| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:33:34 AM | Honesty is a huge thing for me.
If I can't trust someone,and I know they are lying to me about things,then I have no real desire to date them.
I also don't like being around people who are rude,narrow minded,and self absorbed. | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:15:15 AM | | For me, it would be a heavy drinker, or someone who lives with their parents. I believe that social drinking is ok, but wouldn't want to date someone who drinks more than say, once a week, or who feels the need to go out drinking several times per week, hangs at a bar, etc. As far as the living with parents issue, its a total deal breaker for me, and I won't even consider that person. I feel living on your own shows responsibility and independence (IMHO). | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:24:06 AM | My deal-breaker?
Ans: Unwillingness to accept responsibility for one's own fate/status/actions...
You know, the type of people that have opened the door to a slew of "it's not my fault I'm [insert excuse here]..."; you see it in the courts, you see it in the media, and it just disgusts me to no end... 
If nothing is ever one's own darn fault, how can we ever possibly claim credit for our triumphs?  | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:48:33 AM | | Lack of integrity is what it all boils down to in my mind. That's the deal breaker. Nothing physical and intelligence is great but comes in many different forms. The one thing you have to stand by is your integrity. All of the lying, cheating, not taking responsability for your circumstances, ect... all boil down to integrity for me and I won't date anyone who doesn't protect their own integrity. | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 9:56:14 AM | I'm not terribly stingy...
I wont reject smokers, drinkers (but if your drinking literally all the time...)
stoners, personally the taste of smoke doesnt phase me.
Deal breakers would probably be... as shallow as this may sound, being overweight. I'm sorry, I have tried to LIKE it but believe me, im coded like this. I am not attracted to fat girls.... there personality would have to be awesome for me to consider. But I dont think this is unreasonable, all I ask is they stay under my weight, cant weigh more then me (165lbs)
and of course all the terrible personality traits no one likes, selfishness, concided, self centered, generally stupid... yeah. | |
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iris43
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Joined: 4/20/2007
Msg: 33 | |
| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:07:03 AM | A few of my deal breakers would be:
Selfiness
The use of chemical type drugs (crack, crystal meth,extasy,acid)
Dishonesty
Lack of integrity
Smoking
Not reliable
Irrespondsible
and someone that does not value thier health | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:12:17 AM | Unreliable, selfish/centred, impatient, dishonest and phoney fisherman. One who would set up a time and date and then call a half hour before and say "I had to work" or "something came up, I'll tell you later"! Man that pisses me off. It's like my time or attempt to get ready to go out and be presentable is totally oblivious. I would certainly have to have something pretty important to do that, I'm a considerate person of not only their time, but mine as well. I don't want to be sitting on my couch repeatedly hearing the song "Did I Shave My Legs For This?"
I'm a pretty good judge of character and I have to admit that I'm no fool and I would not be wasting my razor blades a second time. OH, drugs definitely out of the question or animal haters or rascists - but that should go without saying. | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:13:41 AM | I could tolerate a smoker if it mattered enough but not a ......ummm....liar?
Why say in your profile you're average and when you show up you're Huge.
What else are you dishonest about!!
Just my 2cents worth.
Brazos, Sol
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:20:38 AM | I smoke and if I were still looking I would never fault someone for passing me by because if it. Its a personal preferance to not want to date a person that smokes. Its not an attack on those that do (most of the time anyway) so I do not see why people get so p!ssy about it.
Its an unhealthy habit and yes it smells, but from what I've read in various forums about it, the smell is not what the biggest problem with it is. Its the health factors, and the peole that have quit smoking already and do not want to expose themselves to it again.
So there is nothing wrong with people choosing not to date a smoker for whatever thier reasons are.
oneintx just get over the fact that they do not want to date you. find someone else that smokes or one of those few that don't have a problem if you do. And as far as the smell goes, the only way your not going to smell like it is fresh out of the shower, unless your a heavy smoker because sometimes not even a shower can help with the smell.
Deal breaker to me is trust. | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:30:17 AM |
or if I find out he has a wife
Funny you should mention that -
The only two women I have met face-to-face through POF turned out to be married and wanting to cheat on their husbands (though their profiles said they were "single").
Definitely a deal-breaker for me | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:54:39 AM | Wanting sex and pushing for it too soon. By the second date with most. There are all kinds of deadly diseases out and I don't know this character from anyone. Also, everyone says they want commitment, but not really. Why do I have to be that pinched melon or chocolate that is sampled and cast aside all the time? I really think it's a total shame that the custom of dating has gone out of this culture. Where you went out for months and months before all that was even thought of. There may be kissing, even heavy petting, but not the whole cigar. Even going out with several, without all that jealousy and tantrums. So you get to know each other. So your company becomes indespensible. So, if you find out their "licking" practises or whatever are imperfect, you don't just tell them to get lost. Jesus, I've had men who could barely get it up at all. We aren't 20 anymore. I would be with them now, if other things, like insulting me all the time, weren't wrong there.
If you're worried about the money, there are parks, free plays in the park in summer. There's street fairs, window shopping. Dutch treat. Going up to thier pad too soon for videos doesn't work too well. Nature comes out.
So you've had some failed relationships. There was a time once, you wouldn't trade that person's company for a million$. So it goes south. That's life. Wouldn't you like to have that experience again? Even if it goes south again. Maybe you'll both be wiser this time. About 10 yrs. ago I was with this biker. I knew when I got with him it would only last 2 years and it did. You can tell by the clues. Would I trade that experience for anything? No. Did I really want to be on these lines with unbroken secession forever? No. | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:05:29 AM | I agree with you Karla....along with an ego problem.
If you are so hung up on yourself how could you possibly
see past yourself?
severe jealousy is another...a little jealousy makes you you
feel loved...too much and it makes a person miserable. | |
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Reese1
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Joined: 2/18/2006
Msg: 44 | |
| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 1/8/2008 11:15:05 AM | Smoking , Smoking , Smoking , If she was not willing to quit, and be serious about doing so, then goodbye. Mind over Matter. I have often said to people if a Doctor after your exam said to you , you have 6 months to a year to live unless you quit smoking, could you quit, and they all say yes of coarse. Go figure St---d.
For sure deal breaker, and a few other things. | |
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