that one. Good job!  | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/8/2008 12:02:32 AM | "You're 25 and you've been dating virgins. Hey! Are you the 25 year old who was dating minors *LOL* Ha ha!"
If you must know, I have been in 3 long term relationships with girls who were virgins. The first relationship lasted for over 2.5 years. The second one lasted for just under a year, and I am currently in a relationship of over a year and a half. Add up all the time, plus hiatus' between girlfriends, and you have a reasonable amount of time for someone my age. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/14/2008 5:40:57 PM | I just wanna say I'm still a virgin... but I know a lot about sex. I don't feel scared or freaked out at all and I'm very sexually aware. I'm just waiting for a guy a like enough to be in a realtionship with full stop, not really a guy I'd trust to have sex with. It's not because I don't want to it's just because I haven't found a guy I really like yet and that's all. Granted my confidence isn't much but I know I'd feel pretty comfortable once in the swing of things 
I guess I'll just need to wait and find out if I'm any good in bed though 
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/14/2008 6:14:05 PM | Goshi & Mishi: Good for you. I hope that when you're ready, you meet someone who's makes it worth the wait. This thread seems to have drawn some virgin bashing, so I just wanted to say that it's cool.
I've never actually been with one. Probably a little late in my career as a casanova to be stumbling into one though. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/14/2008 6:40:30 PM | Virgins tend to not know what they're doing, have less confidence, etc. In my experience, I would take an experienced girl over a virgin any day.
More trouble than they're worth.
Personally I don't want to be a sex instructor
I guess that's part of my issue with the whole virgin thing. I hate having a girl that is "attached" to me. Ugh. It's like some kind of puppy
I completely agree. Im not looking to raise a child quite yet.
virgins are scary, not something i look for at all
so many warm caring males on POF.....
One of the most important times in a a young lady's life to becoming a Woman and you guys just shrug it off like it's an uncooked burger you got from McDonald's.
Special.
If I care about Her as a Man It won't matter if She is a Virgin or not.
just hard work bro, especially having to deal with some of them who would end up crying because of the pain (can't deal with that!!!)
this one really takes the cake..........
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:33:05 PM | | Well infinitycsm I don't prefer virgins myself. Honestly I often wonder about the moral integrity of those who brag about taking a girls virginity. The only time I would consider it is if I'm in a long-term relationship with one. The problem with that is the importance of sex in a healthy relationship. I like to know that we complement each other sexually before getting into anything too serious. That leaves me in a catch 22 situation and thus why I tend to avoid most virgins. I hope that helps answer your question a little. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:38:01 PM | A virgin is a beautiful thing. Someone who actually makes a decision not to give in to temptation because she wants to save that aspect, a most intimate and private gift, of herself to share with someone who she deems worthy of it. Thats awesome.
Most of these posters are guys who want to just DO a girl, so they will want someone who is experienced and will give them a good experience right then and there. A virgin has never been sexually with a man, so she does not have expectations, baggage, pain from previous harm/experiences, and else to impede the pure joy of sex. She is a clear page, unadulterated. Thats a GOOD thing, not bad...I would definitely want a girl who has not been DONE by a bunch of dudes. Plus, I don't like the idea of eating where other guys have not only put their peter, but creamed in there too!
Its all about what you want: If ur sport f@#king, u want a skilled athlete...if u want a longterm partner, a virgin is the best choice... for me that it... if there are any left that'll have me! haha. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/14/2008 9:39:22 PM | I have to strongly disagree with
if u want a longterm partner, a virgin is the best choice... for me that it... if there are any left that'll have me! haha. My first thought was that there was a double standard in your post, that a man would go and become experienced, and then turn to a woman who was a virgin once he was ready to settle down.
Then I stopped and had a look at how it applies to myself. I'm not a virgin, so are you saying that I'm no longer able to have a long term relationship? Nope. Don't accept that. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/14/2008 10:51:43 PM |
I took a guys virginity
he was 24
an exceptionally good
thanks porno!
good times,good times
wow, lucky for him :P
I've heard a few stories about that as well, guess porno does help some how. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/14/2008 11:50:25 PM | Sex isn't everything.
I work with older men and women and your parts-fall apart. They get limp, smaller, can't get up any higher like when you were in your 20's or 30's. Hell you're lucky if you can take it out to pee in a urinal. Soooo where's that hot mama with the tight a$$ and perky ones to give you the love? They're with younger hot men. So immagine yourself now. 80's. 90's. (if you live that long) and you are alone. ahh the conquests you must have had. So you are now old, you can't tie your shoes let alone go to the bathroom without making a mess of yourself, you can only eat peas IF you can get them in your mouth and your dentures keep on falling off when you yell at the neighbors dog to quit $hitting in your yard. If you have family, they have family of their own and they are trying to decide where to put you. If you dont well, then maybe there is someone like a caring neighbor or someone from a local volunteer group helping fogeys go grocery shopping. Now...wouldn't it have been nice if you had given that shy, quiet, pure virgin a chance back then? Was not being able to give the best head Truly a high standard for you..since you can hardly ever get it up anyways???? Wasn't it worth learning patience for those less experienced in sexual intercorse? There's someone to care for you when you were sick. There was someone to cook for you and make the house smell good for you when you came home from work. Someone who even though didn't know much about what snowblowing was, could make your whole body, mind and soul explode with love and appreciation for them becuase of how they make you feel loved and appreciated in All ways sexual AND non-sexual? Someone who was your support system when things got rough and others turn that cowardly stance and back away from you when times got bad.
Yes sex is a great perk of being with someone. But it's not everything.
I gave (not lost thank you) my virginity and yes we are not together any longer...I'm happy to say we parted on good terms and he is probably oneof the best guys I'll ever know and I still wish him good things to this day. He was patient, and caring and yes he kissed my tears when I cried. We went slow becuase we loved eachother and wanted to take our time making something special. It was well worth it. (sorry ladies, he's married now so I cant' recommend him).
Part of me regrets giving it up to someone that I'm not married to, sharing that love and companionship to..but then again part of me is glad I gave it to someone good becuase the first thing out of a freshly deflowered (and the seasoned woman) mouth is "it hurt and it always the worst your first time!"
hmmmmmmmmm... . hmmmm.. . gee. I wonder wh--nahhhh never mind. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/15/2008 8:20:02 AM | well OP, you are the one that seems to think virgins are a big deal, the rest of us think they suc, don't want one. bad girls are far better and lots more fun.
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/16/2008 8:21:13 AM | honestly, i would prefer to find a virgin problem is finding one that is not only over the age of consent, but finsihed going through those major brain chemical changes and at her matured state. doesn't mean i'm gonna shun those who have gotten laid before just to speak about a general preference in favor of a virgin over an experienced woman.
Wwhy now would i want a virgin? simple, you say she doesn't know what she's doing, i say she isn't tainted and used to what some OTHER guy(s) like and assume i like it and may in fact totally turn me off.
one thing you know about a virgin, as long as she's not stickin needles, she's almost guaranteed to be free of std's
i'll be open and honest probably very stupid but here it goes
i had one encounter that wasn't a full encounter, hell call me pseudo-virgin if you will
half way in and she starts up the damn motor and won't shut it off, i can't stay in dammit, not a great first try eh?, and then som thing she was tryna do were totally uncomfortable and ugh i couldn't even stand attempting to let her go down wtf is with poking my rocks like reset buttons? it's not a damn squeeze pump, ok enough ranting on that..
so you can see where i'm going with this and my point on the desirability of a virgin. in addition especially for a guy with no or almost no experience, to be compaired or to feel the need to be better than most or all those before is just terrible, and the concern that if you're not the best she'll leave and find herself a good hard F*** elsewhere.
imagination and learning off eachother as well and maybe checkign a few books(no not for me i prefer imagination and learning from eachother) are probably just as rewarding if not mroe than having soeone 'fully trained' by some previous partner.
it would turn me off for a girl to say "do this i just love it when guys do it this way to me" i think i would then put myself back in my pants go home and listen to the song "you and your hand tonight"
personally it would make me feel great to find that special someone and especially of she were a virgin hat once we got to THAT point that i am her first, i am her one, they guy that popped her and for her to be the first to make me..'finish' so to speak
well there you have it, i surely hope this post is appreciated as in posting it i have socially sacrificed myself to be outcast and ridiculed, but posted for the benefit of all to see in the mind of at least one guy who prefers to find a virgin, let it be known that yes i have a libido and at the same time great patience, love before lust | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/16/2008 8:27:18 AM | | my experience with virgins has involved stopping and starting because of the pain they experience, clumsiness, and my groin and balls covered in blood. whilst it is an honor to be chosen by a woman to be the one to take her virginity, i'd rather not. when i was younger it was a badge of honour, but now i really think i'd just say thanks but no thanks | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/16/2008 11:38:01 AM | Yeah right...Big Deal...
At my age, I'm not going to find any virgins without breaking laws and risk landing in prison...so I don't worry about this topic much... | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/16/2008 12:25:03 PM | no clue as I never been with a virgin but it may be that there simply no bagage with one
sadly a lot of baggage come from losers who deflower for the thrill of it and not for life long love | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/16/2008 12:40:19 PM | I love virgins. sure an experienced woman is more fun and all that, but taking a girls virginity is something i would enjoy on a completely different plateau. Its not about the physical pleasure that you get from the sex, because its not about the sex. Its about power, its about control, its about you taking possession of something priceless, its complete domination and the psychological thrill makes you feel almost godlike.
which is absolutely no different than rape. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/16/2008 12:48:00 PM | gunner 57
so many warm caring males on POF.....
One of the most important times in a a young lady's life to becoming a Woman and you guys just shrug it off like it's an uncooked burger you got from McDonald's.
the REAL men don't. all children like mcdonalds, so they compare | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/16/2008 1:13:25 PM | Well I've had my share of virgins and my experience's have been memorable I
can name every single one of them and it's true that they do get really emotional
and they can be a hand full... But what woman is not a hand full? lol! I like teaching
and some of the best sex has been with first timers! But I don't descriminate Mamis with experience there's always room for improvement
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/16/2008 8:21:28 PM |
I love virgins. sure an experienced woman is more fun and all that, but taking a girls virginity is something i would enjoy on a completely different plateau. Its not about the physical pleasure that you get from the sex, because its not about the sex. Its about power, its about control, its about you taking possession of something priceless, its complete domination and the psychological thrill makes you feel almost godlike.
which is absolutely no different than rape.
thank god for age category. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/17/2008 6:53:46 PM |
A virgin has never been sexually with a man, so she does not have expectations, baggage, pain from previous harm/experiences, and else to impede the pure joy of sex
I disagree...just because a virgin has not had intercourse, does not mean that his/her previous life experience didn't give them baggage or pain. I personally have a hard time allowing myself to share all of my emotions with those around me, let alone potential mates, because of past experiences that resulted in emotional pain and baggage. I'm a virgin because I haven't met a guy willing to stick it out long enough to get intimate enough in our relationship to have sex, and plan to continue to wait for the right person for me. I could have been done with it long ago if I wanted to have emotionless, unconnected sex with someone that didn't care about me, just to get laid
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/17/2008 8:17:54 PM | very scary topic.. considering most virgins would be under 20... so when i see men commenting that are over 30... i think.. ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww...
shaking my head here at some of the comments.. i love coming to these forums.. u yanks think... differently.. thats all i have to say.. | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/19/2008 12:07:17 PM |
And if you get some virgins on Earth, it's like Sweet cuz you don't have to blow shit up to get them. O.k. I'm convinced. Virgins are "the big deal!" | |
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| So what's the big deal about virgins?
Posted: 1/19/2008 12:22:03 PM | | everyone is a virgin at some point. I guess I'd say if they are the right person there is plenty of time for perfection. I tend to wonder what the big deal is anyway, do you ask every women you come in contact with how many partners they have or have not had? | |
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