| The magic age of 50?
Posted: 7/19/2008 12:52:06 AM | I hold my head up high and can honestly say I never :dated: out of my age bracket, even tho through the years, I was tempted by the odd apple falling off the proverbial tree
I truly believe that older men, who look for young woman, are wasting the best years of those younger peoples lives
I know some wonderful woman over 50, wonderful in all aspects.
i live life to the full, I have been 30 different countrys last 4 years Nothing ever changes, there is ALWAYS romance if you want it
In saying that I , in all my travels, never had a one night stand, 2 nights maybe:)
been here 4 days but although can find my profile, my letters are not reaching anyone, nor has a single person viewed, so if anyone of either gender can see me , please tell me in here
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| The magic age of 50?
Posted: 7/19/2008 6:02:26 AM |
I really don't understand telling someone that they are too old...
I think telling someone "you're too old" is code for something else. My guess is the 'something else' is looks, at least when it comes from a male. I wouldn't even hazard a guess what the code means when it comes from a female.
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| The magic age of 50?
Posted: 7/19/2008 7:27:25 AM | | Yes I know what you mean about meeting a man the same age as yourself it is the way they act , some really act their age but on the other hand I suppose it does depend on the guy. I have not yet worked it out why young men are interested in the older woman. I do have reservations about 'sugar mummy'. | |
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| The magic age of 50?
Posted: 7/19/2008 7:29:36 AM | geeze louise...
i'm thinking...the secret to life is being happy will ones self...once i turned 50 i gave myself permission to do so...if someone doesn't like my wrinkles or sagging tits, i don't care...really...i'm not out to please them...and honestly, i am happier now then ever....
but again, that's just me...
~rosie~
(hey, and if someone is speaking code...they needn't talk to me, please...i know, i'm sounding cranky, but really i'm not...just honestly it's the way i see it...) | |
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| The magic age of 50?
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:01:40 AM | | I agree with the ageless concept. We are all different in how we have aged, both mentally and physically. Our habits and experiences have shaped us. Some people act old at 35, some are young at 65! Whenever I have be tempted to restrict age to narrowly, someone comes along to prove me shallow. So I stay with my instinctive choice of between 48 and 58 for searches, but entertain all inquiries! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 1:41:28 PM | jannvg, can you read my post above and check it out for me,, you seem a good sort:)) would appreciate it IF it does not work, and I do not get the email just say you have sent, in here.
thanks v much Stu | |
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| The magic age of 50?
Posted: 7/19/2008 4:38:51 PM | Why stop at 50? How about 60? 70? There is no magic age.
To quote from a greeting card I have framed (which makes me wonder where our culture gets its mores) "Ever notice that "what the hell?" is always the right decision?" And an older quote from who knows where - "no guts no glory". Life seeks life. Love is essential.
The day I give up is the day I'm outa here. | |
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| The magic age of 50?
Posted: 7/19/2008 9:59:44 PM | I havent met a guy at any age that didnt complain!!!! If they are under 50, they just cant get enough ( of what I dont know,,they are always tired first). The ones over 50 have to be sure they have their assistant (V). 
I have gotten to where I just dont discuss age anymore..Im not ashamed of mine Im 51, its just that I dont want to know age. It doesnt matter..What matters is how I feel about this person, how they treat me, and how we get along.
Im so tired of the age thing...Its just an excuse  Its an old wives tale 
I have days Im tired, I have days Im the everyready bunny..So do they. If they are grumpy, its not the age its the personality..They were probably grumpy at 20.
You have the right to choose who and where you want to be with someone. Ask them to change the attitude, compromise, or just dont see them again..At any age!!!!
Age is not maturity, intelligence, or kindness..its a number,,what you learn or share depends on your personality and how you feel about the other person.
Besides if your dislexic,,you would think I was 15..right???????? | |
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| The magic age of 50?
Posted: 7/20/2008 4:16:33 AM | | 40, 50 and beyond? Who knows exactly when a flower is to bloom? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 4:42:19 AM | im still blossoming ..he he he .LIVE YOU LIFE NOT YOUR AGE ....giggle      | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 10:28:32 AM | It's a two-way street, isn't it? On my profile I have a twenty-year range as to what I am looking fore. Not because I am looking to date young or because I don't want to date anyone older than myself, but, because i know from experience it is my comfort-zone. Now, having said that, in the past ten years, since my divorce, I have dated two women who were my age - when I was fifty-three and again when I was fifty-six - all others have been in their mid-to-late forties. The first one got so obsessed with health and retirement that she made me nuts. The second, after two years, we broke up due to distance, she lived in Florida, where I met her but I moved to Pittsburgh for a lucrative contract and that was that. On one hand, along the lines of what has been said here, I have found that many is the time that I have encountered woman close to my age who were too conservative - staid and set in their ways and not much about experiencing new things. On the other hand, now, if I think real hard about this, my words, to an extent, sound like the same argument that some women have about men over fifty.
I have no problem with women over fifty, as long as they can keep up. It's not that I am superman or anything like that - I just have alot of energy and don't see myself stopping any time soon. Anyway...that my thought on this topic.
Peace
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| The magic age of 50?
Posted: 7/20/2008 11:00:04 AM | I don't know about the rest of you guys but I've "dated" women in there 30's-50's that acted as well as looked like they were in their 80's.
Maybe she didn't like the smell of "Old Spice"? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 12:56:44 PM | I became single at 42 and my ex-hubby was 43 and I've never been with a man any older than that although I am now 54.
I do prefer younger men, but not exclusively.......... although, to be honest I don't like to be with anyone who either makes me feel like their daughter or mum, and I get more older men trying to 'father me' than younger men wanting me to treat them like their son, so they never even get as far as a date. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 1:49:14 PM | When we look in the mirror we often have our own mirror image no matter what that reflection is. We feel young and when we look - we see the younger version of ourself as our very own brain sees it. Then one day we look and see the real deal. We go into shock.
Some men look and stay young in mind, body and spirit. I do find more men than woman age faster. I do look youner, or I am told all the time and actually they ask to see my DL because they don't believe me....fortunate to have creamy white skin, stay out of the sun, don't smoke or drink....all things that age you plus blessed with good skin genes. Some deceive themsleves. I also have a young voice and do take care of myself.
I get it though cause when I see a man that is 50, looks 60, has not bought new clothes in 20 yrs, hair thinning, stagnet in views, very old voice, pants up high, missing teeth or they are yellowed, hair in ears and nose and then hair on the head has slipped off his head...... I want that younger guy too. Aging does a number on many of us in one way or the other. Esp. when you are in the dating world you do need to update a few things a bit and it helps. We forget as we get older.
People should just do what they want and pass on what they don't. It saves us from rejecton and be glad when people are honest. Why be anywhere or with anyone you don't want to be..... Better now than later.
BUT........
EVERYONE... if you land in the dating game do yourself a favor.
Update your glasses
Get get your teeth whitened
Get a fresh hair cut or just update the do a bit
Get new clothes or accessory to a fresh new look
Get out and exersize a bit
Refresh yourself with current events
Freshin up your home just a bit
Don't forget your shoes.....are they 10yrs old, polished?
Girls get a facial, men too-just to feel better about yourself
Get your pedicure and manicure
Hygene is first priority
Has that perfume or colene been on the dresser for over 10yrs? get new fragrance
What I am saying is make a little effort that says I take pride in myself, I respect you and be available in body, mind and spirit to be dating. This, you are not going to change me, take me as I am, you will be left as you are.
The older most of us get the less effort most take. Everyone needs to think back and remember how excited we were when younger to go out on a date. Get some of that energy and consideration back.
If a few would do this they just might get out more and be better recieved. Just a thought. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 3:12:07 PM | | That's a great post fight naked...... and it just made me realise all those other things that I take notice of , albeit more on an unconscious level but nevertheless do affect my dating choices especially for intimacy rather than friendship. I do make an effort myself and love recapturing those younger dating times. and would expect a man to give himself the same attention. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 8:30:59 PM | | Have never had a "too old" message since I do not approach men. My age limit is 55 to 65 as I am 61. Men stick their necks out there because they are the ones making the first move. Rarely does a woman approach a man. Once I was bashed unmercifully because I am a smoker, this from a man I never approached, didn't even know where he came from. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 1:05:54 PM | | What is it about this site? why are you all so uptight about age?I make no secret that I am 77, but I consider that i am as fit and fitter than some guys of40/50/60. I don't want to be a sugar daddy to any lady, but thats what most of you seem to assume,and I don't need the big V !!! Alicia says we stick our necks out as we make the first approach. Well someone has to, and if they are all like Alicia we'd never talk to anyone. She is right though, I have never had a first call from any lady on this site in about 3 months | |
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Posted: 7/23/2008 8:37:52 PM | I agree, Roc, what is it on this site about age? I don't look like I did when I was 30 and trust me, I hate it. I still want to wear those sexy skirts and lingerie and I just don't look like I did 20 years ago when I do that stuff........... But I know that the feelings are still inside of me even if the outside looks a little weathered at this age.
But like someone else said, I finally got to a point where I allowed myself to be old. I stopped expecting myself to look 40 instead of 58 and allowed myself to be happy with who I am..........at this age.........I can still laugh, still have fun, still get turned on, still love, still be a responsible caring adult...........so what if I don't look like I did 20 years ago. If a man thinks I look old now, I laugh because nine times out of ten, the same guy who is criticizing me has a pot belly that makes him look 9 months pregnat, and looks a lot older then I do! Selective vision!
I have friends who are in their 70's and just got married. She is not beautiful but you would never know it by how HE sees her. To him, she's still a foxy lady and they go dancing every week...............I just wish more men could see women like that .... Instead every guy today seems to be looking for a 60 year old who looks 40! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 6:06:04 AM | Well, I just turned 50 myself, but, from what I've seen, most (certainly not all, but most) guys over 50 look much older than that. And, they look like a father figure to me, which is a total turnoff as far as sexual attraction goes. I have yet to meet many men over 50 who were visually appealing to me. People have always told me they thought I was 10 years younger than I am, so I do tend to gravitate toward men in the age range of 40-50, because we appear, at least, to be the same age.
Case in point: when I was 45 I was seeing a man who was 52. We were both talking to a man one day about a potential deal and the guy nudged my friend, winked and said, "So, hey, what's the age difference? There's 16 years inbetween me and my wife." When I said there was only 7 years' difference, the guy's jaw dropped. He couldn't believe it. He was surprised not just because he had thought I was much younger than 45, but that he thought my friend was much older than 52. And he was right; at least about my friend. He looked more like 62. So anyway, for me, that's why I prefer dating younger men, for the most part, not to mention they have a whole lot more sexual energy than their older male counterparts. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 8:00:43 AM | | LOLOLOL,I just love this E D stuff.It's a great way for women to dodge the idea that they may just have not been physically attractive to the man enough to get him excited.Healthy,Happy,secure in themselves Men of any age do fine.I see in my chosen hobby of playing music many men our age(50+) having a wonderful time dancing and enjoying life with women who are our age as well.Sometimes I believe the women use that too old for me line because it is really them who cannot keep up. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 12:06:57 PM | | friendlyldy.......you got it in one....wish you didn't live in florida though!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 3:41:13 PM | | I am comfortable in whom I man. In a relationship, the key is to find a man your age you understands you have both aged but still thinks you look hot. It can make you feel great about your body. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 4:05:44 PM | | I personally like older men so I don't get the "stodgy" comments. Their loss, not yours. I think women want younger men because they aren't handling mid-life well (like many men in their mid life). Women don't like the idea of gaining weight, hysterectomy, gray hair, hot flashes, wrinkles, saggy boobs, etc. They just want to restore vitality, stop the clocks, quit the aging process. I think they resort to younger men to do that for them - Fountain of Youth. A man their own age or close to it reminds them of their clock ticking. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 5:15:32 PM | | People place too much emphasis on age. If you're a match, who cares how old you are? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 1:18:15 AM | What!!!!!!
Too stodgy; my goodness.
When you turn 50, you're really turning about 21 and the fun really starts.
Boy, I'm 51 and still a teenager at heart and loving the fact that I can still hang out with my kids. Well, to a point that is. I mean, I might be a bit cool, but compared to them and their Mates, I'm an old codger with one foot in the grave. LOL
I don't understand these people who feel they need to go for babies to date, instead of people from within their own age group. Must be something wrong with them upstairs if you ask me.
Some people must still think they look like a 'real' 21 year old and just cannot accept the fact that they are finally getting old.
They should just get over it and accept where they are at, because they could have a whole lot more fun if they did.
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