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Posted: 1/8/2008 7:59:09 AM | Dear Sassy..... You handled it all wrong...sorry to say. One mention of the threesome would have shed light on the matter. Men are always horny and most men are looking for the elusive FMF threesome. MOST women wouldn't be accomodating and THEY know this.. he rolled the dice, see if you took the bait, you didn't , and he moved on.
You should have moved on LONG before that.
I bet that that wasn't the first time he had mentioned a threesome to you.
If he had mentioned it before you went "all out" for his Bday, it's your oun fault.
Not trying to be mean here....and I can see why when women hear "I love you" they tend to believe everything the guy says.
Believe their actions,and believe in the way they treat you. The worst part is the "players"and the "good guys" use the same words. This is why we must be careful.
Take it as a learning experience... you asked at the end, "Am I wrong to give up?"
I answer.... give up what? There was nothing there.
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Posted: 1/8/2008 9:52:17 AM | Ladies,
All of you need to get this book..and READ it. How to Spot a Dangerous Man, BEFORE You Get Involved. By Sandra L. Brown, M.A. There are 8 of these creatures and the last man I was involved with, after getting rid of him, discoved, after reading the book he exhibited 4 of the 8symptoms..oh he was good, but cracked. The book decribes these 8 types of dangerous men, gives defense strategies and a red alert checklist for each, and includes stories of successes and failures. And dangerous does not mean his profession or lack of it..it is secret lives, emotional predators, abusive and violent, addicts, the mentally ill, emotionally unavailable, clingers, and those seeking a parent.
Anyway I hope YOU move along and alert others to this sub-human! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 10:43:07 AM | It hurts to find out that a guy you have feelings for is not a stand up kinda MAN. Don't blame yourself for being taken in, we all want to think folks are honest and truthful and that's ok, until they show us different. Then it's time to cut the losses, close the door and not return any contacts.
He is showing you who he really is.........and its not a pretty site. Count your blessings that it's ended now.......you deserve better. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 10:58:04 AM | the threesome isn't the issue...she may have gave him the impression that it was a possibility...
the issue is he is an immature jerk that sabotaged the relationship because he didn't get what he wanted for his birthday...wah!!...and then makes her do the dirty work!!!
what a coward...reminds me of highschool
I'm sorry you have been so hurt...we have all been there....but you must know in your heart that he did you a huge favour..
peace out girlfriend | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:33:35 AM | | I never said a Birthday Three some was a bad thing.. I think you missed the point. It was supposed to be a ROMANTIC jesture and he minimized that with out any care of my feelings. I was trying to show the man how I felt about him being that he had given me a diamond necklace and told me he was falling in love with me just a few days prior. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:37:44 AM | | I'm really not angry. I just really cannot understand how a man can tell you one thing and show you another. Whats the point? If he truely wanted to end it all he had to say is I think its not working out... Why be a coward. Just say it! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:53:07 PM | because he is too immature to do so...some people just don't grow up...he wanted a threesome that night...and he didn't get his birthday wish...maybe he's just sulking and is addicted to the drama...and if that's what you're into you could either play the game or just move on to something less disfunctional..
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Posted: 1/8/2008 6:39:02 PM | Im sorry if this seems a little rude but are are you stupid? ok that was a little harsh but seriously now, why is it that people ignore red flags, I saw this coming a mile away, Im always weary of someone who claims they fall in love after a brief courtship, how does one fall in love after 10 weeks, maybe in the Harlequin romance novels on Oprah best sellers list or Hollywood.
He expected you to bring another woman for a threesome on his birthday, Im curious what gave him that impression that you would be into that? if you didnt give him that impression then he's a selfish prick ( redflag #2)
All the phone calls stopped, you're calling him more and he's barely returning calls, ( redflag 3)
He has a new profile with pictures on ( redflag # 4)
He forgot to call you, ok what guy forgets to call his girlfriend redflag #5 ( except on Superbowl sunday)
He's already accusing you , translation you are bugging me and i dont want to be with you so he's picking a fight on purpose (redflag 6)
And you ask is it wrong to give up ??
Doesn't matter what you planned for this guy, you're not the woman of his dreams
Do you think you deserve to be treated with respect? hopefully yes because buddy not giving you the respect.
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Posted: 1/8/2008 7:35:43 PM | Did I miss something? Ah three some for a birthday present from you well unless you are into that I would have been WHAT the F- get lost.
As to checking up on him did he ask to be a steady bf or did you misunderstand. If he did then another one that thinks the grass is greener somewhere else. Good luck in your search. NEXT. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 7:44:19 PM | Blaming you was his way of deflecting his own guilt.
The guy is a player and when you didn't fall for it he pulled out the 'wounded paw' trick (look what you did to me) so you'd feel wrong and try to make it up to him.
Sorry, he's bad news and I didn't even have to read the whole post before every alarm bell started clanging.
You are NOT wrong for ending it! He wants to have his cake and eat it too. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 7:55:15 PM | Are you wrong to give up? Are you kidding? Why is it that we can always advise other people on their problems so easily? Oh that's right... It's because we are not in the middle of the turmoil!
You are a beautiful woman. You deserve much, much better!!! Good luck to you.... | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 8:02:04 PM | You are not wrong. Your gut is serving you well. This is the very common "piss you off so you'll break up with him so he won't have to be the bad guy" thing.
What a jerk he was, sassy. You are much better off without him, and I'm sorry you got played. Don't beat yourself up about it....most likely there was NO WAY you could have known. Sounds like you are a straight up sweet woman. I know your profile right now was probably written AFTER you went through all this BS. Change it after you can feel better....go back to your usual sweet self. And I can't say "well NEXT time, do THIS differently....", cuz who knows....we weren't there. We don't know what the red flags might have been. You are gorgeous. You exude a sexuality. I can see why he was hoping for the whole sex thing. I'm not saying you look like a "ho". I am saying you are a naturally very sexy woman without even trying. Its going to be something you'll be dealing with your whole life, most likely.
He was not sick
He did not forget
You are not showing any "true colors"
This may not be about a "threesome" at all. He orchestrated this situation so he could break up with you for WHATEVER reason he had. He just is one of those that uses the "L" word to turn an "A" ticket ride into an "E" ticket ride.
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Sorry. *hugs*
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Posted: 1/8/2008 8:17:35 PM | | Daggone it I've dumped for refusing to answer whether or not these pants make me look fat, it never occurred to me to ask for a threesome. I would have thought(pre-POF) that the request would have got me shot, then dump(in a deserted area). | |
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