| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 5:34:57 AM | Bad cell manners covers all ages, Girlflower, but seem to affect youngsters more because they're so accustomed to the technology—they've literally grown up with it.
And bad social manners aren't confined to cell abuse, either. With the explosion of iPods and portable gaming the problem of self-absorption and interpersonal arrogance is even worse. I don't think the present generation will ever know a completely uninterrupted, real-time, focused, one-on-one conversation with fellow human being? A pity.
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 8:34:26 AM | It was just a title meant to catch your attention...glad it worked. 
I wouldn't give someone such an ultimatum...imagine going through life knowing a cell phone won. 
It comes down to consideration for others, most people have it...some don't. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 9:00:14 AM | | i carry my cell phone turned OFF...if i need it then its there, but i dont want interuptions in my life........it just works better for me and whoever i am with that way! after all, a cell is for my convience, not for everyone else's! | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 9:02:57 AM | ^^^ Exactly! Dang these peeps that think I wanna talk, when if I did, I'd call them! 
(I've missed you, Miss Di!)  | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 9:06:56 AM | and THAT'S prolly why we cant get each other on tha cell phone, funny girl but dontcha know thats why there's alternative ways for folk to stay in touch with each other!...
(love you too fg...good to see you!) | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 11:19:49 AM | Cell phones are an unnecessary luxury.
They have also bypassed "alcohol" as the main reason of car crashes. I see more people concentrating on talking on their cell phones while driving, instead of focusing on the road. And cell phones aren't good in a relationship. People are more OPEN to their cell phones then they are to their boy/girlfriend.
And also the reason of trick ads in those shopping malls. I was walking in a mall once where some idiots were advertising to sell FREE cell phones, and I went to investigate. Turns out that it IS free...after you pay 200 bucks to activate the phone. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/23/2008 7:09:12 AM | | I don't have a cell phone and have no use for them, but before I go on a date I mention I don't have a cell phone and tell the date to at least turn off their cell phone or if I hear a phone the date is off plain and simple. In my opinion to go on a date and have a cell phone on is plain rude. I hear the phone enough at home I don't want to hear one when I am out. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/23/2008 7:22:25 AM | When I'm out with someone then my cell phone is off. If a close family member needs to reach me then they can wait; simple as that. The only time that really changes is if the person I'm with is meeting up with a couple of my own friends then I leave it on so we can find each other pretty easily.
I don't get this whole work excuse either, many people I know do have blackberries and they don't know when to shut them off! If I'm at work then I'll work, if I'm at home or somewhere else technically I'm off the clock and do not require that device. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/23/2008 7:29:11 AM | My cell is vital to my livelihood...I'm self employed and the customers I work with have full time jobs and much of our communication has to take place after business hours. I don't have set office hours...it's impossible. When I'm on a date I only answer calls that are absolutely necessary-I also tell the date that I'm expecting a call and I have to take it. By that time the person I'm out with will know about my work so they normally understand...if they don't I'm sorry, but they're welcome to walk-one deal can be 2 months wages for me and if it means I have to spend 5 or 10 minutes then so be it-I do need to make a living and to me that is a priority.
Having said that I don't take calls that aren't necessary and as I said I always mention it could happen up front.
By the way guys...you must realize that we girls usually have a friend ring or text an hour or so into a first meet so we can have a way 'out' if it's needed. Sometimes those calls/texts may be how she's staying safe. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/23/2008 7:57:32 AM | Hi Spiritual tourist,
Gotta ask---does your cell phone have a "HANG UP" button?
Do you understand how to use it?--just kidding. Once I have explained to 'anyone' that calls me, that I'm on a date--and they insist on continuing to talk--guess WHAT?
Yep--I HANG UP!!! YOU SHOULD TOO!! A true friend will not do you that way.
A family member that does, needs 'schooling', and anyone else--really don't matter.
You are most welcome. You see--'they' were rude first. Your obligation is with the one you are with!!!! Very much like--dancing, don't ya see? Dance with the one that brung ya!!!!  | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/23/2008 8:07:48 AM |
Have you ever felt like saying that to someone?
Any woman, who has ever "told" me to choose between her and something else, has always been met with the response that I'd choose the "something else". The cell phone isn't the issue, but the controlling behavior would be.
Cell phones are part of life in this era. It's not the cell phone that can be an "issue", but that someone is rude, if he is. Most people won't ignore a date, to talk to someone on the phone. Some will, and those are people who are terminally rude.
However, there are some people, who might have a business that requires them to be "available" by cell phone. When that's the case, if they've explained it to the other, then the other can either respond in an emotionally healthy way, or decide that everything is all about him/her. Those are the people who think a red light in traffic is part of a "plot" to "make them" late, rather than concluding that he/she should have left earlier, thus taking responsibility.
No, I would never give someone an ultimatum. If she were rude about the phone, she'd be rude by nature, and we wouldn't be a match. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/23/2008 10:54:06 AM | My father always said that when you take a woman out you lock all the car doors when you get out and ring her doorbell. Then you walk her to the passenger side, unlock the door, and open the door for her. Now... the driver side door is still locked. If she reaches over and unlocks the door for you before you have the chance to unlock it yourself then she has already earned a second date. If not, then you fulfill your obligation to the date as a gentleman and never call her again.
In this day and age of power locks and remotes I think this philosophy now applies to cell phones.
When I'm on a first date with someone I put my phone on vibrate or turn it off. Never ever NEVER EVER do I talk or text on the phone while on a date. This is extremely rude and displays a lack of interest. The way I see it the phone is for MY convenience, not anyone else's! If my date voluntarily extends the same courtesy to me then she just earned a second date. If just one time she gets on the phone and it's not an emergency then she's not getting a second date.
The last think you want is to end up with a selfabsorbed shallow moron! | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/23/2008 11:33:40 AM | | Depends what kind of Cell Phone we're talking about...bottom of the line Nokia or top of the line Samsung...if it's a new Blackberry 8800 so long Sweetie! | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/23/2008 12:59:27 PM | At the beginning of a date, I take my phone out, show it to her, turn it OFF, and put it away.
If her phone rings, and she starts a lengthy, non-emergency type of conversation, I pull out a paperback book, get comfortable and read. (I carry a book everywhere.)
After the call, I will calmly explain that I feel that the phone call was rude and disrespectful.
At that point the ball is in her court. If she does it again, knowing how it makes me feel, she's not right for me.
I've heard the "toilet seat talk" enough times to know how it's done right. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/24/2008 4:31:31 AM |
I don't get this whole work excuse either, many people I know do have blackberries and they don't know when to shut them off! If I'm at work then I'll work, if I'm at home or somewhere else technically I'm off the clock and do not require that device.
Clearly you've never had a salaried job. You are never off the clock when you don't get paid by the hour. There are just hours you've negotiated not to work and hope are honored. Many people are on call and don't get to count on uninterupted nights. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 7:07:40 AM | I wonder if those that use cell phones in unusual places and times -- like on a date, in the bathroom, in church -- ever think 'What did I ever do before I had a cell phone?'
But wait. I used the word "think," didn't I? Folks that "think" they absolutely, positively MUST answer that cell phone or text, even while otherwise engaged, don't do much thinking. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 7:11:12 AM | | Hi and know what you mean- Ihave found myself using cell phione to text, text, text and text again-The art of conversation seems to have disappeared and I'm not helping it any!! Think I will need to take soemthing from this and start to talk more x | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 7:13:52 AM | | Not ruined a date but pissed me off in a relationship but then it was workmatters so it didnt piss me off much at all because that person's work is really demanding so I didnt mind once he told me why. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 7:15:33 AM |
They have also bypassed "alcohol" as the main reason of car crashes
There are people who, for whatever reason, have an emotional issue with other people using cell phones that isn't logical. In truth, cell phones are down the list of causes for distracted driver accidents, behind things like eating while driving, smoking related (dropped cigarette), disciplining children, etc..
Alcohol is cited as it always has been in almost half of all serious accidents. Cell phones aren't even close.
But, then, that's logic, and statistics that are readily available. There are those statistics developed by groups that have an agenda against cell phones, where every crash that notes the presence of a cell phone, it is listed as a contributing factor. Since 85% of people have one, that's sort of a "no duh", that there are a lot of people with cells who have accidents.
It's not the topic in any case. It's about having a cell phone on a date. For me, i would simply tell her "you can take my cell phone away, when you can peel my cold, dead fingers off of it". | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 7:43:24 AM | Has cell phone usage ever affected your relationship or even ruined a date?
For me, cell phone usage on a date turns me off completely. To me, when a person starts taking calls while on a date, it means that they are willing to allow someone else to intrude on a date and what is even worse, to possibly allow a third person to be obtrusive.
The caller indirectly obtrudes (imposes thought on my mind without invitation) through the response I hear you (my date) make.
Personally, I don't want to hear from a third person because we decided to go out on a date with each other. I want to hear from you and not a third person. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:28:43 AM | I think cell phone usage has reached a new plateau in rude behavior.
Shut the darn things OFF people.
Who really needs to be "reachable" 24/7?
What in your life is so freaking crucial you can't be without a phone?
Ug.
I have learned to not give my cell number out to anyone but the most urgent people in my life. My sons, my parents, and my brother. Period. That's it.
My cell is for emergency situations when reaching me is critical.
I feel so much more empowered now and feel as though I have my life back. Instead of being ruled by the constant wishes of the people phoning my cell# and work? No way is work getting my cell number. If I'm NOT at work? I'm not at work.
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:59:23 AM | My company provides me with a cell phone because I "AM" on call 24/7. Being salary, I'm paid for the job I do, not the hours I put in. Problems can arise at any time and the nature of the business is 7 days a week.
My kids are very involved in both school functions and community volunteer projects or jobs and they call to keep me updated as to where they are, who they are with and what time they plan be home, or need to be picked up or to tell methat something came up and they will be later than expected. My personal cell and their cell's keep us in touch for these reasons.
I don't date, so I'm not worried about anyone taking offence. However, if anyone did? Sorry, but my children and my livelyhood are top of my priority list and anyone who can't understand that is not someone I want to be involved with anyway. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 1:13:39 PM | I don't date, so I'm not worried about anyone taking offence.
Been there done that
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 1:21:19 PM | | Sometimes when on date, your date is trying to pretend that he or she is on emergency, if the cp rangs or buzz for a message..etc..which the bottom line is..she or he has to leave and not interested with you:-) | |
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