| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:25:19 AM | Count yourself lucky if you even get more than one date.. I can get one date then If I'm not willing to give it up the first date..that's it....bye bye.. | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:29:32 AM | My new outlook for 2008 - if it's a fun date and you had a good time, take it for what it is, just that and thank God for not being stood up or groped or bored. If there's a call and plans that actually come to fruition for that second date, that's just a bonus. Don't take life so seriously, when it's right, it will fall in to place.  | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:34:16 AM | I thought it was just me, with the one date thing. I wish I could figure it out. I send out all the right singals good converstion and talk after the date JUST don't have the second date. One man said that because I didn't put out after the second date that I was a tease?????? I just don't want the games!  | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 11:43:16 AM | Omg I am in shock...a guy i went out with last night is meeting me at 9 tonight...for a 2nd date...woo hoo !!!!
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Posted: 1/6/2008 11:47:44 AM | That is great news tiggerkaz!
Now don't go out with stars your eyes and love in your heart. Just have a great time and when the date is over, turn the page, let what is meant to be play it's role. This way, if he doesn't call for a third date and you never hear from him again, then you chalk it up as another one and move on to a better day!
Good luck!
Blessings go with you,
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Posted: 1/6/2008 12:12:03 PM |
I so cannot understand why
I believe some of the guys you are dating might not be ready to date. They could want something that they realise you don't want when you go on the first meet. I'd say try to be less formal on the date. Not saying you weren't. But a lot of times guys might take your lead. If you don't want a commitment they probably won't either.
if the date ends right after dinner or movie ( or early) and he doesn't suggest continueing elseware - like coffee or a walk.
I have to agree. It does show interest beyound the first date. But if he doesn't offer for a meet after the initial one trying initiating it yourself. He might be offering to meet after the initial meet, whether he wants to or not, because he thinks that is what you expect of him. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 12:15:45 PM | So men can read my mind lol
I don't think they can.
If they could read my mind...then they would tell that i dont want them to say they want to meet again...unless they actually mean it.
This guy i am seeing again tonight...i gave him my mobile number...but deliberately did not take his...so then he does the chasing...he wont feel pressurised and he's in control.
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/6/2008 12:23:43 PM | | Good luck with your date tiggerkaz, sometimes it's when your just ready to give up, then something good happens. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 12:27:29 PM | No tiggerkaz, nobody can read minds, yet!
That is the best way I think, let them call if interested. I don't call guys at the beginning. Some men like this and other men don't. Some men like to be chased, especially the players. So it's hard to figure out who the players are until you start playing. By not first calling eliminates the majority of them. I think it has to do with the generation in which they grew up in. lol... not sure about this.
Just don't have any expectations, then you will never feel hurt when other men don't have the decency to contact you again after a few dates. When you meet the right one it will work out like magic!
At least your getting dates, allot of us women are at the mercy of the gods... lol...
Have a great time on your date.
Your worth is your own, so take care of YOU!
Chela | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 12:29:43 PM | i must be different. if i want to see someone again .. then i say i do .
if i dont' then i say IT was not NICE to meet you.. joel | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 12:40:49 PM | I had lots of guys apparently desperate to meet me...date would go well and at the end of the date they would make arrangements for 2nd date...then poof vanish off the face of the planet....
I think some people just have a difficult time being HONEST. They think it will hurt you to leave it at, "Thanks...enjoyed our chat." There's nothing wrong with either of you...there's just no mutual attraction going on. Personally, I would prefer NOT to discuss a second date on the first, unless we've been making out like crazy asses all night long. (Hee..wouldn't THAT be cool???) Just meet, talk without discussion of date number two. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 12:49:31 PM | Why would you want you think Allibooboo that's its cool to make out like "crazy asses all night long" on the first date? I don't understand how that would be so cool?
Why would you want to do such a thing with a stranger? Maybe, that is why most women don't get second dates or phone calls?
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Posted: 1/6/2008 12:59:20 PM | If you spend all your time and energy trying to figure out those who are Not your mate, you may not be available when that 'right' one for you comes along.
For a date to be a good one - Both parties must feel it. There are lots of people who don't know how to simply say "Thanks for the date, I wish you lots of success in finding your partner. I'm sorry though, I don't see us as a match." I have said those words to a couple dates. One accused me of being a player because I didn't feel the connection! lol .. just silly ..
Hell there are people who go out for months and even years and it doesn't work out for them .. blahlbahblah - one date is nothing! In fact - I think if a person puts too much importance on that one date, they are likely toooo needy for me!
Dating is generally what people do in order to determine compatibility. I would much rather a man who doesn't "feel it" not play with my feelings. I'm a big girl, so if the first date is the only date - not a big deal.
Wouldn't you rather spend that energy and time on and with someone who Does want you? I would.
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Posted: 1/6/2008 12:59:32 PM | | WELL , IF YOUR GIVING "IT" UP THAT FIRST DATE THEN OF COURSE THEIR NOT GONNA CALL YOU,....AND I'VE LEARNED THAT THESE GUYS WILL SAY ANYTHING TO GET WHAT THEY WANT, THEY WILL PROMISE YOU THE MOON AND THE STARS UNFORTUNATELY FOR THEM, THERE ARE SOME OF US THAT ARE JUST A LITTLE TOO SMART FOR THAT....THATS ALL THESE **stardS WANT, YOU GIVE THEM WHAT THEY WANT AND THEY ARE GOOD UNTIL THEY FIND THE NEXT ONE.....THIS IS A VIRTUAL MEAT MARKET!...I KNOW THAT THERE ARE SOME OF US TRULY SEARCHING FOR LOVE AND HONESTY BUT THERE ARE A LOT WHO JUST SETTLE FOR THE EMPTINESS OF JUMPING AROUND TO DIFFERENT PARTNERS ...HAVENT YOU HEARD THE SAYING "WHY BUY THE COW WHEN THE MILK IS FREE?" | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 1:00:45 PM | | My problem has been that guys come on pretty stong at first meeting me. After a date or two we actually make plans for a date and then they stand me up. Last guy called in the AM and asked to meet me for a drink that evening. He never showed up and never called. Would not answer his phone. What is up with guys making plans and then standing you up? | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 1:19:31 PM | | I had a number of first dates, and I always tell them I enjoyed their company (most of the times I do) ... doesn't mean I wanna see them again ... | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 1:21:31 PM | I dont understand the dating timetable.
If there is enough physical chemistry and interest that you're 'making out like crazy asses all night long' then one would assume that it doesnt matter if its a first date.
It would be rare for a man to inspire that much response from me in so short a time, but hey if it's groovy enough, why keep score? | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 1:22:34 PM | | I wonder if the internet was not available and if people met through friends, etc. if people would date longer before deciding that the other person did not have the right chemistry, etc. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 1:33:35 PM | | No because in the real world you just dont even consider people you dont have physical chemistry with. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 1:40:51 PM | | If is is a blind date set up by friends you don't know about chemistry until you meet them either, I just wonder if people would be more tolerant i.e. well he has brown eyes and I like blue eyes but other than that he seems great, when if one meets someone from online, they think that they can go online immediately after he leaves and find Mr. Perfect with blue eyes. | |
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