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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 1/7/2008 10:45:28 PM | Happiness CAN be found in any job.
-A person cleaning toilets is more often happy with 'busy' work. This person also has the potential to spend more time with a family.
-A CEO makes millions for the business and earns a desirable income and potentially attracts whoever they desire.
-Its all about what you want to do for yourself and no one job can EVER make you happy. You decide how you feel about yourself. | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:42:09 PM | I'm learning to really dislike questions that begin with "why" (nothing personal, De Lorean... most people do this).... "Why" questions are designed to evoke opinions, reasons and excuses. Now, there's nothing inherently wrong with any those - they are as numerous as grains of sand. Most of the time, though, they don't make a difference. They just flog a dead horse.
Now, start a question with "What" or "How" and you'll come up with a question worth answering! :)
That being said...
As long as someone is happy with what they do for a living, I don't care what they do. I mean, I want them to make enough money to take care of themselves and their own needs/wants (no freeloaders, please). And if they are happy and satisfied with what they do, cool. Like someone else post people identify themselves with their jobs (what they do defines who they are)... If that is the case, I want someone to like what they're doing 'cause then it follows that they like themselves (that makes sense to me, at least)... | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:50:24 PM |
I'm learning to really dislike questions that begin with "why"
You're discovering cognitive therapy on your own. :) Speculating as to "why" is a form of distorted cognition that makes people feel miserable. The more you leave "why" alone (as in motives, not "why is my car not starting), the less you're making yourself miserable. :) | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 1/8/2008 12:57:12 AM | Now if I take o what I do for a living I get the profession question full throttle.......so i think im gonna lie on that part.......What do you think is best?
You might want to downplay your profession if you think that women are overly interested in your career or financial status.
My friend who owns numerous UPS outlets has a PoF profile that lists himself as a shipper/receiver.
I think that some of the other posters are reading too much into someone's profession.
It's impossible to judge someone by their profession alone.
I doubt that I would date a mortician...or a politician. Too creepy.  | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 1/8/2008 1:18:42 AM | I agree - it should not matter. I list my profession as 'Professional Slacker'. As you might guess, I get lots of prying questions - one lady even said it was a disgrace. My point was exactly as yours, but to take it even further to the manipulative plane. It simply allows me to see who is, in my mind, superficial. Bottom line, if money (or lack thereof) is a determining factor in how you feel and act towards someone, then your simply not of the right mindset...for me | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 1/8/2008 2:49:24 AM | I think it depends on how you enjoy your job. No one wants to see an exausted misery or stressed out cop every night. Being happy thats what its all about. And a job is always a question. Its not all about money but who you are during the week. Im a belly dancer and a lot of people presume its slutty but its not. Its a well paid fun job and my biggest fans are euorpean older women. I dont care about others opinions. Im having a hell of a time and getting paid very well. Your here on this earth for you to make you happy not others they have their own jobs and lives. This may sound small minded to some but id like my guy to have at least one propertey as i do. I think if you have nothing at my age your pretty slack. Unless of course the divorce courts werent in your favor. Im not sure id like to go out with a gynocologist, used car sales man, or an airline pilot all for past personal reasons. I like a man with a tool bag around his waist now thats a turn on | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 1/8/2008 6:59:10 AM | Really your job shouldn't matter. I can totally agree.
Thomasthefinch, I would have to disagree with you. A garbage man whether or not the person wanted to be one or not is not uninteresting, it is not indicative of their personality either. Who's to say you know what life events led them to becoming one? Is it fair to judge someone on that? It may not seem like much but there's a responsibility with even the smallest job that you have to be proud of.
On another note, I would have more judgement on the person rather than the job they uphold because I do not know what their life entails. If they were content with where they stood in the job, who are you to say that this person is not worthy of anything?
Don't judge a book by its cover. | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 2/13/2008 5:56:35 PM | to me its just a conversation starter.
its something to talk about.
it occupies a quarter to a third of most people's day.
and its more personal than "how bout this weather, huh?"
unless they don't work, that could be a red flag! | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 2/13/2008 6:00:02 PM |
Even I can answer this one.
What a person does for a living is indicative of who they are.
If you are a dustbin man, or Garbage man, then chances are when you were younger you didn't want to be a garbage man. Chances are right NOW you don't want to be a garbage man. It doesn't matter that you are one, but it suggests you arn't the type of person to follow their dreams, and achieve them. On top of that, someone who is content being a garbage man, can't be the most interesting person in the world. I mean, how can you be content with a repetative job?
I think THAT is what matters.
Man this forum is so much more interesting than the ask a guy forum.
LOL...not only are you funny thomasthefinch, but you pretty much nailed it. | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 2/13/2008 6:12:04 PM | | It matters to me what a potential partner does for a living, not for financial reasons or social class but because of concerns about compatibility of morals & beliefs. Luckily, I haven't met anyone with a really crazy job but if a man was a porn film director or something like that, I'd wanna know up front so I could steer clear. | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 2/13/2008 6:38:42 PM | Seriously, though the job, and money, do not make the man, they surely do indicate the seriousness of a man to better himself.
Obvious exceptions such as the Peace Corps not withstanding.
A woman can find a bouncer sexy, and even fun and interesting, but they nearly always will consider if this is enough before moving on. Everyone has different criteria for a SO, so one answer doesn't fit all, but like height and weight, money, job and the ability to provide do have some effect on your desireability!
Jim | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 2/13/2008 6:42:28 PM |
A career is a career is it not?........Why does it seem to matter so much? I mean how should something so trivial get in the way of animal magnetism. If your attratcted........ your attracted to the person ........not the money they make or the job that they have.
It’s not trivial. At least it wasn’t in our case. In fact, it was the basis of our first conversation, which lead to subsequent conversations, which lead to meeting each other, which eventually lead to us becoming a couple and living together.
Given the circumstances, had we not had our careers as a common denominator, it’s highly unlikely we would be where we are today.
LH | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 2/13/2008 7:06:24 PM |
What a person does for a living is indicative of who they are
If you are in a dead end job, hate it every day, and every time I see you, you grumble and b*tch about it.... I don't want to spend time with you - no matter how much you make. If you are someone who never finished high school, and are now pushing 40, still working retail and every day tell the world how it is someone else's fault that you never got further in life, etc. etc. etc...... I don't want to be around you.
I had one man tell me he was "happily retired" at age 52, I congratulated him on it, and said it sounded like he did good, but I also found it quite ironic that a retired mechanic would not own a car, and was this due to his being environmentally conscious? He lost it on me, calling me every kind of free-loader and gold-digger going... I suggested he go back and read my profile... which at that time stated I had a good job - that I loved.... he then wanted to move in with me.... all within the space of 6 emails.
Considering we spend the majority of our waking hours at work, how can it NOT affect who we are and our outlook on life to a large degree? | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 2/13/2008 7:27:05 PM |
On top of that, someone who is content being a garbage man, can't be the most interesting person in the world. I mean, how can you be content with a repetative job?
Nah, you simply can't know that. Maybe he (or she) picked a repetative job to pay the bills and allow them to think about the book they're writing at home, or the music they're composing, or the fine furniture they're crafting. Nice little bitter pill for someone who rejected them because of their "job" to meet them a few years later when they're rich and famous.
A couple of years ago in this city, a middle-aged taxi driver was thrust into the role of hero when he saved the life of a stranger being attacked on the street by an armed robber. Turned out he was an immigrant driving cab while he improved his English enough to get himself accredited at his profession: he had been a fighter jet pilot in the former Soviet Union, and was going to be a commercial jet pilot here, after a while. You never know. And he liked driving taxi, too. | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 2/13/2008 7:35:54 PM | If you can get someone to talk about what they do 8 hours a day, you can usually learn a lot about whether they're happy in the way they spend their time...whether they have a passion for something, whether they're proud of their accomplishment, what's important to them and what their interests are...and if you have anything in common that might actually bond you, beyond the bedroom.
It's really NOT about the financial issue. If a guy is boring, counting down to retirement and has no interest in his work, all the money in the world really doesn't make up for that. | |
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| Why Should It Matter What I Do For A Living?
Posted: 2/13/2008 9:10:04 PM |
someone who is content being a garbage man, can't be the most interesting person in the world. I mean, how can you be content with a repetitive job?
Because maybe the person who is content in a repetitive job sees work as something only to make money.Maybe actually living their lives and spending their time with loved ones is the important things to them.
What a person does for a living is indicative of who they are.
No how a person lives their lives is indicative of who they are.A job is just something you do to make money.I would much rather spend my time doing things i love with the people i love then climbing the corporate ladder.I will leave that to those who have no life outside of their careers. | |
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