| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:29:20 PM | | That was indeed very rude. If she had some sympathy she could of at least call you and tell you. Some girls are shy, so they can't say it all at once on the phone. She's your girlfriend though, so she should of at least call. | |
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:15:41 PM | Yeah I totally agree with you.
My last relationship ended up without explanation from any things. He was gone and disappeared to me. However, She did care you and was honest to you. You are lucky that me and some people.
For me I just think If I am doing any thing in the way I am and the other person don't feel in the same way to have happy lifestye together or future with. Everyone have own mind and own personal. I really loved my ex no matter what he did to me but I always wish he is being happy with any thing he had chosen for himself.
I was so sad, hurt and confused what he did. However, I remind myself that maybe we just not born for being together. I just changed my mind and make up myself to love the only one person that I have seen every day in mirror! Yeah it's me!
I wish you would meet the girl that macth with you. Please, Cheer her up to have good life and be happy whatever the way she has chosen. Happy Happy!
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:41:44 PM | Call me JJ says: " I never fail to be amazed at just how fast a man can put himself back on the market after being " happy and in love".
My Grandmother (god rest her soul) used to believe that, " You fight love with love".
I never believed this myself. It's ok to be alone. Why rush into another relationship when you're not really ready for one ? I do understand, if it's only for the sex, however; not love or a relationship.
To the O.P. ; After adulthood, I never understood the importance of why people get into everyone meeting everyone's family. Anymore, my family doesn't meet the people I get involved with. My mother knows not to get in my love relationships anymore. If I'm with a woman, I'm not doing her parents nor she mine, so it's nobody's business, if we are both adults. | |
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/7/2008 10:02:10 PM | Breaking up is hard to do, and some people just don't have the courage to do it to your face. Some people just disappear without a word, leaving you to wonder just what happened, or why. Others are more comfortable sending a non-confrontational email, or text message, while others write a note. Whatever method they choose, the result is the same.
It's over, and the sooner you can accept it and get on with your life, the better, even though I know that is easier said than done. I think most of us have been there, done that. In time, this too shall pass. 
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:23:24 AM | Psstttt.....omiggag, you remind me of the kindergarten boy who has a crush on the girl in front of him, BUT is afraid to talk to her so instead.... you pull her pigtails. ( You really do need to grow up a tad).
Please take a page from Javans book because he gets it.......
I never believed this myself. It's ok to be alone. Why rush into another relationship when you're not really ready for one ? I do understand, if it's only for the sex, however; not love or a relationship
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Posted: 1/8/2008 4:38:21 AM |
I do understand, if it's only for the sex, however; not love or a relationship
Javan DOES get it. It's understandable to rush in for the sex after a breakup. This is not what Call me JJ was saying at all.  Reading comprehension is a wonderful thing. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 4:41:05 AM | spit are you NUTS??? First of all quote his ENTIRE post... not just the part that fits you.... ( your buddy gag does the same thing to fit his needs).....
Saying its OK to be alone after a break up is exactly what I was saying....
perhaps you need to go back to kindergarten with omigag and learn not only how to comprehend... but how to read | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 4:45:32 AM | I totally agree with Curly on this one.
I have had a guy break up with me over email and a couple who just disappeared! The emailer is cowardly, but is not as cowardly or inconsiderate as someone who just stops all communication and disappears leaving you wondering what went wrong.
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:15:14 AM | Nortatem,
At least you got something. As lame as an e-mail is, it is still some closer for you. More cowardly is not calling.... just disappearing without any explanation. That is the worst!
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:27:57 AM |
perhaps you need to go back to kindergarten with omigag and learn not only how to comprehend... but how to read
Call me JJ, you are the one who is refusing to understand what Javan stated. Maybe he can come back on here and clear it up for you. Here's what Javan was saying:
1) It's OK to be alone, instead of rushing into a new relationship......
2) HOWEVER, he (Javan) understands a guy getting/having sex immediately after a breakup.
Having sex does NOT equal "a new relationship". Those were two independent thoughts--neither of which condemns playing the field after a breakup like you attacked the OP for considering. So, quoting Javan does nothing for your original point of view on that.
This should be the last reference to the OP's future intentions. No advice was requested about that. The whole point is that the OP is moving on after the cold, Email breakup. You don't move on by NOT seeing new people. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:42:21 AM | | I don't think someone is "guilty" because they can't return feelings. I also think it is sometimes respectful to send the classic "Dear John". I personally would rather read thoughts, that I am sure take more time to put on paper, then blurt out the wrong words in person. I think it is honest (sometimes brutal), but actually easier on both parties. What is the point to hearing it in person, unless you are going to beg? I broke up with a guy one time in person, and he kept arguing with me why we are a good match. Made me wish I had sent a letter..... | |
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/8/2008 12:18:03 PM |
I don't think someone is "guilty" because they can't return feelings. I also think it is sometimes respectful to send the classic "Dear John". I personally would rather read thoughts, that I am sure take more time to put on paper, then blurt out the wrong words in person. I think it is honest (sometimes brutal), but actually easier on both parties. What is the point to hearing it in person, unless you are going to beg? I broke up with a guy one time in person, and he kept arguing with me why we are a good match. Made me wish I had sent a letter.....
First of all I never beg. However I would have liked to get my side of the story out, maybe even see if there was another option (i.e. Time apart) Befoer the holidays things were perfect. it was very romantic. The problem was pragmatic. School, work, distance, parents(hers). She became cold for whatever reson with very little warning and after as long as we wee together and back again once, I would have liked the oprotunity to have gotten my side across. I was in for the long hall, And according to the letter, she semed to think any relationship is hiding from herself, when all I wanted for her was to grow. I still want her to grow and find herself( thought she should have done that years ago), I just am not as compassionate as I feel I am the one punnished for her issues. Do not get me wrong I will always have a part of me that loves her. I just know that she hurt me and I no longer want a wife. | |
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/8/2008 2:03:50 PM | Yeah... That’s cowardly!
But it happens... And as some posts have said, at least you got "something".
Remember, back in the old days, "Dear John" letters were all the rage. So, the technology has changed, but sending letters to end relationships will be with us, so long as there are men, women and relationships I'm afraid.
Personally, I would rather have a direct face to face or phone conversation during a break up. But it can be painful, even if I am the one doing the dumping (I HATE being cruel to people LOL!).
But yeah, it IS cowardly... No doubt about that! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 2:54:07 PM | | The truely sad part was we were good friends before the relationship and through all our ups in downs. I would still like to even talk to her civilly and she isnt talking to me yet. maybe she is too sad or too scared to deal with me yet. | |
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:03:46 PM | Well, at least you got an email. I once had a loser ends thing with me by a phone call from ANOTHER GIRL! That was some drama. That was his method...
Remember people just have issues going on in there life and may not be ready to continue a relationship. From the email...I doubt it had anything to do with you personally.
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:10:38 PM |
Remember people just have issues going on in there life and may not be ready to continue a relationship. From the email...I doubt it had anything to do with you personally.
I try not to take it personal but I do. it was arelationship of two people not one. Her breaking uop even if it was from her issues hurt me, probably harder than her, thought I may never know as she is still having trouble talking to me ( she blames this on homework) However, I feel that we could have taken a break or talked about it whetever. She dumps me whenI was a help not a detriment, maybe my help was still adistraction. Like the money I spent on her books. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 9:20:32 PM | She needs approval from family about dating you. It is hard but not cowardly. At least she made it clear that she could not date you.
The worst thing is when they string you along and then show up with a boyfriend when you are about to ask them to date you, or when they lead you on and then start liking some other guy. Both things happened to me and let me tell you, it is ugly with a capital U.
E-mail may seem to be an easier way for some people who do not want to see the look on your face when they reject you. It is very hard but that is life unfortunately. | |
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:10:33 PM |
She needs approval from family about dating you. It is hard but not cowardly. At least she made it clear that she could not date you. \
She is 35 not 16. This is the 21st century. I think it is sad that she needs her mommy (who is a psycho mind you and I mean that in the clinicle not in how she treated me sorta way) needs to old her hand for everything. She still lives at home even. So no it is Cowardly to hide behind her mom. Her mom loved me for a stint and that was all lovey dovey, but I am used to being hated by folks so when she turned on me I was like no big whoop. My ex on the other hand is always seeking aprooval and validation and wants to make everyone happy. well I guess it is easier to make the boyfriend hate her make him cry than it is to solver her own problems and trust her own heart. | |
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| Broken up via Email: How cowardly!
Posted: 1/9/2008 12:00:28 AM | Be happy you got a letter. Wouldnt it have been worse if she just up and cut off all contact and you hadn't the slightest clue as to what happened?
Everyone always says "the breakup happened out of the blue, we were so happy, yada yada yada." I am sure there were things-signs- you missed, things you overlooked because you were so "in-love".
Now really, if you were so in love I don't see how you could even think about going out and having sex- well maybe I can. It's because you are far from over it (despite the facade you're putting up in this forum) and feel getting laid will "hurt her" hoping she will find out. Maybe it'll also give you a sense of false validation since your ego had been crushed.
I dunno, I don't see that she did anything wrong. She just wasn't that "in-love" with you and ended it. Maybe it was too hard for her to do it in person because she knew you'd try and talk her into staying with you. Who knows.
p.s.
seriously let go of the fact that you bought her books.
did you bring up all the things that you did for her all the time? maybe that got to be a little much.
Um, but anyway- good luck getting laid... | |
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Posted: 1/9/2008 4:15:22 AM | RUT RO Metalvixen... you're in for it now!! lol
The rath of spit and good4gag is going to scold you for saying that.... 
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Posted: 1/9/2008 6:18:07 AM | There are a lot of people out there that can be nasty gits….but, whether their male or female is just a coincidence.
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Posted: 1/9/2008 8:39:38 AM | Well Smiling here is another person it has happened to me and he was younger then me, then about 4 months after doing that, he suddenly pops up into my life again, no explanation, just a hello how u doing, sorry not been in contact and then silence again... lol I dont think there is a monolopy on the age of anyone taking that way out.
I dont really care how they do it, person to person, email, text, phone, just do it that way at least you know where u stand the silence is the awful thing you always wondering what u did wrong.
Then again maybe some people just dont like confrontation.
Just get on with your life and move on I say, there are plenty of fish out there that need to be caught (in a nice way of cos)..... | |
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