| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:33:24 AM | I am sorry the men you have encountered have not been upfront with you. If I am not interested after the first date when they go in for a kiss, I give my cheek and bid them a good night. Sound cold? I just do not want to waste anyone's time nor mine.
I always send a follow-up email thanking then for the date or nice to have met them and that I think they are a nice person and I am sure there is someone perfect for them out there it is just not me.
People that cannot do that just need to grow up. Finding a love connection is like finding a needle in a haystack. If we are lucky we will find that special one.
Pay attention to his eyes, are they on you or floating about? Does he lean in for the kiss at the end of the date? Is he talkative? Does the date end quickly? Does he look annoyed? These are all signs and should tell you where his head is at.
Good luck and keep on keeping on, he is out there! | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:35:33 AM | We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds. | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:41:27 AM | Believe it or not, it's actually HARD to reject someone. Sometimes it seems that the NICEST thing to do is fade away.
[cross-posted from a GUY who said the exact same thing--seems we really ARE the same species after all!] | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/7/2008 6:49:13 PM | Unfortunately, dating online is a risk. If you don't get a second date, chalk it up to experience and maybe a blessing in disquise. The guy might not be worth the second date anyway. Stay true to yourself and I believe you will find the right man. No one ever said it would happen overnight. True treasures are hard to find.
Good luck and don't let anyone tell you that you are not worth it. You are. | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/7/2008 7:49:38 PM | | I agree!! So far the experiences I've had on here have been as deceptive as well. No one knows how to be honest or has integrity anymore - they just portray themselves that way in their profile & then after a couple of dates, they don't have the honesty, guts or decency to tell you how they really feel, even if you ask them point blank! I have found a lot of men who are truly angry at women for whatever reason, but they hide this anger very, very, well, which makes them a true misogynist!! Some have had an argument with their ex or whoever, & it's as if they get online to get back at the ex when they really shouldn't be on here at all, except to maybe talk, but they need to change their profile from dating, etc... it's ridiculous! So far, I've gotten a commitment phobic guy & a major player, both of which were very good at hiding who they really were & these were men in their mid 40's, one of them being a cop & a grandfather who protrayed himself as Mr. Responsible!!! It's quite pathetic!! Yeh, I've had enuf!!! | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 8:30:37 PM | Perfecting the art of on line flirting and dating is definitely a challenge. I had those dates that "disappeared" or "never showed" in the beginning and some dates that I was wishing would disappear. (hee hee) I have since learned how to detect real "men of honor" and I am now dating great guys regularly! (at least 95% honorable) I recently fell hard for one of my dates from the moment I met him. He, too, was soooooo very into me as well. We have spent lots of time together within a period of two months and it has been "heaven". I finally broke down and asked him if he was dating other people and he looked into my eyes and said "no". Then I asked him if he was planning to date other people and he hesitated and then said "maybe". I was instantly thrown from my fantasy world back into reality. I am now the person who disappeared. Here is the rule for dating on line:
"A wise girl listens but doesn't believe, kisses but doesn't fall in love, and leaves before she is left.♥"
(Remember to enjoy each and every moment as if it was your last.)
Angela | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 6:35:55 AM | [Remember that many people in this day and age don't use the manners their mothers taught them. Maybe she didn't teach them? ]
I have to admit I have found the "vanishing act" to be very frustrating as well, but as I was reading this I had an epiphany of sorts ... Are they doing exactly what their mothers taught? How often as a child did you hear the words ... "If you can't say anything nice say nothing at all" ... Sound familiar?
1 ... They are being nice because you're are right there in front of them, and they feel as if they must say something, so they choose from the "nice" category
2 ... Then later they say "nothing at all"
This doesn't make it easier to take, but in my mind seems a bit more understandable.
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 6:38:10 AM | AngelFireandice........"A wise girl listens but doesn't believe, kisses but doesn't fall in love, and leaves before she is left.♥"
(Remember to enjoy each and every moment as if it was your last.)
Angela
Nicely put....... guess the most of us have had a taste of this on these dating sites.. fun while it lasts...... | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 6:45:32 AM |
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
We don't know. We can't read minds.
Did you annoy him with too many emails....persistance always works for me.
Did you annoy him with too many emails....persistance always works for me.
Did you annoy him with too many emails....persistance always works for me.
Did you annoy him with too many emails....persistance always works for me.
Did you annoy him with too many emails....persistance always works for me.
quoted by Ave Caesar
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 1:22:35 PM | | I think the moral of the story is take it all with a HUGE grain of salt. If they say nothing, I assume nothing is what they want. Even if they say "lets get together again, dont believe it until it happens. Sad but true! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 3:16:36 PM | Face it we never learn how to date in school. For that matter we seldom learn basic ethics concerning how we treat one another. Are we all a holes like myself???????????????????????      | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 9:18:09 PM |  i think you were lucky happened to me .justfound out early he was a creep | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:33:23 PM | hi tigger
behavours:
if he'd said after a first date, 'That was fun.
Call me sometime,' which could be guy code for, 'I'm not interested, but I'm too chicken to come right out and say it.'
If it takes him 7 whole days to get off his lazy butt and call you, then he doesn't deserve for you to waste your breath on an explanation as to why that's not acceptable to you. He screwed up and he should know it. I would just say, 'Oh hi. Thanks for calling but I don't really have time to chat. Life is really busy for me right now. Take care!'
OR Try saying something like, 'Wow, [insert name here] , I've gotta be honest. When you didn't call for a week I kind of assumed we weren't going to be hanging out again, and I've booked my calendar up with other stuff. So no, I can't make it to dinner on Friday or whichever day, but if you want to try this again, give me a call next week."
This sends the clear message that you haven't been waiting around for his call, your life is busy and full, and if he REALLY wants to see you again, he's gonna have to get his act together and WORK FOR IT! | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 5:14:04 AM | LOL! Little did I realize posting here had some effect on the date I previously mentioned. So she finally wrote me and told me she had no intention of dating. I told her I think I figured that out when you wouldn't respond to a simple christmas greeting two weeks ago. But she wasn't so busy she couldn't read my posts in here. Apparently she's been doing it all along. Cold. Very cold.
So much for romancing a stone. Note to self -- Virgos are cryogenic, at least to my sign.
I think I'll nickname this one...  The Virgo that Stole Christmas. Mocking, of course, the Grinch that stole Christmas. Maybe she gave her brother two uses lumps of coal for this christmas!
"You're a mean one, Mrs Virgo
You really are a heel!
Your heart is full of maggots
You've got poison in your soul, Mrs Virgo
And I wouldn't touch you with a 99 and half foot pole!"....etc...etc  | |
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Posted: 1/9/2008 7:12:09 AM | | ms.tiggerkaz it is their lose.I do understand how it hurts as we r ppl not puppets and we have emotions but alot go on animal attraction or their level of lust for that person supplied only by their eyes.It is a shame and it is deceptive as well as misleading to convey to another ur interest when in fact u have none.When grown men tell a woman,or vise versa,that they want to see them again when they don't then it is deception and it is irresponsible and I can fully understand why u would expect a man of our age to be a man of his word as it would seem by now he has played his games or sowed his oats or whatever they say but I guess some just can't grow up mentally for whatever reason.Which means those of us who r sincere in out intentions have to become sign readers and able to read between every sentence spoken to us from the opposite sex and it would be a plus if we could jump tall buildings in a single bound as well but this is just my opinion.In any case I wish u a very prosperous new yr and may u find love and may it fulfill ur every expectation.May God bless you. | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 9:50:14 AM | | Sweetheart, expect absolutely nothing and you will minimize disappointment and also be pleasantly surprised when something good comes from dating on POF. Good things do come along now and then. I would also suggest being pretty darned selective about who you go out with. | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 10:23:10 AM | Guys and girls read posts and can be put off by what they read. I know I did some lovely venting about dates on here. You do have to remember possible future dates will read these things too. Just because someone takes time to do forums, doesn't mean they necessarily want to take the time to respond to an email. Private emails sometimes take more thought and they don't want to offend the person they are replying to. In some cases you are condemned if you do respond not interested and condemned if you don't respond at all.
All you can do is be who you are and if that isn't good enough for your date, it isn't meant to be. | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 2/9/2008 7:13:07 PM | Sometimes it is better that way.He missed the opportunity to get to know a great person.And saved you to get to know a jerk!
Also people chose avoidance instead of telling you that he was not interested to go further he just avoided you.
Now move on and be happy
Soleille | |
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| One date then nothing!!!
Posted: 2/9/2008 8:15:52 PM | | I think you should think the opposite. Tell yourself that they felt you were too good for them and they knew they weren't good enough for you. They thought you were too nice of a person for them, because they are like that. Walk away tall and proud. Who gives a shit what others think, they didn't deserve you anyway. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 8:29:37 PM | ^^ hear hear!!
"You're a mean one, Mrs Virgo
You really are a heel!
Your heart is full of maggots
You've got poison in your soul, Mrs Virgo
And I wouldn't touch you with a 99 and half foot pole!"....etc...etc
loooved that--thanks!! (extremely curious to know which gal this is...) | |
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