| Ideas on how to cheer up my girlfriend.....
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:06:26 AM | A funny dvd...let her decide if you sit together or apart.
Wait on her..ask her if she wants a drink, ask if she wants a cuddle..just for the sake of a cuddle...it doesn't have to lead anywhere so if she shows no signals don't push it and don't ask.
Offer a glass of wine and let her chill for the night...if there's things which need doing spot them yourself and just do them yourself.
Hope she feel better soon! | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 9:06:30 AM | | yea,, i just started posting on here today, i think i got alittle addicted to it. logged on to check mail , and bam 3 hours later i find myself posting my own threads. lol i wish the best of luck to you man. its the fact your doing something about it. and that shows character. | |
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| Ideas on how to cheer up my girlfriend.....
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:19:20 AM | Two cans of Silly String.
Along with acts of caring and communication, get light-hearted and help her not to forget to laugh.
And when she does, let her know that she looks great in a smile. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 9:25:27 AM | get 1,000 gramm of chocolate different tastes, and a bottle of sangria with oranges. or a "boiled red wine".
if that recipe doesn't work, there is just nothing better | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 9:39:30 AM | Silly String(2 cans)--$5-6
Chocolate--fits any $budget
--good addition by smilinglaughing
OP doesnt have to spend a wad of cash, I 99% guarantee a favorable reception to both. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 10:33:03 AM | Gerry,
You seem like a very nice, caring and sensitive young man. I wish I were so lucky to have had someone in my life as you are to your girlfriend. I know that speaking for myself, it is the "little things" that matter. For example, go to your local card store and buy a bunch of different cards that reflect how you feel for her. Fill them out with the usual things that you would like to say to her as well. Hide them around the house in various places and number them. Make it like a "treasure hunt" for her. Leave one on the kitchen counter and each card will lead her to the next where you tell her to hunt for each one inside the next. She will laugh and find it cute. Also, I don't know what the weather is like where you are, but a picnic basket complete with a bottle of wine and maybe some music to bring along on a cassette tape or boom box would be nice to just sit outside, talk about life issues and yourselves could just do the trick. Open communication in different surroundings could be the key. Good luck to you. She should feel very lucky and grateful to have you in her life. | |
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| Ideas on how to cheer up my girlfriend.....
Posted: 1/7/2008 10:42:11 AM | OP - you sound like a very good boyfriend and I love that fact that you recognize that she's in a slump and instead of running...you are trying to help. GOOD boyfriend material.
I would recommend a couple of things.
1. Ask her if she would prefer to be alone to wallow...sometimes this is just the ticket when you are down and depressed. If she does not want to wallow, then...
2. Give her a project. Women LOVE projects. It might help take her mind (even if only temporarily) off the problem(s). Ask her to help you rearrange your living room furniture or buy all new stuff for your bathroom. This would involve you paying, but her picking out.
3. Tell her that you want to take a class and ask if she would like to join. Could be a cooking class, a dancing class or whatever... This too would take her mind off the issue and also add a new dimension to your relationship.
That's all I've got for now. Hope that helps.
p.s. I think you are quite the catch. She's a lucky woman. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 10:49:21 AM | Hi - I feel you should move here to Las Vegas, United States, and allow me to cheer YOU up.  Whoa, candles and good food and she's still in the dumps????? | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 11:07:51 AM | Bubble bath, complete w/a new cd in the cd player. sit in the tub behind her and bathe her.
I think that would cheer me up pretty good.
Flowers are always a nice surprise, too. You don't have to get expensive ones.
Take her to see a comedy. Sometimes escaping reality is nice for awhile.
Good luck!
K | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 11:46:24 AM | Some good ideas in this thread, greeneyes and great attitude had cute ones...I would fall flat for that. And smilingeyes's tooo, chocolate and sangria, yum.
How about you take her somewhere else, so she can step back from the deatails, and have her brain float? So she can see the big picture again? Like a Planatarium show, or IMAX (make sure it's about space or something mind expanding, and not crocodiles, lol)- even if she's not in the mood for it in the beginning, once she's in it, and after she might feel more distanced to her problems... Or try a meditation class, just for the hell of it...just to laugh about it after, if you're not into it, but it might help her get her mind off things.
And then after you bust out the chocolates and sangria, which you've laid out on a treasure trail, then you end up sitting on the deck and stargazing. And talk to her about the decorating, and what not, until she opens up, cries you a river, and then take it from there...
Question: are all scottish guys like you? | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 1:41:44 PM | Write her a love poem, even if it's terrible, it will make her smile. In fact make SURE it's terrible! A cheesy, sappy little poem that barely rhymes will make her laugh, especially if you read it to her all serious, and over dramatic.  | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 2:36:52 PM | | How about a long bubble bath for two with the whole candle and some nice drinks, and then give her a sensual long foamy shampoo and scalp massage. Wash her up and dry her off and tuck her into bed with maybe a good movie and lots of hugs and kisses. I`d be in heaven. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 12:57:03 AM | wow...thanks everyone!!
I ended up just making her dinner and having a good long talk with her, got all her issues out in the open and figured them all out! but i'll be keeping these ideas for futue reference, some of them are awesome!
Thaks again everyone for your kind words. I hope some other guys on this site read them and cheer up their girlfriends too!
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Posted: 1/8/2008 1:05:49 AM | RE: First post.
Think up the corniest, dorkiest most romantic thing you can think of. Then tell her you wanted to cheer her up but this is all you could come up with. You'll get a smile for sure. ^_^
Or catch phrases. Say she says something gloomy, respond with "Its still better than a poke in the eye with a sharp stick." Things of that nature. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 1:17:29 AM | Well, I think you should find out WHY she's down. Sometimes all a gal wants is someone to talk to....then again, it could be something about your relationship that's troubling her...from HER perspective. She may be wrestling with it. Just ask her what's wrong, reassure her that you want to help, and maybe she'll open up. If not...just leave her be, cuz it really could be she just needs time to think on her own.
Personally, I've never had anyone as devoted as you appear to be. She's lucky, just hope she doesn't take it for granted. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 1:30:14 AM | | He's a nice Scotsman. He loves his sweetheart and had a good talking with her. Alls well in Scotland. This is a great time for a shot or two of my favorite Scotch. Here's to you laddy and to your sweetheart. Bottoms up! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 8:18:33 AM | | carpimp has it right when he says shes down in the slumps cause your kissing her ass 2 much
So is Adesola, with Whoa man, you are waaaaaay too NICE. I fear for you, this 'down-ness' stuff? .... Be her man, not her mom.
As for Sweethang100, she's telling you what women fantasize about, not what they want, when she says: Yes, Gerry, listen to the idiots on here; the ones who say, you shouldn't kiss her a** or be nice to her. I was being sarcastic, sorry. 'DON'T' LISTEN TO THEM (at least if you still want a gf). Honestly, how many women would put up with a man who's constantly trying to please them, waiting on them hand and foot? They would find him weak and needy, and draining on their energies. As I said, a good fantasy, but not something that generally works in real life. There are, of course, always exceptions.
However, I do agree with her, and disagree with carpimp, about treating her "like dirt". It is possible, and advisable, to not "kiss her ass", respectfully.
Green Eyes and GreatAttitude seem to have some good ideas (which you can use in future), however, I like fancynanci's idea best. Simple, satisfying, and definitely good for the cardiovascular system. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 8:37:06 AM | Tend to agree (most) with Regalrose on this one.
One thing I can say is, if I'm down and someone 'tries to cheer me up' - esp if that someone is my s/o, the message is "it's not ok for you to be down". Sometimes we just need a little "down time", sometimes it needs to be ok not to be wearing a plastic smile or 'Acting' like we're full of joy. It's ok to be down now and then.
I think if you Really want your g/f to be happy, you will let her know that you love and accept (Accept) her exactly as she is - no matter what. That its ok for her to be sad and that you are there for her.
Don't get me wrong!! I think it's wonderful that you 'want' her to be happy! Absolutely I do! I think, though, that for the long haul happy to happen - We ALL need to know that it's ok for us to be human. There are times each of us is happy, sad, angry, silly, etc etc etc ..
When I'm down, ALL I really need is someone who will Be There with me - without trying to 'change' me. Ask if there is anything you can do.. Ask if she would like to talk - and then Listen!! Most guys are solution oriented, most of us women tend to be more emotional, we express from that feeling place and we Vent. This doesn't mean we need solutions or someone to Fix us. Most of us (adults) know our own answers and when someone else (well intentioned or not) tries to "fix" us, it sends the wrong message.
If I was feeling down and my b/f (if I had one) started tickling me?! I would not be impressed. I had an Old friend who was nearly driving me nuts at one point with all those "cheer me up" tactics. I finally asked "Why are you doing that?" - my friend said "I have to cheer you up!" I said "No, you don't. All I need right now is to be accepted and Allowed to feel my feelings."
It really is ok to be down now and then.
Before I forget - OP I think you are very sweet. It is obvious you care a great deal about your girlfriend. I hope you have a wonderful, long and happy relationship.
All the best.
A.S.is
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