| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/7/2008 12:13:20 PM | | Dancing can be a gas but if it looks like a prosepective date makes a career of going to dance clubs or looks regularly for opportunities to dance for hours I would avoid her. Like you Eddie I enjoy a few dances incidentally at a social occasion but that's about it. I certainly would not want to be perceived mainly as a potential dance partner, or god forbid, end up taking dance lessons. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:33:41 PM | Global warming.... We have rockets, we have plastic wrap, we have duct tape.
FIX IT!!!!
World hunger.... Send the poor people half of all my meals. That would feed Somalia for a year.
Could someone explain east and west coast swing? I never knew there were two styles.
And whoever said they were the profile speed reader, did you notice all the "walk on the beach" people?
I live by Lake Erie. It is January 7th. Help yourself.
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/7/2008 7:50:01 PM | Eddie that was my point. It's the stereotyped image they're trying to project in their profiles more than the actual activity. Another good one is dancing in the rain. Looks great in the old movies, but if you're not in the tropics the rain will chill you to the bone and you'll be looking for drier, warmer activities (which may be the actual point). I've yet to see any couples dancing in the rain, but maybe I stay indoors too much when it pours.
Fancy, I love beachcombing (and rock combing) myself. My point, as above, was that I don't have much trouble with crowds when I'm enjoying it ... if the rest of the world did what they say they yearn for I'd have trouble saying that. Don't get me wrong ... I'm not complaining. Solitude is good, and I'm learning to open up to multiplying that by two.
Santa Monica ... the stereotype says that I'd be living on the beach, takin' in the sunsets, catchin' waves and chasin' them beautiful Californi girls ... not even in my dreams, and never in my profile.
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:01:01 PM | | Well, in my opinion if some moron views my profile and thinks because I listed movies or baseball as an interest that it must mean he has to look like an actor or be a professional athlete to date me, I would prefer he didn't contact me anyway. If someone doesn't like everything I do, so what? I can go by myself and vice versa he is perfectly free to go and enjoy his "stuff". There are a lot of couples that do things away from each other like bowling leagues, fishing trips, quilting bees, baby & bridal showers, golf, hunting excursions and the usually male dreaded SHOPPING! Now if you find someone out there that never eats ,works, takes a shower, sleeps, has extreme opposite personal habits or never in a million years wants to have sex, then that could be a real compatibility problem. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 8:44:59 AM | Eddie!! What is this?!?!?!
Could someone explain east and west coast swing? I never knew there were two styles.
Do I detect a bit of INTEREST in DANCING from Eddie? You little trickster you, I knew this was just a thread to get all the hot dancing women to come out and defend themselves, so you can love-bomb them with greetings, because deep down inside you just want to learn the difference between East Coast and West Coast Swing. You know that by saying that, you imply that you DO know something about one of the Coast Swings, but potentially not enough to differentiate.
Eddie, you are so sly! Hey, but don't ask me out, becuase I have an actual DATE tonight, with a man (so far, he has about 8 hours to cancel). And I'm going to take some of the great advice in this thread (especially that one about Beachcombing, I always forget to say "beachcombing" instead of walk on the beach, because it sounds more cultured). | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 9:22:44 AM | I don't take dance classes.
I don't know any dance moves.
I dance because it's fun.
I dance like a little kid (hey, those who've seen me, it's true, I've always danced similar to that)
I dance a lot.
I liked blondblueeyed's response
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Posted: 1/8/2008 9:46:25 AM | I think the OP is entitled to hold out for whatever he wants but the type of fully trained dancer he's mentioning is rare -- he only knows one himself.
I don't expect a guy who describes himself as 'athletic' in his profile to come with an Olympic medal around his neck but that 's just me.
I get my left hand and right mixed up and was never able to master the simple 50's and 60's dance style where the male swings the female around under his arm. Only did it right once and the guy had to keep yelling "NOW".
I'd love to have a partner teach me who could lead me without saying anything at all. But first he'd have to see how bad it really can be. If he could stop laughing his ass off then maybe, just maybe, it would work out. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 10:55:44 AM | Dancing is just interepting music by the movements of your body. Anyone can dance and if you like to dance it makes you feel good weather someone say you can or can't. If you have rythm or not just do what they music tells you to do. Dancing is more of a feeling than an action to me. Everyone has there own way of dancing, but other people are the judges of who they think can and can't dance!!!! Weather it be salsa, tap, hip-hop, booty shakin, head banging, going into convulsions while music is playing is all considered dancing!!!! Go bananna it's yo birthday!!
As for me I like pop n lock and exspecially MJ!! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 4:37:58 PM |
Could someone explain east and west coast swing? I never knew there were two styles.
Hey Eddie, since no one else has answered this, I'll jump in.
West Coast is called a "slot" dance because the woman dances in a line, forward and back, while the man steps in and out of the slot to allow her to pass him as they do turns, spins, etc.
East Coast is danced side to side and up and down, so is not considered a slot dance. To me East Coast is more similar to the Cha Cha. Some people call West Coast Jitterbug or Swing.
The beat is also what differentiates the two, in West Coast the woman takes two steps forward, triple step, step back, triple step, in East Coast they triple step to the right, triple step to the left, rock step back. Those are the basics anyway, you expand from there. Both are ususally very fast paced and are a lot of fun, though I prefer West Coast.
This is probably more than you wanted to know, but HEY! You asked! lol
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Posted: 1/8/2008 4:48:07 PM | | I enjoy going out dancing and am ok with a a guy who doesn't dance. However, he must understand that I like to go once in awhile and not be offended when I go with my friends. This does not mean that I'm out to pick up some drunken idiot in a club. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:27:28 PM | Eddie
To answer your question , yes I do enjoy dancing & can dance a few myself.
Growing up I learned how to not only Tap  but also square dance, to mention a few.
My most favorite is the Jive...I had alot of training from a Special Man in my life, ( My Father ) we spent alot of evenings Jiving & what they call Waltz as to where I call it the old folks dance...lol
If I'm interested in a man who claims he doesn't dance or can't for whatever reason, No it doesn't eliminate them from my pool....Maybe he'd let me teach him a few steps
I would very much enjoy to learn a few more styles.....
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:34:34 PM | ha so fat people cant dance?
When I go out dancing, sometimes I do go with my man and he loves it. If I am at the gay club with all my gay guy friends... I turn many gay guys head... even though I have a lot of cushion... I can still move my booty and shake it around to salsa merengue, electronic music and whatever you put there! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 7:48:54 PM | So maybe my original point should have been worded differently, and I will restate it now that I have thought about it.
Okay, so Harry is looking through profiles of ladies in his area, and he sees Sally. Sally has listed in her interests DANCING in capital letters and she has it there 3 times. Harry says "Oh man, this woman looks really cool but since I don't dance I probably wouldn't be of any interest in her because she sounds like she lives to dance." And Harry doesn't write to her.
However, the truth is closer to Sally doesnt' really "DANCE", as in going in costume to ballroom events, wearing a shimmy dress to a cha cha contest... etc. Sally is really only in the aforementioned "2am drunken belly rubbing" kind of dancing.
Because of that miscommunication, they never meet and don't get the chance to live happily ever after.
I guess it's like when people list "having fun" and "laughing" as interests. Everybody likes to have fun and laugh. And likely everybody will do the drunken belly rubbing dancing. IF you consider that dancing. Just for me, I don't consider that dancing.
People made WAY too much of this topic. I never meant that you shouldn't list an interest if you are not a pro at it, but more that you should list an accurate representation of what your life style is. That's all this was supposed to be about.
Nobody expects to meet Fred Astaire or Ginger Rogers here.....
People also ran heavily with the coment about body types. The point there was NOT that fat people can't dance. The point was that if you did Irish clog dancing and heavy tap like Michael Flatley does for 8 hours every day, you likely would be in incredible shape from the daily regimen. Don't turn the words around to say "fat people can't dance". It was "If you intensely dance a lot every day, you wouldn't BE fat." All the people who take lessons and practice and stuff would HAVE to be in good shape to do it every day. Hell, I would probably be doing a daily exercise routine based around dance if my knees could take the pounding.
Most of you made it out to sound that I hold dancers in some state of disapproval. Actually, I wish I could join you like the old days. The spirit is willing, but the knees are weak....
Ah, Saturday Night Fever......
You can tell by the way I use my walk
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Posted: 1/8/2008 9:53:58 PM | Thank you Mikkisue! I was wondering. I live on the East Coast and have obviously learned the "East Coast" Swing. NEVER heard of a West Coast style!!
Eddy, we're signing you up for lessons. (Also the other dude who abhored the idea.) In ten weeks all us gals on here who love to dance will serial date you. How's that?
Here's a story. I signed my ex-partner up to take ballroom with me. He wasn't too enthusiastic, but he went anyway. He was a little off-beat in the beginning, but boy, did he ever blossom! I LOVED dancing with him and he LOVED dancing. In fact, a lot of the reluctant husbands in the early classes got hooked. Wait til you learn to Tango - it's sex in the vertical!
Dancing is an excellent exercise for aerobics, poise and balance. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2008 6:21:13 PM | You're welcome, Lil Brooker. I love your idea of signing Eddie up for dance lessons and serial dating him. Where's his dance card? Sign me up! lol
He wasn't too enthusiastic, but he went anyway. He was a little off-beat in the beginning, but boy, did he ever blossom!
I've found the same thing to be true of a lot of people. One guy I met on another dating site started coming to class two years ago. He was atrocious! lol Such a sweet man, but he kind of skipped/hopped, no matter what dance he was doing. He stuck with it though, and even gave a BBQ for all of his new friends that fall, had a band, built a dance floor, we sang karaoke, it was great!
By the next spring he was a lot better and to make a long story short, he met the sweetest girl at class, I kind of brought them together. Today I helped them gather addresses for their wedding invitations. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2008 7:16:17 PM | | Ummm.... I'm extremely confused by this thread. But you did state you were a dancing "fool" in the 70's. Let's fast forward to the present! It's 2008 and "dancing" at night clubs is very much ALIVE. I have gone dancing in Latin, Reggae, House, Hip Hop, Arabic night clubs/bars etc. Dancing does not only entail what is sanctioned by the American Ballroom Association.. Also...ones shape cannot dictate if they can perform the Paso Doble. I've been dancing (professionally) since I was 10, used to teach Latin Ballroom and I am the furthest thing from a size 2. Let's not make assumptions buddy...Anyway a guy gets major plus points if he can dance and wants to go out dancing. Even if he has 2 left feet and not a an ounce a rhythm...his willingness to "shake his money maker" is admirable and shows he is willing to have some fun! | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/9/2008 7:17:22 PM | i don't dance.
as a kid in school i was ridiculed with out mercy.
i began playing drums at age 6, I'm 41 now.
so by the time kids were going to dances, i was in the band that was playing at said dance.
that combined with playing clubs for long enough, i just never had to hit the floor so i never did.
women equate dancing with sex for some reason, but the girls that hit the floor at the dance clubs tend to be "Party Girls"
and sex with a "Party Girl" is NFG!
1) they are getting "FREE" drinks supplied to them by every single guy in the place, you drink a lot, guess what your tender parts smell and taste like? URINE! not good!
2) "Party Girls" lay still like a cadaver, they can't wait till your done because the room is spinning in most cases.
3) dancing maybe like sex to a woman, but playing in a band or acting on stage is a bigger rush than dancing.
and when was the last time a room full of people stood up and applauded you had sex?
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Posted: 1/10/2008 5:20:56 AM |
People made WAY too much of this topic. I never meant that you shouldn't list an interest if you are not a pro at it, but more that you should list an accurate representation of what your life style is. That's all this was supposed to be about.
If the whole profile or a major part is taken up talking about how she spends 6 nights a week at clubs dancing, yeah might be a sign she's a bit too serious about it for me. But putting it into interests? I have golf in my interests, but will never challenge Tiger Woods. I have dancing in my interest, but haven't been invited to appear on dancing with the stars. I enjoy cooking, but won't ever be invited as a guest chef on the Food Network. All three are things that I might well enjoy with a partner though, as RECREATION. Talk about making WAY too much of things - I think you're the one who did that, from the opening post of the thread.
And speaking of making WAY too much of something, I'd steer a wide path away from anyone who had posted here about turning down an offered first meeting so they could sneak over to the place I said I'd be and spend an hour watching me surreptitiously. Yikes, that's borderline stalking and sure not the kind of behavior I'd EVER want to deal with from someone I was seeing. Guess its good you've announced to the women here that that's the kind of thing you do!  | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 5:56:29 AM | but will never challenge Tiger Woods
Maybe you'd never beat him, but no harm in making the challenge. You only challenge people you know you can beat? I'll take him on right now. I'll shoot my usual 84-86 ans he'll thrash me, but I'll challenge him.
Winners rise to a challenge. Losers admit defeat without trying.
As far as taking that nightcllub incident out of proportion, if you knew more about it you may have done the same thing. Every phone call and email was "We can go dancing. We can go dancing." and the truth was she could barely walk and chew gum at the same time, much less have the rhythm and coordination to dance. Which was as I expected.
The original point was asking why almost EVERY female profile says dancing and it is not really accurate to call yourself a dancer if you do it twice a year when your cousin gets married or you are at the company picnic. The serious dancers who have replied here have my admiration for having a passion about something. Anything.
Flyboy you took this way too seriously. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 6:36:02 AM | I love to dance and do whenever there is an opportunity. In my adult life, I have done ballroom dance for fun, taken a number of dance classes to learn Westcoast swing, Eastcoast swing (very cool sexy dances), the Lindy, etc. as well as Latin dances and still dance free-style at Music on the Halfshell concerts. I will always dance. My mentor and one of my best friends is a woman who I met in her seventies while dancing alone to some jazz in a bar. She was inspirational to watch. We talked, became good friends and did belly-dancing together for a couple of years. She is in her 80s now and still dances. I hope to do the same. At the moment, I am doing a more serious dance form with other more "mature" women, Classical/Modern Dance. Talk about a great way to keep your body fit and flexible. I am not the young woman I was in my twenties when I did ballet and modern dance but who is. I dance because it is a passion, I love it and it sends me into a natural altered state. Would I accept a man who does not dance? Of course I would and have. I would just continue dancing the way I like and hope he would continue doing the things he loves to do too.
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Posted: 1/10/2008 6:40:05 AM |
it is not really accurate to call yourself a dancer if you do it twice a year when your cousin gets married or you are at the company picnic.
To the best of my knowledge, I've often seen dancing listed as an interest, but very seldom any particular expertise claimed in the profile. You are the one making the assumption that we mean we know every dance and are technically proficient at them all.
All it really means is we like music and like moving to that music, in whatever form it takes, good or bad. It is up to our prospective dates to ask more questions and find out the details rather than dismiss us out of hand. Too bad more guys dont do that to start with actually, it's the whole point to internet dating. Find out some broad interests, then actually talk to them and find out more about the person behind the profile.
An interest is what it is.. just that and no more. Quit trying to make more of it and I'd think you would be a bit less perplexed by it. | |
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