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Posted: 1/8/2008 10:46:10 AM | | I agree with everyone.....he knows about it so there's nothing left to do....let him know her username and leave it at that.... he can do his own detective work and snooping from that point on.....if you get too involved, she will make it point to mess your life up at some point when you least expect it.....don't make too many enemies out there...(especially in matters of the heart) | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 10:49:28 AM | | If someone lies to you.. walk out... it will only get worse. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:15:40 AM | OP. There are three scenarios here. POF is slightly different from other "dating" sites as it has a social component as well. Hence either of the 3 below scenarios can be true.
Scenario 1.
If she is frequently posting in the forums she might simply be a forum addict with no intention of ever dating anybody. She might also be using it as a mean to stay in touch with friends. The profile will make it clear that they are here for the forum and/or friends.
Scenario 2.
She might thrive on the attention she is getting from the overwhelming male population on POF. Hence she might use it to boost her ego and flirt without having any intention of ever dating. The profile will be written as if she is available.
Scenario 3.
She is lining up backup suitors for two reasons: a) something better than your friend might come along, or b) in case her current relationship fails she has backup options. The profile will be written as if she is available with specifics in the dating section.
In either case, she should delete the profile or give him access upon request by her boyfriend unless she has something to hide. In this spcific case, I go with scenario 3. Ohh another thing! If this is a great friend of yours, then it is your business. After all, would you not want your friends to tell you if they knew your girlfriend was cheating on you? | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:47:04 AM | | If he really is a friend of yours, and you care about him, you tell him she's stil on the site looking. Then let HIM decide what to do, no counsel necessary. If he makes a "bad choice", OH, WELL, YOU TRIED. It's his life, let him live it. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 9:47:14 AM | I think its not just that particular woman who is deceptive, I find that about 99.9% of the women on her are that way, or stuck up or arogant. This is my 3rd go around on this site and the women are the same as ever. They say they are on here looking and will reply if messaged. That is not true...the women on here will NOT reply to sh@# all, they will not talk to the guys on here!.
So I ask all you women why the hell do you come on here if you won't even talk to the guys to see if there is anything there????? | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:02:38 AM | Stay out of it! It's not your job to police someone else's girlfriend.
And for the above poster: Women will email back those they are interested in, better to get ignored at first than to be taken for half a dozens dates before you find out she's not worth your time. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:11:07 AM | ^^^"Now you Mister……………………….Get over it and find a life and/or typing classes of your own...................... hehehe"
Just an FYI, smplchk...you've got a couple of mis-spelled words in your profile, as well.  | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:14:47 AM | Obviously this girl wants to keep all her options open. She is not ready to commit to your buddy. So he needs to either get over it and realize it, or move on. If he keeps insisting things that this girl is not ready to commit, is going to be his lost, since he's going to come across as a needy woossbag, and it will be her the one who says see'ya later alligater.
As per your participation in this? You helped your bud, now get out of the middle. The only one will get burned is you. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:17:52 AM | Your friend can:
1. Accept the current situation as is.
2. Ask her what's going on...get down to the nitty gritty.
3. Then make his own decision. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:18:54 AM | | Got'ta agree with ruckus123.You've "put a bug in his ear".The rest is up to him.Let him sit in his own sh__ now. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:19:49 AM | | This is one of the VERY last places I'd be if i were HAPPY in a relationship. That says enough.. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:24:24 AM | It's none of your business. Your friend is a big boy and can make his own decisions. Stop snooping and stay out of it.
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:27:12 AM | | OP - I think you done all you can do, you warned him about her actions/lying..now butt out. If he stays with her, that's his business..not yours.... he knows she's lying to him, maybe cheating...he cannot force her to stop, and she doesn't seem to care about the relationship or losing him or his feelings.....or maybe she knows he wont leave her no matter what she does | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:35:48 AM | | I'm with Ciaobaby....this place would be history!! Once that guy sass shays into my arms, we'll be too busy doing things to sit long at the computer anyways....there's a whole world out there to explore together! | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:38:44 AM | Your buddy may be head over heels about this woman but she is missing something in the relationship. Trying to stop her from doing something she wants to do is controling her whether or not anyone likes the activity. He should be talking about their relationship and whats missing.
If he is a controling person then he gets whats coming (her walking out the door!). Control has no place in a good relationship. | |
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