| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 6:11:06 AM | | I don't think its inecurity, but if you are supposed to be out on a date spending time with a person, then you should not be taking numerous phone calls (emergencies, of course, are different) | |
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Tyeee
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Joined: 7/6/2007
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 6:27:38 AM | As I'm self-employed and and also have other responsibilities, I need to call-forward calls to my cell when I'm away from home. I don't have voice mail on the cell service so am compelled to at least answer all calls. If I'm on a date or in a meeting I will arrange with the caller to follow-up when the time is more appropriate, unless of course the call is of urgent nature and can't be delayed. Anyone I'm with would understand my circumstances and realize that if I don't earn income then I certainly cannot afford to be on a date.
That said, I certainly would never let cell phone use become a major interruption on a date, as some people do. I would certainly be frustrated as some previous posters are if some people are yakking and yakking with no consideration for others in their company. That is so very rude.
What I find truly annoying is "Call Waiting", this the name of the service my telco uses for the service that lets a customer know when they are on a call that another call is coming in. Someone I need to talk to on occasion has the service and it is not uncommon for her to put me on hold several times during a call, while she talks to the other person. Sometimes I just hang up.
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:33:34 AM | Pretty soon cell phones will be out of date.
In the near future everyone will be given a permanent programmable tooth at birth that can communicate with over 6 billion people one at a time or multiples. And a holograph would be projected in front to you when you use it.
We will be able to wag our tongue or wiggle our mouth just so so and talk, talk, talk. So on a date when he or she is winking or making funny faces we can assume they are “online”. If your date is talking to your competition you'll know it.
Cell phones should all have loud speakers with no way to mute it. If everyone’s conversations were public we’d do less talking. Well maybe not. | |
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Reese1
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Joined: 2/18/2006
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:46:37 AM | | In a new relationship, or the first couple of dates for sure it is RUDE unless in communication you or he sayed they were expecting a call but make it promt, and then politely shut it off, for sure in public restaurants etc. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:58:01 AM | OP, the behavior you outlined is called cell phone addiction. I'm sure with the cell revolution in full swing 12-Step programs won't be far behind (wonder why it's taking so long?...lol), so when they appear in your area please have an intervention and force your friends or loved ones that exhibit dysfunctional cell symptoms into one.
 Help Stamp Out Cell Abuse NOW!!! 
 Mo | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:03:01 AM | | I went to a play in the park with this guy a couple of summers ago. This guy had the phone vibrating every two seconds. Kept going to the back of the audience. He later told me he was in business and trying to make a million $. Jees, I know that one. Had a live in who never got off the phone, never shut up about "deals" and never made anything. If they can't be with you for one hour srtaight without that cell phone, they're disqualified in my book. It rings and they say, "I'll call you later, when it's convenient." And they're DOUBLE disqulified if it's 'other women' calling all the bloody time. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:06:16 AM | | If you're on the first few dates with someone and getting to know them, I think a cell phone has no place. If there is some special circumstance further down the road, I don't see a problem with it if they are awaiting a big call for work, etc. Be flexible, within reason. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:18:48 AM | Cells obviously play an important role in every day life and will probably never be discarded, but people shouldn't have to put up with their abuse, either.
To me, constant public ringing and yakking is more than just an annoyance; it's a form of noise pollution. You wouldn't want someone to play a boombox in your face everywhere you go, right?....same with cells.
Cell abuse in dating/relationships is just as bad. It's behavioral proof your partner thinks of you as an afterthought and treats your presence with contempt. I also hear the standard arguments that people "must" stay in touch with family and business every freaking minute of the day or the sky will fall. Baloney. People got along just fine before cells appeared and will do just fine without having them on 24/7.
I've also dismissed following up with dates when confronted with rude and incessant cell abuse, and will never put up with it, no matter how much "importance" society places on them.
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:48:26 AM | | I've never understood why people have to jump up and answer the phone, anyway; so if a guy did that to me, I would first tell him never to do it again, then if he did, I'd leave. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 1:50:50 PM | Oh don't feel bad. It could be worse. He could take a call from another woman, in YOUR home, want privacy, so he takes the call into your bedroom, while laying on the bed !
Yes...it happens and you'll be setting there in shock....WTF????
Very disrespectful, if ya ask me...but ya didn't. ...so I'm just sayin'....it could be worse. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 2:36:37 PM | I, Carrie Bradshaw, do not have a cellphone. I do not need one, so why should I have one? Just because everyone else does and I want to be like the cool kids?~ Carrie Bradshaw
> Whew. This is my kind of gal.
> Peter. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 3:49:28 PM | I'm gonna shuck the cob here folks.....
Women set the standard on what is acceptable. If you accept such disrespect in the beginning of a relationship....it's not fair changin' later.
We can't go changin' what the man is already used to. At this point if you really can't handle it. Show the feller the door.
Sometimes women are clueless about it, until one day....."DING DING" we get hit by a clue by four. We suddenly decide NO MORE ! Even though we have never let our feelings be known, we were silent in our suffering....there comes a time when it's time to walk. No discussion.
If you really want your self respect back, you're gonna have to either establish the boundaries of acceptable behavior in the beginning, or don't.....and finally wash your hands, cut your losses. You can't go back. Because you have warped the roulette and he will ALWAYS remember how YOU changed one day. He will be gun shy about what other proclaimation will be forth coming from the Queendom.
Yes women have done that ! and WILL DO THAT.
okay, okay.....men do it too. But women are just better at it. Ya know....the "take it till I can leave it" theme. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:11:04 PM | Not only cell phones, I feel it comes down to people are either are raised with common etiquette or they are not. If they are not, then if not a cell phone, they would have some other thing they would do that would show the person they are with that they had no manners. I have a cell phone like many people do. I love to talk on the phone, however if I'm on a date, I have the common sense to turn the darn thing off. The last thing I would do is make my date feel like they are some side third wheel to my cell conversation or it even ringing at all for that matter.
I went to a movie last weekend. It's sad that before the movie started there is a warning on the big screen reminding people to keep quiet in the theater and to turn off there cell phones. It's amazing to me that in this day and age, people have to be reminded to what should be proper etiquette to begin with. To my surprise, some people sitting in the back row in the theater, brought there kid and the kid is playing with a cell phone! The parents sat there like morons and laughed while there rug rat kid made noise and they thought it was cute.
It starts with the parents, if the parents have no sense of etiquette, then the kids will be raised to be the same way. Sad but true.  | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:13:26 PM | OP - touched a raw nerve there  Cellphones - I hate them!!! Ugh, nothing worse than being in a restaurant, theater, office, or some other quiet location, and one has to be "blah, blah, blah" on their cell phone. Much less, their voice carries to the next town. Oh, and driving when talking on the phone? That's when I want to shoot the phone and put it out of its misery.
My ex BF would be on his cell phone (talking to his grown daughter) while driving. I told him that as long as I was in the car and he was driving, that I wouldn't tolerate him talking on the phone while driving. I don't havea problem with him pulling over. I'll be damned if I'm gonna put my life at stake, for some phone. If I'm eating in a restaurant, at church, in a theater, or any other public place, that phone had better be on vibrate.
My motto is there is a time and a place for cell phones. Unfortunately, this day and age, people forget manners. Guess I'm an old poop when it comes to cell phones. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:36:22 PM | | I actually found my ex's lack of a cell phone really annoying... lol... yeah... it was sortof a pain trying to get in touch with someone with only a home phone and no answering machine. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:14:21 PM | | It's downright rude to keep answering one's cellphone when one is on a date (except, of course, emergency calls from your children's babysitter). Your friends wanting to gab do not count as an emergency. If I go for dinner, drinks, date, visiting someone - I turn the thing OFF and check it later. The world isn't going to come to an end if I don't answer my phone. I am selective about answering my landline as well. I don't feel compelled to answer the phone just because it rings, nor do I break my neck running to answer it if I am outside or busy with chores or have company visiting me. That's why I subscribe to voice mail. Phones have to be the biggest invasion of privacy ever invented. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:19:40 PM | I say if a man insists on talking on his cell phone on a date...do the following.
He answers the phone, walk away....give him some very looooong privacy.
If he's driving his car, start organizing his glove compartment for him.
If you're driving, pull in the nearest mall. Get out and go shopping. Leave him to his phone conversation.
In other words, pretend he's not there. Occupy yourself. Hey.... He obviously doesn't care what you're doing...so just enjoy yourself.
He'll get the message. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:22:58 PM | Wouldn't it be nice if he gave you his credit card...just so he could have some privacy? Meet you at the Mall!!!  | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:25:38 PM | A cell phone ruined a date and any kind of future that would have or could have happened between me and this guy I was on a second date with...we were sitting side by side on my couch watching TV and talking and all of a sudden I felt a vibration on my leg...lol...it was his cell phone in his pocket...he reached into his pocket and he thought he turned it off but instead he turned it on...a few minutes later it rang...lol...he reached into his pocket and took it out checked to see who was calling and turned it off...a while later he made the lame excuse that it was hot in my apartment and needed to go out on my balcony to get some air...he went out side shut the sliding doors and proceeded to call some one back...I could see through my window the light from the phone...any way to make a long story short...he's history...and to this day he will still argue about that night...so the answer to the question...YES... | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:38:42 PM | | The only time i will use my cell phone during a date is if the date sucks and i need to let them know. whip it out, get online or start texting. I did it to one guy, he still didnt get the message so i just got up and left. I dont care if you just like to pick a girl and and go at it for hours(sex) and i dont need to hear that crap from you. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:55:34 PM | I don't own a cell phone and never will.
I've yet to be with any one that recieved a call on a date.
I do know that I am getting sick of seeing people in their cars using them. People are so tied into gotta have this or that now, that the cell phone is just one more thing that causes people to not have patience. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 4:33:56 AM | Patience, that's the key term!  There seems to be little of it anymore. I'm glad I'm not 20 years younger; dating for 20-somethings must be a nightmare. Apparently, everyone has ADD.
 Mo | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 4:55:39 AM | Mo not all 20 year olds have bad phone manners...
Cellphone date nightmares.. 1st date.. daughter calls talks our first 20 minutes.. 3 minutes later son calls.. this one seems endless... no apologies.. nada.. Note to self no dates anymore with guys with late teen and younger 20 something kids...
Second.. really was liking this guy but on the third date two different women called... 1st just a friend.. I can accept a man had a female friend.. but the second one was a psycho stalker type he had to gossip and tell me all about her.. Says he forgot something in his vehicle... (I take his phone away and say go...) well needless to say I said Adios when he came back! And handed him his plastic girlfriend...
Cellphones.. unless life and death on a date are RUDE!!!!! If a cellphone call is that important.. more important than being "with" the person who has taken time to meet you.. then I suggest stop dating people cause you're already in love with the Phone!!!
Not Romancing the Phone!
Girlflowe
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