| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:35:35 PM |
but there have been several of these guys that I would've loved to talk to more but really, all I can surmise is they were not interested because all they said was "nice tattoos".
Confused here!.. If you would have "loved to talk more" why the heck not send and email back to them???
Okay ladies.. this Passiveness is counter productive to being on a DATING site isn't it?
(Just to keep the record straight..I'm a gal... too many in these forums think I'm a guy)
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:36:11 PM | I don't there is much to decipher.....he answered in the same spirit as your email.
I often send a compliment to someone who's profile is really nice or something is really
outstanding about them.....and I expect nothing. Most people respond with a thanks.
I am glad for that and give them kudos for just having good manners. As opposed to the
person that does not acknowledge my mail.
Your email could have been an opener for conversation but he didn't pick up on it...but
it is not bad on his part.
I also agree with some of the other posters.....cute is not a compliment to more mature men.
Just tuck the experience away for reference and proceed to have fun.
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:36:13 PM | He replied to your email. If you were interested in him, why didn't YOU write something HE could respond to? You started it.
If the shoe were on the other foot and he wrote to you "gosh you are cute!" would you ignore him, then complain that men don't know how to initiate a simple email? Why is the onus on him to start a conversation now?
I think you're wrong to write a 4 word email and then expect the guy pick up your slack. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 2:39:57 PM | Bethlett
It means he is not into older women or that he didn't really like the profile or the pics.
And it also shows that he is gutless ass for not telling you his reason's. I will not date a woman older then myself and most of the time not with in 10 years of my age ( yeah I gave up after you reviewed my profile) The guy has no class and you would not want him anyway no ball's
Hey I know you looked but Thank You one more time I mean that.
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:45:47 PM | Well, you send him a short note, and all it said was, gosh you are cute ! So the normal responce if someone said that to your face would be G Thanks, or something like that.
If you would have said gosh your cute, and I'm interested in getting to know you, maybe he would have responed in a different way :) I have sent little note saying hey your a doll to some gals, and all I ever expect back is a thank you, because that's all I said to them. Don't take it personaly, send him another e mail and tell him your intersted if he is, and then see how he responds :) Not saying I'm right, just my own thoughts :) And by the way, you are a real doll LOL
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:47:06 PM | I probably would have written the same thing as the recipient did, if all I got was a message that said "gosh you are cute"... If you are looking for more of a response, perhaps you should write more of a message.
At the least, if you really want a response, end the message with some type of friendly question, that you know the polite thing to do is respond. ie: if its Fri/Sat night and you see him online, before you sign the letter, say " so what's a cute guy like yourself doin home on a Friday night?"
That says your cute part, and leaves him with something to reply to...
Same goes for the guys when writing a lady...
CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 2:47:41 PM | Sabinee^^^took the words right out of my mouth. That's exactly what I was thinking also. If I got an email like that, I would have responded the same way he did. My reply probably would have looked like this....???????? I don't think it is about his lack of skills. How do you respond to a message like that, other than ....thank you!
There was no substance in your message to open any type of communication/dialogue. I am not trying to be rude or disrespectful here, but that's not a good way to initiate contact for a first email.
Sorry Bethlet....you're a sweety, but that's my honest opinion. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 2:52:53 PM | | That's what I think, too, Bethlett. When I send such an e-mail, which I do from time to time, it's may way of saying, "Hey, I think you're cute and I'm interested," so if he doesn't respond with more than "Thanks," I presume he's not interested. I do the same thing with men who send me a compliment. If I'm interested, I thank them and then offer some small talk. If I'm not, it's just "Thanks". | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 3:06:26 PM | Selena... I did read your post hun... I wasn't clear I suppose..I meant more than a Thank You... give them something to respond back to you again... You DID say "I would have loved to talk more" as I suggested to Bethlett some sort of question.. If they don't come back after that, then you have a definate answer.
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 4:21:01 PM | hmmmm.... read someones mind through a simple "gee, thanks" huh?!!!
here are the possibilities:
1-he didnt know what else to say[it is possible]
2-he wasnt interested
3-he was in a hurry to go somewhere but didnt wanna let you see that he had read the message without a reply and decided to send you a quick message.
4-hes shy
5-he tought he had you just because you said he was cute!(too easy)(could also b what he felt, you never know!)
and a milion more possibilities...................
its your turn to say something! go with "gee, your welcome"
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 4:29:33 PM | Hello all!
Thanks for the responses, they were myriad and interesting. Those of you who "know" me from the forums, know why it says "friends"....and yeah, I did forget it said that on my profile. So that could be why.
However, the fact that I knowingly sent him an email with no substance, definately of course possibly maybe could have been why. He definately was giving what he got. I would have done the same in retrospect IF I were not remotely interested.
My advanced age of 90 COULD have deterred him.....(I think he was 45 or something)
Possibly the fact that I insulted him by calling him something reserved for puppies and kitties did it... ;-P
Or maybe he just gagged and was being polite.
As for you, miss Love So Sweet....I hope you are nicer to the guys than you are to the old ladies. Come here. I think you need to spend a little time out in the corner. Haven't you ever heard "respect your elders"?
"think before you write"
kiss my............*said with a smile with pointy teeth* you little......
Truth be had, he lived across the mountains from me...he profile contained very little to work from....he probably was nothing but a "pretty face" and I really AM not looking anymore, but when I saw his picture, my fingers just hit the keys and I could not controll myself! It was one of those uncontrollable out of body experience things!!!!!! LOL....I knew there was no hope, but I just blurted it out before I could stop myself from hitting "SEND".
But I did wonder what your "take" would be on the response. :-) You guys are great! Its like having a whole bunch of sisters and brothers (and a couple really nasty other blacksheep relatives, LOLOL) to brainstorm with! | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 4:40:27 PM |
Either it means he's flattered but not particularly interested back, has the IQ of a bucket of hair, or really bad communicative skills, all of which aren't really things you want in a guy.
Perhaps he read the email and thought "who is this shallow woman? I want someone who has more to say than "gee, you're cute!"
A moronic email deserves a moronic response. You treat him like a piece of meat and then wonder what f~uck is wrong with him because you didn't get the response you wanted.
Some of you women are amazing! Same women who complain when the guys do this stuff cream a guy when he responds just like you do! | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 4:42:57 PM | Frog. You really need to chill. You are gonna die an early death with all this level of anxiety........
lol. I was not complaining. I asked for an interpretation. I didn't say I didn't get the response I wanted. In fact, if you 'd read my last post on this list, you would have realized that i knew precisely what I'd sent, and wasn't finding fault at all with what I got. I was just asking for an INTERPRETATION from you guys!
Damn. Go buy a woman or something, before you burst a side out of main renal vein!
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nah, Lass. Not gonna write him back. He's not in my physical area, and I'm not really looking online anymore. Besides...I got a date with a meat cutter that works at Costco tomorrow, and he's got SKILZ, not to mention CONNECTIONS!
God help me if I ever piss him off. HAHAHAHAHHA
..........EDIT:
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I just had a brainstorm. I'm going to mail the cute guy a link to this forum! omg. I wonder if he'll post! | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 4:50:30 PM | some comments here, are bordering on flaming. They are totally unwarranted! Stick to the topic.
OP....good luck. Just be careful of those "out of body" experiences, you might miss something! | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 4:59:11 PM | Funny., I just had the opposite.. I went on a date, we connected mentally, but I have a few red flags, divorced twice, now seperated, alot older than me, obese, etc. I tried nicely to let him down, and I recieved a 3 page e-mail as to why I should give him a chance and why I am running from the best thing to happen to me.. I normally dont like one word responces, but after this..
Realized I am off topic.. back on.. he could be in a hurry, communicates better with the one on one of a conversation, or just isnt into e-mail | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 4:59:15 PM | Some guys don't know how to respond to forward women. Not saying your e-mail was being forward. Just sayin'.
It's perception...anybody with any level of education or intelligence can tell you're not 90, however, not being honest about your age can also deter guys. Change it to 10 years younger than you really are like a lot of women on here and hope we can't tell....
Before I get trodden upon....I said a LOT...not most.  | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 5:05:07 PM | I often get emails saying things such as: "You have amazing eyes", or "I love your hair"...
I never know how to reply to those. Short of telling them my hair care regimen, or pointing out that I really had nothing to do with my eyes (genetics), saying thanks is about the only response warranted. I generally just take it as an offhand compliment, and move on.
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Posted: 1/7/2008 5:06:49 PM | Frog. You really need to chill. You are gonna die an early death with all this level of anxiety........
This frog is one of the most laid back people you could imagine... no anxiety, no near renal failures... I just really think BS should be called for what it is...
You sent a moronic email and you got more than what you deserved... actually I think it speaks volumes to his value system that he even bothered acknowledging your dribble.
And if you bothered reading... you can do that can't you (its not obvious from someone who thinks "gee you're cute" is a cool opening gambit and then need interpretation for the response)? You would have noticed that I quoted the coments about him possibly having the iq of a bucket of hair.
I never know how to reply to those. Short of telling them my hair care regimen, or pointing out that I really had nothing to do with my eyes (genetics), saying thanks is about the only response warranted. I generally just take it as an offhand compliment, and move on.
Which is absolutely the only emotionally healthy way to take it... and you respond with a polite "thank you" and you drop it. | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 5:10:40 PM | Hello,
I dont hang out here much but this caught my attention--happens in alot of my emails.
The guy was prolly annoyed that all you had to say to him was "hey your cute". See, on here most women expect a paragraph or more in an email. So, he was most likely annoyed because thats all you had to say.
For me, it's annoying because the woman didn't take the time to read my profile and thats all she had to say. Also, leaves no room for chatting. I usually don't respond and when I do, I respond with just a thanks. | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/7/2008 5:13:39 PM |
nah, Lass. Not gonna write him back. He's not in my physical area, and I'm not really looking online anymore. Besides...I got a date with a meat cutter that works at Costco tomorrow, and he's got SKILZ, not to mention CONNECTIONS!
God help me if I ever piss him off. HAHAHAHAHHA
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OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I just had a brainstorm. I'm going to mail the cute guy a link to this forum! omg. I wonder if he'll post!
LOL!
and re the meat-cutter, at least you'd have something tasty to nosh on while trying out those cement boots  | |
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