| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 8/1/2008 11:34:39 PM |
He told me he could not afford the trip, moneywise. During our later conversations he became irritable and snappy...he claims he is dominant and gets frustrated if things are not done according to his stipulations.
This is a guy who had claimed he would wine me and dine me while I was visiting. He was going to show me a few things about life, including enlightening me and reducing my 'social and sexual ignorance' Sounds like all the fetish equipment is at his place and he won'te be able to "play" properly if you make him go to you.
I wouldn't go.. he sounds like he may lock you up as in "it rubs the lotion on it's skin or it gets the hose again"  | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 8/1/2008 11:48:47 PM | ""claims he is dominant and gets frustrated if things are not done according to his stipulations. " "
I must confess, he sounds like an immature spoilt brat having the crankies for not getting his way ... which is certainly a way of controlling but I wouldn't call it dominating.
His immature reaction to your reversal is enough for me to have you question going further. You really want a relationship with someone who can't take a change in plans? | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 8/2/2008 6:59:28 AM | Just some friendly advice from across the pond.....
you seem like a nice person but I think if you stepped back and read your own post you'd see how dangerously misguided and gullible you are,and I mean no disrespect.
Please please get some help regarding your self esteem and stay far away from this miscreant,please! | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 8/9/2008 8:53:42 AM | | Does anyone else realize that almost every message in this thread says the EXACT same thing in different words? lily, if you don't get it yet, I pity you... | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 8/9/2008 2:18:26 PM | Top lilly, as i was reading your opening post, more and more alarm bells started to ring. Which is nothing to the fact that they are ringing in your own head.
I dont know about you, but alarm bells ALWAYS ring in my head for a reason. Let's take it one by one:
1) Why someone who lives so far anyway?
2) So instead of being a gentleman and offering to come to you for the first meeting, he offered to either stay at his (hmm, is that a good idea?) or check into a hotel. I presume you are a single mum? You are the one caring for a kid, having to make that journey and still pay for the bloody hotel? If a hotel, why not at least half way?
3) he has a 3-storey mansion and cannot afford the trip? Do you have a 3-storey mansion? Can you afford the trip? Come on - use the common sense.
4) He claims he is dominant and gets frustrated if things are done according to him - that would make me run so fast i would leave skidmarks. Do you need a personal boss? Perhaps an abuser?
5) He was going to show you a few things about life? Enlightening you and reducing your whatever ignorance? Who says you need that? If you do by your own judgement, then you dont need him for that. If he tells you that you need it - omg - another huge alarm bell. Run!!! This would never be an equal partnership.
6) he was angry with you for no good reason. OMg you have a kid - think! Is this someone who you want to get involved with even if single but omg as a mother! | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 8/9/2008 2:31:32 PM | | If I were you I would see alarms, red flags, and would cut off all contact with him. Sorry but from what you wrote about him, I see a controling childish lier. | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 8/9/2008 2:39:34 PM | Yuck..........this guy's spun! Messy, messy, messy ~ he's put you down by claiming you are 'socially and sexually ignorant'...gee whiz that just screams respect don't ya think? lol
He's full of crap......I'd be telling him to hit the road-
Trust your gut instincts on this one.....HE IS A WEIRDO! | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 8/9/2008 5:17:11 PM | Can you spell "P-H-O-N-Y"?
1. He lives in a "mansion" yet he cannot afford eikther the trip to see you or
2. Pay for your trip AND your child care.
3. What makes him an expert in life so that he can "educate you" socially and
ahem! "sexually."???
4. So he's a control freak, too? He's "dominant" he tells you. Uh huh. Needs a
weak, spineless gal to dominate -- long distance so far and heaven only knows
in what manner should you end up alone in the same room with him -- and nekkid?
Eeeeeek? Just the very prospect scares me.
5. If you want someone who writes well, eloquently, there are plenty of books on
the best seller list you can pick up that won't cost you what the trip would.l
6. Your gut instincts have already told you that there's something wrong with this
picture -- the person.
7. Internet connections are notorious for instant intimacy -- that doesn't bear out
once people meet. For phonies to represent they are someone they are not, have
things they don't, and in short, to con people.
8. Perhaps I am old fashioned BUT if a guy is a gentleman, and especially if he represents he is well-heeled, financially comfortable -- he will either a) make the trip
out to the see the woman or, b) spring for her trip to see him with hotel accommodations ready and waiting for her. It is presumptious for a guy to put a woman up at his place, on a first meeting at that.
9. If it were yours truly, when I saw his emails in my inbox I would check them and hit "delete." | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 9/8/2008 1:55:28 PM | ALARM BELLS ! ! ! !
This guy gets bent out of shape because he doesn't get things his own way. Do you honestly think it will get better when he does get his own way? There are too many other people out there to get hung up on someone who gets snappy and frustrated without even meeting you. RUN ! ! ! ! | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 9/9/2008 11:36:54 PM | | I think its called a booty call... he got all worked up thinking about it, and then nothing, and he didn't want it enough to drive all the way down there to get it. sounds to me like it's time to move on down the road. three story mansion and he can't afford gas for a 300 km trip and a 100.00 hotel room , girl please... | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 9/9/2008 11:48:25 PM | "He was going to show me a few things about life, including enlightening me and reducing my 'social and sexual ignorance'. "
exactly what I wanted to mention.
Is he some guru or something?
Girls really do fall for that crap I guess.
Well I see what I'm doing wrong.
Got to try that one at a bar sometime. | |
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| Are there alarm bells or I am wasting a chance
Posted: 9/10/2008 12:08:00 AM | OP I'd say you need to wisen up big style. He has a mansion but he can't afford the trip to come and see you. He gets snappy and frustrated if he doesn't get his own way. He wants to enlighten you by reducing your social and sexual 'ignorance'. He sounds just perfect to me. I think you are missing one h*ll of an opportunity to be enlightened, if you like the idea of being controlled and used by a guy who's a complete b*llsh*tter.
If you smell a rat, don't try to convince yourself it's a mouse wearing rat deodorant, just because it tells you it lives in a nice mansion. | |
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