| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/6/2008 1:44:22 PM | | I've taken jazz, tap, ballet, and ballroom lessons in the past. I don't do any of that now. I love to freestyle dance now.I think that is what most women consider dancing. I have had bfs that didn't dance. I can handle it solo or with someone who loves to dance. If I meet someone and he doesn't dance , it"s fine with me. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/6/2008 1:58:30 PM | Again, Eddie, I think you're right, but just over analyzing. Bottom line is really that you kind of have to put SOMETHING in the interest section (at least, if you want to spark email conversation) and so its just like saying "softball" ie, I play softball once in a while, and even though I'm no Mickey Mantle, I think its fun. A lot of women like flowers as well, but few expect to receive them on a daily or weekly basis.
If someone is an accomplished dancer, or dances organizationally once a week or more, then they'll probably elaborate in the 'about me' section. To those women, dancing will probably score you more points; to all the rest, its likely irrelevant.
Lets face it... most people don't want to admit how boring they are online. They need to put something in the interest space. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/6/2008 2:04:40 PM | I danced Ballet Jazz and BallRoom for... 8 or so years. then I moved. There was not a dance studio in that town. there was also no re-enacting troupe.
So I stopped doing them all with lessons. And since going from four or five classes a week. to... nothing but dancing at home. I gained quite a bit of weight. i can still do the moves. I still HAVE the muscles and the flexibility under there.
I can dance quite well to trance music. Backbends and fluid movements are easy.
I can still do a split and put my foot behind my head while overweight... so i don't know where the stigma of fat girls can't dance comes from. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 3:12:31 PM | lol I think this thread is getting a bit funny...I mean, who cares if someone has it on their profile that they like to dance. Even if all they do is go to a club and "shake" it. Who really cares if it's lessons they've taken or an actual dance or if they just like to let loose and have a good time. Isn't that what dancing is all about...having fun?
Bottom line...if you don't like the way the ladies move on the dance floor, don't watch them. If you don't like women to put it in their profile unless they've taken lessons...ask if they have lessons under their belt...if not...move on. Seems pretty simple to me. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 3:14:04 PM | | Well I am a large girl, and I can dance!! I studied contempary and latin. Do I do it as often as I would like to, NO. That is why its on my interests. Perhaps the Gods will shine on me, and I'll meet a man that likes to go out and dance also. I love freestyle dance as well. I would not date a man because he can't dance, or doesn't like to, but if he can...it would be alot more fun. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 3:20:51 PM | Well, Eddie, I don't pretend to be much of a dancer, but I sure do love to get up on the dance floor and shake my booty! My partner is an excellent dancer (Lordy, that man can move!), and he doesn't mind that he exceeds my skill level; he's just happy that I'm willing to get up there with him and have fun.
You may laugh at me out on the dance floor, Eddie, but I'll be the one with a smile on my face. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/6/2008 3:28:07 PM | | Although Ballroom is more popular these days, I think when women say dancing on their profile most of the time it is disco. Whenever I go to the local disco's the place is pretty packed. I have found that having a common interest in a recreational activity helps but it takes a lot more to get a woman interested in you. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 5:54:55 PM | So what Eddie is really saying is that we all have to pass HIS proficiency test before daring to admit we're interested in dancing? Not claiming to be an expert mind you, but just stating an interest in it. If I have a keen interest in learning to cook German food, but have not yet achieved the skills I need, does that make it any LESS of an interest?
Dance can also be defined from any other cultural aspect. A lot of the tribal dances that I have seen are more of the shuffling / stomping type. Would you say they were any less apt at their skills because they cant do the Lindy hop or some other 60 year old dance proficiently?
And the answer to "Would I refuse to date a guy just because he cant / wont dance?" Nope, that would not stop me at all. A blatant put down, snide, attitude from a judgmental man ... One who admits he doesnt dance anymore .... but still judges other people who do have the courage to get on the floor regardless of their skill level?
Oh yeah.. that would put a dead halt to any further dates.
The only right anyone would have to gripe about this particular subject would be if the poster deceptively claimed some great level of skill then couldnt live up to it. Until then, it's an INTEREST .. nothing more, nothing less. Until someone higher on the POF chain than Eddie demands proof of any claims on the profiles, they remain pretty much open to the discretion of the owner and they are free to list any and all interests they choose, no matter how remote from perfection they are at the current moment.
OP, just out of curiosity.. did all this arise from some woman throwing you back in the pond because you refuse to dance? It has such bitter overtones that I cant help but wonder if perhaps that's the case? | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 6:03:48 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^its justme, well put!
And Eddie, just FYI, some of us actually DO tell the truth and put down our interests we have on our profiles. But it sounds like unless it's something that's done daily, then we're not "entitled" to list it as an interest. Geez.
I'm sorry if someone rejected you based on the fact that you don't dance. Would you rather she have said you were ugly? Gosh I sure wouldn't! But that's just me. Fishing. Dreaming of Italy. Guns. Pilates. Crafted beers. Sushi. Interests practiced on an as available basis, which "qualifies" and permits me to put them as interests on a freakin online profile. :::eyeroll::: | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 6:41:35 PM | The post was made because I was curious. Nobody rejected me because I don't go dancing any more. (Nobody rejects me at all because I don't aggressively pursue dates here.) The last real date I was on, I DID get up and dance one time. And 2 weeks later when my band played and I had a song off that had no horns in it, I danced with one of the party goers. I don't GO DANCING, as in for 5 hours. Thus I would not put it down as in interest. And logic says that the interests lists should be a list of things you actually do.
Do you folks know the saying about not seeing the forest for the trees? I am more amazed every day about how people can take a general question and make a specific discussion out of it.
The point is, for the third time, is that if you have dancing listed as one of your favorite things to do, do you think it may deter men who would otherwise write to you from doing so because they think you would make them go to clubs 5 nights a week, when your interest in dancing is more like that at some point on a night out you might want to dance.
As far as your claim that I am judgmental, is a statement of that nature not judgmental itself?
My profile also lists "professional sarcasm" as in interest. Otherwise stated, I am a smart ass. Always have been. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 8:02:22 PM | Justme is the one that makes me sit and shake my head. Just standing on a dance floor hanging on to someone and calling it dancing is like me saying I am a carpenter because I once made a coffee table or a cookcase.
Well, now I don't see that as a reasonable statement.
You make it sound as if they are listing a profession.. and are trying to perform brain surgery just because that have a scalpel in there hand.
The fact is, when in a club, that belly rubbing thing passes for dancing, and those that enjoy it feel free and are having fun whilst doing it.. and thats the whole idea of listing it as an interest / hobby / enjoyable past time.. because when they are out there, doing that, they are having fun.
its an interest.. not a career.
I have listed BBQs.. because I enjoy them, I don't normally cook them, nor do I go to them every single weekend.. its like once every 3 months at best if you average it out.
Perhaps you should just be happy that in the event you ever get into a conversation with one of these people, you get the chance to say "so, what kind of dancing do you enjoy?" and listen to their response as yet another point of conversation.
I mean, I see you enjoy "Solving world problems" .. Just exactly what have you done that has solved a problem for the entire world, that makes you qualified to list that as an interest?
and no, if its the only standout thing on the persons profile that I do not like, I do not see why anyone would reject that person entirely because of it.. its called compromise, and if you cannot get over it at the profile stage because of the word "dancing" in a hobbies list then you have serious issues with it. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 8:32:46 PM | I think you are forgetting one very important thing - that if someone likes to dance, it really doesn't matter what a stranger thinks of their dancing. To pass judgment on someone else's harmless behavior and how they have fun is just plain snobbery.
My Ex taught ballroom while he was working on his masters - as a part-time job with great hours that worked around his classes. He was technically good, a strong lead, but has no rhythm whatsoever on anything without predeterminded steps and a lot of practice.
To say one loves to dance doesn't mean they are a professional dancer. To call oneself a dancer is to sort of assume that they made a living at it at one time. Not like those that might compete as dancers, but those that have a very intense hobby/interest.
Nothing like a person that stands outside the crowd and talks about those that are on the floor moving to music, good or not, they are out there because they want to be. I find the person talking and watching to be the odd one. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 9:13:18 PM | Just exactly what have you done that has solved a problem for the entire world, that makes you qualified to list that as an interest?
As soon as somebody asks me to help...... I will fix it all!!! World hunger, global warming, peace for all mankind.... all of it!
(Note: see "professional sarcasm" on the same list) | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 9:28:31 PM | I have to say that I'm one of those women who list dancing as my major interest/hobby.
I've taken lessons for almost three years. I do Two Step, Polka, West Coast Swing, East Coast, Waltz, Night Club Two Step, Cha-Cha, and some Salsa and Zydeco along with line dances.
Would I refuse to date a man because he doesn't dance? No. In fact most of the men I have dated do not dance. Would you not date me if your major interest was golf and I didn't golf? Silly isn't it?
It's fun, it's great excercise, I've met a great group of friends through our dance class...(which is free, by the way...how many can say that about their hobby?) We get together for BBQ's, boating, roller skating, sailing, bowling, comedy clubs, movies, wine tastings... you name it. We even went on a cruise in October, we had the largest group on board with 48 people. It was great! We're already planning another one for this year.
For me, it's like a family that I have chosen. I wish I'd had this support group when I first got divorced.
MS
OH! I forgot my favorite type of dancing, which I created myself.....WHIFFL...
(Whatever I F'n Feel Like) ;-) | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 9:55:39 PM | | I'm too lazy to go back to see if I put dancing on my profile or not. I started taking ballroom dancing lessons about six months ago and have found that I am pretty good at it. I even competed a few weeks ago in a local competition and did very well. So I could legitimately put dancing as an interest in my profile. However, I have no idea how long I will continue taking lessons because they are not free. I now know enough that I will not embarass myself if I were asked to dance and it was a foxtrot or my favorite, East Coast Swing. That was one of my goals and also improving my balance which I also did. Does a guy have to be able to do this for me to be interested? That would be shortsighted of me, to say the least. If he said that he just liked to dance because it is the only legal way that a guy can hold a strange woman close in his arms in public, I think that is legitimate, too. Maybe that is what most people mean when they list dancing as an interest, anyway. I would just be inclined to ask what kind of dancing they liked, if I read dancing as an interest. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 10:02:09 PM | you don't have to be a dancer but a lot of men don't dance because they feel stupid.
mostlikely when men don't dance they care what other people think. that eliminates
men for me. i can't be down with anyone that cares what other people dancing. i love it
when men can't dance and just do it anyway. huge turn on | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 10:26:21 PM | i list dancing...and i mean that i love to dance, and i *do* dance, often.
i've taken all kinds of dance classes over the years, but there's nothing i enjoy more than hitting the floor to some classic funk, blues and motown. i'm also taking traditional pow wow dance classes.
i would love to date someone who enjoys dancing as much as i do...but i've only met a couple men in my life like that.
as long as he's secure w/me vanishing out onto the floor when there's a song i dig, or doesn't get embarrassed when i simply *cannot* help myself and have to indulge my groove regardless of where we are when the music plays...he's cool in my book. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 10:32:41 PM |
As soon as somebody asks me to help...... I will fix it all!!! World hunger, global warming, peace for all mankind.... all of it!
Consider yourself asked ! Start with Global Warming as the world could still use a bit of hunger to remind us to be grateful we have plenty to eat and can dance if we dam well feel like it  | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 10:36:25 PM | | Well, I wouldn't eliminate "the best guy I could ever know cause he doesn't dance" but I sure love dancing. Bar type dancing, in the kitchen dancing, ballroom, Latin. There is something magical about moving together in rhythm with a man. Very sexy. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 11:13:59 PM | I remember what it was like when I first hit PoF and was still reading profiles diligently (I admit it ... I use the 'Evelin Wood speed reading method most of the time now). What amazed me was that when I went for a walk along any waterfront I was actually able to get close to the water, or when I looked at a sunset that any light could reach my retinas. I think 80 or 90% of the profiles I read listed those two activities as paramount. If that many single women yearned for those activities wouldn't an equal number of women in relationships be out there enjoying their just deserts??
For most, the profile interests and wants are rosy coloured mirages that will lead to the purest of happiness. The exceptions to this rule will post their admonitions here ... those I'm talking about will either not see a forum posting or blithely skip by without answering.
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Posted: 1/7/2008 2:17:44 AM | | I love dancing. When I'm truly in the zone, my mind is free and it's all instinct and body. I've taken classes in Salsa, Merengue, Swing, Lindy. I've done East Coast Swing for 3 years and I love it. | |
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