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Posted: 5/16/2007 10:47:36 PM |
Verissa?
It was only a second date and you invited this guy to your home with your kids in the house?
You are lucky his worst fault was he was stupid and had no sense of time nor direction. He could have been violent.
val0214.... I forgot to mention that this man is my cousin's boyfriend's best friend..but yes we only knew one another for a short period of time...one would assume that I'd be warned by my family..lmao | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 10:48:11 PM | | I've never ever had a bad date, since i am relatively new to this site. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 11:37:08 AM | I had a man tell me, not ask -- TELL -- me to get up and get him some Skittles in the middle of a movie. When I checked to see if he was kidding, he elbowed me and said "Hurry!!".
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| Farewell Fishies!
Posted: 5/17/2007 1:20:28 PM | I am leaving this site soon and would like to leave behind some
words of wisdom to future women looking for a date on plenty of fish...
If a man can so easily lie about something so obvious
as his HEIGHT - what other things will he lie about???
3 men told me they were 6'0 tall when in actuality they were
more like 5'10" with shoes on!
Beware of men who say things like:
" I don't want to jump into bed with a woman."
or
" I don't drink alcohol at all."
What they really mean is:
" I don't have sex on the first date, but expect it on the third!"
and
" I am really a recovering alcoholic!"
Any man who will not post a clear photo of his face
is probably NOT very attractive or has bad teeth!
A man always wearing a hat is usually BALD.
A man who says he works out at the gym everyday
is usually a guy with NO dates, who enjoys checking
out woman at the gym and can't get rid of his
beer belly as hard as he tries.
I am not writing all these things to be mean;
I am saying these things because they are the TRUTH!!!
Also - a guy working 3 jobs is probably BROKE!!!
And finally, NEVER agree to meet a guy for the first
date closer to where he lives. That means he is a
total loser. I had to find all these things out the hard
way.
That is why I am quitting plenty of fish.
It's back to the bar scene for me.
At least there I will know what the guy really looks like
and don't have to waste a bunch of time emailing and
talking on the phone before I finally get lost driving
to Dallas and realize I've been corresponding with
a loser for a month!!!
Best wishes and good luck to all the honest women
out there. You will surely need it!
Xenafrog | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 3:44:56 PM |
I had a man tell me, not ask -- TELL -- me to get up and get him some Skittles in the middle of a movie. When I checked to see if he was kidding, he elbowed me and said "Hurry!!".
I hope you did as he said and "hurried" right out of there, and left him wondering where you went when you never returned. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 5:47:39 PM | I met one guy who was nice enough for most of the evening. We had dinner, and then went to hear a jazz band. The more he drank, the louder and more obnoxious he got. He kept asking me to dance, and when I finally said yes, he tried to grope me on the dance floor, pulled me to him and started gyrating his hips. I pushed him off and was out of there in a flash! When I got home, I remembered that I had his keys in my purse. He had on tight pants and didn't want a "bump" in his pocket. Good thing, because he was way too drunk to drive. He called the next day and was pretty nasty about it. I took his keys to an agreed upon meeting place, and he jerked them out of my hand and walked away.
Another man was so rude to the waiter, I couldn't believe it. I finally had to smooth things over with the manager so I could at least finish my meal. We were getting wine 2 for 1, and I don't drink much, so he drank 6 of the 8 we got. I drove him home and made sure he got in o.k., then I was gone. He called me the next day to take him to get his car. I told him to take a cab and hung up. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 7:07:33 PM | Hmmm... worst one that comes to mind right off hand was a girl who for a first date I took to an outdoor concert... one of those deals where you can sit back a ways on a blanket and still chat while the band is playing, etc.
Yeah.. at the last minute she invites a friend with.. *and* all through the concert takes calls on her cell phone. Pretty much didn't acknowledge my existence through the whole thing.
I'm assuming she was just in it for the free concert tickets :/ | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 7:09:11 PM | Oh, and I thought I'd mention since people are equating these with POF - this was *not* somebody I met online.
Ironically in the past, as much as I hear people gripe about them, dates I've made with people I've met online have been among the best. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 9:45:14 PM | Stargazer,
My bad dates I posted didn't come through here either. The few people I met through here are still friends. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 3:01:08 PM | Another guy actually ate the shell from the shrimp! AAAACKKKKKKK! He was so dumb! That really showed a terrible lack of common sense. Anyone with half a brain would know that eating a sharp shrimp shell (try saying that six times fast!) could tear up your digestive tract--and could cause death!
Maybe that doofus was really an alien with three stomachs and two gizzards! | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 8:54:15 PM | Xenafrog Sorry you feel that way about this sight , I had some bad experiences too . By the way , Im in recovery and yes I haven't had a drink for almost four years' . I'm not expecting a pat on the back , its what I should have been doing all along . Its to bad that a man lied to you and turned you into a victim like that . I also have bad teeth too , and my picture is clear , must say something about my character . Im not supperficial . I had a bad experience on here too once . I read a profile on this girl , who said that she wasn't into head games' and that she wanted better out of life for herself , yet what she didn't mention was , someone else should pay for it . She was in a relationship with a man who pretty much paid her way thrue life , ( he was a truck driver ) , he was never home either . There she had the freedom and the money . What happened was though , he kicked her out of the house , she moved into the houseing project and had to work for a living . Once more she didn't mention the fact that she was chaising down the light bill , and that she couldn't keep up with her rent . Yet her and her neighbors' could sit arround buying Mary Kay all day , and gossiping about the neighbors' .
She wanted to be taken out , wined and dined , and if you were stable enough , you could take care of her and her three kids for the rest of your life . She didn't want to take care of herself , she was looking for someone else to take care of her . I see that you may have had a few run in with liars' on here , but maybe you should see it from our point of view . It's on both sides of the street ma'am , and I am 6 ft tall too . Ugly too . | |
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Posted: 5/22/2007 4:42:57 AM | | I thought taking my time getting to know somone on line would help before meeting them off line. I had just moved from Cali to Florida and one guy I met off of this site I would except the date offered. He wanted to pick me up at my house. I said I rather meet you at the dinner place. He was about 30 mins late but traffic on HWY19 driving South to North is very conjestive so I didnt hold it against him. At first everything was fine. As we were about done with dinner he hinted about renting some movies and going back to his place to watch them. I said how about we do that at a later date. he got kinda huffy over it and kept saying so this date is just for dinner. To me it was the first time meeting each other didnt see the point in making it a long date. The Bill came and he said I guess we should just split it. I had a garden salad and a glass of water he had Lobster and a few glasses of wine. I through down $5.00 I said that should cover my rabbit food and enough for my share of the tip! I got up and left when I got home just before going off to work he e-mailed me wanting to know when the second date would be! I e-mailed back and said one date was more then enough for me! The other bad date I had was a few months after that one. We met at a club he knew forehand that I was 18 the club was 21 and older. I had alot of trouble getting in when I was finally able to get past the bouncer my date was talking to some other woman he said oh I thought you were going to be a no show! Well his profile said he was 27 but he was 38 he said Oh I must of mis typed yeah right! He was very**** all though the date and he was on his cell phone most of the time everytime it rang he said I swear if it wasnt important I wouldnt take this call! he said so tell me about yourself I said we have e-mailed back and forth many times dont you read them. he said yes I read them just need a re-cap ! As I started to talk his phone rang again.. He said I swear this will be the last call I take... he said that like 4 phone calls before that one. So I got up and left. A few days later he e-mailed me asking why I left. Geesh I think it was pretty obvious! | |
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Posted: 5/22/2007 5:05:06 AM | | Though I dont date often mostly because I work 2 jobs not because Im poor or broke but their isnt alot to do where I live and I like both places I work at! Most gripe that I dont smile in any of my pics! I had nothing to smile about at the time they were taken! Its actually very rare I smile at all! I went on this date a few months ago. We met at the mall to see a movie cant now recall the name of it think it was called 300 or somthing like that. But it had already started. I siad well we could get something to eat and go to the next show time. He said he'd have to call and findout from his mommy since she dropped him off and was going to pick him up! (He was 20 yrs old) he said his Mommy felt the later time for the movie was to late and came and picked him up! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 2:24:24 PM | | Dang Tom your bad dates sound alot like mine... Sounds like we have alot in comman....wanna come to my house and wait for me on my porch?? | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 2:31:26 PM | | my new year's eve date had a mild heart attack, passed out, fell on his face, broke his nose, got a concussion, and we spent the evening in the ER. luckily, we were going to a concert with people i knew, and one of my friends stayed with me and we had a good time anyway ... well, we weren't sober. lol. the guy himself? weirdo ... proclaimed his love for me within a week but couldn't call me evenings or weekends ... hmmm. i'm pretty sure i'm not THAT gullable. fair warning to the rest of ya. ;) | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 4:33:49 PM | Ok- this happened like 11 years ago I was 19 and although there have been many horrid ones since (Oh the forgot to tell me their married ones, the drunk ones, the guy who started bleeding after a small mishap and got pissed, the liars, the no shows, allll that too lol) THIS one will FOREVER take the cake.
Blind date- set up by someone I barely knew, she gave him my number and we spoke for a bit by phone. He seemed nice so I decided to go out with him. He picked me up as I didn't have my license yet. Right off- I was NOT attracted to him. But whatever, I was going to make the best of it. He had a gift for me- very sweet, my favorite perfume at the time (cost about $80!)- I didn't feel right accepting it but he insisted, so ok.
His piece of sh*t car was a MESS! I'm talking reallllly bad. After the door closed I realized he reeked of some nasty aftershave. I spent the drive shoved as far from him as possible with my nose desperately trying to draw in fresh air through the broken window that would only roll down 2 inches.
He had the movie time wayyyyyy off- so we had an hour to kill & we decided to browse the mall. We were wandering around and I suddenly realized he was NOWHERE in sight! I kinda looked for him and was really wondering wtf when he appeared just as we should be heading into the theatre- but wait, what's in his hand? Another gift? He gives me a bag and inside... the SAME kind of perfume- only a huge set probably worth at least $150! coo-coo :P
Well I really was uncomfortable and told him I would really rather just be friends. We still headed to the movie but just as we were getting to our seats he started telling me how great the movie was, how much I'll like it- turns out he had already seen it! wtf?
So for two hours he tried to grope me in-between telling me loudly what was about to happen on the screen just before it did. Good times.
After he insisted we get dinner. I really just wanted to go home! I finally talked him out of it but wait.... where the hell are we? He said he just needed to stop at his house for a few minutes to get something. An HOUR later we roll up to his house in a realllly shady neighborhood. He tells me to come in- he still lived with his parents so I'm like- better than sitting out here.....
We get to the door and have to almost climb over bags of trash in the mudroom to get to the next door. Inside- he leaves me in the kitchen (which has a payphone on the wall? huh?) - I notice a dining room off to the right- oh how interesting, looks like someone had a huge meal and now like 4 cats are on the table eating the leftovers- gross. Off to the left an elderly woman with NO shirt or bra on waders by muttering to herself as she shuffles along. What is this a nightmare? I wait foreverrrrrrrr and finally I hear him in the next room talking to who I assume was his mother. She starts SCREAMING at him and calling ME a whore! He quickly ushers me out the door, over the trash, into his nasty car and eventually back home. Of course he stalked me via phone/drive-bys for about 2 months. Holy Moly, I was never so stupid again haha. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 5:46:59 PM | Met a guy online who was local to me, and eventually after talking for a while we arranged a date. He seemed quite nice and somewhere through our online conversations I must have mentioned what gym I attended. It turns out that he worked in the admin dept. During our date it turns out he knew where I lived, what my phone no. was and when I attended the gym. The SOB had looked me up on their records!!! A stalker so soon. He seemed quite proud of it and in no way did he think what he had done was wrong. Nearly reported him but decided the threat of that was enough to keep him away from me. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 6:15:00 PM | OK First off the date was not BAD....but the whole situation and aftermath were HORRIBLE>....
Met a guy on another site, had talked on and off, as friends. Nice guy. Owned a business in whicle many vehicles were involved. One of his employees had gone missing in a work vehicle and he had personally searched for this guy and after the man was found dead, it was known he was robbed(the police found him). The man who was killed had a daughter w/special needs, so he set up a trust fund for her, and well, had gone away for the weekend to relax. Nice guy, as I said. His pic was good, decent looking, tall, etc. Interesting as well.
Did not talk to him for a few weeks, but he had given me his # if I wanted to talk...I had never called him.
Ok, I deliver mail in my own vehicle. My truck blew an oil pan gasket on a Friday(I did not know what was wrong, but I had NO OIL.......and it was losing it as fast as I put it in!!!). I needed it for work Sat, knew that wasn't happening, but definitely needed a mechanic over the weekend, and that is virtually impossible for last minute major work. So, I called him, and asked if he knew of a mechanic that might help me out. He said, well, I can have my mechanic do it, he works solely for me and I will call him. I said ok, so, he calls back, asks me to meet him at his shop. I did. Well, the guy is about 10 years older than his pic and at least 50# heavier. Nice guy though, dressed well, driving a brand new Lincoln. Ok, so we go in the shop (it is filthy, a mess and well....it is a garage, so really was not concerned). His mechanic is there, and well, he says, he will check your truck out, drive it in. So I did. He asked, would you like to go have something to eat while he looks at it? I was sort of stuck there. Either sit in the filthy garage, or go eat. So, off we go. Now, he was a gentleman and very nice and we had dinner and a beer and well, I know I am not attracted to him, but rellly, this was not about a "date". We had good conversation, nothing out of the ordinary. I could tell he was taking a liking to me, but there was definitley not a chemistry thing going on for me. He insists on paying, but I did try to pay my own way. He calls the mechanic and at that time, we were not sure what the problem was, but found out and that he was going to have to keep it overnight and finish the next day. He takes me home, that was that.
Next day, it is late afternoon, no call. So, I call him and he says, well, he says it will be ready in an hour. He comes and gets me, takes me back to the garage and I get my truck. I paid the bill, around $160.00. I was not sure if that was fair but did not care, had to fix it. ANYWAY, the truck is filthy, grease all over the doors, hood, steering wheel, , and first off the gear shift lever is not showing the right gear. It drove ok though. So, I asked about the gear lever and he said bring it back Mon and he will adjust the cable. Off I go.
Ok, well, he DID fix the oil pan gasket, but I started having "issues". My transmission was slipping, the gear lever was not adjusted right after I let him adjust it, my backup lights and turn signals were screwed up, my battery went dead, and well, I took it to MY mechanic. He was like OMG.......it looks like a kid was under there with all of the wrong tools, things have been banged up,the radiator is not sitting right, there are some lose wires..........etc. PLUS it smelled horribly!!!Geesh. So, he does what he can, and off I go.
I ended up having my transmission rebuilt later and had to replace a switch, the battery, another cable he broke and well, "lesson learned".
I so wanted to call this guy(he never called for date, I am sure he knew I was not happy)and tell him how much the "repair" really cost me. I never did.
I ought to have towed it to MY mechanic. Never again.
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Posted: 6/12/2007 7:22:02 PM | I've gt a few lovely ones.
First was a blind date a 'friend' set me up on. She said she worked with this great guy and she was positive we'd hit it off. After her bugging me for a month to go out with him I finally said sure. She gave him my number and told me he'd pick me up for our date. He called me about 10 minutes before he was supposed to show up because he was lost, which is understandable, since it's kinda complicated to get to my place. But I noticed he sounded a little, shall we say 'slow' on the phone.
So he picks me up and what not, he seems nice, but one of the first things out of his mouth is 'The radio is broken, so I have this wind up one. When it dies, can you wind it up for me?' I suggested we just not listen to the radio and he almost yells 'NO! I NEED THE RADIO ON!' ok fine. It didn't die so that wasn't an issue.
We headed to the casino to play the 5 cent machines for awhile (his idea, didn't sound too terribly bad). After about 1/2 hour he says 'we shouldn't be doing this' when I ask him why he replies 'God thinks gambling is bad.' Thinking he was trying to be funny, I just laugh. A few minutes later he asks me if I go to church. I tell him I didn't and he told me I was going to go to hell because of it. At this point I decide I'm 'feeling tired' and ask him to take me home. He does but he drives at least 30 km under the speed limit the whole way home AND takes the long way. At one point we stop at red light. That particular light is never solid green, it only does arrows. We have to go straight but he sits through an entire straight arrow. When the next one comes he continues to sit there until I tell him he can go. (I forgot to mention he drives all hunched over the steering wheel like a little old person). Just as he turns onto my street he tells me again that I'm going to hell if I don't start going to church, but not to worry he can pick me up every sunday and I can go with him. At this point I don't even know what to say so I just tell him I think it would be better if I just go with my family. He drops me off and I get out of the car as fast as possible. I call my friend the next day to ask wtf? and she tells me he's been hired through a special program that helps people with mental problems. (We're no longer friends)
Next one was a guy I had been chatting for a bit with. We decided to meet up at a lounge for drinks (his idea). I suggest one that I know has really good sangria on saturdays and we agree to meet up there. So we sit down and I ask him if he'd like to split a pitcher with me since they don't sell it by the glass and I can't drink a whole pitcher on my own. He says he's not in the mood for a drink and is just going to have tea. So I order a drink, he orders his tea. When the waitress comes by a bit later to ask if I'd like another one he says, no I think just the bills, separate please. I ask him if something is wrong and he tells me it was extremely rude of me to order an alcoholic beverage when he's not drinking, tells me he thinks I'm an alcoholic and informs me the only time he's ever had an alcoholic beverage was when he had a sip of wine as a toast at his sister's wedding. He goes on to tell me how gross and disgusting alcohol is and how he refuses to date anyone that drinks because in a few years they're going to be fat and have a bad liver. Um I thought he was the one who suggested we go for drinks?
Next bad date insisted on taking me out after classes one day. I told him that since my class was over late I'd rather go home and grab a bite to eat first so he says he'll take me out for dinner. I tell him I'm low on funds that week as it's my best friend's birthday and I want to get her something super nice. He says no problem I'll take you out. I told him if he really insisted on taking me out for dinner I'd rather go somewhere cheap so I can pay for myself. He tells me not to worry about it, he'll pay. I try to decline, but he insists. So finally I say yes. He meets me at school and we take the bus to the restaurant. It's a super hot day (30+ celcius) and we really should transfer buses, especially since I have a heavy backpack but he insists on walking the 20 or so blocks, saying it's not so bad out. So by the time we get there I'm sweating buckets. He never told me where we were going either, saying he wanted it to be a surprise. On the way we pass several inexpensive restaurants and I say "That place is nice" but we keep going on to one of the most expensive restaurants on the street. We get there, sit down and he orders a salad and no entree. At this point I'm starving, but I generally order based on what my date orders if he's paying, unless he tells me to order what I want. Thank god I ordered pizza which was one of the cheapest substantial items on the menu because at the end of the date he put down enough cash to cover his meal and no tip and pushes it over to me with a smile. To make matters worse, during the date he told me only ugly women should go to university as they need the education to get a job since they'll never get a husband to support them and says it's just a waste of money for a pretty girl to go. I wasn't sure if he was saying I was ugly and belonged in university or that I was pretty and was wasting money. He also called me stupid multiple times for some of my views and told me I was a communist. He had the nerve to ask me after if I wanted to go somewhere else for dessert. Later that night he called to apoligize for being such a jerk and asked if I'd give him another chance. He'd love to take me to 529 Wellington (probably one of the most expensive restaurants in the city) to make up for it. I hung up on him and sent him a nasty e-mail saying I never wanted to hear from him again.
My last bad date was with my ex. We went out for a nice meal and were going to go for a walk in the park after, but it started storming super bad, so we decided to just go back to his place. When we get there he notices his front porch light is off, and said that was strange, he was sure he left it on. I get out of the car and go to the front door while he puts it in the garage. When I get there I notice his inside door is wide open, which was strange since there wasn't supposed to be anyone home (his roomies had all gone camping since it was a long weekend. I decide to just stand on the porch, as I wasn't sure why the door would be open. We go inside and there's blood everywhere and stuff broken and knocked over all over the place. I honestly thought his house had been broken into and thought we should go outside, get in the car and call the cops. He realised that his dog was missing (the dog would usually run to the door to greet us), and it was obvious that something had happened to freak his dog out. Turns out there was no break in, the dog just freaked out and hurt herself and managed to unlock the front door and escape. It was her first time home alone during a thunderstorm and she freaked! There was blood and scratch marks almost at the top of the door (his dog was a medium sized border collie mix) and all the screens in all the bedrooms were scratched up. In her freak out she had knocked over a picture haning kit full of tacks and nails. Those were scattered all over the house and when my ex found his dog the next day she had a tack stuck in her paw. We also found a dew claw by the door. None of it was my ex's fault but it sure was scary! I called my dad to pick me up, as I didn't want my ex to drive me home, just in case the dog came back while he was away and there was no one to let her in. The dog also managed to escape on the night we planned to celebrate my birthday, which caused us to get in a big fight... later that night I had food poisoning. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 6:55:32 PM | ALWAYS ask to see a pic when will you guys ever learn LOL
and beware of blurry pics ......I learned from that one beware of guys that say they look like Tommy lee Jones LOL (maybe the silouette) big YIKES
If the person looks nothing like their pic at least you can call them on it and end the date saying that you cannot trust a person that lies right from the get go.
Bad date..........I can relate never again will I meet a guy that doesnt drive or is on welfare (claiming disability of course) ya a mental disability called I dont want to workism. After driving this guy around to a few bars which I would never even set foot in and Im not even a bar person. Very little conversation and barely looked at me. Ok I got suckered big time and still feel ashamed for it but heh we learn from our mistakes right? | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 9:10:11 PM | I started chatting with a PoF'er a while back through email, and it progressed to phone calls. We got along great over email and phone, so we decided to meet to eat dinner. *sigh*
He walks up to me, wearing:
~ Flip-flops (not a problem)
~ Cargo shorts (not a problem either)
~ a black button up shirt that has red flames coming up from the bottom (again, not a problem)
~ a Donald Duck tie (huge problem with rest of outfit)
He then asked if the tie was "a bit much." Uh...yes.
Everyone in that restaurant stared at us as we walked in the door, and this was a buffet style restaurant, so we were getting up and walking around a lot!
He then mentioned to me that he was working on getting into management at the company he works for (he just started at the company a few months ago)...yet two other companies he's worked for laid him off when he was trying to get into management. Huge red flag!
I called my mom on the way home to tell her what happened, and she thought he was just trying to impress me with the tie (he knew that I have a tattoo of Marvin the Martian on my ankle). Never try to impress a person who is into Looney Tunes by wearing a tie of a Disney character. It will not go over very well.  | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 9:40:14 PM | He then mentioned to me that he was working on getting into management at the company he works for (he just started at the company a few months ago)...yet two other companies he's worked for laid him off when he was trying to get into management. Huge red flag!
You criticized this guy for trying to be more successful? So, he's failed a few times. The most successful people in business failed numerous times before succeeding.
Next your mom points out that he probably wore the tie because you have a cartoon tatoo. That makes sense. Why were you so hard on him? At least he can take the silly tie off. You're the one with a silly cartoon character tatooed permanently to her leg. Who's the one with more bad taste again? The flip flops though were pretty bad. I'd say he made some bad choices that day but that doesn't make him a bad guy and with the right attitude you might have actually had a better time with him. Sounds like you were looking for things to find wrong with the date. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2007 4:19:20 AM | ^^^
Actually, no I was not looking for things to go wrong. I just happened to notice things that closed the door for this to be a potential relationship.
Being in management myself for not one company, but two (!) at the same time (and in charge of hiring/firing for both), I know what it takes to be management material. This guy is a good employee, but definitely not management material.
And Marvin is only part of the tattoo. It also says "take me to your leader" and has the logo of one of the non-profit organizations I am the President of next to it.
Before you start bashing me or my date, you might want to find out some of the other red flags I saw (but didn't feel necessary to this thread). That way, someone does not a-s-s-u-m-e that I am some evil you-know-what.  | |
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| Confessions of A Middle Aged Internet Whore...
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:24:33 AM | This started online with an internet social network site.
We read each others postings and commented. My postings were generally of the personal nature, with a dash of politics thrown in from time to time, or just some "think" pieces. But it was ALL out there to see; past history with the ex and some dating experiences. So nothing in my life to anybody who had been paying attention for a year would be a mystery.
Her blogs were mostly political in nature, or in regards to advocating for a certain group. They were often quite caustic.
We started talking. We did have what we both thought to be a "connection". I actually became quite hopeful. I had taken myself out of the dating world because I was attracting the wrong type of woman (for me). Anyway, she seemed different. I agreed to fly to her home city and I put myself up in a hotel. We had decided to play it cautious and not jump --literally-- into anything.
Friday night was great. We eat at a local famous landmark and have some drinks. She decides to stay at my hotel. Well, by her own admission she likes to romp around a bit, so I tell her I have no protection, then asks her is she uses anything. She says "no". Okay, so we let it go for the evening. The next morning I ask her if she ever uses anything. She gets incensed. Starts screaming that it's none of my "f-ing" business. I try to remain calm, but she is literally screaming and ranting around the room. I say that I will be glad to leave and go home if this is going to be the balance of the weekend. Then she gets angrier.
I stay. We go to some local sights, have lunch and eventually come back to my hotel. I've been uneasy all day, because of the jekel - hyde type of personality. She strides right into the elevator and up to my room. Now I'm just going along for the ride, no pun intended. She flops on the bed and I do too, but as far to the oppostite side as I can get. In a few moments she takes off her pants and says that she hopes I am not "offended". I take this as a come on, so I reach over and just try to give her a peck of a kiss, and she pulls back. Okay, fine. We both nap. We wake up and then she is accusing me of not being physically attracted to her, which wasn't the case. I say, how about the mixed messages. Where I'm from you go to jail for forcing yourself on someone.
We go out for dinner later, and again she marches right up to my room. Had I been thinking with the right head I would have stopped it there, but the sexual thing is not even the problem here in the long run, just a symptom.
We have a nice night, and the next morning I'm at the airport and gone.
Then the next day at home is when I became an "internet whore". I had made a comment on a friend's page on the social network, and the comment was something this friend, who happened to be female, and whom I've never met, had talked about earlier, and I was told in no undertain terms that I am not to be speaking with this person. And furthermore, what was all the comments on my page from women? Well, the comments were blasts sent out to groups of people, such as generic "hugs". Or things like, "Have a Nice Day."
Then the SCREAMING started. I was told that I must be doing something wrong if I defend myself and say I'm doing nothing wrong. I was called an "f-ing a-hole" and an "f-ing waste of time" and other "f-ing" things.
This went on for a week, and I took her calls.
After she would finish screaming at me then she would ask if I thought we could continue on, and that don't most couples argue?
I said "no". If this is as good as it gets there is a problem here. I was told that I was making the absolute biggest mistake of my life. Uh-huh. Why she would want me, a middle aged internet whore, I couldn't imagine.
Yesterday, because I was cutting the grass and couldn't answer the phone immediately I was advised by text that I was ignoring her.
Finally I said that I'd been called a liar and worse all week; that not picking up the phone immediately is not a crime;that it was done; and that it felt good to have it done, just like the person who stops banging his head against the wall.
So, the date was just okay; the aftermath was a hurricane. Earlier on she had said that she usually does things to sabotage a relationship. I guess when you build your online and real world persona as a victim you cannot afford to just trash it if an exception comes along.
PS, she said a number of times over the week that she "always" gets what she wants, job wise, etc. And she also has always gotten the man she wants, that she is not used to rejection. She is a good looking woman, and I imagine it's true. She does get them, for a week. | |
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