| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/17/2008 6:50:24 PM | I don't know, for me dancing means going out with my girl (or guy) friends, just letting loose, having fun and being free. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/17/2008 9:42:25 PM | OP; I think your making this into something way different than most women intend. I LOVE dancing and I do mean the stupid, flailing arms like a chicken to 70’s & 80’s music until the club closes. However I go with female friends and I leave with said friends. I also do NOT bump and grind with strangers or dress like a 'professional'...LOL … I stay until they close because I just love getting lost in the music and then the next thing I know it’s time to go home.
So many woman on here go dancing as a great form of ‘cardio exercise’ if you will, or just a great form of fun. .... So I’m thinking many of us list it in the same way guys list ‘I love Golf” type of category….
And I don’t care if a man likes to dance or not…I guess it sorta gives any guy heads up that it’s something I like to do and I plan to do it even if I’m in a relationship…it’s like listing a ‘hobby’ I enjoy as far as I am concerned…I think from whatever your past experiences are woman in clubs, that's not the connotation this falls under for most people...
…and for crying out loud, I see several people on here saying if you list dancing and your not a professional dancer it’s like saying you have an athletic build when you don’t, so your lying….That’s absurd people! I like board games and shooting pool as well, doesn’t mean I said I was a professional at either… We are saying ‘danCING’ not ‘dancer”…we’re not listing it under the heading of our ‘profession’…
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/17/2008 10:57:27 PM | | When... girls, say "dancing" on their profiles they generally mean like... at a club or a wedding. Hahaha, nothing sophisticated. Id call it more "gyrating". Club girls bore me. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/17/2008 11:20:21 PM | I have dancing listed as an interest, because it truly is one of my biggest interests. I take classes, lessons, and perform as well.
I would never turn a guy down because he couldn't dance. I would hope that he'd be willing to at least try and learn a few moves though.
In reference to the OP's 'drunken dancing' comment - Does it really matter if a person isn't all that great? As long as they're enjoying themselves, that should be enough. How many people list sports (or the like) as an interest, yet probably couldn't make it around an entire ball diamond? | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/17/2008 11:27:49 PM | Dancing for many women is the foreplay to seduction and sex.............
It becomes the way to express themselves physically while with another and is the prelude to more significant dating activities......
It is a socially accepted norm to express feelings and desires in a public venue, and allows those that want to exhibit their natural tendencies in a way that all around will accept without thinking to much about it.
Saying that you like to dance for a woman, is very much like a man saying he likes seduce, but in a much more subtle and accepted fashion.......
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 1/18/2008 1:41:38 AM | Funny, my profile title is 'let's dance', this is because music is my life and dancing is a fantastic way to spend your bar time rather than simply sitting there getting hammered. Funny thing is though, every single lady that has ever conversed more than basic introductions or met up with me (dated) via POF has claimed to be into dancing. Alas, few of them could, fewer did, and still fewer were into actually dancing in public. I've danced for years, professionally once upon a time, I can do allot of different dances but mostly just move how the music makes me move. Some women have expressed trepidation against dancing with me claiming that they can't dance as well and this scares them. That not withstanding what I can't figure out about ladies in this regard is this: 1, why say your into dancing when your not? and 2, why moan about not being able to find a man who dances when your not saying hello to any of the men that are actually brave or open enough to mention they like to dance on thier profiles?
As a DJ I watch people dance all the time, those that have 'two left feet' are often the ones that are enjoying themselves the most. So I find the insulting comments that started this thread very disturbing. Frankly I think far more highly of the 'fool' that flails about on the dance floor than the one sitting there making excuses as to why he can't dance. For the fool is the one that is having a good time, sharing that good time with others and is far more likely not to go home alone. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/7/2008 3:36:45 AM | I love to and have been dancing for many years. When I am with someone who loves to dance and not afraid to let it loose on the dance floor it's an awesome experience. If you are a good dancer often times any place you go to dance ,people will make extra room on the dance floor for you to dance and so they can watch. My style of dance is freestyle. This allow me to dance to almost and music and with anyone. I meet and make many friends though dancing.
If anyone is looking to go dancing let me know. I know almost all of the dance places around from VA beach to Richmond. I would be happy to go dancing and getting to know you.  | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/7/2008 6:24:50 AM | This thread too SO many turns, let me summarize the original intention.
When the profile lists dancing as an interest, and there are only a few interests, a guy might see that and sy "I don't dance" and skip over it. The question was a matter of distinguishing someone who really DANCES vs someone who goes to the local bar once a month and dances twice in 4 hours. While it may be true that they like dancing, dancing at that level should possibly not be listed in a way where it gives the impression that a guy has to be Fred Astaire or Gene Kelly to keep up.
A whole bunch of people ran in SO many different directions with this....
I probably should have titled it "Does dancing as a primary interest keep you from contacting her?" and that would have set the tone for the post.
I danced when I was younger and had good knees, too. Was pretty good at it. Enjoyed it, but I would never have looked at someone I might want to date and say "...but she doesn't dance...." and that's what this was about.
Plug in the word "camping" as an interest. Having an interest in camping doesn't mean you live by the river and catch your meals every day, just that you njoy it once in a while. However, in my case, my "camping" experience was mainly being in the jungles of Vietnam, so now the only way I would ever go live outside and sleep on the ground would be at gunpoint, so.....
Same idea. Does saying "I LOVE ___________ "(insert interest there) possibly chase someone away? | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:02:03 AM | If a man will dance, he's more likely to be uninhibited. It's not about him doing a "John Travolta" or being professional dancer fit. It's about him being light hearted and knowing how to have a good time.
I wouldn't eliminate a guy like you because you don't dance. But I would eliminate a guy like you who sits back and criticizes people who are just having fun. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/8/2008 6:37:59 AM | Not sure what you mean by "prominently"( like upper case letters Or listed first on interests?). Anyway... I'm no professional dancer and I don't care for "line" dancing (or gang dancing as I call it), but I do go to the "hillbilly" bars, lol. Actually I prefer a dance hall, with a big dance floor and live music. Dancing is a social and recreational activity and we not required to be a professional or in perfect shape to enjoy it, just like boating, fishing, bowling, golf, etc. Love to Texas two-step, waltz, polka and would love to learn western swing & salsa just haven't had time yet.
Sweetie, if you don't enjoy watching the awful ones, just turn your head ( lol), or go where there is NO dance floor. Lots of places to go where you are not pressured to dance or look at others dance. But don't be a hater, teeheehee. Probably not a good idea to critique, if you are not even participating. Leave the making fun of others to those of us who know how really bad WE are, LOL.
Sorry about your knee.
Yes, I would date someone who doesn't dance, but he DOES need to have some other kinds of activities in mind that would include socializing and recreation. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/8/2008 6:48:52 AM | Hey eastside.....it is obvious why you know "exactly one" lady who is truly a dancer....and I bet she would not dance with you...even if you did not use the 'knee replacement' as an excuse... | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:56:40 AM | Yes. That would be a deal-breaker for me. I won't date a man who won't dance. Now if he doesn't know how, and he is willing to take some lessons with me, that would be ok. But if he's not willing? No.
I NEED to dance. It's the best excercise I can get, and I absolutely love it. It's impossible to do without a partner though, so if I'm going to be in a relationship with someone, it doesn't make much sense to have a dance partner, and a life partner who aren't the same person. There's a degree of intimacy that happens on the dance floor, and some positions, dips, tricks, lifts, etc. that require a great deal of trust. Who better to develop that trust with, than your own life partner?
To me my dance partner and my life partner need to be the same person. Unless of course I have a dance partner only, and no life partner at the time. Gotta dance after all. But if I have a life partner, I need to dance with him, as part of the intimacy we share. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/8/2008 9:32:05 AM | I Love dancing. I will dance or at least try to any type of music.
It might be a bit of a deal breaker for me to go out with a woman that won't dance...and I say won't because we all can.
Just move your body...and you are dancing! | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/8/2008 10:30:07 AM | | i think you OP have a narrow view of dancing, and no matter how poorly YOU think someone is dancing,to them its still dancing and still fun. so when they prominently say dancing they mean they enjoy moving their body to music and have the confidence to do so | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/9/2008 12:18:42 PM | Dancing is a major indicator of both confidence and ability in the bedroom.
I met my guy of 7 months in the midst of about 30 hippies dancing at a drum circle. He was dancing so so passionately, that I had to grab him and kiss him then drag him out to the bushes. You can tell if they're a good dancer by the way they move, and the way they hold themselves. Guys who dance well is a turn on of epic proportions (think instant soaking of panties).
Id definately not go for a big, muscled good looking guy if he couldnt shake a leg on the dancefloor. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/9/2008 12:23:47 PM | "I would just reserve my dancing time for when I go out with the girls.. "
And who would you be dancing with? The girls? | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/9/2008 12:43:30 PM | "Dancing for many women is the foreplay to seduction and sex............. "
Taking your woman to a wild singles nightclub to dance is a recipe for trouble. I know everyone will go into denial about this, but it is a fact. I have watched it over and over and over again. Either she is going to get horny when she is into the music intoxication and forget herself, or some guy with no class is going to be all over her or a bunch of guys. Either way, you are going to have trouble. Back when I was in my twenties it did not take long for the red flag to sprout whenever I asked some gal out and she would ask if we could go to a nightclub. It would be the same thing every time. We would go, she would have a couple of drinks and use it as an excuse to get "music intoxicated" and would spend the night on the dance floor with every guy BUT me. What is just as bad or worse is when some other guy's girl suddenly gets the hots for me and he thinks it is my fault. That is why I say that if your idea of a fun date is to go to a singles club, I am not your guy. However, if you want to go to a classy couples place like a Red Lion, where people who know how to behave have dinner, a drink and a couple of slow dances, that would be fine. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/18/2008 5:36:17 AM | ahh. Who care if they dont dance? I dont even want to dance with anybody.Except for salsa, ballroom,etc.
I love going to clubs and dancing. Period. At 45, I still clear the floor. I agree though, most times it is just plain embarrasing watching over 40 try to dance at clubs. It is not the 80s anymore ,hun....
Then again I have to respect people who dont care about making fools of themselves if they are having fun. Isnt that what life is all about anyway? | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/18/2008 7:48:35 AM |
And who would you be dancing with? The girls?
Quite literally, yes. In my case, dancing (gyrating, whatever) is mostly done with the girls, or alone. It really doesn't involve the opposite sex at all outside of maybe a slow dance now and then.
Women who like to dance are going to regardless. As men they date you can join them, watch them, or go do something else on a night they go dancing, but it's something they enjoy doing. | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/18/2008 8:02:43 AM | | I started going to a country~line dancing class just to get out & socialize. Great because I didn't need a partner. I liked it sooo much I went to a studio & took some ballroom classes. Not a good place to meet men! Mostly older couples & gay guys. lol! But, It's been fun & I have made some new friends. By the way, "Tango" is harder than it looks!! | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/18/2008 8:45:00 AM | While someone may not be *great* at something, it doesn't mean they can't enjoy doing it. I know for myself, I love to go let loose at the club or in a ballroom where I take swing/Jive, Salsa, Foxtrot and Waltx. Next will be belly dancing because I LOVE to dance! I also love to paint but my paintings aren't exactly selling for 2.3 million if you know what I'm saying?! Doesn't mean I don't "enjoy" it... | |
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| When they prominently say DANCING
Posted: 3/18/2008 10:26:16 AM | | To me, it is flat out amazing that a woman would put in her dating profile an activity that she likes to go out and do with her girl friends(not her date). I enjoy tossing down a few brews with the boys while watching a football game, but I don't think to many women are going to think that is a "good thing", thus it isn't in my profile. | |
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