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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 3/13/2008 3:27:31 PM | Lots of things can break the deal.
A lot of men go simply on looks which is very short sighted and too simplistic.
A woman must have:
1/ Good looks.
2/ Nice personality.
3/ Be honest and loyal.
4/ Not have too much baggage.
5/ Must not have any mental problems like heavy drinking or paranoia.
6/ Must not be a spendaholic.
7/ Must have more time for her man than for other men !
The sad fact is it takes a lot to make a relationship work well.
There are so many palces for pitfalls. | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:24:21 PM | Nicely said Bama Bob, I get your "drift." Alas, I waited 5 weeks before I posted my before message and immediately after He developed ...............????????? At first, I
was hurt but immediately I knew that true love doesn't look for the imperfections in
one another though we sure have them. I'm reminded of a day in and out determination for us to be the very best friend then all else will follow. I would love
the bombs and rockets going off but let's face it we who are older advance more cautiously than when we were innocent and young. We ran to it and embraced it, I
still will run to it and embrace it once I know the leopard's spots. A tigeress is very
protective over her cubs and so is the male Tiger mess with them or come near them and see what happens. The same is true of all the blogs written in one form or another
announcing our choices and what breaks the deal in a relationship. I've found this
internet full of one very real fact people who say they want to find someone "long
term" really means "my terms." That's what it should read like the rest above lying,
cheating, dishonesty, lazy, noncommital emotionally or physically spells disaster now
and in the future. At this time I don't mind being alone I am thankful for what I do
have and no longer running to find "him" when it's right it will be real and not before.
And most of all I want God to send him then it will be right. | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 4/19/2008 3:26:14 PM | Hmm.. The "Absolute Deal Breakers"
-Married or won't say status
-Drug use (current, not did pot a couple times in HS 10 years ago)
-Kids/Pregnant
-Obesity. Needing to lose a couple pounds is far different from "haven't seen feet in 10 years"
-Preachy types
The "I could tolerate it, but would rather not" list
- Heavy Smoking. If you can't go 10 mins without a cig, it gets old, and I don't want all my stuff smelling like the County Luau (bar here in Kville)
-Beauty Queens. Doing your hair for the Navy Ball? Fine. I don't want to have to wait 2 hours for you to do your hair/makeup to go to Chili's though. | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 4/19/2008 3:36:07 PM | One deal breaker for me is if I call to say "Im sorry I simply can't keep our 5th date would I be able to take a raincheck on it?" And he get's all snarly about it rather then being understanding, then doesn't call the next day, red flag red flag......what the heck would he do if there was ever a real issue??
I mean really........ | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 4/19/2008 3:40:45 PM | ***holes generally break the deal for me.
"Special" and "unique" are automatic.
Typical "laundry lists".
Typical "ransome demand" profiles.
Typical "non-reality" based profiles.
Typical profiles, which randomly lift material and plagiarize from Harlequin Romance novels.
When someone says they are "normal" I am automatically suspicious, since so was Jeffrey Dahmer right up until he did his thing. I have never met a "normal" human, since everyone is nuts.
"Hot", because they define themselves as such, as well as "Great Catches", any paragraph or sentence with "divorce", "kids" or "relationship" and "love" in it.
I don't wander around constantly and intentionally trying to turn people down because I am oh so "special" that I have an entire profile listing of REQUIREMENTS.
After all, I grew up, and realized that you don't ever get what you REQUIRE, you get close to what you want, and usually have a better time anyway. Negotiation is life, otherwise, you can't ever find what you are looking for, when you are looking for it.
Then again, I am not as vague as most people either, hence, I stop my problems from occuring...........before they happen to occur. | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 4/19/2008 4:59:04 PM |
Also someone who drinks since my ex is an alcoholic.
I'm the opposite. If a man doesn't drink at all I'd be reluctant to get involved with him since I think it's fun to have a few drinks on the weekend with someone special!! Don't get me wrong because I'm not a big drinker at all. But there are times when alcohol can be fun!!
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:50:37 AM | The biggest thing that stops me from even considering contacting or sometimes even responding to an email is when someone keeps going and going with their sentances and mis spells everyhthing its like these people just keep going and going and make their sentances run on for what seems like years and they do not use comas or periods it just keeps going until i can' t take it anymore please for the love of God use some punctuation so that i know where one sentance ends and the other starts thank you  | |
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| The one thing that breaks the deal in forming a relationship
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:20:31 PM | Smokers - not just the stink - but the reasons why someone smokes A) they don't know it's bad for you - they don't read or keep up with things B) They know it's unhealthy but don't care - well if they can't be bothered to take care of their own health, how will they handle a relationship? C) They are weak and lack the will power to stop - a real loser. This also goes for other addictions as well.
Golddiggers - I once had a girl ask me about money at the very start of a relationship - when we were just talking about getting together. Sharing money/etc. is something for an old married couple - not for daters. There is a word for that - Prostitution.
Lack of education, being trapped in a stereotype (redneck, goth, etc.), lack of interesting hobbies/activities (you know - the party girls that still haven't got their fill of drinking/dancing/collecting stuffed animals/etc.)
-J | |
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