| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/16/2008 10:21:52 AM |
Critique your own Profile . .
Do you know what women want . . ?? - at least the women that you're attracted to . . -
* Would YOU date You . . ?? *
The OP has tinkered with his profile, and it sounds pretty nice. EXCEPT the 'intimate encounter' part. He talks about a 'mate', he sounds like he wants to truly date someone. But to me, "intimate encounter" means he's just looking for sex. I get the impression that men with that in their profile get ignored. | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:28:23 PM |
Supermarkets- c'mon! I've been grocery shopping 2-3 times a week for the past 22 years and haven't had so much as a hello.
So you go say hello.
Coffee shops- I don't even drink coffee! Besides, I think people go to these places for coffee- not to get laid. Same idea with bookstores.
Um, so are you looking to date and find someone to have a relationship with, or are you just looking for a quick fvck? People do go to coffee shops for coffee, but we *live life* to connect with other people, and humans - men and women - are open to making a new connection just about anywhere they're having some leisure time.
Also, most coffee shops offer other beverages as well - tea, soda, water whatever.
I've been poking around POF for about two years now. I haven't had a single date, intimate encounter, anything! I think I've had maybe 10 people view me, and one single reply that went nowhere. Any other ideas for meeting single or available damsels?
What you NEED is some guidance on how to approach and spark attraction in women. Google for "how to spark attraction in women" and get started getting educated :) | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:47:34 PM | OP,
I read your entire profile and this entire post - I must have missed the beard pics and you have obviously cleaned up the profile, which looks pretty nice right now.
Except this
Odds are that if you're looking at my profile we are both here seeking an (OOOH!) intimate encounter (among other things), so I don't think a weeks-long courtship is in the cards!
If dinner goes well, perhaps we could have each other for dessert;)
Might want to think about changing that if that isn't what you are looking for.
Good luck to you.
~tranparent
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/16/2008 5:55:37 PM | I'll tell you EXACTLY why....
This is what your profiles says even though it is listed as though you were looking for DATING..
Odds are that if you're looking at my profile we are both here seeking an (OOOH!) intimate encounter (among other things), so I don't think a weeks-long courtship is in the cards!
If dinner goes well, perhaps we could have each other for dessert;)
hence ... no date
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/16/2008 7:14:03 PM | Less sarcasm...more niceness.
Or only approach female Marines...if they don't kill you in the first thirty seconds, they'll try to boink you to death if they think you're cute enough  | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/17/2008 5:05:34 PM | Whoops- I'm trying a new approach, revising my profile, and forgot to update that part:)
Funny thing about being called too picky- My girlfriend from years ago said I'd have more luck if I was pickier! *grumbles*
For what it's worth, I've turned down two women because they were so drunk (and habitually so) that even if their consent were valid, I would fear for my health.
I seem to recall turning down one offer years ago while in a monogamous relationship.
That's about it! | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/17/2008 5:42:56 PM | Lasskisser
Your profile sounded more like a Dating profile anyway.
We assume that most people here are looking to eventually end up in some
sort of relationship that will involve Intimate Encouters.
The problem you may have now, is if you messaged too many women
that had IE as their Looking For, you may not be able to message
anyone with that filter on, as on my profile. If you want to test, send me a message.
If it goes through, you're good to go. If you are blocked,
you will need to delete this membership & restart a new one. Copy this one somewhere where
you can retrieve it.......that will give you a clean slate, so to speak.
All the best in your quest,
~KK | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/17/2008 8:13:58 PM | | ^^^^^^^^^ I'm sayin man. For real. Two years!??!? Now i ain't the best lookin guy in the world but shit i've run into more ladies then zero in two years. | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/17/2008 9:19:20 PM | hmmm...
Unless you recently changed your profile recently I'm not seeing any red flags...OK, you could smile in some photos and maybe take off the heading 'Real woman have curves" (because that's negative to anyone who isn't made that way....)
… you do need to notice that there is an option in the email section to block people who have ever written to someone asking for a sexual encounter, so many woman may never see your emails if they have it set up that way....
So assuming you’re actually writing to people, I’m not sure why you haven’t gone on at least ONE date….maybe have a female friend look at some of the emails you’ve sent in the past to women?
Happy fishing…. | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/18/2008 7:24:42 PM | First off from what I read you said you have had maybe 10 women view you. How about you put yourself out there, view some profiles yourself, send a few messages. What do you have to lose, worst case you get a no. So you move on to the next one. Secondly maybe don't focus all your trying to find somebody on here. It is possible but hey being realistic this internet dating thing doesn't work for everybody.
And you do sound like a negative nancy, kinda feeling sorry for yourself but yet you have knocked a lot of the avenues for meeting people. Open yourself up more, sitting at home alone won't get you a date. Try the phone dating lines too, some nice girls like me pop on them from time to time. | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/20/2008 4:10:52 PM | | So what's up? I posted nearly an identical post and it got deleted and there are 3 pages of responses to this one! I know I only have one pic, I guess I could post a scan of my driver's lic pic, it's not that bad. A little help here too! | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/20/2008 4:15:39 PM | sleep,
you will need more pics to attract the ladies. Full body shots
increase your chances, as will a Profile Review.
You have 23 favourites, so it can't be all bad.
~KK | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/20/2008 4:25:50 PM | | Anyone can put you on a friends list, that doesn't mean you want to go out with em. I don't ever block em because I think it's rude. Honestly none of em have interested me in the least. | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 1/26/2008 12:12:08 AM | umm how bout looking at others profiles and messageing? seriously your older then me you should know woman like a guy who is forward and makes the first move.
I joied 3 days ago and got a lot of veiws and already talking to some one on the phone. | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 2/16/2008 6:35:09 PM | Hard luck I am the same, no one I like, likes me back. I am getting fed up too. It happens to everyone, the ones you like, wont always like you. Thats life. | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 2/16/2008 6:36:07 PM | johnnyleedsuk,
I looked at your profile & think that perhaps it's somewhat inconsistent and even confusing to women that you might want to meet. You state that you are separated but don't explain exactly what that means in your written info -- plus you state that you want an "other" relationship and "maybe" kids, but your essay indicates that you want a long term relationship with kids eventually. And if you do want to become a father, many women who want kids too, might not want a potential mate who appears to not be making an effort to quit smoking or who may be using drugs. Also, you indicate several interests in your essay that you don't mention in your Interests list...since many people search by interests, perhaps more info there could help you. Good luck. | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 2/16/2008 6:42:40 PM | Whew...maybe you need to sign up for some private lessons or something. Dang, 2 years and nothing. I've had 3 in a Saturday...not the plan, just the way it worked out.
You gotta remember that women are incredibly more sensual, sexual and perceptive than the male of the species. The are lured to confident, interesting, involved people. Attraction is not a choice, you can manufacture it. But if you're pretty satisfied with being the you that you are, this info won't help much. Sad thing is...this is actually an easy fix...it's just that most guys would rather spend a lifetime b1tching about dating that a couple of hundred hours fixing the problem (yes, I said a couple hundred...but it lasts a lifetime).
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 2/16/2008 7:06:47 PM | You are a good looking guy. I think maybe the bartender thing might be a turn off because I assume it makes you busy during the evenings and weekends. I imagine it could also be tough as a chef, same sorts of hours.
Do you give off a negative vibe when you are out? I don't know. Smile, hold the odd door open for the next person, chat up the cashiers, compliment people here and there. Maybe try to find a hobby or something. Maybe a little less bullfighting on acid. LOL :)
mmm so the group thing is out? What about jogging? biking? skating? something that gets you out and about. Wander a bookstore or a CD store (do they still have those?) Hmmmm I don't know man. Are you sending out emails to people? I get lots of people looking at my profile but not many people just saying hi out of the blue. People sometimes reply when I send out an email, sometimes not. It's just how it is. I've been on a few dates from here, so it's not an impossibility. | |
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| Not a single date via POF- any other ideas?
Posted: 2/16/2008 7:07:38 PM | Hi Imagine1947
thanks for the advice, it sounds like I've made a right mess of it, I'll try sort it out so its not so confusing!
many thanks for your comments its been very helpful
kind regards
Johnny | |
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