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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 7/27/2007 12:09:17 PM | I believe that wannagitaway has most situations pegged:
an overall selfishness (seemingly epidemic) play a major role in why many can't seem to find, and keep that special person.
And people often seem to get selfishness and 'self-esteem' confused and use the latter to rationalize the former.
However, everything in life is about choices. Most people are much more easily influenced than they would admit or perhaps we as people are much better at convincing.
It will surely be argued if someone wanted to but in this day and age it appears there are countless distractions, influences, temptations and even certain status levels that cloud or distort what is truly important in and to a marriage.
So, such an increase in selfishness leads to people making selfish (short-term) choices. Even in an initially 'good' relationship, if someone grows more as a person then their partner (whatever that means), many people seem to choose to exit instead of focusing on growing the relationship together. This seems like the downside to that 'virtue' of Rugged Individualism that is so valued in the U.S. | |
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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 7/27/2007 12:22:44 PM | Of course it does. But your definition of love and another persons are not necessarily the same thing. Everyone seems to have their own views and perspectives on this subject, and that often makes finding it harder. Still, there are those that you meet that you can fall in love with quickly because of who and what they are. They touch you and remain part of you, even if it does not work out.
In today's world of instant gratification and constant demand, it seems that love can be as disposable as your bic lighter, but if it is important enough to you, you will be willing to work on it. So will your significant other when you find them. You may start as casual acquaintances and not believe that there could ever be any kind of relationship between you, but as you both come to know the other, love can develop. From what I have observed and experienced, this can be the most lasting of relationshps. But then there are those that you meet that the attraction and feelings are almost instant, and instinctive. People can pishaw at this if they like, but if you have experienced such a thing, then you know it can happen. And it can be as good as one that grows. You just have to remember that love in a relationship doesn't stand still, anymore than you do in your everyday life. It needs to be nurtured and worked on and if you and your significant other, when you find them, do this, you will probably have the best of relationships. And it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, only what you do.
Good luck with search. | |
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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 7/27/2007 12:40:07 PM |
... Does love really exist anymore?
When the chemistry kicks in, you’ll know it. when butterflies pit your stomach. When you feel what someone is thinking,let alone feeling, when you just cannot do without them, doing all the little things that mean so much, then you know your defiantly in love, Its wonderful when it happens. don't push for, just wait. Last time for me was two years ago, I’ve just got to wait too !  | |
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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:42:16 PM |
Have you noticed in today's world, people are getting married for other reasons besides love? There either was a child conceived or they are tired of being alone so they settle for the first person that says I love you , or they just want a companion...
Yep. It happens all the time.
Does love really exist anymore?
True love is very rare, as it's always been.
Why can't today's world be like it was in the olden days so to speak. They knew what and who they wanted and were not afraid to go after it. Take my paretns for example.. my mom was 16 my dad was 21, they knew each other a total of 3 weeks and 3 days from the day they met to the day they married, got married on April Fool's Day and were married for 20 and a half years until they were killed in a car ccident September 6, 2003. They grew up together, they lived togther and they died together.
For better or worse, the world our parents grew up in is gone. It's not coming back.
Here I am 26 years old and still completely single. .
You'll live. Keep looking. | |
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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 7/27/2007 8:27:00 PM | | Hi no love does not exist at least not in a romantic way, maybe parent, child, but love in man and woman requires certain conditions, for example i have never felt love becuase im too shy and underconfident so no woman has ever wanted me. the same with disabled people they know that they are much less likely to date, so love between man and woman is based on so many conditions of attraction that it simply cannot exhist because love is supposed to be unconditional and without any boundaries, lets all face it there are a lot of boundaries to our love! wheelchairs, underconfidence, people who are sevearly disabled! its a nasty cruel game! make nbo mistake love is non exhistent for the majority of society | |
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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 7/27/2007 8:49:06 PM | | Love exists, the real question is does it work for everyone? I'd have to say for some yes for some no. In fact these days for most no. Love in this day in age has become an issue of convenience, i.e what can the other person materially offer me. Thus love has become conditional. Personally I feel that love is overrated these days, its blind, not trustworthy and never guaranteed. | |
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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 7/27/2007 8:54:26 PM | | love exists when the heart is fully open to one another....without any doubts or questioning of the relationship just allowing the hearts to feel. | |
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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 7/27/2007 9:32:09 PM | So many jaded, cynical people. And so many of them so young.
Of course Love exists. Currently exists. And it doesn't have to "find you". And you don't have to go "searching" for it.
Start by being friends. Really good friends. Be the type of friend you wish you could have. Share secrets and stories and experiences. Share laughter and tears. Get really comfortable with each other. Fart and burp in front of each other. Do favours without asking. This list could go on and on, but I hope you get my point.
My daughter got married 3 weeks ago to her bestest buddy in the whole world. They're both 21. He proposed 6 months after meeting her. (I made them wait that long...lol). And got married 10 months after that. They absolutely love each other. | |
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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 7/28/2007 1:52:16 PM | There are many kinds of love but I will step out here and assume you are speaking of the love shared between a man and a woman that has a solid foundation. Some people do not believe in a soul mate type love and that's their choice but here's a good reason why I do.
"The one and only other half of one's soul" which completes you as a human being at the joining together as one? The one who laughs, plays, angers, cries, mourns, protects, criticizes, encourages, hates, and loves you and with you. The one who commits to the beginning, focuses and works on the middle, and dies with you in the end. Absolutely!!!! Without a doubt. And if you never find your soul mate...Dare to dream...dare to live in spirit...and dare to die with a heart that never settled for anything less. | |
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| Does Love Really Exist?
Posted: 5/25/2008 2:51:34 PM | | Reading all the comments reveals to me the basic of concepts. Why do people insist that love comes from outside. Come on. Learn to be your own best friend, love who you are instead of "expecting" someone to give it all to you. Times have changed, old fashioned love. Well let me say that many from the older generation remained in absolutely miserable relationships for the wrong reasons. It was an era where men dominated and women were subservient. Is that what you want? And that is not meant as a criticism. Men hunted and women nurtered. Today, it is viewed as a partnership which is how it should be. I have had many talks with older women who's partner has died and a lot tell me they were not happy, but socieites expectations, lack of independence and the children kept them there. They would have done differently. There are good and bad people. Good and bad experiences. It is called life. Enjoy it in every possible way. When you expect to get from others, and not from yourself, the result will be what you create. Disappointment. Sorry, but truth is, no amount of wanting will bring it to you. Don't ever stop trying though, life is one big adventure, to be enjoyed, and bring you every experience available. Enjoy it. | |
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