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Posted: 1/8/2008 1:22:53 AM | Hey Farmboy : )
I just want to say that I really admire you, and I think that's really great.
I've been searching for a guy for SO long who can be interested in having a relationship just because he wants to be with me, rather than just wanting sex...I'm still alone, and I don't think there's any guys like you around any more : (
It's nice to get other people's opinions, but in the end, all that matters is how you two feel about the whole situation. Just be open and understanding...maybe e-mail her and say how you feel if you're both shy about the situation.
Anyway, you sound like a great guy, and there should be more guys like u around! It's nice to know there are some guys who aren't totally controlled by their hormones.
I hope everything works out for you guys : ) | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:39:11 AM | I just want to say that I really admire you, and I think that's really great.
I've been searching for a guy for SO long who can be interested in having a relationship just because he wants to be with me, rather than just wanting sex...I'm still alone, and I don't think there's any guys like you around any more : (
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Goldfish.
The only guys who want a purely social, or spiritual , rrelationship woth you are called priests.
The only guys who want a purely sexual rrelationsip are called Johns (hookers customers)
The other 99% of us guys want it all.
Sex, love, soulmate, business partner, family, the whole lot. If sex is a problem then I'd say just forget about boyfreinds completely. | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:48:57 AM | I dont think your gay.
I think you are a liar, because based on your little "act" and the nature of the beast "Sex" is never "the last thing" on any mans mind.
I think you are going to lay it on thick hoping you can be first. | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:24:41 AM | LMFAO. Ever funk. Yah so I'm lying just because I don't give a damn about sex. Yah it's fun..hell it's more then fun, really no words to describe it....but like I said I don't think with my**** No I don't hope I can be first, whoever she wants to be first is fine with me. Even if it ain't me. I want her to be ready and comfortable. All I want is her happy. But go ahead and call me a liar if you want, you don't know me, so you'll never know that this is how I really feel.
Goldfish there ARE guys out there who will like you for you and will not just want sex out of the deal. Trust me there are, the world is too small not to. | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:31:12 AM | | Well I think she was scared cause she obviosly was dumped by a guy for not having sex with him because she said if you don't want to see me I will understand. But I think you did the right thing by telling her it was allright and and comforting her. Cause I as a guy have had that experiance cause I'm a virgin and the girl I was seeing went and had sex with another guy cause I wasn't ready to have sex with her and then said she did it cause she has needs but my opinion is that you do have to have a relationship first and the sex will come in time when she is ready so good luck in your relationship | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 1/13/2008 4:57:37 PM | | I think what you did was the right thing....But I also think she is doing the right thing too, there is no reason for her to give up on her beliefs and feelings all because she feels pressured and the need to conform to society. If you stay with her, which it sounds like you are going to you need to continue to respect her boundaries. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 8:25:02 PM | I envy anyone who values their virginity, and especially others'.
I only lost mine just over 5 months ago, and I was so careful I swore it was the guy I was going to marry. I made sure everything was what I wanted in him and everything was perfect...until out of no where he dumps me.
I don't regret it, per say, but I feel taken for, almost. Like it didn't matter as much to him, or maybe I was just a fool who believed too much in the romance and love forever thing. I don't know. We had some *amazing* sex though. I just don't know if I wish I'd made a stronger vow to myself or something about marriage or even engagement...
So it's diferent for people. I...lost what I was going to say. ****. >.> | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 2/10/2008 8:29:51 PM | Well I was raped out of my virginity. So I can't say on that side.
But my husband was still a virgin at 28, in fact the man never dated until he met me. Now as a very experienced woman sexually, I found it hard to comprehend until I got to know him. Between low self esteem and lack of women where he came from, it just never presented itself.
I waited, until he was sure. Then I waited until I was sure. Next month we celebrate 9 years together. | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 2/11/2008 12:42:57 AM | Farmboy.. I really dont get why people are dumping on you! I think your attitude is commendable... respect your girl and she will respect you too. Sex can be taken too lightly IMO even though I personally, at my age, may take more emotional chances that someone just starting out. I sincerely hope the relationship works for the both of you.  | |
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Posted: 2/11/2008 5:49:33 AM | I could tell she wasn't going too, so I brought out the puppy dog eyes.
I have to hand it to you.You have pulled off and snookered a few[OK,many here]people into a false sense of your virtue and ethics.
Yet somehow the above quotation from your original entry makes me go "Huuummhhhh???"
The guy won't have to worry about STD's and his girl won't have a bad rep.
And this is your first thought as opposed to being gifted with something that can only happen once?Here comes that"Huuummhhh???"again.
What was the movie? | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 2/11/2008 11:09:59 AM | | I've dated, online only, some girls that were virgins and wanted to wait. I was fine with that. I say were because everyone of these waiters went to a party with a friend and gave it away after a drink. Why do you say you want to wait if it's not what you really want to do? | |
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Posted: 2/12/2008 12:05:03 AM |
Farmboy.. I really dont get why people are dumping on you!
Because he lied about his natural desires. Which in turn hurts his whole story -- now no one knows what to believe. Or how much is believable. Myself, I don't think you'd be on here asking for advice if you really didn't need it. At least I personally am willing to give you that much benefit of the doubt despite denying your natural male drive to the GP.
No, you don't leave her, but I don't know how long you've known her for prior, either.
I was in a situation like this at your age. I had taken out a country girl and we were out at a beautiful overpass high on a bluff over looking the river valley as the sun was setting. We started kissing and I slid my hand down from above and massaged a nipple. She told me in no uncertain terms something like "That is all the farther we are going." and I removed my hand, looked her straight in the eyes and apologized, and we continued kissing at various times through the rest of the date. I had taken it a step farther in the opposite direction -- I respected her, showed her she was also in control, and proved it by never even trying to do that again that night.
Date #2 she rewarded my patience by wearing a bra that opened from the front. And I didn't have to open it, she did. She had liked it just as much as I did but she wanted to feel in as much control when in the middle of nowhere with a 200 pound guy on her -- I made sure she knew the control was 50/50. She felt completely safe with me from there on out.
Things only got a lot better from there on out. More private places, lots more fun. She was wonderfully tactile and sensual and as a virgin there was a lot she wanted to explore. As to the redness it was her feeling flushed from being turned on. She just wasn't used to it. You just have to learn to back off and reassure her at times. But often the best reassurance is not to talk about it and act like nothing unusual happened -- that's what I did. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2008 3:41:37 AM | To the OP, of course you don't leave her. I've alwasy felt that would be a silly thing to do, if sex isn't a main component of what you want out of a relationship. It is for me, so I don't date virgins.
A little off topic, but why do people (men and women) always say "I respect myself." When they mention they're a virgin. Is this to imply that those of us who are not do not respect ourselves? | |
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Posted: 2/12/2008 4:35:04 AM | I like the cough *BS* cough post on the first page from the military guy...
"Personally sex is the last thing on my mind"
-- one of the first things you said was you were "heavily making out and had your hand up her shirt".... SHE pulled away.  Are you saying if she didn't pull away you would have.... ? ummm..doubt it! | |
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| Question regarding women and their virginity
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:45:21 AM | Hi, I came upon this post when I was looking at someone Else's profile. I am glad I did.
To much emphasis is put on Sex by both male and females... If I leave someone because they are a virgin or not sexually experienced it just shows how shallow of a person I am.... They are probably better off, NOT being in a relationship with me.
With that said, I would like to mention something from my recent experiences on a similar situation. To me Dating is not for me to find sex. It is for me to find someone
to have a relationship with. Once that happens and the relationship grows and I become emotionally involved then the sex will come... My problem is I thought women would appreciate this......but they don't.... at least the ones I am seeing anyway... they all say they feel the same as I do in the beginning but after the first date and some even on the first are all over me and wanting to do do it?????? I don't get it!!!! I am not a sexual prude at all... Love it... but I want it t be special.... I am sure that is how your girlfriend feels...
when it is right it will happen as long as she feels that way... | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 10/8/2008 10:00:37 AM |
And girls, what do you think?? Is she up tight or is she doing the right thing by standing her ground and not doing something that she isn't ready for.
Up tight?: That was a bit of a performance. The getting up, heading to the door and the tears. What would of crossed my mind is why? Why the bit of drama there? Maybe she is just overly sensitive, maybe she had been hurt because other men she cared for / loved dumped her after she told them she was a virgin and wished to remain one. Not sure, but for my taste she is a bit too sensitive.
Doing the right thing: By her own personal choice, yes I imagine so. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 10:24:13 AM | | Good for her for standing her ground and adhering to her belief system. If a guy dumps a woman because she's a virgin he's shallow and out for 1 thing. | |
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| Question reguarding women and their virginity
Posted: 10/11/2008 10:12:03 AM | With a virgin you should be willing to wait a little longer than the standard three dates. But you should always be making progress, even if it's slow. If your progress ever goes back or stalls, then you aren't the guy she wants to lose her virginity to and you should dump her.
But if she lets you take her v-card, then you get to have the awesome feeling of being the first guy.
Also if she's a virgin over age 20, she's probably got other baggage, be it ridiculous religious beliefs or whatever that you'll have to get past. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2008 10:43:53 AM | | I would do whatever made the woman most comfortable. If she wanted me to stay I would stay, and if she wanted me to go I would go. I would not pressure her for sex, or cuddling, or anything else. I would tell her that she is in charge, and nothing will happen that she does not want to happen. Virgins are following their own moral compass, which is good. They are showing great self control which is good. On the other hand, virginity is over-rated, and finally bringing a virgin across can be a big drag. If playing in a tennis doubles championship, would you want your partner to have never played tennis before? If taking sky diving lessons, would you rather take them from a seasoned pro, or a 'never been off the ground' beginner? Keep your virgins. When they have been nicely broken in, and know what they are doing, and hae grown tired of the jerks who now feel they are worth less because they are virgins no longer, they can come to me, and I will value their experience. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2008 7:29:56 PM | I don't think I'd hang around not getting sex from a woman that had slept with lots of guys, but I would hang around longer for one that has only slept with her husband/ long termers.
I can't imagine finding a virgin, but I would wait a fairly long time, just to make sure she is ready... | |
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Posted: 10/11/2008 7:37:23 PM | HAHA!
So listen to these beanz.
My cousin invited me to a party for hallows eve for me to fulfill a fantasy this VIRGIN has about a somewhat bad boy taking her up into his arms and satisfying her etc etc.
Well, I never knew virgins still existed but im suprised. I checked out a pic of her and BAM, thats why she is a virgin. Its not like she fat or gruesome, she has absolutely no ubnique features what so ever. Its weird.
ANyways, I dunno if this relates, just saw the word virgin.
Who cares how many people a man or woman has slept with.
No diseases, no problem. Humanism and Hedonism can go hand in hand. | |
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