| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:52:27 AM | I always give back what I get,,,,, If I get an email like the one your wrote to this guy.. I would have given the same response.
You would think that if you were interested in him that you would have written a note that had more substance...or a question he could have answered.
That is if you were interested in more than just how "cute" he was.
I am finding that men want to be recognized for who they are inside, and not their physical appearance alone.
All in all I wouldn;t take it personally.
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:54:10 AM | Seems way too many assume way too much of the time on this email thing.
"Cutie" told Op that after he sent the gee thanks email back he didnt hear from her again so he assumed she wasn't all that interested... so there ya go.
I figure if they aren't rejecting right off the bat that, that is at least enough interest to form a friendship at the very least.
Too many negative assumptions, if you're gonna assume, wouldn't it be more productive to assume in a more positive light? | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:14:15 AM | Awww, Justfrozen. That was such a sweet post. Are you a social director on a cruise ship or maybe a family counselor? I was really affected by your post and I cannot tell you how much it disturbs me to know you were offended. Please accept my heartfelt apology, I shall do my very best to contain myself in the future. After all, I was really confused by this whole thread, since I've never posted on the forum before.
Ever.
Thank you so much for your kindness. I'll take it to heart.
Hey Nick. The blonde was damn cute. I'm thinking you should email her. 
Stovetop:
You wrote -
Yikes! Best start posting fast so your last 5 aren't showin up on the ole profile there Bethlett. I'm sure You don't want everyone thinkin you'd share their Private email .. or that they'd share your's for that matter.
Yeah, I type 120 wpm and was checking out other threads too, sorry! LOL....as for sharing private email - um, it was really hard to paraphrase his first email, but believe it or not, I did. lol..he did not actually use the word "gee". He actually used a different word. I did the best I could both times. LOLOL
Hey, UPDATE!!!!!
I just got 2 emails this am from new guys. It always surprises me to continue to get emails even though my profile clearly states in capital letters: JUST HERE FOR THE FORUMS!, but still, I am nice when I reply..... Both of them had nothing more than the usual (paraphrase) "You're cute/attractive/beautiful/boy do I want to (insert your choice of words here) you. " The second one also included a picture of a celestial body. Believe it or not, I did not follow the above 4 pages of advice and send them back something that called them a moron or accused them of insulting me. I merely responded "Thanks"....which, upon deciphering, means "No thanks, not interested".
I just wondered if when others write "Thanks" in response to an email that says "Gosh, you are cute", it meant the same thing I meant if I responded "Thanks". | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:24:12 AM | | OP it's like a couple of the other posters have said, those three word messages give you no sense of a person being intelligent enough, or bothering enough to string a sentence together, so many of us are much more likely to respond to them in a similar, non bothering manner. Also, calling him cute probably wasn't his idea of a turn on. | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:34:02 AM | I find it interesting that this thread went on so long and actually offended people...
Sorry, but I think there are way too many people on dating sites and in these forums that are hypersensitive to everything, and even a post like this reminds them of some injustice they feel they suffered. A thread like this that SHOULD have been light, entertaining and fun tells me exactly why some here are single. They're way too intense about stuff that's just not that big a deal. Or to put it in more traditional words, "y'all are a DRAG".
"Cute" is offensive because men like to be recognized for more than their looks? It's offensive because men hate the word? It's too juvenile? I mean, come on...there are a lot of men who would be happy to get an e-mail by mistake, so I doubt he was offended by being told he was cute, that is unless he's like an Abercrombie model or something and gets told 50 times a day.
And even if he was, he still thanked her.
Lighten up people! Sheesh.... | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:41:13 AM |
Saw a picture. He was cute. He was within 10 years of my age.
Wrote him a short email. "gosh you are cute!"
His response "gee. thanks".
Now....if he were interested, he would have said something more, correct? Like..."So. How's the weather up there", or "So. You ever going to write me anything of any SUBSTANCE?" lololol
I'm assuming that "Gee. Thanks" means "Shove off, mental deficient."
LOLOL
or something along those lines. Am I right?
That's why commenting on somebody's relative attractiveness is not a good way to start things.
I always say or email "Hello"...and ask "How are you doing?"
A person that is interested (unless they have few manners) will reply and ask about you.
Somebody who isn't interested will usually reply "Fine.." or something like and not ask about you.
Or they'll say nothing at all.
Works in the 90%+ range,so I'll just keep doing it....
People hear how "good looking" they are quite a bit...
Keep it simpler...you'll find out if they are interested quicker. | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:41:35 AM | Thank you Ugly Betty. I swear I think you, Blond/Blue , and Cassandra are the only one who "got it". lololol.
Most of the posters assumed I was asking for dating advice for myself. I just wanted to know if the general concensus was that "thanks" meant "no thanks"....or if it just meant "thanks"....
When I send it out to all the one line emails I get...it means "no thanks". And gawd, yeah...I never expected it to go for five pages either. I think its just my natural rabblerousing tendencies, dontcha think?  | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:56:20 AM |
Thank you Ugly Betty. I swear I think you, Blond/Blue , and Cassandra are the only one who "got it". lololol.
“Gee, thanks Beth!”
Now if somebody that resembles something similar to a man would tell me I am cute I’d be set! | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:06:39 AM |
Thank you Ugly Betty. I swear I think you, Blond/Blue , and Cassandra are the only one who "got it". lololol.
Most of the posters assumed I was asking for dating advice for myself. I just wanted to know if the general concensus was that "thanks" meant "no thanks"....or if it just meant "thanks"....
When I send it out to all the one line emails I get...it means "no thanks". And gawd, yeah...I never expected it to go for five pages either. I think its just my natural rabblerousing tendencies, dontcha think?
Wow...another poster seeking validation rather than asking for advice.
And then commenting that others don't "get it"
That's equally charmless and self-indulgent.
How novel. | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:08:08 AM | | From a mans perspective, I see a short email like that as having put in very little effort and all you are commenting on is his pic, not his profile. He may have been just reciprocating your effort with an equal amount of effort. If your truely interested, talk to him babaaaaaay..... Give it another try, but only one more try. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:22:52 AM | Question - "please decipher this email response for me"
I think that's what most were trying to do. No?
When I send it out to all the one line emails I get...it means "no thanks
That's cool, but I think unless someone actually says something to indicate their further intentions one way or the other--- too much is left to assumption and some do not assume that it means "no thanks" (hence your very own post)
... Agreed though, lets all just lighten up. Now where's the  | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:25:22 AM |
Dang, Rain. You are fickle! First I'm brilliant, and now I'm thoughtless?
first of all..I never made that claim in the same thread..
secondly...there is nothing wrong with sending a.."hey your cute message"...BUT!!!
dont come here and whine about not getting some spectacular reply from this hottie!!
you get back what you give!!!!!
you also said that you assume he isnt interested........if he lives that far away from you..why would you care? | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:30:22 AM | From a mans perspective, I see a short email like that as having put in very little effort and all you are commenting on is his pic, not his profile. He may have been just reciprocating your effort with an equal amount of effort. If your truely interested, talk to him babaaaaaay..... Give it another try, but only one more try.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
From this man's perspective, I welcome any and all emails or contact I can get from a woman (especially the ones with "extra" pictures, not shown on their profile, like their 2 dogs and 3 kids on a quat). So guys, next time you get any email from a woman within a 10000miles, save it, frame it, and get her interested, even if you can't stand her! You can always break up later or call her a freak if she won't put out quick enough for you. And get her permission to add to your favorites list so other women think you might have some attractive qualities. PS: Don't forget to reply to those emails, no matter how short, with something like: "Thanks for the email, I love your profile, it was well written and I would like to get to know more about you. Call me on the phone at midnite exactly, I have a secret to tell you". | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:33:41 AM | | It means he's flattered but not interested. He might be more interested depending on certain variables (for instance, I got the impression that he lived far away) but ultimately he either doesn't know how to respond or he simply isn't interested for whatever reasons. People with a mean streak don't reply in the first place and if they do, they'd convey their attitude pretty clearly I would think. | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:34:28 AM |
From this man's perspective, I welcome any and all emails or contact I can get from a woman (especially the ones with "extra" pictures, not shown on their profile, like their 2 dogs and 3 kids on a quat). So guys, next time you get any email from a woman within a 10000miles, save it, frame it, and get her interested, even if you can't stand her.
There, now THAT'S what I expect a man to say! Most men don't split hairs when a woman initiates contact. If they're interested, they'll run with it.
Unless they get hundreds of e-mails, in which case they might be more choosy about it. From what I've heard, and read in forums here, most don't get hundreds.... | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:36:48 AM | """"From what I've heard, and read in forums here, most don't get hundreds.."""
Yeah no kidding, I got like 4. 2 from another gal named Beth something, and 2 from Zangie (no zangie we know, lol). Of course, I have a GF, of course, so I couldn't respond like I wanted to. | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:38:20 AM | | Maybe those of us that don't get a full inbox everyday do appreciate any messages even if they are just blah or even nasty, at least it is mail or in my case male! Those that get too much or none perhaps don't "get it". The inundated get blasé and the completely empty get bitter. I am happy to be an “ in-betweener”. | |
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:39:24 AM | [quuote] Wow...another poster seeking validation rather than asking for advice.
And then commenting that others don't "get it
OP did not ask for validation, nor did she ask for advice as to how to get this guy... She also did not whine about getting spectacular reply... She asked pretty simple question, How would you interpret such reply? Lack of of interest or getting back what you put in...
In her subsequent posts she explained in more detail that she never really expected a reply, and was not much interested in guy... just gave him a compliment (it seems that ADD is really widespread here, if people cannot even look through the thread to see if OP added anything to the opening email).
WHY would this turn into heated debate is beyond me.
I guess it's a case of Monday morning anger that is now carried into the rest of the week... or, rather many cases of MM anger.
*writes a reminder to herself not to ask any questions on Monday*
Now, if you don't stop b1tching I'll tell you all that you are cute... even if I get banned for insulting y'all.
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| Question - please decipher this email response for me
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:41:19 AM | When I get an e-mail of the same substance, I usually reply with a Thanx, or good luck fishing, means thanx for the comment or compliment but I'm not interested, Cute is more for a baby or a puppy, etc. some guys don't like cute, same as some girls.
Send him a couple of lines or so, remark on his profile, what caught your eye, or was it just the cute face, body? | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:43:05 AM | ^^^^^^
OP's was lame.
You want to seek validation...ask your friends.
Or family.
Strangers aren't helpful in that area.
Also...I couldn't never insult you by calling you cute.
I'm always truthful. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:47:36 AM |
Also...I couldn't never insult you by calling you cute.
I'm always truthful.
Well, that makes two of us... glad that we are not exchanging insults.
I would also never insult you by saying that you have sense of humor.
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:56:29 AM | Am I missing something? It was a perfectly appropriate response to an effortless e-mail. ("Gosh, you're cute!" )
When looking, those kinds of e-mails would sometimes get a polite response from me but nothing more (even if I thought HE was cute too) | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 12:26:15 PM |
Am I missing something? It was a perfectly appropriate response to an effortless e-mail. ("Gosh, you're cute!" )
When looking, those kinds of e-mails would sometimes get a polite response from me but nothing more (even if I thought HE was cute too)
Well, I guess that would be a good way to cut of your nose to spite your face *shrugs* | |
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