| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:50:02 PM | Is talking on a cell phone while driving illegal in your state (or where you live)?
I know some states have banned cell phones while driving unless they are handless. I think it should be banned completely while driving. Using hands or not, people talking on the phone while driving are usually distracted. They tend to drive slower and not be as observant at traffic lights and 4-way stops and such, which can cause accidents.
Some states have made it against the law for teenagers to talk on a cell phone while driving.
Of course, this thread is about cell phone usage on dates, but if you are being picked up for your date, riding with your date, it is a concern and issue. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:50:23 PM | | Hey OP, You can't legislate common sense or good behavior. Someone constantly on their cell in your presence is telling you that you are not important or a priority to them. It's just short of being slapped in the face imho. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:51:38 PM | | You've hit on one of my pet peeves. I'm totally sick and tired of people on cellphones. I do have one, use it occasionally but as quietly as possible. I think human beings never get over the obsession with toys and gadgets and so these phones and blackberries are endlessly fascinating. The other day while I was driving I yelled GET OFF THE PHONE at a woman who was blabbing on the phone, walking with her baby carriage right into traffic. She was quite surprised, I mean come on people, WAKE UP. As far as a date goes, no, I haven't been with anyone yakking on the phone, I couldn't tolerate it. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/28/2008 7:07:36 PM | i've been out on a few dates and as soon as she gets on the phone , i get up go pay my part of the bill for the meal, go back to the table get my stuff, and tell her have a gooder, your stupid cell is more important then a possible meet. and sometimes i was there ride home which they lost. i don't put up with that.
and may i also add that if i am on call for a predetermined ammount of time i will tell that person in advance that if my phone goes off i have to go work. and i expect the same amount of information from the other.
never happens though | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/28/2008 7:14:56 PM | | I think it is just plain rude unless it is their family or job. I think a person can leave their cell phone off during a date. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/29/2008 12:29:45 AM | | I do not answer my cell phone after work unless it is my children or if it is an emergency my family nows that and will hang up and call back. Very seldom do I have a work emergency that I have to tend to and then with the blackberry they e-mail me and they are the only one who has that address so I know if I don't answer then my job is on the line........... Do people irritate me who constantly text or talk on a cell phone during a date yes it does. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/29/2008 12:43:48 AM |
Cell phones are such a part of our lives anymore, we don't go anywhere without them. They are handy and convenient. However, some people seem to feel the need to talk on them CONSTANTLY, have you ever felt neglected because of this? I, personally, think if I am with someone, I should take priority...not the person who called (excluding emergencies or job related calls).
Has cell phone usage ever affected your relationship or even ruined a date?
I had a girlfriend that texted all the time. One day she texted the whole time we were watching a movie together. She fell asleep during the movie so I grabbed her phone. She was sexy texting with some guy (that turned out to be her first love who was married) and even had nudey photos of herself on her phone that she had sent to him. So, I confronted her about it and the first thing out of her mouth was, "I won't do it anymore." LOL I called her a w-h-o-r-e and that was the end of that relationship.  | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/29/2008 3:35:30 AM | naughtical wrote
...I should take priority...not the person who called ...
I agree. I do not let my boyfriends interrupt our conversations with cell phone calls unless:
A: The call is from their mother
B: Our conversation is just really small talk about nothing.
I have grabbed cell phones out my boyfriends hands and hung them up. Once I even threw my boyfriends cell phone down the street because I got so annoyed that he constantly answered his phone in the middle of our conversations. I told him it was the cell phone or me. He chose the cell phone...LOL...Oh well...You can not win them all. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/29/2008 3:46:42 PM | | I kind of feel bad for newer generations of daters because they grew up with cell phones attached to their ears. They don't know what it's like to be on a date or out with friends and actually be able to just BE WITH EACH OTHER. It's really quite a fascinating concept and one that we took for granted when I was growing up. You actually get to talk to the person you're with without multi-tasking. You can learn so much about a person when you aren't carrying on several other conversations at the same time. We wonder why we have so much ADD in our society. HELLLOOO! | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/29/2008 3:57:08 PM | I'm on-call 24/7 and even I ignore my work phone when I'm on a date. I'll register that somebody called so I remember to call them back and that's it. There are very few people who can not safely ignore their phone for an hour or two for a date and I'd know if I was going out with a lawyer, a cop or a firefighter.
My policy is, if they answer the cell while on a date with me, and they aren't one of those rare people with a job they cannot ignore for an hour, I leave. I've never had to do this but it's my policy. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/29/2008 6:30:24 PM |
The great cell phone war of 2008 is on. I will say this, I Carrie Bradshaw do not have a cell phone. I know, in this day and age for a woman to not have a cell phone. But really, I do not need one so why should I have one? Just because everyone else does and I want to be like the cool kids?
I have nothing against cell phones or people who use them. Some people need them for their jobs, have kids etc.
But my only problem are the rude cell phone people. You see them everywhere here. Their cell goes off during a movie, they walk around the mall bumping into people and not paying attention to where they are going and screaming into their phone. I have never understood why so many people raise their voice when they talk on a cell phone. Is it because the phone is smaller so they think they need to talk louder? Or is it because they want people to know they are part of the cool kid club and have a cell phone?
I know people who are on their cell phone all the time. It does not matter who they are with or what they are doing. They make calls and take calls that are not important. It makes the person they are with feel as they are not important.
I can understand having to take a call but there is a difference between that and never putting the darn thing down.
Yay Carrie! I had a cell phone for a few years. Then I gave it up. I have been cell phone-free for about 6 years now. I can honestly say that in those 6 years, there were maybe 2 times when it would have been really convenient to have one. Boohoo for inconvenience.
I remind everyone that our parents and grandparents grew up without cell phones. They all managed to raise their kids, and we all survived. I don't buy this "need" for them. It's mainly an annoying way for people to feed their ADD.
I once had a date lined up with a POF guy. I waited for 30 minutes and he never showed up. I wasn't especially upset, because it was very close to home, I wanted a latte anyway, and I brought a book to read. Later I found out that he was running late, but couldn't call me because I didn't have a cell phone. Here's what I have to say to that. You have a first date with someone? Just show up! | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/29/2008 7:20:08 PM | | Yes, they are very rude. I bring my cell phone along, and if he starts talking, I just call my Mom or my sister, or someone on my CONTACTS LIST. I keep on talking and talking, way beyond the time limit, so he can get a taste of his OWN MEDICINE. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/29/2008 8:06:08 PM | Speaking of talking on the cell. At one point everytime I was out I saw almost everyone on the cell phone. And some calls just should not be made in public. Therefore I choose when I am on the phone more carefully and the topic of conversation when I am out in public as well.
It's just a darn phone. I say get a real life and put the phone away. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 7:33:24 AM | since I'm a divorced mom, I'll answer my phone if my girls call but if I'm on a date, I tell them ahead (my girls are both over 18) so they don't call for nothing but I won't answer it for my friends, etc. I do have an elderly mom so I'll pick up for her too but I always worry that something may be wrong if she calls my cell.
I did date someone who seemed to resent my daughters calling but when I was just spending time with him (after that dating phase was long over) and they needed to get ahold of me, they'd just call but he did hate it. I'm a mom and they are going to need me, deal with it. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 8:23:30 AM | I had a boyfriend that always had his cell phone on - during dates, all night, etc. Some of his clients were overseas. I asked him if his boss kept his on 24/7 and he said no. I then asked him how it's different than when he's on a call and another one goes to voicemail which he returns later.
He's since happily engaged and turns the phone off at night and sometimes on weekends, and definitely during meals. 
So, OP, I couldn't agree with you more! | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 9:11:22 AM | Besides the fact that they are annoying, they are one more gadget to maintain. They need to be charged, you have to remember to bring them everywhere you go; you have to be careful not to drop them in the toilet; don't forget the car charger.......... It's just too complicated having so many things to maintain. And the time you would need one the most is when you are stranded in the middle of nowhere with no gas in your car (this happened to me). Then your cell phone most likely will be out of the calling area anyway (this also happened to me). Personally, I could live without the computer, too, and have done so periodically for a few years at a time. In fact, without the computer, I find I get so much done!
Though we are a mechanized society, I think it's important to remember that these items are not absolutely essential to live. There is so much joy in simplicity, in walking down the street and simply making eye contact with people and looking at the trees. We are always busy trying to cram so much into the day that we have forgotten how to just be. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 11:22:03 AM | | I never had or will have a cell phone because I have no use for them. I simply buy a phone card and if I need to use the phone I use a pay phone with my phone card. Cell phones are the worst thing that was ever created. Plus you have hefty fees for those cell phones which I will pass on. I do have a cb radio in my car incase I ever need it which is free to use not like a cell phone. Cell phones also cause brain tummors which I don't want. When I go out for a date I tell the lady I don't have a cell phone and if you do please put it away or keep it off or I will cancel the date right away. I think people can live without their cell phones for an hour or so for their dates. Leave the voice mail answer and return the call after your done your date it's that simple. Here in Ontario eventually they will be banning cell phones also from cars but of course people will still use them until they get caught anyways. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 5:56:01 PM | My ex-husband was constantly on the cell. He is self-employed and used that phrase as a weapon and an excuse to answer the phone in the middle of family gatherings, romantic dinners (yeah, that really did it for me!), in the middle of important conversation and intimate moments. I have gotten up from bed, and walked out of a restaurant on a special occasion for the two of us due to this issue. Talk about rude meeting rude...but I had had it.
Ladies and gents...let's have some respect for each other and keep the cells in perspective...it won't kill you to miss a call or phone someone back at a more appropriate time. It's a Pavlovian reaction at this point...we just need re-training! | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 7:37:43 PM |
I simply buy a phone card and if I need to use the phone I use a pay phone
Payphone???
In my area they are practically obsolete. I remember when you would see them on every corner, outside every store or gas station and inside grocery stores and so forth. Not anymore. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 9:24:57 PM | | I just posted what I thought to be a rather witty saying on the Ultimatums thread. But I'm slightly buzzed so practically anything I'd say would seem rather witty to me... | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 9:53:24 PM | That should not even be a topic of discussion.
I try and avoid to talk on the phone as much as i can.
Most of the times i will not answer the phone when im with someone else. If its important a message will remind me of that and then i will call back. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:34:13 PM | Cell phone abuse is ubiquitous.. driving ,in restaurants, at work trying to decompress at lunch.. Its rude to anyone within hearing and Im tired of trying to pretend it isnt happening.. one day of open season on cell phone users...is that too much to ask?
( i should mention that im carrying around a fair amount of metal holding my shoulder together after an auto accident with someone that ran a red light while talking on their cell..perhaps im not impartial...) | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:39:50 PM | | Man, this is a good post OP. I hate when people can't put down their cell or keep looking at it every two seconds like it is their life. The funny part is that these people don't even have anything important going on. | |
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| It's the cell phone or me !!!
Posted: 9/3/2008 7:03:29 AM |
One of the things I look for in a man is that he must NOT have a cell phone attached to his ear.What has our society come to? I find it appalling.
Funny stuff snakewhisperer and as long as you don't have one of your snakes wrapped around your neck on a first date either! 
Seriously, theres a time and place for every thing and phone is the new security blanket for some. I often wonder what Charlie Brown would do? I do own a cell,no land line and when I'm out and about and the phone rings I normal return all calls then I return home.
And when I'm entertaining,with family, friends ,asleep or on a date it's nod-da sweet pea.
Slow down and smell the roses cuz when the morning comes you'll can find out all the good stuff. Just don't get addicted to the forums cuz it might cause brain damage! you heard it first here. | |
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