| Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it?
Posted: 1/10/2008 11:52:19 AM | I appreciate everyones comments. Sometimes we hang on to hope and try to see the good in people. When we are wanting something so bad sometimes we become blinded to the red flags.You have to know the courtship before you judge and call me a total idiot. It was a fairy princess courtship what every girl dreams of.. I met his family and friends, A Limo ride to dinner and to look at christmas lights , Amazing dinners at places I could never afford to even breath the air. Lets just say he played the game very well and I fell for it.. It not a big deal anymore I just really needed validation for my choice. He is good at what he does and for a brief moment I felt maybe it is my fault.. However, now I can see things very clear. I went into this with sincere intentions and he did not. SUCH AS LIFE.... I do believe in Karma and it may not be tomorrow or next week even next year but, I do believe what comes around eventually goes around.
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| Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:24:29 PM | Here is my take on it...I hope it is helpful...
My personal experience has been that some men have a hard time with confrontation. It could be that he just "was not that into you" anymore, and instead of stepping up to the plate and telling you that, he took the weasel way out. This is common...unfortunately... He did not want to deal with the fact that he was hurting you face to face, so he slimed his way out of it...instead of making it uncomfortable for himself and facing up.
It sounds to me like the reason he updated his profile and was trolling for women is because he was insecure, and wanted to find someone else before he let you go...or stopped calling...
Either way, you are better off. Consider it a learning experience.. and yes...I also believe in Karma. It will bite him one of these days.
I wish you well, darlin!
Anna
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| Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it?
Posted: 1/14/2008 9:47:44 PM | | You were not wrong for ending it. I experienced something similar to that. I dated a guy for 4 years who claimed he loved me. One day out of the blue he just stopped calling me. No explaination, no nothing. Said he worked all the time. I have two jobs but could find the time to call him to say hello. After calling him a few more times I said to hell with it because I was just wasting my time. I don't know why some people play games with others. | |
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| Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it?
Posted: 1/20/2008 11:21:05 AM | Hi there...I was looking at your profile and reading your posts and felt like I needed to reply and give my opinion. I think that it is very unfortunate that you were played the way you were by this man. From what I read in your profile and from your post's, you have such a giving and caring heart and genuinly want and deserve a good man to share that with.
I will never understand why some men (if you can call them that) can't be straight up with a woman and feel they have to be dishonest or evasive when it comes to matters of the heart. I hope this or other situations in the past you have had with men have not jaded you into believing that all men are like that. Unfortunately, in this day and time, dating is not what it used to be and meeting someone of quality is difficult but not impossible.
I myself, still believe that there is someone out there for everyone but, you just have to be cautious and guard yourself against the wolves. I think that you definately made the right decision to end the relationship and you definately deserve more and better than that.
I believe in karma as you do but also stand by my own philosophy of "never settle for less that what you want and especially what you deserve!!"
I hope you will stay true to yourself and believe that YOU are a precious gift that any MAN would be lucky to receive. Good luck to you sweetie and hang in there! | |
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| Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it?
Posted: 1/22/2008 2:30:28 PM | | i do not think you were wrong at all for ending it. i find myself in this samesituation and you were a big help to me in making a decision. why do people get on here if they really arent looking for that one special person and then play with peoples heart and emotions? that is so cruel. well if you feel like it drop me a line and we will chat and get to know each other | |
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| Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it?
Posted: 1/22/2008 3:44:42 PM | ..i'm wondering if the 3some came out of the blue? you're chasing this guy! what for? guys will say a lot of things[he loves you?] to get what they want  you don't really have to ask anyone here to tell you what you already know! move on! good luck!!  | |
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| Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it?
Posted: 1/22/2008 3:53:28 PM | No, you are NOT wrong. He is trying to flip the script on you. He "forgot" to return your numerous calls?! Give me a break.
He evidently had enough time/energy to create a new profile on a dating site. He obviously was not as serious/honest as you thought he was.
Move on, Lady. If there are issues surfacing this early in the relationship, that is not a good sign. Keep  .
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| Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it?
Posted: 1/22/2008 3:56:23 PM | I haven't read all the posts, and perhaps this has already been mentioned, but:
Have you considered that all the Fairy Tale Courtship schit was to soften you up for the threesome? That, had you agreed to the threesome, the Fairy Tale schit would have promptly ended, as he would have won his goal? Then he could play on your guilt for participating in something outside your comfort zone.
Many years ago, I had a boyfriend request a threesome with me (involving another woman). That was our last date. I don't judge those who participate in threesomes, but it sure as hell ain't for me. | |
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| Please give me your take on this.. Am I wrong for ending it?
Posted: 1/22/2008 5:15:56 PM | | Something like this happened to my friend. This guy was all lovey dovey at the beginning and then eventually started treating her like crap. So no you are not wrong. So I think you are interpreting the chain of events pretty rationale. | |
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| Take the trash out
Posted: 1/22/2008 5:21:38 PM | | Girl let the trashman take the trash out , He is garbage you don't need him . | |
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