| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 1:35:09 PM | Rule number one
Put that f**king cell, that d**m blue tooth, and any other electronic devices away or off when you are with me. Period . No exceptions
Let whoever leave a message
Your other women can call back later.
In my line of work the last thing I want to see is the phone.
I think the height of sad social behavior was something I witnessed the other day. 5 star out door cafe with well to do couples eating and talking on the cells. How do you manage to be part of couple when you can't enjoy a simple meal? Sad | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 1:36:15 PM |
Ihave found myself using cell phione to text, text, text and text again
Good point. Someone can text me, when I'm on a date, having sex, or driving in the dark, and I can answer it later, without interrupting or being rude. I love texting. It's a good solution to some of the dilemna mentioned in the OP.  | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 2:23:41 PM | | When I'm out with someone, and a call comes I'll let the phone ring (we call them mobiles in Aust.) , won't look at it. Priorities. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:42:34 PM | callwilliam said
Been there done that
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Funny man....thanks. That just made me spit my tea on the keyboard. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/16/2008 9:12:36 PM | Yes, they've ruined dates for me. I won't take anyone seriously who picks up a cell phone during a date (unless they had given me some warning that there is a call he is expecting that is a serious matter...being on call as a doctor, for example, or that he's picking up because he thinks it's an emergency, like a sick parent or something). I have come close to calling a date off on the spot because of cell phone rudeness, but haven't gone that far yet. I should have though. But if they don't know it bothers me that much yet, I will give them a chance. Second time, forget it.
Hmm...maybe I should walk out on dates now if they pick up. It might actually get the message across how incredibly rude it is to pick up without asking your date whether she minds or not. I really don't have time for losers who can't figure this out for themselves anyway. (again, there are certain circumstances that are okay - it's all about how you deal with it. A realtor is someone who has to be available to his clients, for example. But I'm not sure I'd date one anyway). | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/16/2008 9:57:18 PM | I love my cell phone but I know there's a time and place for everything.
Never had to say that to someone.
Although generally ultimatums don't go over well esp if the person is strong willed...and one wouldn't go over well with me. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/16/2008 10:31:54 PM | I set all calls to silent except for the number of the person watching my kiddo and that one I set to vibrate. I always make sure to let my date know that that's the only call I'll answer. So far I've never been interrupted by my phone on a date. One guy put his Blackberry on the table in between us and kept constantly looking down at the screen. He never picked it up, but he just seemed so preoccupied with it. It buzzed, scaring the shit out of me, he snatched it up and proceeded to have a 3 minute convo with his teenage son about a Rangers game. Seriously? Ugh. Check!
I think it's sad that this is such a problem. It's the height of rudeness. A PP mentioned call waiting and I have to say I feel much the same way about this. I NEVER EVER click over for call waiting. It's basically telling the other person, "Yeah, talking to you is fine, but this person beeping in may have more interesting things to say...so hang on!" Of course, there are exceptions to everything, but VERY FEW and so RARE that the barely bear meanttioning.
If you have a job that requires your constant contactableness (is that a word? is now) by phone than a quick explanation at the start of a date is all that is needed, just give me the heads up so I don't feel like a complete ass sitting there while you answer calls.
~lucky | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 6:48:53 AM | I fondly like to refer to cell phones as "the devil". They are a recent addition to our world, and we managed just fine previously! I absolutely fail to see any other purpose behind a cell phone beyond emergency situations. When you're with me, you're with me! I'm right here! We're talking, we're hanging out!....am I that boring, that I have to be ignored for every incoming "hey, what's up?", that you have to stop all for an "LOL". What's upsetting is....the people who ignore me to answer a text, have absolutely no idea that they are displaying a lack of respect, a lack of courtesy - being tasteless, and lacking class and decency. Why the need to be in constant contact with your online world ? A slave to your addiction. I personally enjoy being unavailable sometimes. And coming home to a message, or seeing that someone called.....is a source of excitement, a little gift in your day! Remember the good old days, when people left a message when you weren't home, and you laughed cause they sounded so uncomfortable and unprepared to talk to a machine?
I was with someone who felt the need to answer several texts on a first meet, while watching a movie at my place. I said, would you like me to turn the movie off? He said, no, why? I said, well, apparently, whatever is going on THERE, is a lot more interesting then what's going on here. A few more texts later, I shut off the movie, stood up, and ended the date. And I wasn't interested in his excuses and explanations.
No....cell phones are 'the devil'. I will walk away, I won't even ask "the cell phone or me". | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 10:57:37 AM | Good manners are Good!
I remember back in the day....ohoh...she's GOT to be old!...Yep, way back in the 70's when "call waiting" started. The hot "good manners" topic of the day.
"So, Mary. How do you feel about being put on hold FOREVER by Jane because Steve called...?".
With a new tool given us, we all recognized the polite way to be with that little piece of new technology. The polite thing to do was to tell "Steve" that she was on the line with "Mary"...and she would call him back.
Took alot of folks along time to figure that one out.
I have a cell phone. I let it ring. I have family and friends who just may seriously need to talk to me. I don't have the feature that shows who is calling. I'll answer, say "I'm with someone right now . I'll call you back." Then, if they say its an emergency...the date is informed. Otherwise...phone conversation over and out! Simple. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 12:03:23 PM | Hi Naughtical...Glad to see another one of your threads and STILL going strong...(since January...)
anyway...How would you like to be out to dinner taking your bf (this is a long time ago) out to dinner for his birthday and an "old fling" calls him to wish him "Happy Bday) on his cell and, he tells them "he can't talk now because he is out to dinner with friends."...WTF???? One of the MANY reasons he is an ex now.
Or wait..one better...You go on a date with someone and, they inform you that "they might have to take a cell phone call because of business, during the date." Okay..so he forewarned me..granted. BUT....there was very little conversation between us and then when the call came in..he spoke on the phone in front of me (YES...it was a business call), but for almost 20 MINUTES STRAIGHT and then after getting off the phone says to me..."So, what else?"....trust me..that was the first and last date. LOL
I, for one believe that if you inform the person that you are meeting, whether it be a friend, a date or family member that you are expecting a call, that is one thing...excuse yourself if necessary when the call comes in and try to make it brief so that you aren't rude to the person you are with. If it is an emergency situation, that goes without saying.
Just my two cents .....~~Beth~~ | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 12:17:21 PM | I haven't had any dates do this, but I have one relative who is constantly on her phone. She'd come to visit her elderly Grandma (to see how she's doing, see if she needed anything like jobs around the house, etc.). Her Grandma would be literally mid-sentence and the girl's phone would ring. Of course she had to answer it, even though it was just a friend wanting to chat about something that could have easily waited.
I think it just comes down to manners or the lack thereof. Some people have them and some people don't. It's a good weeding-out tool I think. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 1:41:11 PM | I had a cell phone ruin a date...well...for the person that owned the phone...the date went stunning for me....let me explain.
I met her for a first date at a nice steakhouse here in AZ. We had just gotten our food when her cell phone rang. She picked it up and answered it. Now let me say this...to me kids and family always come first. However she proceeded to start yammering on about which one of her friends was banging who and what they wore to the club last weekend and just general gossipy stuff. I got very annoyed very quickly but I just sat there and slowly ate my steak and enjoyed it. After 15 or 20 minutes she had barely touched her food but I had heard pretty much about the sexual exploits of her friends and the latest fashion report.
So when I finished my food I excused myself and used the restroom and got cleaned up and made a beeline to the door...on the way I stopped our waiter and gave him a tip and told him she would be covering the bill.
Well she called me about 15 minutes later wondering where I was and I told her I was at home getting ready for a nap. She started yelling at me saying they had brought her the bill and she didnt have any money to pay it, oh not to mention I had given her a ride to the Steakhouse. Oops.
I suggested she call her friend that she was all chatty with and have them come get her and bring her some money. Well needless to say I never heard from her again, which was all well and good because I had no desire to.
Was a damn delicious steak however. Best things in life are free it turns out. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 1:46:24 PM | Some people like to gossip a lot.
I had one relationship where she was permanently connected to her landline or mobile phone.
Your right it is downright rude being left on your own while they spend all night chatting to others. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 1:59:28 PM | | Serves her right, she deserved it. I had a lunch date recently where my date told me he might be getting a call about what time his next meeting was that afternoon and someone he worked with did call. Being the charmer that he is, he said that he was having lunch with a gorgeous woman and to make the call a quick one. Being that we had not seen each other in more than 4 years ( he moved out of the country and is now back in Atlanta), and since I felt older and like the small zit on my face was a beacon that day, those words made me smile. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 2:16:56 PM | I don't usually sceen my incoming calls. But then there are the people who call fist thing when you come home from work and you're completely worn out. When I come home in the summer after spending 12 hours slaving in the sun the first thing I want is a cool shower. I don't want to gab. I want to cool down, get clean, eat make my lunch for the next day and only then would I want to talk to anyone. Sometimes I just want to shower and sleep.
Secret: " I've got another incoming call. Call back later" or if I am driving: "What! I'm sorry but you're breaking up. I'll call you back". This doesn't happen often but just in case it does I now have the fix. Generaly I don't brush anyone off. There are times when I do have to though. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/17/2008 7:48:27 PM | | Cell phone usage during a date is rude. When you are a on a date with someone, the cell should be turned off, or put on vibrate and put in a purse or pocket, or left in the car. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/18/2008 5:40:48 AM | Like I said earlier in this thread, if the woman is addicted to cell phoning I will NOT go out with her. I won't care if she has the greatest personality in the world and looks like a Victoria's Secret model.
And that's not MY problem, but HERS! | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/18/2008 6:17:51 AM | While I wouldn't give anyone an ultimatum, I know for a fact that anyone who is, or needs to be tethered to their cellphones, no matter what the reasons are, is simply not the person for me.
I regularly go to (or used to go and might again one day) an area where there no cellphone services available (along with no electricity/water). That's where my camping trailer is parked, and ideally, it's where I would like to spend most of my summers one day. And if that person needed his phone for his livelihood or for any other reasons, he couldn't be there with me.
Also...the lifestyle of one who needs to be reached 24/7 would severely clash with mine anyway. Mainly because I don't believe that's true except perhaps in the mind of the person who imagines that it is.
No one will ever convince me that the world will come to an end if "they" can't be reached 24/7. It's not going to happen. At least not on my time anyway. Even the most prestigious physician/surgeon in the world has time off.
No one is, or can be forced to be "on call" 24/7 unless that's what they want. And that's fine if that's what they want and what makes them happy...but it's not what I want.
And yup...I too have elderly parents and a mom who's not doing well. I also have kids and grand kids I adore. But I also have my life to live and I intend to keep it that way. To each their own.
JMO
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/18/2008 9:20:07 AM | it sorta affected mine back then. we were going through a "relationship crisis". he was always with his "study buddy" and when i asked him to call, he never did. i was super pissed! i fully believed he's forgotten about me and was all up with that chick. i found out he's been trying to call me all along, and my phone was just messed-up...*frigging telus!*
how did i know he wasn't lying? we were at the kiosk, we dialed my cell number, and it wasn't ringing. right in the kiosk, my phone failed to ring when we kept calling it (while it kept ringing from the caller's side)...lol! | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/18/2008 11:14:45 AM | ALIENWARE broke it on down for sure for sure!!!!!! That's the way this world has become..............ALL SCREWED UP with these DEVILISH toys!!!!!!   | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/18/2008 11:24:35 AM | When I'm on a date I always have my cell phone on ONLY because my daughter is not with me, if it's not my kid, I don't answer.......straight to voicemail. I'd like to give my date my attention especially if I'm digging him....(oh god did I just "date" myself with that phrase?)  | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/19/2008 11:16:05 AM | My ex's cell phone assisted in destroying a relationship, along with his failure to teachhis daughter any manners. He had a 15 year old daughter who called CONSTANTLY, especially if she knew he was with me. He ALWAYS answered it and it might be "I just called to tell you that I love you daddy" or, "dad, I'm still at the mall", even though she wasn't due home for a couple of hours. She would go in the bathroom and call him on her cell to interupt our conversations, and he refused to line her out, so, he had to go. I outrank a cell phone, period.  | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:15:17 PM | I fondly like to refer to cell phones as "the devil". They are a recent enough addition to our world, and we managed just fine previously! I absolutely fail to see any other purpose behind a cell phone beyond emergency situations. When you're with me, you're with me! I'm right here! We're talking, we're hanging out!....am I that boring, that I have to be ignored for every incoming "hey, what's up?", that you have to stop all for an "LOL". What's upsetting is....the people who ignore me to answer a text, have absolutely no idea that they are displaying a lack of respect, a lack of courtesy - being tasteless, and lacking class and decency. Why the need to be in constant contact with your online world ? A slave to your addiction. I personally enjoy being unavailable sometimes. And coming home to a message, or seeing that someone called.....is a source of excitement, a little gift in your day! Remember the good old days, when people left a message when you weren't home, and you laughed cause they sounded so uncomfortable and unprepared to talk to a machine?
I was with someone who felt the need to answer several texts on a first meet, while watching a movie at my place. I said, would you like me to turn the movie off? He said, no, why? I said, well, apparently, whatever is going on THERE, is a lot more important then what's going on here. A few more texts later, I shut off the movie, stood up, and ended the date. And I wasn't interested in his excuses and explanations.
No....cell phones are 'the devil'. I will walk away, I won't even ask "the cell phone or me". | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:21:51 PM | | I own a cell phone.. but it most certainly doesn't own me. Just ask any of my friends..... | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:30:39 PM | | One of the things I look for in a man is that he must NOT have a cell phone attached to his ear. If there were a place were cell phones could be banned from all public places, where people would not dream of subjecting others to their loud, annoying personal conversations every minute of the day, I would move there in a second. As you can guess, I don't own a cell phone. I see people all the time walking around (or doing just about anything) with a cell phone attached to their ear. What has our society come to? I find it appalling. | |
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