| Laughing together
Posted: 1/8/2008 2:24:45 PM | Yeah, it's one of the top of my list things. I went through so much in my lifetime - and sure I brought a lot of it down upon my own head - but one day when the right guy comes along he is definitely going to have to have a good sense of humour.
I know when to be serious and have no problem laughing at myself now although I wasn't always that way. And I don't like to laugh in cruelty toward others although I can be sarcastic at times.
Rather I strive toward Stephen Leacock's definition of humour: that it's not slipping on a banana peel that's truly humourous because it implies injury or harm to another. It's those ironies in life that are truly funny.
It's part of the reason I picked my screen name because I've found myself in some rather ironic positions in life -- not because of the hurt or embarrassment I ever caused myself or another.
As the song lyrics say: 'I couldn't help myself I just had to laugh'*. It was one of those who would have ever thought we'd wind up back where we started from situations.
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Posted: 1/8/2008 2:29:25 PM | | I'm in agreement with you 100%. Laughing together is key. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 3:34:09 PM | I think it's tremendously important to be able to appreciate the kinds of humour. It's incredibly annoying when you're with someone, and they just don't find tons of things funny, that you find absolutely hilarious.
I have a very sick, surreal, ironic, wry, black, sense of humour. Seinfeld, Red Dwarf, Family Guy, stuff like that. It's amazing how few people love that. | |
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| Laughing together
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:51:54 PM |
I wondered how many of you feel about laughing together being an important part of a solid relationship. I can always remember my parents having a tremendous of fun in general and definitely having some big laughs together. To me it's just part of being in sync. What do you think?
My parents are complete opposites, they truely are night and day...yet they have been married for 33 years now and going strong. What seems to bind them together so closely (in my eyes) is the fact they they laugh alot together. They can overcome all thier differences through humor. They enjoy each others company.
It seems so strange to me. People are often drawn to those that are like themselves, and yet two people so different from each other have such a strong relationship. It just goes to show...you never know. You may think you know exactly what you want in life yet , until the day it stares you in the face, you truely wont...  | |
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| Laughing together
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:02:24 PM | | Oh it is very important to laugh with you partner. These are the moments you will remember for a long time. Possibly forever so the more the merrier. Everyone loves laughing. And I also agree with you doesn't matter if they are laughing with you or at you as long as they are laughing. Way prefer that to crying or any other expression. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:09:50 PM | let 's laugh
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:25:06 PM | If two laughs happen exactly out of phase there is silence. It is a scientific fact.
I sometimes wonder if the whole point of the forums here is to eventually document every last, least most trivial detail about dating and relationships, from every angle, as if love was a sand dune and each thread was devoted to just one grain.
Laughter = good
example >>
now I am going to  my glass of wine and look for signs of somber women whose dour outlook precludes mirth. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:45:22 PM | Definitely! Big part of a relationship is laughing, if you can't laugh at something together on your first date, phone before dating..there is something wrong!!
Life is too short to worry about why someone doesn't have a sense of humor or just not that in to you or our first date and on the first date, should be fun, laid back, laughing...etc..My parents always laughed at little things..or just something they used to do and my parents are still together after 45 years. So, yes, laughter is a vital part of a relationship.
If my date is a stuffed shirt, then we will have to talk...especially, if I'm attracted to him.
Opposites do attract, right? there has to be a spark and some kind of fun humor.
Dating is supposed to be fun, right?! Talking (if you find yourself talking & an hour or two go by fast..that's a good sign..yay!!) and laughing...very important!
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:47:25 PM | Humor is the scourge of the planet. Just think of how much more we could accomplish if we weren't all flopping around wasting time and enjoying ourselves.
Nope, not for me. Give me the spartan, productive, straight-arrow grim life, any day.
I want a woman who is as silent as a cold fish. Jokes and humor are only meaningless distractions... tools of the evil one meant only to keep us lazy. Hell, the only reason I would even have SEX is to spawn children... so I could sire them up to be good, quite, self-controlled productive citizens. And god help any woman of mine who actually wanted to enjoy the experience!
Nope, no laughing for me. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:53:32 PM | By the way, last night I recorded a great old movie from cable-- "A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum".... think that might be relevant?
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:54:59 PM | For me, the bottom line is laughter is equivalent to foreplay. (nothing gets them endorphins going like a great belly laugh!)  It's a must in my search for a soulmate. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 6:03:31 PM | Scorpioja says:
For me, the bottom line is laughter is equivalent to foreplay. (nothing gets them endorphins going like a great belly laugh!) It's a must in my search for a soulmate.
Yes! Laughter is an essential part of sexiness, and a lasting relationship. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 6:06:27 PM | | Oh yeah. Humor is key to any great relationship. Sometimes, I don't know what I'd do without my sense of humor...........I just gotta find someone who values humor as much as I do! :D | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 7:06:57 PM | | yep....being able to laugh and have fun together is pretty important....and so are big smiles that light up the whole face! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 7:55:48 PM | It's very important. I never gave it much thought because I like to laugh and I smile a great deal throughout the day. Most of the men I've dated for a period of time (before I was married) were fun.
I would think that those that lack a happy laughing attitude might find another with the same trait. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 8:20:25 PM | The ability to laugh - especially at yourself - is a great sign of inner peace and detachment (a good thing). The more you take things personally, the more guarded and defensive you get, and the less funny things seem. When you allow yourself to step back and view the world with wonder, you can't help but laugh.
I love a man with a mischievous ("Irish") twinkle in his eyes. You know there is a chuckle in there just waiting to escape. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 8:27:33 PM | | Laughing is bad for you. You should not force laugher into another person, it is truly the opiate of society. It sneaks in in little things, things that have no meaning, like a fart. Then you start asking people to pull your finger. Disgusting. Next you think it is necessary to make fun of the things that are not perfect, that is disgusting. Everything should be perfect, so don't laugh about it. Then there's that giggle stuff and ticking, absolutely disgusting, it should be illegal. Anyone who practices that should be in a laughter dungeon, where you will be tied, in your skivy jevvies, and tickle with a feather until you cry and then repent. It is worse when force upon little children. Before you know it those little teeth and smiles will be showing and you will be forced to show your teeth as well and even ask someone to pull your finger. The horror, the horror. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 8:35:04 PM | Yeah.
Sense of humor and ability to laugh together is vital to me.
I've been in relationships with people who "didn't get the joke" -- and a lot of the time I ended up feeling like a jerk, 'cause I use sarcasm.....  | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 9:19:05 PM | | Laughing together is just as important, no, it's more important than being able to cry with you. I hate to cry in front of anyone, but will sometimes, but I want to laugh every day with my guy. There's so MUCH to laugh about in this world. It's incredibly important to me that he get my jokes and I get his. Otherwise....why bother? Laughing and finding the humor in every day situations is a big part of my life. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 9:44:59 PM | Laughter is an important part of a relationship in my book. It allows me to show my natural and human side. It shows that no matter what crap gets thrown into my path, I can deal with it, look back at it and eventually laugh.
When one person shares a story or situation, and both are able to laugh, it a sure sign of a comfortable relationship. Why do we tell these kind of stories to others? It is a sign we have opened ourselves up to that person, and feel comfortable in doing so. We share those kinds of stories because we will not be judged. We are accepted by them, faults and all.
I have shared stories with persons that cause them to laugh. I share those stories because it shows I am human, I live life, I make mistakes, I stumble. Friends laugh with me. Judgemental people barely break a smile, or criticize.
Yes, I prefer to live, laugh and love.
I thank those people who have shared laughs with me.
Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:15:50 PM | | Laughing it hugely important...otherwise he'd be kinda boring wouldn't he? | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:33:14 PM |
I wondered how many of you feel about laughing together being an important part of a solid relationship.
Laughter is an important to me in all of my relationships... family, friends and my significant when I have one... Having like senses of humor is essential - having the ability to laugh together everyday is a sign of a healthy relationship. I laugh easily and try to surround myself with the same. A couple having the ability to laugh at the same things, being able to make each other laugh and sharing private jokes strengthens the connection .
The OP said it best - a couple is in sync when they have the ability to laugh together often. It's intimacy on another level. | |
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